Bloom Your Mind

We open this episode on a yacht in San Diego Bay — silky robes, pirate ships, debating whether to jump into very questionable Coronado waters — deep in conversation with a brilliant restaurateur from a small town in Italy. He asked my advice and posed a question: I know I need to collect failures. But I get too much positive feedback. Where am I going wrong?

My answer: I don't buy it.

From there, this episode becomes a masterclass in what it actually means to put yourself out there — and why if you're not failing, you might not be going far enough.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• Why "I don't see evidence of failure" usually means one of two things — and neither of them is that everything's going great
• How praising kids (and ourselves) for being good at something actually causes us to stop taking risks — straight from the research in Mindset
• The real reason we don't recognize our own failures — and why your brain might be actively hiding them from you
• My own recent failures: from missing my husband's best friend energy, to a chaotic first three weeks of summer, to courses delayed, a book half-written, health issues from 20 years of athletic yoga, and a friendship changed by necessary boundaries
• Why every item on that failure list is there because I’m putting my full heart into my life — and what that means for yours
• Why if you're not failing, you may be depriving the world of something only you can give it
• The design thinking concept of failing forward — and how mastering the Gain instead of minding the Gap makes it easier and more fun
• Why measuring progress against your ideal is a logical fallacy (your vision isn't real yet — it's a steering mechanism, not a measuring stick)
• Why measuring from where you started kicks you into higher brain function, makes you more creative, and actually makes you statistically more likely to hit your goal
• The two questions I leave you with to uncover how YOU can fail bigger, better, faster, MORE. 

Mentioned in this episode:

• Mindset by Carol Dweck
• The Gap and the Gain by Dan Sullivan
• Compassionate Observer (Bloom Your Mind Podcast) 
• Look How Far you’ve come (Bloom Your Mind Podcast) 
• The Moxie Mastermind Monthly Retros — where failures get collected, celebrated, and learned from

The Moxie Mastermind is enrolling for the September cohort now. 
Find the application at dothebloom.com.

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

What are you actually building? Not reacting to — building.

Marie opens this episode with a summer reflection on the people you spend the most time with, and what it means to be truly intentional about who and what you let into your mind, your energy, and your week. From there, she gets into the concept she lives by and teaches inside the Moxie Mastermind: the Blueprint. Two focused priorities — one for contribution, one for life force — that hand you back the reins of your own life and point you toward the things that actually light you up.

If you've ever had that quiet, uncomfortable thought of is this all there is? — this episode is for you.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• Why energy acclimation is real, and how to be intentional about the rooms, relationships, and conversations you put yourself in — instead of just saying yes to whatever approaches you
• The two-priority Blueprint Marie uses inside the Moxie Mastermind every six months — one goal for your contribution to the world, one for pure joy, adventure, and self-expression
• What a Misogi is (thank you, Jessie Itzler) and why setting a goal purely for fun and aliveness is just as important as your big professional swing
• Why "if you have more than three priorities, you have none" — and what it costs you to stay scattered
• How women are socialized to say yes to all the small things, hold everything for everyone, and never make the big moves toward the thing that's actually theirs to make
• Why your brain's negativity bias and your tendency to over-serve everyone around you are the same problem — and require the same intentional solution
• How the Blueprint works with your subconscious: when you choose a direction, your brain starts filtering for it and pulling you toward it — instead of keeping you stuck in reaction mode, replaying the past
• The difference between avoiding what you don't want and actively choosing what you do — and why only one of those creates real change
• What essentialism looks like in practice: letting go of everything — habits, people, scrolling, energy drains — that doesn't code you toward the result you're creating
• What becomes possible in just six months when you have a Blueprint, a community, and accountability — moves, funding, horses, healed marriages, inner peace, and wild things Marie has watched happen inside the Moxie

The Moxie Mastermind is enrolling for the September cohort now. The group is incredible, the Blueprint process is the core of how we work, and spots are limited. Find the application at dothebloom.com.

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Moxie Applications at dothebloom.com
• Jessie Itzler’s Big Ass Calendar 
• Essentialism by Greg McKown 
• Brain buckets Bloom Your Mind Episode 

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

What if you could transform a hard, spinning, overwhelming emotion into something useful — in as little as thirty seconds? This episode teaches exactly that.

