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So how exactly do we even figure out what this whole "reframing" thing is? How do you figure out who the safe people are and make changes to surround ourselves with them? How do we change all these negative core beliefs that we've been rooted in for so long, so we can build new pathways in our brain and develop a new outlook on who we are and what we're capable of?

I'm glad you asked...our guest, Tiffany Toombs is here to help shed some light on this subject and address those struggles and more.

Tiffany is a Mindset Coach, and Master Practitioner of Matrix Therapies and NLP. She is the founder of blue lotus mind, a program she developed to help inspire men, women, and children to reconnect and love themselves, unconditionally, from the inside out. Her goal is to create a self-love revolution, where everyone feels empowered to redefine what happiness and love look and feel like, to them.

I have experienced first hand what it is like to feel stuck and lost in life. This experience allows me to coach from a deeply personal place, from a place of being broken wide open and diving in to sort out the pieces...and so I want to start a self-love revolution. I want everyone I come into contact with to feel empowered to re-define what happiness and love look and feel like for them. 

During our chat on the podcast we cover:

• Self-Love; why do we resist it?
• Why it's so important to heal negative emotions & experiences from the past.
• The importance of doing what's best for us, even when others judge and call you selfish.
• Understand that every behavior has a belief system, and focusing on the behavior alone won't accomplish the goal of healing.
• Learning not to settle in your career, relationships, or any aspect of life.
• Taking time to connect with your highest intentions each day to help yourself continually grow and not regress back into old patterns you worked so hard to change.
• Life is full of ebbs and flows, ups and downs, and not getting too attached to either.

We unpack all of this and more during our chat with Tiffany Toombs, so be sure and check out the podcast right here on the Beyond Your Past Radio, or search your favorite podcast app for "Beyond Your Past".

Thank you to Tiffany for sharing her incredible insight and wisdom on the power of using Reframing to change your limiting beliefs.

You can learn more about Tiffany Toombs, including her coaching programs and online resources, over on BlueLotusMind.com - Be sure and follow her on social media as well:

Twitter: @TiffanyNToombs - Facebook: @BlueLotusMind - Instagram: @TiffanyToombs

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Continuing on with our new Mobile Musings podcast series every Thursday here on Beyond Your Past Radio, I'm sharing some thoughts around the topic of Interrupting Anxious Thoughts. 

How do we actually interrupt an anxious thought in the first place; and why is it important to develop this skill? On that note, it is indeed something that needs to be practiced and fostered over time since we are actually retraining our minds to stop using those old, negative, programmed, default responses that no longer serve us. 

What about reframing emotional responses? How does anxiety try and use your emotions against you? One reason is that it loves to live in an emotional mind, making it much easier to gain and keep a hold of us, which ultimately perpetuates the very actions, reactions, and mindsets we are trying to change. 

I talk about a current example in my own life, and how anxiety could very easily take a medical challenge I'm facing, and turn it into a worry-fest. An opportunity for me to stay up all night, overthinking, researching, and worrying myself over things I have no control over. 

There's a lot more in store in this episode of our new Mobile Musings series, so be sure and check it out and see what you think. If you'd like to send us a message and tell us what you think, we'd love to hear from you. 

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Recently, Joanne had the opportunity to chat with Andrea Evans, about her first endeavor into the world of being an executive producer and the message she wants everyone to take away when you see her documentary, "Rocking the Couch".

Andrea Evans has been a Hollywood icon for decades, staring in television shows including The Bold and the Beautiful, Passions, One Life to Live, The Bay, and more.  Now she's teamed up with longtime friend and director, Minh Collins, to create a documentary in the wake of the scandal involving Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, and others, to help bring awareness to sexual assault victims and what can happen on the casting couch.

Andrea talks with Joanne about how the idea for, 'Rocking the Couch', came to be and why she, Minh, and her team decided it was so important to make this documentary. She shares some of the processes in talking to women who would be willing to speak out and share their story, and the struggle of so many who simply couldn't share their experience due to shame, fear, their career, or family and friends who don't know they've experienced this type of trauma.

