Conflict after divorce is one of the hardest challenges to navigate—especially when you're co-parenting with a difficult ex. I know firsthand how overwhelming it can feel to avoid conflict on the outside, only to create even more of it inside yourself. That's why in this episode of Co-Parenting with Confidence, I'm breaking down what conflict really is, the hidden patterns that keep us stuck, and the third option we often miss when we feel trapped between speaking up or staying silent.

I share insights from Jason Gattis' book Getting to Zero along with my own journey of learning to self-regulate, set boundaries, and choose authentic responses instead of falling into people-pleasing or avoidance. By understanding your "relational blueprint" and recognizing your coping style, you can begin to transform conflict into an opportunity for growth—for yourself, and for your kids.

Takeaways:

• Why conflict is normal—and not something to fear.
• Four common coping styles and how they show up.
• The "third choice" that stops self-betrayal.
• Practical ways to decide which conflicts are worth engaging in.

If you're ready to stop feeling powerless and start showing up with confidence, reach out—I'd love to support you. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call

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