The Metaphoric Two-Step is a tool rooted in Marie's training as a hypnotist, and it's applicable to anyone at any age. It's how she helped her son navigate panic attacks around bullying in kindergarten. It's what left her mom — a retired therapist who literally wrote her thesis on the use of metaphor in psychology — completely astounded. And it's a practice Marie returns to again and again to clear her emotional space so her mind can follow.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• Why dropping into your body first thing in the morning — before trying to "fix" your mindset — is the move that actually works
• How emotions carry data, and what you miss when you shove them down or act them out instead of feeling them
• The 90-second practice for sensing where an emotion lives in your body and using metaphor to understand it more deeply
• How metaphor allows the brain to access both hemispheres, decreasing anxiety and lowering resistance to the emotional state 
• Why allowing emotions should be followed by alchemizing them into something that serves you 
• How to use visualization to transform that metaphor into something more helpful — a keystone image you can return to anytime, anywhere
• How to anchor that image to invoke it and change your emotional state at any time you need to 
• Why this tool works for kids, adults, seasoned therapists, and everyone in between. (And yes — it's a little bit like the Boggart in Harry Potter. If you know, you know.)

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Metaphoric Two-Step tool (from Marie's hypnosis training)
• Harry Potter — the Boggart scene

Ready to go deeper?

The Moxie Mastermind is enrolling for the September cohort now. Find the application at dothebloom.com.

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

In this episode, Marie goes straight to the part most people skip when they're trying to make an idea real — that moment when the voices in your head start telling you it's not realistic, you don't see anyone else doing it, and you're not sure if you have what it takes.

She breaks down exactly why your brain does this (threat scan, negativity bias, a regenerative thought loop you didn't sign up for), why every single person you admire had to generate belief from scratch, and the three-part practice that turns that belief into rocket fuel: own your past, own your present, own your future. 

Marie shares her own story — how finding her moxie the first time saved her life, and how finding it again completely rebuilt it — and invites you to do the same.

What You'll Learn

• What "making an idea real" actually means — any change you're making or vision you're bringing to life
• Why your brain threat-scans every new idea and how negativity bias quietly stacks "evidence" against you
• The truth that you won't see external evidence for what's possible yet — and why that gap is the perfect opening for you
• Why social definitions of worth (beauty, affluence, power) are a moving target across cultures and centuries — and why letting them define you is a trap
• A three-step ownership practice that turns the story or your past into the engine for what's next
• How a hero’s journey format can help you hijack negative thinking about the past and help you accept the circumstances of what you’ve lived through 
• How to frame your mindset around the present so that it fuels your motivation every day 
• The practice of using our narrative of the past and present to supercharge our belief in the future
• How internally articulating our stories of the past, present and future sets us up for creating buy-in externally as we share our ideas 
• How claiming the things you think you’re supposed to hide about yourself create more freedom, authenticity and connection 
• How becoming obsessed with the life you’ve built sets you free to love and live

The Practice: Own Your Past, Present, and Future

1. Own your past. Write your own story of it. Say the thing you think you're not supposed to say out loud. Claim the wildness, the weirdness, the part you think you're supposed to be embarrassed about. When you say it, other people get to say theirs too.

2. Own your present. What are you up to now? Why do you love it? Why are you proud of it? What part are you in right now, and why are you obsessed with it? Take responsibility for where you are and what you're up to — instead of getting pulled into imposter syndrome, comparison, and not-enoughness.

3. Own your future. The possibility you're standing up for. The work you love to do and be about in the world. Write it, share it, own it. Let it fuel you.

This Week's Invitation

Sit down and write your own story — past, present, and future — in your own words. Say the thing you think you're not supposed to say. Become obsessed with the part you're in right now. Stand up for the possibility you're walking toward. Then share it. Because the world needs you, and that starts with falling in love with yourself, your story, who you are right now, and where you're going next.