Ms. Evans shares how especially vulnerable and susceptible aspiring actors are to what can happen on the casting couch. Since there is no clear cut path on how to make it in the entertainment industry, newcomers to the scene have to find their way and are often left to their own devices, which means they simply aren't aware of what can go on during the process of trying to make it in the industry.

Andrea shares with us the message that she hopes everyone will take from this movie, that more people will be aware of what can happen in this situation and hopefully this can be a step in the direction of raising awareness and empowering survivors of sexual assault to reach out for help, share their story, and hopefully be a catalyst for helping to prevent this trauma.

Rocking the Couch is currently available on Amazon Prime, Hollywood titans, Harvey Weinstein & Bill Cosby, have been brought to their knees by the #MeToo movement. The term casting couch has existed for decades in Hollywood, but in 1992, a case against talent agent, Wallace Kaye, was brought to court by 12 unknown actresses, who braved the loss of their careers, privacy & Hollywood dreams. Against all odds, they won, and no one listened, until now. 

"Our documentary explores the case and asks, "Why didn't we hear about this?" More importantly, why didn't Hollywood learn from this case? For, if they had, maybe the Cosbys and the Weinsteins would have learned as well, and these sexual exploitations could have been prevented". - Rotten Tomatoes

We appreciate Andrea Evans taking some time out of her busy schedule to talk with us on Beyond Your Past Radio. We encourage you to consider checking out her film, and get a glimpse into a world that so many of us have never experienced but is none the less as real as it gets.

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Welcome to the next installment in the Mobile Musings series here on Beyond Your Past Radio. Each episode is recorded while out walking or driving, with nothing more than a mobile phone. You'll hear my thoughts on life, mental health, making a difference in the world and in the lives of others.

So how can we potentially see ourselves, and the world, in a different way? Do we even need to, and if so, why?

What kind of difference can it make in our daily life; personal, professional, relationships, everywhere?

In this episode, I'm out doing some walking, did ya notice the walking intro too? :) Thinking about how much of a difference it can make if we decide that maybe, just maybe, we can choose to approach our day, or a specific situation, in a new way?

Think about how you wake up each day, what is your mindset as you get ready to head out to work? What's going through your mind as you approach that lunch date with a friend? How much do you dread calling back that person you've been avoiding because you're afraid of what they'll say or ask you to do?

What if you could take a chance, a calculated risk, and ask youself what it might be like to see that situation differently?

How might that look to you?

Give this episode a listen as I talk about it on the podcast!

Please do let us know your thoughts on this raw, simple format which will begin being released every Thursday.  Hit us up anytime at https://beyondyourpastradio.com/contact-us

-Matt

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May is GBS-CIDP awareness month, and what better way for us to help do our part here on the podcast than to talk with a fellow survivor of this rare disease, and get his take on his experiences during diagnosis, treatment, and how life has changed for him since.

Jeremy Oster reached out to me a couple of months back, when he was looking for connections to other survivors of GBS, and came across the podcasts I recorded about my experience. We chatted through email and on the phone, swapping stories, struggles, things we've learned along the way of our healing; and I thought it would be cool to bring him on the podcast to continue our chat during GBS-CIDP awareness month.

Jeremy was like so many before the onset of GBS; married, children, successful career in both technology and sales, and while he had his share of struggles personally and professionally, he was primarily living life the way so many of us do each day. Then out of the blue, everything changed, and ever since his life has taken on a new normal in a way he could have never imagined.

During our chat:

• Jeremy breaks down what exactly GBS is, and what it feels like to live with it each day both physically and emotionally.
• He shares what his life was like on a daily basis, an what happened just before Guillain Barre set in.
• The importance of moving past "how did I get GBS" and focusing on "what am I going to do about it".
• The toll this disease can take on a spouse and family, during treatment, recovery, and life afterward.
• Finding your new normal, and approaching life with the right mindset so you can be proactive in your healing, rather than just resigning yourself to what you think will never change.

