There is a conversation you have been carrying for months.

With your manager. Your partner. Your doctor. Yourself.

You know exactly how it starts. You have rehearsed how they might respond. You have prepared for both versions of how it could go.

And you have not had it once in real life.

In this episode Sue talks about the conversation most women with chronic illness keep rehearsing and never have. Why it feels so dangerous to speak. What it actually costs to keep not saying it. And what it takes to finally start.

In this episode:

You do not have to say everything. You just have to start somewhere.

About Beyond the Flare

Beyond the Flare is hosted by Sue, founder of Supportegy Wellness. Sue works with professional women building real lives inside bodies that do not always cooperate. She has lupus herself and speaks from lived experience, not theory.

New episodes drop every Tuesday.

Find Supportegy Wellness: Website: supportegy.com Instagram: @supportegywellness

People kept telling her she had lost herself. For a long time, Sue believed them.

She looked at the woman she had been before chronic illness and thought that was the real version. And now here was this slower, more careful woman who said no to things the old her would have said yes to without thinking.

It took years to see what had actually happened.

She had not lost herself. She had lost the version of herself she had spent her whole life pretending to be.

In this episode Sue talks about the identity underneath the performance. What chronic illness actually strips away. Why that stripping is one of the most painful and most honest things that can happen to a high-achieving woman. And what is left when the noise finally stops.

In this episode:

You did not lose yourself. You lost the cover story. This episode is about what was always underneath it.

About Beyond the Flare

Beyond the Flare is hosted by Sue, founder of Supportegy Wellness. Sue works with professional women building real lives inside bodies that do not always cooperate. She has lupus herself and speaks from lived experience, not theory.

New episodes drop every Tuesday.

Find Supportegy Wellness: Website: supportegy.com Instagram: @supportegywellness

You are allowed to be exactly as tired as you are.

You do not need a medical certificate. You do not need an explanation that satisfies everyone around you. You do not need to first prove that you are sick enough to deserve the space you are asking for.

In this episode Sue talks about the permission slip most women with chronic illness spend years waiting for. Why nobody gives it to you. What it costs to keep waiting. And why the only person who can actually give it to you is yourself.

In this episode:

You do not need permission to stop performing. But sometimes you need someone to say it out loud.

About Beyond the Flare

Beyond the Flare is hosted by Sue, founder of Supportegy Wellness. Sue works with professional women building real lives inside bodies that do not always cooperate. She has lupus herself and speaks from lived experience, not theory.

New episodes drop every Tuesday.

Find Supportegy Wellness: Website: supportegy.com Instagram: @supportegywellness

You had a good day. You showed up, delivered, lived your life. But the next day, you feel like you’ve been hit by a bus and that person from the good day is nowhere to be found. 

One of the most disorientating aspects of living with an invisible, chronic illness is that crash. The one that follows a good day. Not to mention the guilt that follows the crash. 

In this episode, Sue explains what is actually happing to your body when that crash after a good day happens. She explains why it’s never your fault, and provides three evidence-backed tools that can help you find the edge of your capacity before you ever cross it. 

This episode covers:

The crash that happens post a good day is not a sign you are irresponsible or reckless. It’s information about your body’s capacity. This episode shows you how to work with that information. 

About Beyond the Flare

Beyond the Flare is hosted by Sue, founder of Supportegy Wellness. Sue works with professional women building real lives inside bodies that do not always cooperate. She has lupus herself and speaks from lived experience, not theory.

New episodes drop every Tuesday.

Find Supportegy Wellness: Website: supportegy.com Instagram: @supportegywellness

For a long time Sue had two versions of herself running at the same time.

The version people saw at work. Capable. Present. Reliable.

And the version nobody saw. The one who sat in the car for ten minutes before walking in, gathering enough of herself to become that other woman.

If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

In this episode Sue names what she calls the double shift, the invisible second job of managing a body with chronic illness while performing wellness at work. She talks about what it costs, why it is not a personal failure, and what actually changes when you stop trying to be two people at once.

In this episode:

If keeping your career requires giving up the rest of your life, is the system actually working?

This episode says no. And it shows you what comes next.

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"How to Keep Your Career When Your Body Won't Cooperate"

One hour. Live. Small group. Real conversation.

You will leave with three things:

Date: Saturday August 22, 2026 Time: 11:00am Pacific / 2:00pm Eastern / 7:00pm UK Where: Live on Google Meet. Link sent on registration. Cost: $47

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About Beyond the Flare

Beyond the Flare is hosted by Sue, founder of Supportegy Wellness. Sue works with professional women building real lives inside bodies that don't always cooperate. She has lupus herself and speaks from lived experience, not theory.

