Black Excellence

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In this raw and urgent episode, I open up about the mental, emotional, and physical toll of living in a world that often feels hostile to Black women—especially those of us with dark skin. From cyberattacks and online harassment to the trauma of being bullied in school and targeted at university, I share how these experiences have shaped my mental health and left lasting scars.

I talk about the migraines, the pain behind my eyes, and the cycles of feeling lost—how trauma rewires the brain and how racism, bullying, and systemic neglect have pushed me to the edge. This is not just my story—it's the story of many who are suffering in silence while the world unfolds in chaos.

But this episode is also a call to action. A call for a new world. One where healing, justice, and truth are not optional. Where we confront the systems that harm us and build spaces that honor our humanity.

If you've ever felt broken by the world but still dream of something better, this episode is for you.

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The experience I had last night with cyberattacks on my instagram page @evolvingsunflower__ was absolutely astronomical.. I can't count how many times my count got massively reported. It was so ridiculous but I am glad I screenshotted every single time they massively reported me so that the police or anyone can catch them. 

But I also talk about our true reality and what the world is coming to and it's transitioning into a new world. Out with the old and on with the new. 

Go check out and show love to https://www.youtube.com/@kingjeanty1989

He is the guy I reported on whose daughter got threatened by a white supremacist  online. He has a video on his YouTube channel explaining the situation. So feel free to go check it out and let him know Deja sent you.

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Before we begin, I want to take a moment to acknowledge that what I’m about to share is difficult but not just for me, but possibly for you as well. This episode contains personal reflections on childhood sexual abuse, and I speak about it not to shock or disturb, but to bring light to something that often stays hidden. My hope is that by sharing my experience, someone out there might feel less alone, more understood, or maybe even a little more empowered to speak their truth. If at any point you need to pause or step away, please do. Your well-being matters. Thank you for being here.

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In this deeply personal episode of Black Excellence, I open up about the peer pressure to be in a relationship—even when your soul is asking for space to heal. I share my journey through trauma, generational pain, and the overwhelming expectations placed on us by society and culture. This is a conversation about choosing solitude, honoring your inner child, and rejecting the idea that love must come before healing. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood for choosing yourself, this episode is for you.

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Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of racism, sexual harassment, abuse, and other sensitive topics that may be triggering for some listeners. While explicit details are not shared, these experiences are acknowledged and honored.

On September 7th, I took 2 and a half Beboe peach edible gummies, not for recreation, but to ease the pain of being cyberbullied and racially attacked on Instagram. That morning, I felt broken, devastated, angry, and physically unwell from the stress.

In this deeply personal episode, I reflect on intergenerational trauma, my own dark past, and the emotional toll of systemic racism. I send prayers to Trey Reed, a Black man who was tragically hanged at the University of Mississippi, and hold space for all Black Americans who’ve lost their lives to racial violence with a moment of silence.

I speak out against racism, homophobia, xenophobia, and all forms of hate. This episode is a space for truth, healing, and resistance. This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt silenced, hurt, or unseen.

Where you can find me at:

https://hype.co/@evolvingsunflower__?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAacS1f2Dw0-SQ7bdqihmYqxzYLi1giw0QmwGmNjWnih8oMPKg_v2epOa2Vdw2A_aem_NlaUEUFzyK1ej-eVspma2A

https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvingsunflower__?_t=ZP-8zkdKz1Rh1T&_r=1

Hollistic remedies:

https://us.organicburst.com/

https://www.musamoon.com/

https://moonbrew.co/pages/our-superfood-products

https://blackgirlvitamins.co/

https://beboe.com/

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In this unapologetically real episode, I dive deep into my career plans and the harsh realities of the music and entertainment industries. I go from talking about toxic dynamics to the pressure cooker behind the scenes. I open up about the challenges women face in both America and Korea, especially in the K-pop world, and why Korean women deserve more than just admiration they also deserve rights, respect, and representation. This is a raw, wide-ranging conversation where I connect the dots between ambition, activism, and identity. No filters. Just truth.

https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvingsunflower__?_t=ZP-8zkdKz1Rh1T&_r=1

https://evolvingsunflower988.substack.com/

https://blackexcellence.buzzsprout.com/

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In this episode I talk about redpill content, redpillers, manosphere, and more. In this episode I just speak my truth and say what's been on my mind. 

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In this episode I talk about my experiences of going to a PWI and just what I've learned from them and also recounting and reflecting on those moments. It's been such a long time since I've posted an episode and it's due to me being a full-time college student. But soon I will start posting more on days that I'm not so busy. 

But anyways y'all kick back and tune in! Grab your snacks, Wine, Drinks and let go of the bs in your life. 

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Today I chop it up and talk about owning up to mistakes and the ups and down of being your 20's and more with Leko:)

I am so glad that I got the chance to collaborate with Leko! it was fun and we had a good time choppin’ it up. But I also want to mention she gives such helpful, relatable and enlightening tips on navigating through your 20's on her IG page. 
I relate so much to her content and it's helped me as well. 

Please go checkout Leko's instagram @lekoritchie and let her know that Deja sent you:)

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In this episode me and my best friend Lola express how much we are tired of the BS and the fuckery that's been going on and it's not subjective to one thing it's a lot of things. Take this episode with a grain of salt and listen to it with an open mind. We got into a lot of topics and trigger warning I also go into my experience of being sexually assaulted. So if you don't want to hear that please don't listen to this episode. This episode digs deep and I know it's going to ruffle a lot of people's feathers and make some folks wanna tussle, but it had to be said. 

Please don't send hate, try to cancel me or Lola just for expressing how we feel. The purpose of this episode isn't to force you to change your views or your opinions, it's for you to listen with an open mind and to learn something from it.

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