If you'd like more information on this rare disease, related conditions and variants, treatment options, and how you can help support research, please head over to GBS-CIDP.org, the official foundation website to see how you can get involved.

To check out my other podcasts on this topic, check out "The Diagnosis that Changed My World", and my "One Year Later Update Episode" .

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Welcome to the return of Mobile Musings! A short weekly podcast sponsored by Beyond Your Past Radio and Beyond Your Past.

Each episode is recorded while out walking or driving, with nothing more than a mobile phone. You'll hear my thoughts on life, mental health, making a difference in the world and in the lives of others.

This was a segment that originally started a couple of years ago but we ended up getting away from it for no other reason than, well we just did. I really enjoyed recording these and now seems like a great time to bring them back.

So welcome back to Mobile Musings, the Reactivation..or the Return..or well, you get the idea.

In this episode, I share alittle bit about the back story and also the reason why I decided to bring this format back to be a companion to our full-length episodes which get released every Monday.

I share about the importance of knowing your limits, being able to pivot and adjust, and not trying your self-worth to the outcome of a project, or strategy change. I also share why burnout in any area of life is real, and why these episodes will help alleviate that concern.

Plus, there's nothing wrong with having a little fun with a podcast right? You'll see what I mean when you listen, and if you enjoy them you'll notice other cool quirks and fun stuff each time that hopefully will bring a smile to your face.

Please do let us know your thoughts on this raw, simple format which will begin being released every Thursday.  Hit us up anytime at https://beyondyourpastradio.com/contact-us

-Matt

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Bipolar Barbie, a mental health advocate who shares her life on social media, joins me on this episode of the podcast to talk about this very subject and to share some of her life's story.

If you follow B on social media, you know that she is very active on live streams, documenting her life as she continues to learn who she is and along the way inspiring followers from across the globe who resonate with her vulnerable, honest, message. A message of, "be unapologetically you", regardless of what others think.

It's ok to struggle, to have bad days, and not have all the answers. It's ok to wake up and have no idea what the day is going to bring and how you'll feel; to be completely unsure of how you're going to manage from one hour to the next. Living with Bipolar, Depression, Anxiety, or anything else doesn't mean you are broken, hopeless, and destined to be something less than that you want to be. It just means, the way you get through each day, and accomplish your goals is going to look different than you originally thought, and that's totally fine. All that matters is that you keep going, keep fighting, and never give up.

During our chat, B. shares why she calls herself, Bipolar Barbie, and how she began this life of being a mental health advocate and sharing her story on a global scale.

We also discuss:

•  The importance of being able to communicate effectively with a doctor or mental health professional about your diagnosis and the challenges you face every.
• Educating yourself on your diagnosis so you can take an active role in your treatment, and to help ensure you get the best treatment for you.
• Why her message resonates with so many people around the world, and why sharing her life so vulnerably and in an unscripted way, allows her to connect on a deep level with her followers.
  • In addition how she also continues to learn about herself and further her own healing by sharing her life.
• How labeling someone and throwing around words like "mentally ill" in a negative context, only perpetuates the shame and encourages silence rather than seeking help.
• The importance of just being there for someone who's struggling, without needing to give advice or answers; just listen without judgment.

Thanks again to B. for coming on the podcast, especially with the large time-zone difference between our locations. There's a lot more that we didn't get too, and to be honest, what we originally planned to cover wasn't what we actually talked about. That's the beauty of chatting with someone and just letting the conversation flow naturally. Don't worry though, she'll be joining us again later this year as a returning guest.

You can follow Bipolar Barbie all across social media:

YouTube - Twitter - Instagram - Facebook

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Our guest on this episode of the podcast has dedicated her life to helping women in particular, and survivors as a whole, to find their voice. To begin to realize that they too have the ability to reach out for help, work through their past moving from victim to survivor, and ultimately from survivor to warrior.

