Bigger Love with Scott Stabile

Hi Friends,

Another version of me would have recorded a video that felt more like…

OH MY GOD EVERYONE WAKE THE F**K UP AND TAKE TO THE STREETS AND STOP SPENDING ANY MONEY AND BURN THIS F*****G HORRIFIC EMPIRE DOWN!!

The video above isn’t reflective of that version, as, like so many of you, I don’t like to be told what to do. Unless I want (need) to be told what to do.

So, my invitation to all of us is to make space for our inner wisdom. Allow our hearts to direct us, and don’t allow the fear to stop us from showing up in a more vocal way, should that be our heart’s guidance.

And no matter what, because these times are beyond insane, let’s stay committed to being kind to ourselves and giving ourselves grace. We’ll be that much more likely to offer the same kindness and compassion to one another.

Know this: however you’re feeling, you are not alone in it. I don’t believe I know a single person who isn’t struggling with the world at large right now, along with any personal struggles they may be having.

I trust our hearts. We just have to get better at listening to them, at reflecting in ourselves and each other the love our hearts know so well.

Thank you for being here. Sending you all so much love.

xoxo…Scott

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Upcoming Events:

Live Breathwork in Troy, Michigan on Friday, August 22nd.

The Uplift, a free gathering on Monday, August 25th, to unwind, connect and (hopefully) feel a bit more invigorated, uplifted and seen.

Upcoming Events:

Live Breathwork in Troy, Michigan on July 18th

Portugal Retreat from Nov. 9th-15th

Hi Friends,

In this video I talk about my experience at the NoKings protest, the importance of community, and being intentional about aligning our inner and outer worlds.

Toward the end I read the following excerpt from Enough as You Are:

Find people who can handle your darkest truths, who don’t change the subject when you share your pain or try to make you feel bad for feeling bad. Find people who understand we all struggle, some of us more than others, and that there’s no weakness in admitting it. In fact, few things take as much strength. Find people who want to be real, however that looks and feels, and who want you to be real, too. Find people who get that life is hard, and who get that life is also beautiful, and who aren’t afraid to honor both of those realities. Find people who help you feel more at home in your heart, mind, and body, and who take joy in your joy. Find people who love you, for real, and who accept you, for real. Just as you are. They’re out there, these people. Your chosen family is waiting for you. Don’t stop searching until you find them.

I’m working especially hard (and failing often) to return to love these days. There will not be a foundation of compassion and love in what we create as a society if there is not compassion and love in the creation of it.

Holding a deep prayer that more and more of us will allow our hearts to lead, that more and more of us will transcend the us vs. them narratives, and that more and more of us will come to a place of peaceful and abiding harmony with ourselves so that we can be conduits of compassion and love with one another.

With endless love and gratitude,

xoxo…Scott

Upcoming Events:

Breathwork in Pleasant Ridge, MI on Sunday, June 8th at 10am.

Breathwork in Troy, MI on Friday, June 13th at 6:30pm.

Hi Friends,

In today’s video I share about an experience I had a couple weeks ago in the Black Hills of South Dakota. An extremely comforting message from the forest of ponderosa pines around me.

The Lakota words I was looking for in the video, which mean Black Hills, are Paha Sapa.

I hope the video serves you in a good way. Let me know.

I’m inching toward doing some live videos here on Substack and would love to know what topics you’d like to hear me discuss, so please let me know that too.

Check out the upcoming, free, The Power of Love summit below. There will be much heart-centered wisdom in these talks.

Thanks for your presence here. Sending big love to you all.

xoxo…Scott

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I was invited to be a speaker for this year’s The Power of Love summit, along with many wonderful teachers whom I admire. Below the graphic, I’m pasting in the promotional text given to me by the summit team, so you can get a clearer sense of the summit. It’s all about the power of love, so you know I’m here for it. And it’s free.

In a time when so many are feeling disconnected, worn down, or unsure how to move forward, love continues to be one of the most powerful forces for healing, growth and transformation.

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That’s why our friends at Wisdom for Life are presenting the all-new 2025 The Power of Love Summit, a free, 7-day online event featuring over 40 of today’s most respected voices in psychology, spirituality, trauma healing, and conscious relationships.

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I’m thrilled to be one of the Summit speakers, along with Tara Brach, Thomas Hübl, Jack Kornfield, Anne Lamott, Gay and Katie Hendricks, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Terri Cole, Marci Shimoff, Justin Michael Williams, Dawson Church, John and Julie Gottman and many more...And once you register you’ll immediately receive 3 bonus sessions with Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson and Jane Fonda on the power of love.

