If you’ve ever described yourself as an empath, this is for you.

I’m diving into a conversation I’ve wanted to have for a long time. One that’s honest, direct, and grounded in love.

Because what if the thing we often call empathy… isn’t actually empathy at all?

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why what you’re feeling might actually be a trauma response, not true empathy
• How growing up as the peacekeeper shapes your adult relationships
• The difference between compassion and self-abandonment
• The one question I ask myself to spot people-pleasing in real time
• What changes when you stop taking responsibility for everyone else's emotions

This episode is about claiming your sensitivity with boundaries, showing up with integrity, and no longer abandoning yourself in the name of being kind.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

What does it really take to break generational cycles, build emotional resilience, and feel at home in yourself?

In this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, I sit down with one of Australia’s most trusted coaching mentors, Matt Lavars, to talk about the often-ignored depths of healing, parenting, and personal responsibility.

Whether you're a parent, future parent, or someone navigating your own inner work - this one will stay with you.

We explore:

• How parenthood becomes a mirror for your deepest unresolved wounds
• The pressure of modern self-development culture and the danger of victim labels
• What true self-care looks like (hint: it’s not bubble baths and Bali)
• Why compassion, not perfection, is the highest goal in personal growth
• Tangible advice on emotional attunement, relationships, and breaking the fantasy of “having it all together”

This episode is a grounding, perspective-shifting invitation to stop waiting for healing to be easy, and start listening more deeply to yourself.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle where the same frustrating patterns keep repeating, whether in relationships, finances, or how you talk to yourself, there's one place we need to look - inwards.

We explore the difference between being a victim and living in victimhood and how shifting out of the latter changes everything.

Inside this episode:

• The honest truth about why recurring problems keep showing up in your life
• The key distinction between compassion and responsibility
• How subconscious beliefs keep us stuck in blame (and how to break free)
• Real-life examples from my marriage and money story and how I reclaimed my power
• A 14-day practice to stop venting and start changing your life

This conversation is not about blaming yourself; it’s about setting yourself free. If you’re ready to feel empowered again, this one’s for you.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

This episode goes far beyond surface-level talk about masculine and feminine energy. It’s a deep, practical, and refreshingly honest conversation about what it really means to embody both energies without losing your edge, your drive, or your softness.

Whether you're constantly in go-mode, navigating emotional blocks in your relationship, or trying to understand your partner more deeply… this one will hit home.

We cover:

• Why masculine energy isn’t the enemy and feminine energy isn’t just flowy dresses and bubble baths
• How to move between “doing” and “being” energy, depending on what life is asking of you
• The real reason ambitious women test their partners and how to stop setting them up to fail
• Why shadow work might be overcomplicated, and a simpler way to understand your hidden traits
• What men actually need in relationships and what women are really asking for when they want “safety”

This is one of those episodes that helps you understand yourself, your relationships, and your energy on a whole new level.

Ask yourself: What’s in front of me right now? And what part of me does it require - my masculine or my feminine?

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

We’ve all tried to punish ourselves into better behavior. Telling ourselves, "You only get to have or enjoy this thing if you DON'T do that." But does it ever actually work?

In this episode, we explore the deeper cost of self-punishment and how it silently erodes our confidence, worsens chronic skin picking, and holds us back from true growth. If you've struggled with perfectionism, this ones for you.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• Why punishing yourself doesn’t lead to lasting change (and often backfires)
• How childhood conditioning around mistakes wires us for shame
• The link between shame, perfectionism, and chronic skin picking
• What radical self-responsibility really means and why it’s not the same as self-blame
• A new, grounded way to handle mistakes that builds confidence instead of eroding it

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Ever find yourself pushing through exhaustion just to earn a moment of peace, only to crash and repeat the cycle?

In this episode, I share a raw, real-life moment where everything went wrong, and exactly how I turned it into a reset instead of a breakdown. If you’re craving a life that feels calmer but still purposeful, this one’s for you.