Memorable Quotes

• "Your job is to believe in yourself and your vision more than you believe the thoughts in your mind telling you not to."
• "Both are equally true. You won't pull this off. It's inevitable that you'll pull this off. Choose the one that's more helpful to you."
• "If you don't see people that look just like you doing what you want to do, in the way you want to do it — that's not proof it's not realistic. That's the perfect gap in the world for you."
• "Finding my moxie saved my life the first time. The second time, it completely changed it."
• "I'm obsessed with your story. Are you?"
• “The world needs you. That starts with falling in love with yourself, your story, who you are right now, and where you're going next.” 

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

In this episode, Marie unpacks one of the most powerful habits a person can build: deciding on purpose and ahead of time. She kicks things off with a behind-the-scenes look at the summer bucket list she just built with her family — and why that one ritual is setting them up for a collaborative, empowered, unforgettable summer where they actually get to know each other better and make real decisions about how to spend the moments of their precious life together. 

From there, she shares why her recent Time Whispering class is getting rave reviews (spoiler: it's the deciding on purpose ahead of time of it all), and then walks through exactly how this practice changes everything — from how you eat and move, to how you build your career, to how you show up in your relationships, to how much of your life you actually feel present for.

What You'll Learn

• Why "in the moment brain" is reactive, negativity-biased, and almost always defaults to what's easiest
• How deciding ahead of time lets you pull from your wisest mind — the one that actually has your best interest at heart
• Why goals are never really about accomplishing the goal — they're about who you become as you reach for them
• A repeatable process for making decisions, recommitting to them, and moving through the obstacles that show up along the way
• The truth that you're always deciding — either on purpose from your highest mind, or by default in reaction to whatever life throws at you
• How to apply this to the real, daily places it matters most: diet and exercise, career, relationships, and time with the people you love

Mentioned in This Episode

• Time Whispering Course — the recent class is getting rave reviews because it puts this exact principle into practice. Grab the course to get the full resource and start deciding ahead of time about your time.
• The Moxie Mixer — Marie shares details on the upcoming Moxie Mixer event and how to grab your ticket. Listen in for the link and how to claim a spot.
• Summer Bucket List — try this with your family or even solo. It's a small ritual with an outsized return on your summer.

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

Marie is back from a week in the Catskills (and a stroll down the High Line) and diving into a concept that keeps showing up everywhere in her life — in her therapy, at the retreat she just led, in her coaching groups, and in the books she's been reading. When she mentioned it in both the Bloom Room and Moxie, the room lit up. So here it is.

The idea is simple and radical: the person who should be your ultimate ride or die isn't out there. She’s you.

We start with talking about how parents are doing in the transition between the school year and summer, how to 

What you'll learn in this episode:

• What it actually means to be your own ride or die — and why Marie sees it as the heart of living from your Moxie
• How to protect your time and energy through regenerative design — and why access to you is something people earn, not automatically receive
• Why living authentically (even when it's uncomfortable) is one of the most powerful forms of self-loyalty
• What "shame slaying" is and how radical honesty robs shame of its power
• How to be a cycle breaker — and why you probably won't get positive reinforcement for it (and why that's okay)
• The difference between loving someone and giving them an all-access pass to your time and energy
• How to be the compassionate observer of yourself when you're struggling — and what the "I got you" energy really looks like from the inside out

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck
• The Limit Does Not Exist by Shoshana Raven
• The Time Whispering course (now available for purchase)
• The Love and Moxie course (now available for purchase)
• The Moxie Mastermind — and the June 25th Mixer in San Diego
• Find Marie at dothebloom.com or @the.bloom.coach on Instagram

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

You can have a bulletproof work plan. You can take massive action every single day. You can believe in the impact your idea will have once it's out in the world. And you can still stay completely stuck — or keep repeating the same frustrating patterns without understanding why.

In this episode, Marie introduces one of her favorite client exercises, rooted in the regenerative design process: the Triumvirate of Belief. It's a framework that examines the three essential parts of bringing any idea into the world — you, your idea, and the people who will receive it — and surfaces the hidden beliefs that are quietly running the show.

