Beyond Your Limits

Reawakening Masculinity, with Eric “Coach” Bond.

3:00 Eric Bond is a career college athlete course high school to get to that point, competitive athlete began began coaching other athletes and collegiates after that But that was the first iteration of his life. The first phase today, of course, he's a father, a husband has two great kids, two boys, neither of which, as we'll talk about is named James.

17:00 We are hardwired to assume the negative. And this is where the breakthrough is possible to begin to comprehend this, this this thoughtless thought process, the assumptions that hold us back, and we want to go beyond self limiting beliefs and behaviors.

21:00 the toxic masculinity thing we hear about is largely based on repression of these natural emotions of understanding, you know, grief, and fear and pain and understand being able to express doubt, uncertainty, things like that, that we have to cover up.

30:42 Like we said, on the global stage, we're in a place that we need authenticity, we need truth, we need people to be bold and step forward and say, accept, I'll honor you. And I'll, I'll demand that I'd be honored.

41:00 The main three things that I that I work on with entrepreneurial dads is leadership. And that's and that's not a leadership, like leading a company leadership or leading a family, it's leading you. That's the first step. That's kind of the first pillar. The second pillar is self care. And the third pillar is legacy.

Life Lessons from Screen and Stage with today's guest, Iris Almario. Iris Almario has emerged on-screen and beyond as an accomplished Actress, Host, Model, Social Media Influencer and true Animal Advocate.

1:42 So I want to talk today about following your calling because that is what has made me what I am today, whatever that may be. I was driven by this calling and I've had a lot of young men come up to me in recent years, hey, I want to be a seal too.

8:19 Yeah, I would say that nowadays more than ever, the importance of creating your own content getting together with friends like minded people who want to do something and become a little bit more active.

12:23 And and that was kind of like shining a light on the darkness and, and giving people the right to in the power to make content, which is more improve is better for all of us who liked the content.

24:38 Just because I get all these roles, where I have to research things that have nothing to do with me with you know, drugs or you know, the sex traffic's. Just real The weird subjects, but I find it really fascinating. I'm constantly learning.

26:30 I think that's, that's really that's an, that's a wonderful quality to have as an actor is empathy. Because you're not supposed to judge your characters, you're supposed to understand them understand why they think the way they do, why they make the choices that they make. 

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Task number 12 is Execute Your Mission. Today's guest is Jason Gardner, Retired SEAL Master Chief with 30 years of combat experience and now working “Echelon Front,” the leadership consulting firm of the famous SEAL Jocko Willink.

4:48 But one of the most amazing things to me about this guy's path is that his execute your mission didn't stop at the team's ending.

5:26 We're going to unpack a lot of these ideas about executing your mission and really knowing what your mission is. That's what the whole concept of the 12 tasks is all about it. Like painting a room when I paint a room in a house 80 to 85% of the work has nothing to do with paint. It's clearing the deck. It's painting, taping the walls, it's scraping the old paint. It's moving the furniture and the plants out of the way the work is done before the final step this extra permission.

6:32 Going through Extreme Ownership helped me actually start to think about leadership, and then also find value in my new role as an Executive leader in the SEAL teams, where, you know, I was going to meetings and, and realizing that, hey, I was the only guy in the meeting that remembered what it was like to be out there doing the job. And so I find a lot of value in being able to represent those folks.

17:29 I'm going to be a little bit vulnerable and fairly honest with you on my observations, like I went through the SEAL teams, because I was insecure. And I was looking to prove myself.

33:10 Because this is why America, people are going like, Oh, we're going to get broken, we are not going to get broken. America has gone through blips like this. Like we're we're in a hard point right now. And but we've experienced much worse situations. And we've always worked our way through them, and come out stronger on the other side.

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it goes back to our training, lifelong learning and a process of rapid turnaround for learning. So it's a two part thing. It's open to changing and correcting and taking the humility, the ego out of it so you can get better at your work. And then doing it faster.

Task 11 is Select Your Path. Today's guest on the show is Melissa Dockum, Executive Administrator for Impact Actual. Melissa is a retired dancer who performed at Radio City Music Hall in New York City. She transitioned into a teacher and then during COVID life, course corrected her path.

08:10As a performer transitioning into teacher transitioning into, you know, well, COVID life, which basically killed the arts for a while, I'm conditioned to select my path multiple times, you know, it's not like I chose my nine to five job and stuck with that for the rest of my life.

13:17What you just said about being brutally honest, that was something that I had to learn to be honest with myself, and realize I'm doing what I should do, or what I've been taught to do. But deep down, I don't really want to do that I don't I don't want to take that path.

15:03 I felt this oppressive weight on my soul, that I was doing the wrong thing. I was on the wrong track.

26:09 To be honest, I journal I think write writing down your pros and cons can kind of help navigate that, but I, I really gravitate towards the what do I want? What do I need to do to get there? How will that make me feel? So that feeling that heart feeling is what I really actually want. And that can then guide my brain towards you know, where I want to go.

34:32I like to laugh at myself, because it's taken me so long to learn the same lessons about honoring I've been teaching honoring your body, mind, heart and soul staying fit across the powers. And we're talking here about the dumb zone, the fifth human power of boundary setting, having a healthy boundary around yourself first, even to the closest person we talked about five powers and five rings.

44:37 It is selecting your path is a process of being responsible, accountable. We talk about accountability all the time.

