In this heartfelt interview Patty-Ann shares the multiple experiences of abuse she has gone through throughout her life. And whilst we all know it can be a long journey of healing Patty-Ann lives in alignment everyday to continue to heal herself and others. 

I admire this woman's unbelievable strength to share what was a very impactful time of her life, how it shaped her and how she now lives her life because of it.  

A proud Maori Wahine, a Psychology student, MC, Podcaster & Intimacy Coach Specialist and above all a proud mother of four boys and recently given the gift of becoming a Grandmother.  

Please share your love to Patty-Ann as it's not easy speaking about the trauma you've experienced. Every woman who shares their stories on the Beauty In Strength show not only breaks the cycle for themselves, it break the cycle for the community and the world we live in!

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Connect with Patty-Ann - Website: http://pattyannwaho.com.au

IG: https://www.instagram.com/pattyannwaho/?hl=en

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IG: https://www.instagram.com/darsha.mia/

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Georgia has worked as a lawyer for up to 15 years and 11 of those years working really closely with family domestic violence. She has also spent 17 years in a drug court program where majority of the women suffered some form of childhood trauma growing up.

Georgia is going to be giving insight on what it's like to be faced with these problems on a day to day, the success and failures she's witnessed and what she believes to be working and not working within the systems. 

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Connect with Darcia - Website: https://www.beautyinstrength.com.au

IG: https://www.instagram.com/darsha.mia/

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Hit 'subscribe' and please inform ONE person of this podcast. The impact we can make by telling just one person can be the difference of someone leaving a toxic and unhealthy environment, bettering themselves and /or others around them. Together we can end the cycle of violence.

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I took an intentional break on the podcast for the last month - and this is why - the thing called LIFE ;)

We had a lot of changes as a family and I am a big believer in NOT burning yourself out! Hence, the step back which you will hear about!

Thanks for your continued support and I am super excited for whats to come!

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Connect with Darcia - Website: https://www.beautyinstrength.com.au

IG: https://www.instagram.com/darsha.mia/

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Hit 'subscribe' and please inform ONE person of this podcast. The impact we can make by telling just one person can be the difference of someone leaving a toxic and unhealthy environment, bettering themselves and /or others around them. Together we can end the cycle of violence.

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This is for you if you feel like you are struggling in your life right now. It's easy to perceive your struggles as barriers or failure but I want you to remember this:

1. You are not alone

2. People genuinely care about you

3. You are enough

4. You are resilient

5. There's usually an underlying root cause - get to the bottom of it

Don't let your struggles stop you, see your struggles as a way to push you to where you want to be. 

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Connect with Darcia - Website: https://www.beautyinstrength.com.au

IG: https://www.instagram.com/darsha.mia/

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If you're constantly feeling triggered try this! Add these 6 tips to your tool belt so you can feel in control of your emotional trauma!

1. Write down your feelings

2. Ask yourself what is the belief around the "trigger"

3. Stop, breathe. Set a timer for 2-3 minutes and sit and breathe

4. Speak to someone who you feel supported by. Share whats happening to you

5. Connect to your inner child. Tell your younger self you are ok. You are safe

6. Choose to feel something different the represents how you want to feel in that moment

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Connect with Darcia - Website: https://www.beautyinstrength.com.au

IG: https://www.instagram.com/darsha.mia/

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I've recently had a few people reach out asking for tips/advice on how to break through limiting beliefs, overcome negativity and toxic behaviours and what would be my top tips for others. So, I've chosen to share 7 lessons I've learned through going through deep hardship.

This isn't specifically for those who've gone though abuse - yes, it will resonate. However, it is really suited for anyone no matter where you're at in life. 

Lessons:

1. Never be in a rush

2. The past is the past

3. Take responsibility for your own actions

4. Always see the positive in every situation

5. Never settle

6. Learnt to love yourself 

7. Find purpose/meaning to you and your life

I'd love to know what your take away was and if there's anything you'd add to the list?

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IG: https://www.instagram.com/darsha.mia/

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They say it's true that we end up repeating the cycle if we've experienced abuse from a young age. Would you agree?

Unfortunately for Bec, this statement is true. At just 13 years old Bec's vulnerability was taken away but due to a lack of education, self-worth, guidance and strong leadership Bec's worst nightmare became a reality early into her adult life.

