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In this 1st episode of a 3 part series, TLC & Dr. Lee dive into Dr. Lee's recent viral TikTok video about systemic and social conditioning in heteronormative relationships, specifically for couples aged 35 to 55. 

In Part 1, TLC & Dr. Lee explore 3 core themes they saw in the comments from women in their audience. 

They highlight the nuances between men and women's upbringing and how these mindsets create common issues in relationships, while delving into personal experiences, sharing insights on how social conditioning shapes interactions and expectations. 

Practical advice is offered for couples struggling with similar issues, emphasizing the significance of self-awareness and accepting each other as they are.

00:00 Introduction and Exciting News

00:13 Viral TikTok and Its Impact

01:15 Themes from the Comments

01:34 Systemic Conditioning in Relationships

02:23 Playing the Viral TikTok

02:29 Analyzing the TikTok Content

03:40 Men's and Women's Social Conditioning

04:40 Impact on Marriages and Relationships

05:46 Breaking Points and Unmet Needs

09:08 Solutions and Self-Work

12:42 Comments from Women

15:10 Comments from Men

25:53 Therapy and Communication Challenges

37:14 Personal Reflections and Miscommunications

37:48 Introduction to the Back from the Brink Masterclass

38:27 Shutting Down and Blame

39:40 Societal Conditioning and Media Influence

40:38 Book Talk Men and Relationship Expectations

42:01 Women's Wounds: Inadequacy vs. Unworthiness

46:54 Energy and Responsibility in Relationships

48:08 Men's Struggles with Therapy and Communication

01:00:36 Parenting and Relationship Dynamics

01:11:57 Masterclass and Final Thoughts

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Join Dr. Lee for a VERY special podcast episode- The Audio Recording of one of the most powerful trainings she's ever done- Take Back Your Choice! 

Take Back Your Choice was an activation event focused on understanding the  core human needs of peace, joy, and safety, while supporting listeners in reclaiming their choice and practicing intentional decision-making.

She walks us through the six major threats to these core needs: certainty, hurry (urgency), obligation, importance, commitment, and expectation. 

Dr. Lee shares personal stories and experiences from her work with the Institute to illustrate each point.  

Dr. Cordell also introduces the newly updated TRIPS™ On Demand program, inviting participants to join and receive support during their journey towards psychological safety and personal freedom.

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In this episode adapted from Dr. Lee's latest live in our Becoming Trauma Informed Facebook Group, Dr. Lee reflects on the lessons learned from running the Institute over the past three years, celebrating its anniversary. 

Key insights include the importance of understanding and maintaining personal capacity, the significance of boundaries, and the necessity of focusing on what is within one’s sphere of influence. The discussion also covers how small, consistent steps can lead to significant impacts, the importance of receiving support and working within a community, and the concept of sufficiency and reciprocity in relationships, particularly in business and personal life. 

Through the episode, Lee showcases how things can get much better than one might think possible by making aligned choices and understanding one's boundaries and needs.

00:00 Introduction and Overview

00:39 The Importance of Capacity and Integrity

01:09 Internal and External Alignment

02:36 Understanding and Setting Boundaries

08:19 The Power of Small Actions

14:21 The Necessity of Community and Support

21:11 Reciprocity and Sufficiency in Relationships

27:32 Understanding the Root of Unmet Needs

28:49 Personal Struggles and Health Challenges

29:52 Realizing the Need for Self-Care

32:40 Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Needs

34:30 The Impact of Boundaries on Relationships

36:35 Lessons in Reciprocity and Sufficiency

38:21 Navigating Emotional Challenges

46:30 Invitation to Join the Journey

50:04 Gratitude and Future Outlook

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In this engaging episode, Dr. Lee & TLC welcome Brittany Bowman, Simplicity & Clarity Strategist, who shares her personal and professional journey of learning to balance mentorship and personal values in entrepreneurship. 

The episode highlights the risks of harm and re-traumatization in business settings,  and the necessity of creating psychologically safe environments. 

Brittany delves into the importance of trusting intuition, making informed decisions, and allowing clients to discover their unique paths. 

She also previews an exciting upcoming decluttering workshop in the Institute's Trauma Club space.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:14 Brittany's Role and Expertise
05:20 Hiding in Business Due to Trauma
16:10 Navigating Entrepreneurship and Intuition
28:04 The Importance of Regulated Pace in Business
40:28 Challenges of Paid Mentorship Programs
50:52 Owning Mistakes and Embracing Vulnerability
51:37 Balancing Multiple Roles and Responsibilities
53:21 Embodying Values in Business Practices
58:40 The Importance of Choice in Mentorship
01:02:20 Addressing Unfulfilled Promises
01:04:52 Curiosity and Questioning in Mentorship
01:09:54 The Impact of Trauma-Informed Coaching
01:20:14 Creating Psychological Safety in Business and Personal Life
01:33:27 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Workshop

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In this solo episode, Dr. Lee discusses the four main ways trauma manifests in professional life, particularly for those transitioning to entrepreneurship. She shares insights from the launch of Healing Centered Business School and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in business ownership. 

Key topics include the 'fight' response and its impact on business, avoidance behaviors, people-pleasing tendencies, and the 'fright, fade, faint' response. Dr. 

Lee also highlights the upcoming workshop on transitioning from traditional professional employment world into entrepreneurship and invites listeners to join for deeper learning and support.

00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Episode

01:05 Launching Healing Centered Business School

03:25 The Four Main Ways Trauma Shows Up in Business

05:26 Fight Energy- For vs. Against.