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If you’re ready to live with more love, more joy and more connection, this event is for you…

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P.S. When you register now you’ll receive immediate access to 3 powerful bonus sessions with:

* Deepak Chopra – on love as the ultimate truth

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* Jane Fonda – on love as the force that moves us to protect what’s sacred

Hi Friends,

I’m sitting in bed and felt a nudge to do an audio recording to share with you all. I didn’t know what I would talk about, but before pressing record, the words My heart wants you to know that you’re whole came to me. So that’s where I began.

I hope this serves your spirit in some way.

Sweet dreams…Scott

If this space is touching your heart in a good way, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber to support my work. Thank you.

Detroit Friends: I’ve got two live breathwork gatherings coming up, one in Pleasant Ridge on April 27th, and the other in Troy on May 4th. These sessions are incredibly powerful and I can’t encourage you enough to give this breathwork practice a try if you haven’t already. It’s also a wonderful way to meet other local, open-hearted souls.

* Chicago Area Folks: Join me in Oak Park TOMORROW, Saturday, April 5th, from 1:30 - 4:30pm, for the Enough As You Are workshop.

Hi Friends,

I recorded this message a couple years ago and it feels like a good reminder right now. And always.

Let me know how it resonates, and share with us all some other helpful questions you ask yourself to stay connected to love, and peace, and joy, and whatever else you’re seeking.

Every single thing we think, feel and do is human to think, feel and do, or we wouldn’t be experiencing it. Let’s be gentle with ourselves as we nudge ourselves toward a more compassionate and heart-centered way of being. And let’s never forget that love is our greatest healer, and that its energy is everywhere, within and outside of us. When we choose to engage with the energy of love, we have a much better chance of creating for ourselves and our world the kind of just and compassionate reality so many of us are longing for. Let’s stay committed to being the example of that which we’re seeking to create. Let’s continue to love the hell out of ourselves, each other, and our world.

Holding you all in my heart and sending so much love.

xoxo…Scott

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* Chicago Area Folks: Join me in Oak Park on Saturday, April 5th, from 1:30 - 4:30pm, for the Enough As You Are workshop.

* Join my dear friend and brilliant spiritual teacher Lee Harris in La Jolla, CA, in July for his beloved Soul Magic retreat.

Hi Friends,

I sat down this morning to work on an essay I started a few weeks ago about my struggle to figure out how to show up right now, about the heaviness I feel for our country and world, about the ever-present contradictions I grapple with as a human being in this place and time. But I don’t feel like writing about any of that right now, because I woke up this morning, having just completed an 82 hour water fast, feeling good. Feeling grounded, and joyful, and deeply connected to love.

So I’m not going to force myself into the energy of despair just to complete an essay. I’m going to hold onto this content feeling, gonna welcome it in and wrap my spirit around it as long as it lasts, gonna let myself feel joy because it’s as important as any other way to feel, even and perhaps especially in a world with so much heartbreak.

The video I’m sharing today I recorded a few years ago. In it I talk about the gift of bringing awareness to what we’re doing and how we’re feeling about what we’re doing, and the invitation in this awareness to align our choices with better feeling ways of being.

I see so much of my spiritual path as common sense. Do more of what feels good and you’ll feel good more often. Do less of what feels bad and you’ll feel bad less often. This is not advanced calculus kind of stuff. And yet, as we all know, simple and easy are not the same things, at least when it comes to living more peaceful, joyful, aligned lives.

Even so, awareness is always a great place to start. How is what I’m choosing to do right now making me feel? is a helpful question to ask, especially if we have the courage to stick with or shift our actions in accordance with the response. Without awareness, change can be especially difficult.

Let me know how the video lands for you.

I’m happy with my choice not to dive into the essay I’d been working on, not to force myself into an energy I’m not currently feeling. I’m happy with myself for opening up to the feeling of peace and joy I have right now, for choosing not to stifle it because of all the suffering out there, for remembering that it’s not my misery that helps to lift people out of theirs.

We are here to feel everything, or we wouldn’t be feeling everything. Please let yourself feel joy when it comes around. Welcome it. Play and dance and laugh with it until it decides to move on.

So much love to you all. Thank you for being here.

xoxo…Scott

Bigger Love is a reader-supported publication. If you have the means, consider supporting my work as a paid subscriber.

* Chicago Area Folks: Join me live in Oak Park on Saturday, April 5th, from 1:30 - 4:30pm, for the Enough As You Are workshop.

* Join my dear friend and brilliant spiritual teacher Lee Harris in La Jolla, CA, in July for his beloved Soul Magic retreat.