Task 10 is Orient Your Options. This week's guest is William Barnum, founder and CEO of Naked Warrior Recovery. His is a retired Navy SEAL with 26 years of service.

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After retiring from the military in 18. He retired he was suffering from physical and psychological symptoms that negatively impacted his well being and quality of life, migraines, severe anxiety, chronic pains, difficulty focusing, difficulty sleeping, and falling asleep, and depression are some of the symptoms I struggled with on daily basis.

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So naked is it has many meanings, but the first meeting and you kind of covered it in the beginning, what it's really about, it's taking your ego off, and kind of setting into the corner being exposed being a little bit vulnerable, so you can find some healing.

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Yeah, so CBD is it's legal federally, across the board. It was the passing of the farm bill in 2018. It's like December 20. I think of 2018 made hemp legal CBD comes from Him the difference between hemp and marijuana. It's essentially the same plant, but it's the amount of THC that's in the plant. So if it has point 3% or less THC in the driveway of the plant, it's a hemp plant. Anything above that is called marijuana.

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You know, this is something that I, you know, I've created a couple of courses. And, in one of those is like, it's five secrets of leadership. And, and the third secret it, let me just go over them really quickly. So the first one is, you know, multitask, like a Navy SEAL. And, you know, the bottom line here is there's no such thing as multitasking, when I teach the course I kind of go into like, shoot, move and communicate, you're in a gunfight, you're, you're you've just been ambushed.

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whatever that thing is that you're doing that you're trying to accomplish that you're trying to build, like chop it up into small, bite sized easily consumable pieces. And just do one of those a day, you can do two or seven of those a day, but at least get one and create those small victories. And the more of those small victories that you create in your life, the closer you will get to whatever the end actually is, and you're able to keep going and then never quit.

Task number 9 is Observe Your Arena. Today's guest on the show is Patrick Mullins, who joins Rob's team as the Director of Sales and Marketing. Observing your Arena focuses on using a tool known as the OODA (Observe, Orient, Decide, Act) Loop, developed by Colonel Boyd. This task is important to develop as you go through the high impact system to become a balanced and unstoppable.

7:53 Patrick Mullins, Director of Sales and Marketing for Impact Actual, transitioned from an electrical engineering career to flying for the US Air Force and then transforming into a star executive coach

9:50 Everyone - Military, civilian, owner of a company, factory floor worker - uses the OODA loop in their daily life. You may not know you are using it, but everyone does.

11:27 OODA Loop is observe, orient, decide and act. Colonel Boyd developed this theory to determine how best to exploit the enemy's deficiencies.

25:54 The OODA Loop has direct implications for us in life everyday.

42:30 People can get stuck in different phases of this loop that can cost you, your team, your company.

47:48 The OODA Loop helps me be a better planner, a better strategic thinker, because I'm observing and orienting myself to the process.

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Get honest - then get honest again - to "Highlight Your Gaps." In this episode, Rob discusses Task 08 and the importance of discovering those blind spots we hide from ourselves. His guest today is Marcus Torgerson, self defense and personal empowerment teacher. Marcus discusses his career as an instructor of Krav Maga, the various reasons people seek his help, and his approach to helping them know not just what to do - but why. Martial Arts are important...but never forget the reason for them: not to harm, but to be ready.

Listen in as they teach you to find your gaps.

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Personal choice leads to almost all of our outcomes: what we experience is caused by our choices, neglect an option, choosing to work out or not work out, for example. Accounting for oneself is the reason that our Impact Actual motto is Impact HARD: Humility, Accountability, Respect and Dignity - the four concepts that will give you your own guiding principles. With accountability being a huge factor in this, the 7th task is Clarify Your Condition.

Today’s guest is Trisha Drago, the founder and CEO of Banyon Accounting and the Finance and Operations Director for Impact Actual. Trisha and Rob discuss the similarities between systems, measuring your business and financial health as you would measure your own health. Clarifying your true condition by taking a searching and fearless moral inventory.

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This episode centers on Task number 06: Declare Your 'Done.' Where are your healthy boundaries? What will you accept and not accept? Integrity does get turned on and off. It is a simple, consistent condition. You need to find ways to respectfully decline requests from others, or you will never have the time to build the epic leadership role you were made for. Lead yourself first because true leadership is by example.

Rob’s guest today is Jason Redman, author of The Trident: The Forging and Reforging of a Navy SEAL Leader and The Trident and Overcome. Jason notes, “When you talk about mistakes and messing up, there is this idea that as a leader, you are perfect, you are impervious to mistakes..it’s not ture. Leaders make all kinds of mistakes.” The journey is how you mess up, figure it out and come back from it. We have terrible experiences, which are actually a give to us and we get an opportunity to learn from it. We have to get broken down to experience it.

The change starts today. It starts with formulating a plan. Listen in for more details.

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This week’s task is about integrity - how we appreciate the authenticity of others. Jason Rowinski, Director of Training and Development, joins Rob in talking about searching your soul. Finding your authenticity and aligning your lives toward that authenticity is like having your North Star that is your governing center. Power and money corrupt everyone unless you stay in tune with your ultimate center, your higher power.The people that are aligned use their power to lift other people up.

We need more integrity because we are potentially going to hurt our selves as a species if we don’t start getting back to the fundamentals of respect and dignity and assuring that peoples’ voices are heard. Jason states, “ I know I don’t do it perfectly, but I call to love all people, whoever you are, wherever you are at, that’s how I want to roll.”

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