In This Episode

Marie digs into why belief work isn't just about believing in yourself — it's about examining what you believe about all three players in the regenerative design process. When any one of those beliefs is off, sneaky, or sitting just below the surface of your awareness, it will find a way out. It will sabotage your action, stall your momentum, or keep you spinning your wheels in confusion.

This isn't abstract or theoretical. Marie walks through how the Triumvirate of Belief shows up across the real areas of life where we're most often trying to make change:

• Relationships — and the ideas we have about how to improve them
• Business, entrepreneurship, leadership, and careers — and what we believe about the ideas we're putting into those spaces
• Habit change and personal health — and what's really running the show when we can't seem to make a change stick

Then she shares the exercise itself — a simple, practice you can apply anytime, to any idea, in any area of life. It's the exercise Marie's Moxie Mastermind students recently called one of their favorites, and once you try it, you'll understand why.

The Three Parts of the Triumvirate

1. Beliefs About Yourself What do you actually believe about who you are, what you're capable of, and whether you deserve to put this idea into the world? These beliefs set the ceiling — or the sky.

2. Beliefs About Your Idea How do you really feel about what you're creating or pursuing? Is it good enough? Is it ready? Is it worth people's time, money, and attention? Your hidden beliefs here will show up in how — or whether — you share it.

3. Beliefs About Your Audience What do you believe about the people who will receive, use, buy, or be changed by what you're putting out? Do you trust them? Do you believe they want what you have? These beliefs shape everything about how you show up for them.

The Practice

A belief that lives under the surface doesn't stay there. It sneaks out and undermines everything you're building — in your relationships, your work, your health, your leadership. The only way through is to look directly at it.

This episode's exercise is simple enough to do right now and powerful enough to change everything. Once you can see your beliefs clearly across all three areas, you can start replacing the ones that aren't serving you with thoughts and perspectives that actually move you forward.

Mentioned in this episode

• The Regenerative Design Process — Bloom Your Mind Podcast
• Regenerative Thought Cycles - Bloom Your Mind Podcast 
• Bridge Thinking — Bloom Your Mind Podcast

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

What if the secret to your best work isn't trying harder — it's allowing more?

In this episode, Marie shares a personal story from a recent retreat where she made a counterintuitive choice: instead of preparing by drilling her content, she prepared by protecting her energy. The result? The best coaching of her life. And it happened because she got deeply, radically present.

This episode is a practical toolkit for getting present — no matter how wild and chaotic the world around you is

What you'll hear in this episode:

• The retreat experience that changed how Marie thinks about preparation, performance, and presence — and why she coached better by trying less
• Why presence isn't about turning off your brain or your expertise, but about partnering with the parts of yourself you can't logically name
• Three tools you can use anywhere, anytime — whether you're in a hard conversation, a chaotic day, or facilitating a room full of people

The three tools:

1. Grounding A quick practice (can take 2 minutes or 10 seconds) using breath and visualization to root yourself, release what you don't need, and invite in the energy you want. Great for clearing other people's noise out of your system and filling back up with your own vibe.
2. Focus Out When self-consciousness or self-doubt creeps in, the answer isn't always to go deeper inward — sometimes it's to become a field of presence looking outward. Curiosity. Observation. Loving awareness. 
3. The Body Anchor Learn the physical sensation your body produces when you're truly present — that specific buzz, that particular feeling — and use it as an anchor you can return to anytime. Your body has its own language. This tool is about learning to understand it and learning to speak it.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Moxie Mastermind + the Moxie Morning Routine (where Marie teaches her full meditation practice)
• Walden by Henry David Thoreau

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

Your brain isn't broken — it's just running very old software on a very modern life. And honestly? For the savanna, it was excellent software. For navigating your inbox, your relationships, and the story you tell yourself about whether you're actually making progress? Less so.

In this episode, we dig into five cognitive biases that quietly shape how you see yourself, make decisions, process hard things, and stay stuck. Not in a "you're fundamentally flawed" way — in a "oh wow, this explains SO much" way. Because these biases aren't signs of weakness or low intelligence. They're universal. Researchers who study them have them. Highly successful people have them. Your most clear-headed friend has them. The difference is just whether you can see them running.

