Becoming Porn Free with Hunter Clark

Today, we dive into a fun conversation with one of my good friends, Conner Howell. We met as college roommates at BYU-I and opened up to each other about our struggles with pornography. It's been interesting to see each other grow and get married.

We share funny stories about early pornography exposure and discuss how to navigate unwanted porn use in marriage. Conner recently went through my program and learned some valuable lessons that shifted his relationship with pornography, which in turn has led to an overall decrease in his desire to view it.

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My struggle with porn wasn’t just my struggle—it brought up things for Sarah, too. In this episode, we get real about how my habit revealed some deep stuff she needed to work through with her own body image.

She shares how she used to think sexy meant looking a certain way—what the world says is “hot.” But real sexiness? She had to find that for herself, in her own way. We talk about what that looked like and how it changed our relationship for the better.

And for the guys still struggling, we wrap up with some quick, no-BS tips to actually break free from porn. Let’s get into it.

Porn used to be something you had to go find. Now? It’s finding you. Everywhere you scroll, it’s sneaking into your feed. In this episode, we talk about how porn is shifting from something you search for to something that searches you.

We also dive into the world of OnlyFans—how much money creators are really making and if it’s worth it. Yeah, they’re getting rich, but at what cost? Is trading your peace of mind for cash really a win? Sarah and I break it all down, from the insane paychecks to the hidden struggles no one talks about.

Let’s get into it.

In this episode, my wife and I talk about why so many Americans watch more porn during Christmas. We also explain how social media can pull guys into porn without them even realizing it. We share the benefits we’ve seen from taking breaks from social media and setting limits. Plus, we give tips on how to stop wasting time doom scrolling.

In today’s episode, I sit down with my good friend Logan Taylor, who went through my program and has experienced some incredible breakthroughs. We dive into his story, from how it all innocently started to hilarious missionary moments, and the progress he’s made in his marriage since tackling his habits.

While we’re addressing the serious topic of porn, we intentionally keep the conversation light and engaging—because growth doesn’t have to be heavy. This episode is packed with insights, laughs, and inspiration for anyone looking to make positive changes in their life.

In this episode, my wife and I dive into the question: What does it actually mean to be "porn-free"? Does it mean never slipping up again, or is there more to it than striving for perfection? Spoiler: It's not about being perfect.

We unpack how chasing toxic perfectionism can do more harm than good and share practical ways to measure real success without the guilt spiral. You'll hear insights from my journey, including the tools and mindset shifts that have made the biggest difference in breaking free from porn—without letting unrealistic standards hold me back. Whether you're on the path to freedom yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode will give you new perspectives and actionable steps to redefine what "success" really looks like.

In this episode, we dive into a surprising statistic: Americans consume significantly more porn the day after Thanksgiving than almost any other day of the year. We unpack why this happens—looking at the unique combination of stress, family dynamics, and holiday indulgence that might drive this behavior.

I also share where I’m at on my personal journey with breaking free from porn, reflecting on the challenges and breakthroughs I’ve had along the way. We talk about what’s helped me the most, including the mindset shifts and tools that made lasting progress possible. Whether you’re on this journey or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with insights and encouragement for navigating the ups and downs.

n this episode, I share my personal journey of struggling with porn while being married—a story I used to be ashamed to tell. I talk about the moments where I felt like I was failing as a husband, letting my wife down, and questioning if I’d ever be able to quit. But here’s the truth: being married doesn’t mean you’re broken for struggling, and it doesn’t mean you’re a bad partner. Most of all, it doesn’t mean you’re alone.

Married guys, I get it—you’re carrying so much weight. You feel like you should have it all together, that your spouse deserves better, and that this problem makes you unworthy of love. That’s shame talking, and shame is what’s keeping you stuck. The more you bury this, the more it festers, fueling the cycle of guilt, isolation, and slipping back into porn. The key isn’t to punish yourself—it’s to start removing the shame.

Here are a few things that helped me:

1. Break the silence:
   • Shame thrives in the dark. Be honest with your partner—not in a way that dumps all the weight on them, but in a way that invites them into your healing journey. And don’t stop there; talk to someone outside your marriage who can give you perspective and support.
2. Understand your triggers:
   • Is it stress, boredom, or disconnection from your spouse? Identify what’s really driving you to seek out porn, and start addressing those deeper issues.
3. Rebuild intimacy:
   • Porn creates distance between you and your partner. Start focusing on small ways to connect—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Intimacy doesn’t start in the bedroom; it starts in the way you show up daily.
4. Forgive yourself:
   • The shame you’re carrying doesn’t serve you or your relationship. Own your mistakes, but don’t let them define you. Forgiveness is key—for yourself and for building trust with your spouse.

Finally, I want to remind you to have hope. If you’re still fighting, it means you haven’t given up, and that’s huge. This isn’t about being perfect; it’s about progress. Every step you take toward freedom is a step toward becoming the man and husband you want to be.

You’re not alone, and your marriage isn’t doomed because of this. There’s a way forward, and it starts with letting go of the shame and taking the first step. Let’s walk this journey together.

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In this episode, I open up about my own story—the ups, the downs, and the moments I felt like I’d never get out of the cycle. I talk about how I got caught up in porn as a young kid, thinking it was harmless, and how it slowly became a habit I couldn’t shake. For years, I beat myself up, thinking I was weak, broken, and unworthy of the life I wanted. But here’s what I realized: being hard on yourself only makes it worse.

Single guys, let’s be real—you’re way too hard on yourselves. You think because you struggle, it means you’re failing. That’s the shame talking, and it’s shame that keeps you stuck. The truth? Shame fuels the habit. It creates this endless loop of feeling like crap, turning to porn to escape, and then feeling even worse after. You don’t break the cycle by hating yourself—you break it by understanding yourself.

I share a few tips and tricks that helped me:

1. Get rid of the shame:
   • Start by being honest with yourself. You’re not a bad person for struggling; you’re human.
   • Open up to someone you trust—a friend, a mentor, or even a community. Being seen and heard is powerful.
2. Replace the habit with something better:
   • Find something that excites or challenges you—hit the gym, pick up a new skill, start journaling, or dive into a creative project. Fill that time and energy with something that helps you grow.
3. Shift how you see porn:
   • Instead of obsessing over quitting, focus on creating a life so fulfilling you don’t feel the need for it anymore.
4. Celebrate progress, not perfection:
   • You’re going to slip up, and that’s okay. It’s about the long game. Every day you take one step forward is a win.

Finally, I remind you to have hope. You’re not alone in this, and your story isn’t over. Breaking free doesn’t happen overnight, but it’s absolutely possible. Keep your head up and take it one step at a time. You’re not weak for struggling—you’re stronger than you know for trying to change.

In this episode, Sarah and I tackle a question that’s surprisingly complicated: What even is porn? For most people, the word brings to mind explicit videos on sketchy websites, but the truth is, porn has evolved far beyond that. It’s everywhere—movies, social media, advertisements—blurring the lines of what we define as pornography. We dive into how its accessibility and subtlety have shifted over time, making it harder than ever to navigate, especially in relationships.

We also unpack why platforms like Pornhub are banned in places like Utah and what that says about society’s relationship with pornography. Is banning it the solution, or does that just push it further into secrecy? This conversation is all about challenging assumptions and exploring how to approach the topic in a way that’s real and productive. Whether you’re looking to better understand this for yourself or your relationship, this episode is full of insights you won’t want to miss.