11:42 Flight and Avoidance in our Work

15:24 People Pleasing and the Fawn Response

24:34 Fright, Fade, and Faint Responses 

32:05 Invitation to Join Healing Centered Business School

33:30 Upcoming Episodes and Conclusion

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In this episode, TLC & Dr. Lee address their seven-week hiatus, sharing the unexpected challenges that affected their schedule. 

They provide an in-depth discussion on communication issues, personal growth, and team changes that occurred during the summer. 

Highlighting their own journey of overcoming a miscommunication and learning to set boundaries, they emphasize the importance of capacity management and how their experiences have shaped the launch of their new program, the Healing Centered Business School.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome Back
01:16 Coping with COVID and Summer Chaos

03:18 Team Changes and Unexpected Challenges

05:09 The Anatomy of a Fight

07:28 Cowboy Up: The Burden of Unspoken Expectations

10:55 Breaking the Cycle of Codependency

28:12 Redefining Sacrifice in Relationships

35:59 Emotional Support and Letting Go

37:18 Trauma Patterns in Relationships

38:12 Research on Fights and Personal Attacks

39:32 Character Descriptions and Trauma Sensitivity

40:54 Self-Fulfilling Prophecies and Narcissistic Behavior

45:25 Personal Growth and Self-Realization

47:22 Reconnecting and Business Reflections

48:55 Defining Roles and Responsibilities

53:16 Vision and Strategy in Business

58:08 Healing Centered Business School

01:04:16 Final Thoughts and Invitation

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In this week's episode, TLC & Dr. Lee discuss a recent two-hour conversation they had focused on the concepts of internalizing and externalizing emotions. 

They explore how these 2 categories of emotional reactions impact communication, especially during times of dysregulation. 

They also talk about personal experiences in learning how to stop reacting,  the societal judgements around emotional expression, and the harmful effects of both internalizing and externalizing. 

The episode serves as a prelude to next week's episode, "The Anatomy of a Fight",  and emphasizes the importance of healthy emotional expression and self-awareness. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own tendencies and practice curiosity instead of self-judgment.

00:00 Introduction and Unexpected Conversations

01:16 Understanding Internalizing vs. Externalizing

02:17 Personal Experiences with Externalizing

03:40 The Harm of Suppressing Emotions

06:37 The Aftermath of Emotional Responses

07:59 Practicing Healthy Emotional Expression

12:20 Invitation to Self-Reflection

14:25 Conclusion and Teasers for Next Episode

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In this episode, TLC & Dr. Lee delve into the sensitive issues of domestic and sexual violence, highlighting statistical data, historical contexts, and personal stories. 

They explore the 'Man vs. Bear' meme to draw parallels with deeper societal issues surrounding trauma and safety. 

The discussion extends to the emotional challenges men face, comparing it with the 'Woman vs. Tree' meme, emphasizing the need for emotional regulation and understanding inherited trauma. 

The importance of acknowledging and validating personal experiences is stressed, encouraging listeners to seek help, validate their feelings, and understand the significance of safety and being heard for overall well-being.

00:00 Introduction and Content Warning

00:59 Man vs. Bear: The Meme Explained

03:18 The False Dichotomy of Either/Or Questions

05:09 Personal Experiences and Research Insights

06:59 Statistics and Contextual Analysis

10:50 Historical and Societal Perspectives

13:25 The Reality of Domestic and Interpersonal Violence

15:52 Gender, Race, and Perceptions of Threat

22:13 Unreported Crimes and Statistical Challenges

31:04 Sexual Violence and Societal Norms

38:04 The Alpha Male Myth

38:48 Personal Stories and Peer Pressure

40:41 Objectification and Self-Worth

42:28 Emotional Safety and Vulnerability

44:24 The Impact of Social Conditioning

58:48 Generational Trauma and Domestic Violence

01:09:48 Emotional Validation and Support

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 In this episode, Dr. Lee & TLC dive into the history of trauma and how it's been studied over time. 

They discuss early historical accounts mentioning trauma's effects on soldiers, the emergence of "railway spine" in the 1880s as one of the first recognitions of psychological trauma, and Freud's controversial work on hysteria and abuse in the late 19th century. 

The conversation sheds light on the evolving definition of trauma and how certain harmful experiences have been historically overlooked.

Key takeaways:

1. Trauma has been described in historical writings for centuries, often in the context of war and catastrophic accidents, but with limited understanding.
2. In the late 1800s, the concept of psychological trauma started to be recognized separately from just physical injury.
3. Our definition of trauma continues to expand, with growing awareness of how profoundly "everyday" painful experiences can impact individuals.

Join Dr. Lee and TLC for an enlightening expedition into the history of trauma!

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In this candid episode, Dr. Lee & TLC discuss the challenges of starting a podcast, focusing on authentic speech, self-perception, and the impact of trauma on behavior and resilience. 

They explore societal pressures, particularly for men and people of color in business, and the importance of mastering skills and overcoming obstacles.

Through personal anecdotes,  highlight the value of learning from failure and achieving self-acceptance. They encourage listeners to embrace spontaneity, let go of perfectionism, and experiment without fear.

Dr. Lee & TLC also share details surrounding 'Trauma Club' and the Trauma Sensitive Business Foundations course as valuable resources for personal growth and support.

Key Takeaways:

1. Authentic speech is crucial for effective communication and building genuine connections.
2. Trauma can significantly impact behavior and resilience, influencing one's approach to life and work.
3. Embracing learning, accepting failure, and striving for self-acceptance are key to personal and professional growth.

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