New episodes drop every Tuesday.

Find Supportegy Wellness: Website: supportegy.com Instagram: @supportegywellness

There is a version of this conversation that nobody is having.

Not the one about rest and self care. The one about what happens when you have a performance review coming and you've spent two weeks managing a flare. When your manager keeps scheduling 8am meetings and mornings are your hardest time. When you're watching colleagues move forward and you're trying to figure out how to stay in the game at all.

In this episode Sue talks about what it actually takes to keep your career when your body won't cooperate. Not in theory. In the real version, for professional women who have ambition that did not disappear when they got sick.

In this episode:

Join Sue live on Saturday August 22nd. "How to Keep Your Career When Your Body Won't Cooperate" One hour. Live workshop. Small group. $47. Register at Workshop

Ninety-six percent of people living with a chronic illness have a condition that is invisible. Ninety-six percent.

And yet our entire culture uses what sick looks like to decide who deserves to be believed.

In this episode, Sue talks about one of the quietest and most exhausting parts of living with lupus, the gap between how you look and how you actually are. The energy it costs to perform fine. The damage that comes from being dismissed. And what the research actually says about how long that damage lasts.

In this episode:

This episode is for every woman who has smiled and said she was fine while something inside her was anything but.

You are not exaggerating. You are not weak. And you have never had it easy, you've just been very good at making it look that way.

Beyond the Flare is hosted by Sue, founder of Supportegy Wellness. Sue works with professional women building real lives inside bodies that don't always cooperate. She has lupus herself and speaks from lived experience, not theory.

New episodes drop weekly.

Find Supportegy Wellness: Website: supportegy.com Instagram: @supportegywellness

When a flare hits, the guidance is almost always the same.

Rest.

But what does that actually mean when you have a job, a calendar, people counting on you, and a brain that won't stop even when your body has?

In this episode, Sue talks about the gap nobody names: the space between being told to rest and actually knowing how to recover.

This is not a general wellness conversation. It is a specific, honest episode for professional women who are managing lupus or autoimmune illness alongside a career they've worked hard to build.

In this episode:

If you have ever felt like you were bad at being sick, this episode is for you.

You're not bad at it. Nobody just taught you.

About Beyond the Flare

Beyond the Flare is hosted by Sue, founder of Supportegy Wellness. Sue is a wellness coach, speaker, and soon-to-be author who works with purpose-driven professional women living with chronic illness. She has lupus herself and speaks from lived experience, not theory.

New episodes drop weekly.

Find Supportegy Wellness: Website: supportegy.com Instagram: @supportegywellness

There was a morning when I sat down to write a simple five-sentence email. I had been writing emails my whole career. Fast. Good at it.

That morning I sat there for twenty minutes and couldn't do it.

I closed my laptop and told myself I was tired.

Then I felt something worse than the fog itself.

I felt ashamed.

If you have been there, if your brain has gone blank mid-sentence, mid-meeting, mid-thought, this episode is for you.

Because what you felt was not failure. It was your brain under attack.

In this episode, we get into what lupus actually does to your brain; the real biology, the research, and why so many of us carry this alone without ever having it named.

What we cover:

This episode is grounded in current research, including a 2024 systematic review on neuropsychiatric lupus and a 2025 MRI study on cognitive impairment in SLE patients.

No toxic positivity. No oversimplification. Just honest information and practical direction — built for the brain and body you actually have.

 Beyond the Flare is the podcast for ambitious professionals living with chronic illness who want more than survival. Hosted by Sue, founder of Supportegy Wellness, certified wellness coach, and person living with lupus. New episodes drop weekly.

Connect with Sue: Website: supportegy.com Instagram: @supportegywellness

There's a loss that comes with chronic illness that nobody prepares you for. It's not just your health. It's the certainty. The spontaneity. The version of your future you assumed would always be available to you. It's the plans you cancelled. The friendships that quietly changed. The career that looked different than you expected. The things you stopped pursuing because you simply didn't have the energy anymore.

Most people living with chronic illness never call this grief. Not because it isn't. But because they were too busy adapting to stop and name it. In this episode, Sue talks about the grief that sits in the background of a life you're working hard to hold together, and why naming it might be one of the most important things you do.

In this episode:

— Why chronic illness grief is so often invisible (even to the person carrying it)

 — What we're actually grieving beyond our health

— The guilt that keeps the grief buried and why gratitude alone isn't the answer

— What happens when grief goes unacknowledged

— Why naming the loss is not giving up , it's how you move forward

This episode is for the person who has been pushing through. Who has adapted and adjusted and kept going. Who has never quite given themselves permission to mourn what changed. This one is for you.

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