Day three of getting ready to move to a new state after selling nearly everything to start fresh + create our lives. 

This is honestly the scariest thing I've ever done and I can't wait to see how it goes!  I'm ready to hit the ground running and grow this biz of mine!

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More thoughts I had today on what we're doing and how the house hunt is going... thoughts running through my mind and inspired action to take coming through.  The question is... can I relax enough to allow us to get an Airbnb and have a slower paced home search?! for more, follow here: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark

Day #3 with me learning to relax more into receptive mode and being open + available for finding what we desire. 

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Follow along on our journey to selling nearly everything and creating a 12 month runway in our businesses by taking a portion of what we make off our home to live on.  We are taking a chunk of money and choosing to do life a little differently!  I've decided to share my thoughts + feelings as we are going through this process because well, it sounded fun AND I want to have this documented for myself as well!  You can also find me at: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/ 

Follow along on our journey to selling nearly everything and creating a 12 month runway in our businesses by taking a portion of what we make off our home to live on.  We are taking a chunk of money and choosing to do life a little differently!  I've decided to share my thoughts + feelings as we are going through this process because well, it sounded fun AND I want to have this documented for myself as well! 

This one is for my people-pleasers! Where you at?! Haha Gosh, I feel this episode so deeply because I’ve lived a lot of my life picking up other people’s sh!t. 

And by this I mean that when I say or do something that upsets someone… I try to make it ‘better’ or ‘solve the problem’ which truly doesn’t exist.  How often do  you find yourself a little nervous when other people have big reactions to something you’ve said or done? 

 Maybe it’s learning to set new boundaries and someone has an issue with it, etc… 

This is what I’m talking about on this week’s episode and it is sooo good! I give you some examples from my life as to where I’ve really learned to regulate my nervous system around other people’s emotions and how I’ve learned to hold space for them. This can be so powerful as a mom because we can learn how to not only hold space for our kids, but allow them to process through their emotions so that they don’t get stored within their body. When it comes to showing up YOUR best as a mom, it’s about learning how to regulate your own emotions so that you aren’t putting them onto those around you. And you won’t be picking up others' emotions that aren’t yours to carry anymore either! Go listen + I’d love to hear what you think! 

You can find me here:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaclarkcoaching  Website: https://www.amandaclark.biz/  Snag a freebie: https://www.amandaclark.biz/daily-breather 

As women and moms, we often think it's our job to take care of everything else while our partners are the ones making the money. This dynamic is great if it works for you, but if you’re like a lot of moms out there, you feel that this can work differently. I’m here to tell you that it most certainly can!

This morning I was feeling a little stressed while getting our house ready for a showing. I have my non-negotiables which is usually my workout + walk first thing. My husband noticed my feelings of overwhelm bubbling up and came in and said, “Do your workout. I'll finish the house. I've got you.” So, I did my workout and then went for a long walk. 

While walking, I felt so at peace, knowing everything would be taken care of. I had ZERO guilt which is getting more and more familiar because I used to feel bad for leaving them to do the work and now when they offer, I let them handle it. 

 It made me realize how important it is to let go of perfectionism and trust others to help. I used to be the worst at micromanaging OR I’d do the job again because I didn’t love how it was done. (insert eye roll emoji here) I mean, that must have made them feel worse watching me redo the job I just asked them to do. They would always say, “what’s the point, you’re just going to do it again anyways?” 

It’s never easy trusting others to do a job we have certain expectations around at first, but it does get easier as your nervous system relaxes into believing that it gets to be this good and it doesn’t have to be perfect. 

 We get to trust that as adults, they are in their power when they offer + if it feels good, then we get to be fully in ours when saying yes and receiving it with so much gratitude! Life gets to be this easy and it gets to feel this good! 

You create the energy in your home as a mom. Do you get that? Maybe you’ve heard the saying, “if mama ain’t happy…” and there is some truth to that. Because if we as moms hold the dominant energy in the home, then how are we choosing to show up? Are we letting our own frustration and overwhelm be taken out on those around us? This is what I used to do. I was so overwhelmed and frustrated in life that I was snapping at everyone around me and that wasn’t fair to them. At that time, I didn’t know any other way to be…. Until I did. The first step to change is becoming aware. I’ve said this a million times and will continue to say it because over 90% of your life is run on autopilot by the subconscious. We have to bring the unconscious to our conscious mind so that we can truly make a change. This isn’t to shame ourselves… you can’t make change from a place of shame. It’s about being the non-judgmental observer of our thoughts and actions in life + choosing what’s not feeling good anymore so that we can shift it. This is what it’s all about + what I’m sharing on this week’s episode. So go have a listen + share it with a friend that you feel would benefit from it too!

Getting the support you need expands you in so many ways. As a mom your energy is the dominant energy in your home. If you are constantly overwhelmed, frazzled, and running around like a chicken with your head cut off, what do you think those around you will pick up on? Our kids pick up on the energy we bring into the home and not to sound cliche, but have you heard the song, “If mama ain’t happy?” There is truth to it! And here’s the thing, you GET to receive the support you desire to have and there is nothing wrong with the desire because here’s what support gives you…. More time to do something you desire. 

More space for yourself so that you show up as a more present + patient mom.

More time to do the things that will move the needle in your business.

And the list goes on and on and on. So, when you think about hiring a housekeeper or someone to do your laundry, what comes up for you? Maybe it’s the usual, “But I ‘should’ be doing this” or maybe even the good ‘ol I’m home all day ego voice talking in your head? The desire was placed in your heart for a reason and when you make the choice to get support in an area of your life or business that you don’t enjoy, then it opens up more space for you to expand and do more of what you love as a mom AND CEO. This all leads to creating a life that feels good and you enjoy more. And when you enjoy life more as a mom… your family will too! It’s not our job to ‘should’ all over ourselves continuing dated patterns and behaviors that we grew up with. It’s up to us to see things differently, recreate our reality into something we desire more, and make it happen so that we truly create a life we love with kids in tow.

You can find me here: 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaclarkcoaching

Website: https://www.amandaclark.biz/ 

Snag a freebie: https://www.amandaclark.biz/daily-breather  

Society has lied to us. And we nearly fell for it. I mean, I did fall for it for a while and then I learned better. Growing up I learned that as a mom, it was our duty to sacrifice all and take care of everyone else. Media teaches us this, my parents taught me this, and my religion. And the thing is… it’s all a lie. There is nothing that triggers me more than when I hear women say, “my husband asks me what I do all day if the house isn’t clean.” I mean, the amount of pressure that is placed upon us as women… no wonder we feel as though we are drowning + failing at everything. I used to have this constant thought of never doing enough. I couldn’t stay on top of it all and I used to wonder how women did it. And then I had an epiphany when I heard a girl I went to high school with talk about her team on Instagram. Whoa, what? A team? I thought she had been doing it all alone. But the truth is, we weren’t made to. And a lot of times we have these unwritten scripts about how we ‘should’ behave as a mom, a husband, a woman, etc… And the truth of it is, we are the ones who decide. You get to choose how your life goes. What you are available for. What you aren’t available for. And you get to have support with it all. When you are your most empowered self, you know that it’s ok for people to be wrong about you. You understand that only you need to know why you do what you do. You get to have your inner peace + know that it’s safe for others to be mad at you. And you also know that it’s not your job to try to ‘fix it’ when they are. That is there’s to carry and you are carrying what’s yours + living your best life with pure intention and that’s the vibe around here.

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