How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

Breaking Patterns, Building Bonds: Dr. Etel Leit on Mastering Post-Divorce Communication


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Communicating with a New Partner After Divorce

In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete explore how to effectively communicate with new partners after divorce. They're joined by Dr. Etel Leit, a human communication researcher, prominent figure in psychology and education, and founder of Sign Shine, a family center in Beverly Hills. The conversation focuses on breaking old patterns and learning to relate to new partners, especially when communication issues contributed to the end of a marriage.

Seth, Pete, and Dr. Leit dive into the importance of self-reflection and awareness before entering a new relationship. They discuss the fantasy of a perfect future partner and the need to address what went wrong in the previous marriage first. Dr. Leit introduces her concept of the "3 Vs" crucial for a successful relationship: Vibe, Values, and Vision. She explains each in detail, offering valuable insights into how these elements contribute to a strong partnership. Additionally, Dr. Leit shares the "3 As" essential for effective communication: Awareness, Acceptance, and Action.

Questions we answer in this episode:

  • How can I avoid repeating negative patterns in a new relationship?
  • What are the key factors for a strong, lasting partnership?
  • How do I know if I'm ready to date again after divorce?

Key Takeaways:

  • Self-reflection and awareness are essential before entering a new relationship
  • Shared values and vision are crucial for a successful partnership
  • Effective communication, built on awareness, acceptance, and action, is vital

This episode is packed with practical advice and thought-provoking ideas to help you navigate the world of dating and relationships post-divorce. Whether you're considering a new partnership or already in one, Seth, Pete, and Dr. Leit's insights will give you the tools to build a stronger, healthier relationship.

Links & Notes

  • Find Dr. Leit on the web here or here, Instagram, or LinkedIn
  • See Dr. Leit’s books onBarnes & Noble or Amazon
  • Schedule a consult with Seth
  • Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
  • (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
  • (02:07) - Meet Dr. Etel Leit
  • (03:31) - Old Patterns of Communication
  • (05:52) - Clean Your Water
  • (06:49) - Shifting Mindset Post-Divorce
  • (11:22) - Three Vs: Vibe, Values, Vision
  • (22:45) - Choosing the Same Type
  • (24:40) - New Relationships
  • (31:41) - Three As: Awareness, Acceptance, Action
  • (38:12) - Finding Dr. Leit
  • (40:27) - Listener Question

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