Here's what you'll gain:
 • A simple nervous system reset for when everything goes sideways
 • How to spot your early warning signs of burnout
 • The hidden beliefs driving your go-go-go mindset
 • Why self-neglect feels “productive” (but really isn’t)
 • A gentle system to feel good in your life without sacrificing momentum

Let this episode be your permission slip to stop hustling for worth and start building a life that feels as good as it looks.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If you're always on the go, chasing the next achievement, and only letting yourself relax once everything is done, this episode is for you.

In this heart-to-heart, I share what slowing down really means (and what it doesn't), why high-achievers resist it, and how you can begin doing it without guilt, shame, or losing your edge. Because slowing down isn’t about doing less, it’s about doing life with more presence, peace, and purpose.

You’ll learn:

• Why constantly being “on” drains your decision-making and self-worth
• A powerful metaphor that explains what you’re missing by rushing through life
• Four small shifts to start slowing down today (without throwing your routine out the window)
• What to do when slowing down feels uncomfortable, pointless, or unproductive
• How to handle others judging your pace and why slowing down inspires more than it disappoints

This isn’t about laziness or neglect, it’s about choosing intentionality over autopilot. Tune in and give yourself the permission you didn’t know you needed.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the concept of relationship blueprints, the subconscious patterns that shape how we connect, love, argue, and attach.

Together with guest Adam Hudson, we explore the anxious-avoidant trap, what drives hyper-independence, how to identify your own blueprint, and the exact tools you need to rewire old emotional habits.

Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or somewhere in between, this conversation will help you take radical responsibility for your patterns without shame, and offer hope that deep, stable connection is possible.

What We Cover:

• What a “relationship blueprint” is and where it comes from
• The real difference between attachment style and attachment blueprint
• Why anxious and avoidant partners are so often drawn to each other, and how it plays out
• The myth of hyper-independence and the cost of emotional self-protection
• How to self-soothe and regulate when you're triggered
• Why avoiding conflict doesn't keep you safe - it keeps you disconnected
• The specific steps both anxious and avoidant types can take to build security
• Why healing your attachment wounds in partnership can be the most powerful growth work you'll ever do

Quote Highlight:

"You’re not unlovable - you’re running a blueprint that you didn’t consciously choose. But once you see it, you can change it."

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, Rafaela dives deep into why chronic skin picking often flares up when we’re struggling to focus — and what you can do about it. She shares science-backed, practical tools to help you ground yourself, improve concentration, and break free from the shame spiral that comes with distraction and avoidance.

Whether you live with ADHD, get stuck in overwhelm, or just feel scattered during the day, this episode offers gentle, actionable support to help you work with your brain, not against it.

What You’ll Learn:

• Two simple focus-boosting tools: magnesium + the Pomodoro method
• Why pushing through distraction often backfires
• How to break big tasks into smaller, doable steps
• The importance of realistic expectations and adjusting your workload
• How to use “bridging tasks” to transition between activities
• Tips to reduce overwhelm and create a smoother daily flow
• Why working with yourself is more effective than forcing discipline

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re hiding parts of yourself or struggling to speak up, Angela’s story will deeply resonate and remind you of what’s possible when you choose to show up with self-love.

In this powerful session, I’m joined by Angela, a courageous client who opens up about her year-long journey of transformation.

What began as a desire to stop skin picking turned into something much deeper: learning to trust herself, speak up, and live from a place of compassion rather than shame.

Angela shares how she went from carrying skin-picking tools everywhere to no longer needing them at all!

We dive into the connection between suppressed emotions and compulsive behaviors, the life-changing impact of using her voice, and the ripple effect of healing not only for herself but for the young girls she now mentors.

She also vulnerably opens up about uncovering family secrets, finding a new sense of identity, and stepping into unfamiliar spaces.

What we talk about in this session:

• The moment Angela stopped believing there was something “wrong” with her
• How she broke free from the cycle of shame and control
• Using her voice in moments she would've stayed silent before
• The surprising connection between silence, frustration, and skin picking

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🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.