So let's see them.

What you’ll learn on this episode: 

• Expectation bias — Your brain is basically a hypothesis-confirming machine. Whatever you already believe about a situation (or yourself), it will dutifully find evidence for. This is why you can walk into the same meeting with different expectations and come out with completely different interpretations of what happened. We talk about how this shows up in self-perception specifically — and how our expectations about ourselves can become the very filters that make them feel true.
• Attribution bias — This one is a whole family of related tendencies, and it explains so much conflict and self-criticism. The short version: we judge other people by their character and ourselves by our circumstances (when things go wrong) — and then flip it when things go right. There's also a sneaky cousin called hostile attribution bias, where we interpret ambiguous behavior from others as intentionally unkind. Spoiler: they probably just had a bad morning.
• Negativity bias — The one that causes the most unnecessary suffering, full stop. Your brain is structurally wired to weight negative experiences roughly twice as heavily as positive ones. One critical comment, one bad day, one public stumble — and your nervous system is taking notes in permanent marker while your wins get written in pencil. This isn't a mindset problem. It's evolution. And once you understand it, you can actually do something about it (hello, proof practice).
• Status quo bias — Why do we stay in situations that aren't working? Why does change feel so risky even when staying is also a risk? This bias is the culprit. Your brain frames the current state as neutral and any change as loss — which means inertia gets disguised as wisdom. We talk about the one question that cuts right through it.
• The availability heuristic — You judge how likely or true something is based on how easily you can think of an example. Vivid, recent, emotionally charged things feel more real — which means your most memorable failures feel like better predictors of your future than your quieter wins. We break down why this matters for how you tell your own story.

All five of these biases share a throughline: your brain is optimizing for survival and efficiency, not for accuracy, growth, or joy. The work isn't to fight it — it's to develop a real relationship with it. To learn its patterns. And to build the practices that help you work with your neurology instead of being unconsciously run by it.

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

What if the world around you — the people in your circle, the environments you spend time in, your subconscious mind, and the face in your bathroom mirror, - was constantly trying to show you something about yourself? In this episode, Marie explores five powerful ways that mirrors show up in our lives, and how we can use each one intentionally to elevate who we're becoming.

The Five Mirrors

1. New Environments as Mirrors Stepping into an unfamiliar room, city, or community shows you things about yourself that your regular environment can't — because your usual environment has you on autopilot. While our everyday life reflects the choices, ways of being and circumstances of the past, we can choose environments that mirror back possibility for the future instead.

2.  Social Circles as a Mirror The people around you reflect back who you are — your beliefs, your habits, your ceiling. Choose to put yourself in circles that reflect back the possibility of the future you’re building, and reflect back your best qualities instead of your worst. Your circle is data.

3. Being a Mirror for Other Women There's a shadow that runs through how women relate to each other in our broader culture: comparison, competition, subtle diminishment. Marie talks about what that shadow looks like, why it persists, and how each of us can consciously become the antidote — the good medicine that calls out something better. When you show up authentically — fierce, honest and playful — you give other women permission to do the same. We have more power to reflect possibility back to each other than we often realize.

4. Your Subconscious Mind as a Mirror Your subconscious is constantly reflecting your deepest beliefs back to you through your results, your patterns, and what you keep creating in your life. Learn to prime your mind to mirror back the future, instead of the past. 

5. The Literal Mirror Your actual reflection. How you relate to it, what you think when you see it, and how to use images of your younger self and the face you see when you look in the mirror to bring out the best in you. 

You'll Love This Episode If...

• You've been thinking about the quality of your relationships and whether they're calling you up or keeping you comfortable
• You want to be a more powerful, positive presence in the lives of the women around you
• You're curious about what your own patterns and results might be trying to tell you
• You're ready to see yourself — all of yourself — more clearly

Ready to Experience This for Yourself?

The Moxie Mastermind is where women come together to do exactly what this episode is about — reflect the best in each other, tell the truth, and make their ideas real, one after another. 

If you're ready to be in a room (or a retreat) with women who will mirror back your highest self and hold you to it, apply to  the Moxie Mastermind and save your spot!

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!