Lisa Cybaniak is a Motivational Speaker, Success Coach, NLP Practitioner, and survivor of 10 years of child abuse. Over the last 3 years, her work has been featured on radio programs, podcasts, in magazines, and other media outlets. Her first book, Survivor to Warrior is due out in June of 2019.  She outlines on her website, I've developed three healing streams to empower you to build a life of purpose after abuse, wherever you may be on your path to recovery: Reaching Out, Victim to Survivor, and Survivor to Warrior.

If you've not had an abusive background, but still suffer from low self-esteem or confidence, impostor syndrome or a lack of fulfillment in your life, you will find many options here for you too. Remember, if you keep doing the same thing, you can expect the same result. If you're ready for a different result, then you're in the right place!

During our chat with Lisa, Joanne and I talk with her about her survivor journey and her work with clients:

• Lisa shares about the multiple types of abuse she suffered at the hands of her stepfather, and how she found the courage to tell someone what was happening.
• The incredible story of how her mother came to her rescue, validating everything Lisa said was happening and immediately made plans to get her away from the abuse.
• The challenges of relationships and being able to tell her story to others; only a handful of people knew what happened during her teenage and young adult years.
• We discuss the importance of tying the validity of your abuse, and survivor story, to the outcome of a court case when filing charges against your abuser.
• The struggles of using detachment as a coping skill, and how that lead to suicidal thoughts and closing off from nearly everyone in her life.
• How she is using her life experiences now to work with clients, speak internationally, and continue her own ongoing journey of healing.

If you'd like to learn more about working with Lisa, her programs, upcoming new book, and her speaking engagements, just head over to LifeLikeYouMeanIt.com...and be sure and tell her, "Beyond Your Past, sent you".  ;)

You can follow her on Twitter: @LisaCybaniak , Facebook.com/lifelikeyoumeanit, and Instagram: @Life_Like_You_Mean_It

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP

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Joanne recently had the opportunity to spend a few minutes chatting with Abby Johnson; Author, Speaker, founder of "And Then There Were None", and former Clinical Director of Planned Parenthood. Abby has been using her voice in support of the Pro-Life movement since leaving her career in the industry in 2009. Her story has been featured on Fox News, ABC, and many other high profile media outlets as she uses her voice to help encourage women to consider a stance of what she refers to as "pro-love".

As outlined on Abby's website: ...We see that every life, from the child in the womb, to the elderly - and in between, including the abortion clinic worker's life, has incredible value, and worth. We believe that abortion strips women of their dignity. We believe that motherhood is empowering. We believe that not conforming and giving into societal pressures when it comes to femininity is empowering.

We believe that justice applies to every single human being on this earth. We believe in redefining the pro-life movement to include everyone, every age, race, gender, religion, and every job.

During Joanne's chat with Abby, they discuss the movie now in theaters, "Unplanned", which is based on Abby's life experiences in working with Planned Parenthood and the events which transpired that ultimately changed her life; turning in an entirely new direction. Abby shares what the reaction to her movie has been, how important her support system has been to her, and what it's been like in her own life since releasing the movie. We encourage you to consider checking out the movie, regardless of where you stand on this issue.

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP 

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Have you ever said to yourself, "if I only knew then what I know now?" It's quite likely you are nodding your head in agreement, as that old saying is timeless. For better or worse, it's one of those things that gets passed down from generation to generation. It comes in especially handy when you're giving advice to a child about what you've experienced and what they can learn from your mistakes. Of course, we all know we've heard that and didn't listen right?..but I digress.

Anyway, we wanted to share some of the things that we've learned along the way during times of deep healing in therapy, wisdom shared with us from therapists, friends, and others, or just revelations that come to us in the middle of the night. Don't you just love it when those happen?

So what have we learned?

• Reaching out for help is hard, but necessary.
  • For that matter, it doesn't make you weak when you reach out for support.
• Gaining a greater awareness of yourself, and knowing your limits.
  • Knowing when to go all in with healing and when to take a break; listening to your body.
• Focusing on your strengths, rather than "what's wrong with you".
  • How you talk to yourself
• Self-Care as a preemptive strategy to help with burnout in trauma recovery.
• A few more important ones that you'll have to listen to find out. :)

- Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP

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