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3 LIFE LESSONS Learned:

Stop seeking approval 

Practice/Improve emotional self-control 

Real life and movie life are NOT the same

Have you ever taken a Monday off and worked on your side passion before?

When you have a taste of freedom, you don’t wanna come back - give you motivation to keep going - to do hard things - so you can enjoy later - let your coworkers keep fighting for that promotion… 

You may be in a job that you think it’s good, but I know a part of you always wants to do something greater. Therefore, you have to leave something good to go for something great, if not even amazing! 

The reality is most people hate Monday because it reminds them of traffic, stress at work, a long week before the weekend, and doing things that they hate with people that they don’t like. 

Are you currently working towards your dreams? I believe wholeheartedly that you will love MONDAY and look forward to it when you are working on what you love at the comfort of your house or wherever you choose. 

It will TAKE A WHILE, but it’s POSSIBLE. DON’T QUIT!

“Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me… Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me”. - STEVE JOBS

When we lose something, that’s when it becomes important to us… 

All little moments if you use wisely with the ones you love or with what you enjoy will one day become big moments when you look back. These will be your treasure memories. 

Minimize distractions and stop doing things that don't matter. Find out what makes your heart happy and do more of it. Because once you know what is really important to you, it will drive all of your future decisions! 

Wake up call to really think about what we have done and what our daily actions are all about? Do your actions help move you closer to what you want to accomplish in life? To the meaningful things or to the superficial things? It's easy to go through life endlessly and spend time doing what NOT matters if you are not aware of it. 

When we go on for too long, we forget what really matters. We chase success, we chase a relationship, we chase money, we chase materialistic things. But at the end of day, what matters is just around the corner.

Life is short. It will END at some point. NOTHING is worth stressing over. Focus on what really matters most!

The world is already filled with average people, and they will try to condition you to do the same as everyone else. People don’t want to see you become an exceptional person because that would make them feel uncomfortable. 

You will lose the game called life if you play average anyways. So why not try harder and become an exceptional instead of being average. 

Once you are being average in one area, you will most likely settle in other areas as well. 

The path to excellence is very hard and lonely, but it will be very WORTHY.

Oftentimes we do many nice things for others because we want something in return such as money, love, favor, fame, promotion, etc. There is nothing wrong with pleasing others as long as that’s just who we are. However, if we please others because we attach to an outcome, we often behave “too nice” to others, which in turn causes ourselves to act differently.  When you act not according to who we truly are, others often pick up on it and doubt our intentions. 

 

The most effective way to stop being a people pleaser is to have an awareness and to constantly work to improve yourself. When you have an abundant mindset, you don’t need anything from others. Therefore, The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.

Let go is hard, but STARTING OVER is even harder. Many people when they decide to let go, they start to resent the past and regret their past decisions. Instead of beginning a new journey, they decide to give up. It takes great courage to start again! 

Don’t be afraid to start over. This time you’re not starting from scratch. You’re starting from experience. This time you are trying again with more knowledge, strength and power than you had before. Your journey was never over, it was just waiting for you to find it again. 

When you trust in yourself, you’ll find the courage to start over. When you start again, you will truly experience a feeling of freedom! A freedom to build a life that you have always wanted.

Let go is 2 simple words, but never simple to apply it. 

Three main reasons WHY we experience difficulty to let go:

We believe that the past is better than the present or future. We would rather living in the past vs present. We use the past to justify a current condition and can’t figure out how to let go. 

False self-limiting belief. We don’t trust our ability. We are afraid that you will not find anybody else because of all past experiences. Our brain tells us that remember all the rejection you have before… You are not good enough, you are not attractive enough… Then we use these stories to make excuses why we should continue to hold on to things.

We need CERTAINTY. Human nature often wants to know that certain things will happen. We have been conditioned to avoid any bad surprises or unknown. If we move on from current things, we will experience too much of UNCERTAINTY, and that’s why many people would rather stick with old things so they can avoid uncertainty.

ACTION STEP:

Trust yourself. Trust your ability. Look at your past history. You have overcome many challenges that you thought you couldn’t, but you eventually did, and this time will not be any different. I know uncertainty is scary and it fills your thoughts with all bad scenarios. However, it also offers many opportunities that could change your life for the better. So trust that you can overcome any obstacle. 

Change your old beliefs. In order to change your old beliefs, you must replace them with new beliefs. And the only way to form new beliefs is to take CONSISTENT ACTION UNTIL YOU SUCCEED. 

Take responsibility. Stop blaming others for what happened in your past. Yes it could be their fault as well. But who would guarantee your life would have been different if things went the way you expected. So take responsibility and embrace lessons learned. 

Gratitude - When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears. Forgive other people. I know it’s not easy, but it will free you from all anger and resentment. When you are grateful for everything that happened, you grow as a new person and it will be easier for you to move on to the next best things in your life.

Everyday is a new day and you will never find happiness if you don’t move on. Let the past behind. The present and future are waiting for you. Closed that When you live in the past, it will only end up hurting you. Let the past go and start opening your arms for new opportunities.

3 main reasons why you need to learn not to give a fuck:

Take control back to yourself. You will no longer depend on the outcome and therefore, nothing will hold you back from doing what you want.

Stay focused. When we give too much damn about everything, we will easily get distracted and therefore, we will not be able to do anything well. However, when we stay focused, we will easily accomplish our goals. 

Improve mental health. When we give too much attention to things that are not truthly mattered, we will easily get upset, disappointed, and frustrated. However, when we only focus on what only matters, anything else will become less important and therefore they will NOT affect our mood greatly.

The truth is we often give way much attention to things that are not mattered than the ones that do. Therefore, the art of not giving a f*ck is simply that you give fucks to only the things that matters more in your life. So choose wisely what matters in your life!

It’s easy for everyone to work on something when you are excited or motivated. But life is not always exciting all the time.

Many times when we just start something new, we are all motivated and excited. But as time goes on, we lose interest because it becomes boring, tasks that initially felt exciting, now become more of a burden…

Remember success in anything must take time and consistent effort. 

The difference between successful and unsuccessful people is that successful people work on tasks even when they don’t feel like it. The truth is that a process to success is boring. You may take a while until you see a result. You may not like the late night or early morning, but you have to put in the work, especially when tasks are not pleasurable.

“The tiny seed knew that in order to grow, it needed to be dropped in dirt, covered with darkness, and struggle to reach light.” 

We have to go through failure, darkness, and obstacles in order for us to realize what is important, what matters and most important, to appreciate good times. Without struggle and bad times, we will never understand good times.

No matter how much you complain, the problem never goes away. In fact it just destroys your health and your relationship. Therefore, why do we still resist it? If it is already a part of the nature of life, why don’t we just embrace and accept it? Because once you embrace/ love it, you will have more strength to overcome it. 

We don’t come this far just to give up. Keep going my friend, hard times will pass and its pain will be replaced with strength within you. But if you give up now, the pain will last forever. Have courage to try again. Have courage to show up again.