Hi Friends,

Take 55 seconds and really breathe into the message from the video above. One of the surest ways to create a deeper, more loving relationship with yourself (and by extension, the world) is to understand that your worth, your enoughness, is inherent. You were born and will die worthy. You are as enough right now as you could or will ever be or have ever been. Feel that truth. Root yourself in your worthiness.

Worth is not predicated on anything. Not looks, or money, or success, or family. Nothing. It’s a birthright. Whether we believe this to be the case, however, impacts our experience of the world. A person who understands their inherent worth moves through the world quite differently than one who believes themself to be unworthy. For me it feels like the difference between being inflated and deflated, open and closed, secure and insecure.

Along with the minute-long video, today I’m going to share some passages from Enough as You Are, in the hopes that we can enter into this weekend feeling steady connection to self-acceptance and love, to our worthiness, to the truth that we are, each of us, enough as we are.

Please remember: it’s always what we do from this moment on that matters the most, and it is never too late to deepen, strengthen, transform the relationship you have with yourself, and therefore, with everyone and everything else. A good place to start is with a sincere willingness and commitment to love yourself like never before, and then see where that willingness takes you.

Whether your mind believes it or not, you really are worthy and enough, just as you are. Your heart never doubts this truth.

So much love to you all, and deep gratitude for your presence here.

xoxo…Scott

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Upcoming Events:

Live Online Breathwork Journey on Wednesday, March 26th at 8pm ET

Enough as You Are Workshop in Oak Park, IL on Saturday, April 5th at 1:30pm CT

Inner Peace & Power in Portugal (one room left) from November 9th-15th

Insight Timer Meditations:

You Are Enough, Just as You Are

The Messages of Your Heart

A Pep Talk to Lift Your Spirits

Free Breathwork Offer:

Get free access to one of my live online breathwork journeys when you buy a paperback copy of Big Love. Email me a screenshot of your purchase, and come breathe with me for free (typically $25).

My dear friend Lee Harris will be holding his yearly Soul Magic Retreat in Southern California this summer, and I can’t recommend Lee highly enough. We have co-led a retreat together and I’ve been fortunate enough not only to see him in action as a teacher but also as a channel, and he shines his otherworldly gifts in such a compassionate, accessible and joyful way. I’m including some of the promotional copy for the retreat beneath the poster below. Lee will blow your mind.

Learn more, watch a video about the experience and register HERE.

Going on a retreat can prove to be the cornerstone of one’s personal journey, allowing you to learn invaluable lessons about metaphysics, relationships, boundaries, and the power of connection. These memories and friendships can shape your life, helping you stay grounded and find fulfillment.

An incredible retreat experience will be taking place this summer, July 7-12 in La Jolla, CA, led by world renown transformational teacher and channeler, Lee Harris. You’ll spend the week with Lee (and a heart-centered group of seekers from all over the world) in daily workshops and restorative channeled sessions, where Lee will share messages from his guides, the Z's, accompanied by the enchanting music of Davor Bozic. You’ll learn vital life lessons, share laughter, shed some tears, and dance the nights away. The magic that unfolds during these gatherings is truly unforgettable.

Learn more, watch a video about the experience and register HERE.

Hi Friends,

Here’s another short video from the archives to take us into the weekend connected to the ever-present energies of peace and love within us. It can be incredibly helpful to remember that, if you have ever felt peaceful even for a moment, then it is in you to feel peaceful. The same goes for feeling self-loving or joyful or creative or sexy. If you’ve ever felt any of these energies, then it’s in you to feel them all.

Let’s not let our minds convince us we can’t access the very energies we’ve already accessed. Peace, love, joy and creativity are always alive with us. If we’re not feeling them, let’s consider that an invitation to be more intentional about connecting with, generating and sharing them.

Please don’t forget: you are powerful beyond measure in your ability to direct your life in alignment with your heart’s desires, your heart’s wisdom. Everything begins with willingness and intention. Follow that with action and there’s no saying what you can access within you, and what you can create for yourself and our world. Should you choose to.

I believe in you. I believe in us.

So much love to you all.

xoxo…Scott

Bigger Love is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

Upcoming Events:

Free Live Talk on Insight Timer on Friday, March 14th, at 3pm ET

Enough as You Are Workshop in Oak Park, IL on Saturday, April 5th at 1:30pm CT

Inner Peace & Power in Portugal (one room left) from November 9th-15th

Insight Timer Meditations:

You Are Enough, Just as You Are

The Messages of Your Heart

A Pep Talk to Lift Your Spirits

Free Breathwork Offer:

Get free access to one of my live online breathwork journeys when you buy a paperback copy of Big Love. Email me a screenshot of your purchase, and come breathe with me for free (typically $25).

