Born to Thrive with Jamie Lee

Please enjoy this special episode - a replay of my Bolder, Braver, and Better Paid: Coaching Live session recorded on November 14, 2018.

I shared:

- #1 secret to becoming unstoppable as a negotiator

- The impact of neurotransmitters on our feelings, thoughts, and results

- The root of all behavior and how to influence others

- Why embracing the balance of emotions is key to success

- How to create intentional beliefs so that you can become bolder, braver, and better paid

In the second half, I coached a naturopathic doctor who is struggling to articulate her value to potential clients and helped her identify her philosophy and reconnect with her confidence.

To sign up for future sessions, go to: http://www.jamieleecoach.com/free-coaching-live

“Why do you need to articulate your future potential as part of your negotiation strategy?” I address this question and explain the importance of future focus for you, for your negotiation, and for your leadership.

I share my updates for 2018 “Wild and Improbable” Goals and how I am dealing with the shame of not yet having achieved my ambitious goals.

Thriving is not about being “happy-happy-joy-joy” 100% of the time.

In order to thrive, you need to embrace the pain of growing and the sting of rejection and shame.

To learn more about my small group mastermind, go to www.jamieleecoach.com

How differently would you show up to ask for help, work, or money if you didn't have the need to please people?

My bet is that you'd be bolder, braver, and as a result, better paid.

I have a lot of experience with the people-pleasing trap, because I'm a recovering people-pleaser.

In this episode, I explain how this fear of displeasing others holds us back from asking, receiving, and thriving.

You'll learn:

- Why and how the life-long training to please others started

- Why our brains confuse other people's displeasure as a threat

- Why it's impossible to please others with who we are, what we say, or what we do

- Three ways we can get triggered to sabotage our outcomes

- Three ways we can work ourselves out of the people-pleasing trap

- Five of my recurring stressful thoughts around pleasing people

- How I turn these thoughts around to instill a new mindset of growth, appreciation, and confidence

Come check out www.jamieleecoach.com for details on Small Group Mastermind, private coaching, and speaking services.

If you're a pragmatic negotiation geek like me, or if you want to improve your negotiation skills so that you can thrive, you won't want to miss this interview with Vivian Giang.

Vivian is a business writer covering how the changing workplace has impacted the way we work and live, in areas related to automation, robotics, team dynamics, executive leadership, and management. She asks, "How do you navigate these waters while also creating credibility and relevance?" She writes about these topics for business publications, like Fast Company, Fortune, Quartz, Dealbreaker, and Marie Claire.

In this value-packed conversation, Vivian and I addressed each of the six common negotiation mistakes as highlighted in this Fast Company article: https://www.fastcompany.com/90225908/all-the-things-youre-doing-wrong-in-negotiations

We discussed:

- Why it's important to start with your why before asking for the what

- The impact of anchoring effect on the bargaining range

- How making assumptions creates negotiation pitfalls

- Why you may not want to accept the first offer

- How to differentiate between short-term and long-term wins

- How negotiators can prepare strategically to avoid these mistakes

You can find Vivian on Twitter at @vivian_giang.

You can learn more about my negotiation coaching and training services here www.jamieleecoach.com

Though I believe we are all born to thrive, I know there are days when that truth can feel like a lie, because of anxiety.

We experience anxiety more acutely when we most need our courage to brave a high-stakes conversation like negotiation.

In this valuable conversation with Dr. Maya Borgueta, a clinical psychologist and founder of Stella Nova Psychology, we explored:

- Why it's important to be prepared to know your worth at any time during job interview process

- What purpose anxiety serves

- Why it's not an emotion you need to avoid or push away

- How to manage your anxiety level in a simple, yet powerful way

- What self-compassion has to do with managing our anxiety

- How to recognize burnout

- Steps to take to address burnout

Learn more about Dr. Maya Borgueta on www.stellanovawomen.com

Though I believe we are all born to thrive, I know there are days when that truth can feel like a lie, because of anxiety.

We experience anxiety more acutely when we most need our courage to brave a high-stakes conversation like negotiation.

In this valuable conversation with Dr. Maya Borgueta, a clinical psychologist and founder of Stella Nova Psychology, we explored:

- Why it's important to be prepared to know your worth at any time during job interview process

- What purpose anxiety serves

- Why it's not an emotion you need to avoid or push away

- How to manage your anxiety level in a simple, yet powerful way

- What self-compassion has to do with managing our anxiety

- How to recognize burnout

- Steps to take to address burnout

Learn more about Dr. Maya Borgueta on www.stellanovawomen.com

In this bonus episode, I read chapter 42 from Byron Katie’s book - A Thousand Names for Joy.

I share my own experiences in holding on to limiting beliefs about money and explain some new beliefs about money, value, and self-worth. What new and better story can you tell about money so that it can flow into your life like water?

If you are ambitious and analytical, and if you want to grow your career through strategic pivots, you won't want to miss this value-packed conversation with career change coach Lisa Lewis.

Lisa Lewis is a career change coach helping ambitious, analytical individuals feeling stuck in their current jobs find different work that “fits” who they are. She does this by helping you clarify who you are, what you want most, what a great job for you looks like so you can make your career transition in the easiest way possible.

In this conversation, Lisa shares how she successfully negotiated a career pivot with a $10K increase in salary offer. (Listen carefully for the word-by-word script!)

We also explore how the growth mindset can help ambitious people like you overcome the trap of perfectionism so you can embrace change, risk, growth, learning and joy.

Learn more about Lisa here: http://LisaLewisCareers.com 

Watch the Carol Dweck's TED talk here: https://www.ted.com/talks/carol_dweck_the_power_of_believing_that_you_can_improve?language=en

This is my interview on Mac's List podcast "Find Your Dream Job."

When preparing for a negotiation, especially about money, people are often told that their feelings don’t matter. We are warned to not get emotional at the negotiating table. Women are seen as emotional while men are seen as rational thinkers and therefore better negotiators. But are your feelings truly a weakness when it comes to salary negotiations? On this episode of the Find Your Dream Job podcast, Jamie Lee helps us understand why we should pay attention to our feelings and why emotion has a place in business conversations.

Recommended Reading: Jamie encourages our listeners to check out this book written by psychiatrist turned negotiation trainer, Mark Goulston, “Just Listen.”