Bec, now a fitness trainer and professional athlete in golf is determined to lead the way for women who've gone through similar experiences to her own. At just age 21, she is writing programs that will be included into schools that will help raise awareness for domestic and family violence, she is on a pathway to becoming Australia's best long driver in golf and there is no doubt in my mind she will continue to strive for excellence in every area of her life because of what she's been through.

It takes such courage to speak up and share these personal stories, they usually trigger the speaker because of the level and depth some of these women have gone through. So please, I always ask you listen with an open mind and an open heart as this becomes a part of their healing journey. 

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Connect with Rebecca Kendrick - IG: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaaak66/

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Connect with Darcia - Website: https://www.beautyinstrength.com.au

IG: https://www.instagram.com/darsha.mia/

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Hit 'subscribe' and please inform ONE person of this podcast. The impact we can make by telling just one person can be the difference of someone leaving a toxic and unhealthy environment, bettering themselves and /or others around them. Together we can end the cycle of violence.

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Mixing it up this week - I am sharing advice from my book, Beauty in Strength; Growing Beyond Family Domestic Violence. Overtime I will continue to share different parts of my book. Since we have just wrapped up domestic and family violence prevention month I was called to share some tips/advice for those who've gone through any form of abuse. I also make it very clear that no matter what you've been through in life - abuse or not - you will find at least one of these tips useful for where you're at.

Here a few tips you will hear in this episode:

- it is okay to feel the way you do

- start exercising

- learn to love yourself 

- listen to your intuition 

- heal yourself before you end up in another relationship 

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To check out or purchase a copy of my book go to:

https://www.beautyinstrength.com.au/book/

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Connect with Darcia - Website: https://www.beautyinstrength.com.au

IG: https://www.instagram.com/darsha.mia/

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Hit 'subscribe' and please inform ONE person of this podcast. The impact we can make by telling just one person can be the difference of someone leaving a toxic and unhealthy environment, bettering themselves and /or others around them. Together we can end the cycle of violence.

Please use these hashtags for any social media posts so I can share and repost #beautyinstrength #darshamia

A woman who experienced sexual abuse from her brother when she was younger had no clue why she started living a destructive lifestyle. It wasn't until everything in her marriage started going down south and she started having flashbacks from her childhood which pushed her to seek professional help.

Sometimes we don't know why we "party hard", make "bad" choices, hang around a "certain type" of person. There is usually a back story - and for this woman it all started to make sense when it was pulled to pieces.

To her own credit, she was very determined to turn her life around - she knew she wanted a better lifestyle for herself and her future family - it wasn't easy but she got there and she now lives a "vanilla" lifestyle that she once use to judge in the past.

I want this episode to give you hope that if you have experienced childhood assault/abuse you too can turn your life around just like this amazing woman did.

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Connect with Darcia - Website: https://www.beautyinstrength.com.au

IG: https://www.instagram.com/darsha.mia/

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Hit 'subscribe' and please inform ONE person of this podcast. The impact we can make by telling just one person can be the difference of someone leaving a toxic and unhealthy environment, bettering themselves and /or others around them. Together we can end the cycle of violence.

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There's a lot that goes on behind closed doors and from a childs eyes you are shaped very young and your perception of who you are, other people and the world has already been decided. For Samantha she had to grow up very fast, the eldest of 8 kids which meant a lot of responsibility. From the ages of 3-11 Samantha witnessed family violence by her step father which led to living in a womens shelter with her mother and two of her siblings for over 9 months to get away from their perpetrator.

Samantha now lives a happy and fulfilled life and pays a lot of respect to how her mother raised her despite the challenges. You will hear the positive impact her mother had on her even though some days it felt like their world was crashing down.

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Connect with Samantha - Website: https://www.summerhilllashes.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/summerhilllashes/

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Connect with Darcia - Website: https://www.beautyinstrength.com.au

IG: https://www.instagram.com/darsha.mia/

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Want to support the show?

Hit 'subscribe' and please inform ONE person of this podcast. The impact we can make by telling just one person can be the difference of someone leaving a toxic and unhealthy environment, bettering themselves and /or others around them. Together we can end the cycle of violence.

Please use these hashtags for any social media posts so I can share and repost #beautyinstrength #darshamia