Happening Tonight, March 5th: Free Insight Timer Talk at 7pm ET, and Online Breathwork at 8pm ET.

Hi Friends,

I shared the above, 4-minute video more than three years ago, the day after I started this Bigger Love newsletter. Please ignore the reference to Friday, unless of course you’re watching this on a Friday. :)

As you may have picked up, I’m a big fan of generative questions, questions that invite responses that lead to more joy, connection, meaning and love in our lives. When we ask ourselves this type of leading question, are honest and intentional with our answers, and then willing to act in alignment with what we discover, we stand to create more fulfilling realities in our lives. It’s a 1 + 1 = 2 sort of thing.

Let me know what comes up for you when you ask yourself, How can I love myself right now? And let me know what other questions you find helpful to ask yourself on the regular.

We are with ourselves 24/7. There is no good reason not to prioritize the relationship we have with ourselves, to prioritize creating a more loving relationship with ourselves, no matter what. And remember: self-love never stops with self; it always serves all. That’s the nature of love.

Sending you all so much love and deep gratitude for your presence here. Keep shining your light and love on our world.

xoxo…Scott

Bigger Love is a reader-supported publication. If you find this space helpful, and have the means, please consider become a paid subscriber ($5/month or $50/year).

Upcoming Events:

Free Insight Timer Talk Tonight, March 5th, at 7pm ET

Online Breathwork Tonight, March 5th, at 8pm ET

Enough as You Are Workshop in Oak Park, IL on Saturday, April 5th at 1:30pm CT

Inner Peace & Power in Portugal (one room left) from November 9th-15th

Insight Timer Meditations:

You Are Enough, Just as You Are

The Messages of Your Heart

A Pep Talk to Lift Your Spirits

Books:

Enough as You Are

Big Love: The Undeniable Joy of Following Your Heart

Offer: Get free access to one of my live online breathwork journeys when you buy a paperback copy of Big Love. Email me a screenshot of your purchase, and come breathe with me for free (typically $25).

Hi Friends,

The video I’m sharing today I recorded four years ago somewhere in rural New Mexico, days after a twenty-year friendship with one of my dearest friends ended. I remember the day of that recording very well. I remember feeling betrayed by the friend in question, wildly judgmental about some of his actions, and deeply sad about our break-up. I’d spent much of the day in anger and blame. And then I got sick of feeling angry and blameful, so I very intentionally shifted into my heart to ask for its guidance.

Of course, my heart, the bold lover that it is, encouraged the following: Just love him. Feel everything you need to feel about the situation, think everything your mind compels you to think about him, and send him love. You cannot hurt yourself by opening yourself to love. Love heals. It’s the attachments and expectations you place on love that create suffering. And, the moment you place any conditions on love, it becomes something else anyway. A product of the mind. Love has no conditions.

As I share in the video, I took my heart’s advice and decided to give energy not just to the friend in question but to everyone I could think of whom I didn’t like, or felt wronged by, or believed was causing harm to our world. One by one I brought them into my heart (lots of politicians!) until I felt genuine love for them. To be clear, I still didn’t like most of them or want any of them in my life. Love doesn’t require that. And let me tell you, it felt really good to see how loving I could be, no matter what. What extraordinary power there is in being able to love those your mind compels you to hate.

I hope the video resonates with you all. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

It is not necessary to compromise one single thing in the decision to love our fellow human beings, no matter what we think about them. Well, except for the suffering that comes with hating one another. A good compromise, I think. I am done with the us vs them energy of this country. I am done with the othering of one another. I am done with activism that doesn’t have, at its foundation, a commitment to compassion and love. Anything we feel called to do can be done with love, and everything we do with love is of service to ourselves and our world.

I feel called to say one more thing before I sign off: love is often the most difficult choice to make. We only need look at the state of the world to know that’s the case. As I wrote in the last email, difficult is not impossible. Not even close.

I know a lot of you reading this newsletter are lovers too, and I thank you with all my heart for your willingness to rest in yours. Let’s continue to do the difficult and extraordinarily beneficial work of loving the hell out of ourselves and our world.

Big and Bigger Love,

Scott

Upcoming Events:

Enough as You Are Workshop in Oak Park, IL on Saturday, April 5th at 1:30pm CT

Inner Peace & Power in Portugal (one room left) from November 9th-15th

Insight Timer Meditations:

You Are Enough, Just as You Are

The Messages of Your Heart

A Pep Talk to Lift Your Spirits