Breaking the Silence

Allowing someone to see all the parts of you can be the scariest thing someone ever does. It is often human tendency to want to prove they are worthy or require someone to show evidence to feel safe enough in a relationship. Rachel Denton, our expert therapist, answers this question submitted by a listener and gives real life examples for how honesty brings greater intimacy, trust, and connection in a relationship. 

Rachel grew up in Portland and came to Utah for school. She graduated from the University of Utah with her masters in social work. Rachel worked with different agencies that specialize in pornography and addiction issues, including Fight the New Drug, until she had her adorable baby girl and decided to focus on her private practice. She is also on the board for Reach 10, the non-profit that makes this podcast possible. 

In this episode:

• Showing progress through action.
• Honesty leads to true freedom and choice.
• You always have the choice to be seen and to stay.
• Honesty and accountability build a solid foundation. 

Show Notes:

Find Rachel Denton here.

Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence

Listen to Chandler’s story on Episode 2.2 here.

Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.

Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!

Contact us at [email protected].

Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer:
The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

When someone needs help, who do they turn to? Listen to find out how a bishop can help in your healing journey. Maybe it is obvious help is needed or you are coasting wondering what the next step of your healing is - either way listen to find out how a bishop can help you find peace. 

Doug Kleven is a husband, father of 5 ranging from 22 to 10. Co-owner of Blue Valley Insurance. He likes watching baseball and boxing - specifically getting punched in the head. He is almost addicted to reading.  

In this episode:

• Why is it important to meet with a bishop?
• Finding the courage to honestly share.
• Change does not happen without honesty.
• You can find help when you seek it.

Show Notes:

Email Doug at [email protected]

Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence

Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series, Ecclesiastical Leader series, or share your story here.

Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!

Contact us at [email protected].

Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: 
The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

We brought Carlie, the Christian Sex Educator, back this season to break down the gaps that keep our faith, values, and sexuality from living together in harmony. Whether someone has suppressed their sexuality or has unwanted sexual behaviors that are congruent with what they believe this episode is for them. Come laugh, cry, and learn with us as we discuss how to find healing, hope, and peace with our God-given sexuality. 

Carlie Palmer-Webb is a sexuality researcher, entrepreneur, enthusiastic Jesus lover, hugger, and The Christian Sex Educator. She earned her master's degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development. Carlie grew up in a wonderful and loving Christian home, but one where sex was never talked about or mentioned. She has made it her life mission to become the sex educator that she desperately needed. 

In this episode:

• Putting down the fight of faith and sexuality.
• Suppression vs unwanted sexual behaviors.
• Finding sexual wholeness.
• Never far too gone - His grace is sufficient. 

Show Notes:

Find Carlie, The Christian Sex Educator here.

Follow her on Instagram here.

Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence

Listen to Chandler’s story on Episode 2.2 here.

Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.

Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!

Contact us at [email protected].

Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: 
The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Listen to learn how boundaries can bring greater connection, peace, and belonging in your relationships. Rachel Denton, our expert therapist, answers this question submitted by a listener and gives real life examples for what someone can do when wanting to set boundaries that create safety and healing in their relationships. 

Rachel grew up in Portland and came to Utah for school. She graduated from the University of Utah with her masters in social work. Rachel worked with different agencies that specialize in pornography and addiction issues, including Fight the New Drug, until she had her adorable baby girl and decided to focus on her private practice. She is also on the board for Reach 10, the non-profit that makes this podcast possible. 

In this episode:

• What is a boundary?
• Establishing common core values and agreements in a relationship.
• Communicating boundaries with compassion and vulnerability.
• Self-reflection, respect, and accountability.
• The mark of a healthy relationship is healthy boundaries and mutual respect. 

Show Notes:

Find Rachel Denton here.

Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence

Listen to Chandler’s story on Episode 2.2.

Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story: https://forms.gle/rQwKvWD2oq37Dgnh6
Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!

Contact us at [email protected].

Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: 
The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Do you feel isolated and alone in your struggle and hurt? Chandler shares his story about breaking free of the isolation that his struggle with pornography created and how he found the courage to break free. Then he shares all about Relay an app he created to help you connect daily with a support team that is in the trenches with you as you work towards your goals and on your recovery.

Chandler Rogers is the founder and CEO of Relay — a digital program to find healing from pornography alongside a group of peers with the same goal. After many years of feeling stuck and isolated, Chandler gained conviction for the importance of connection and having a strong support system. He and his wife Jade are both graduates of BYU and have been married 4 years.

Show Links:

• Start your free trial on Relay here: https://www.joinrelay.app/breaking-the-silence
• Email Chandler: [email protected]
• Submit anonymous questions for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story here.
• Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!
• Contact us at [email protected].
• Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach10.org

Love the content and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.

Breaking the Silence is back! Join Crishelle Simons as she gives an overview of new changes in Breaking the Silence and shares how this podcast is going to help you break free of the shame, silence, and fear that are keeping you stuck. 

Follow us on Instagram @breakingthesilence_reach10 or visit our website reach10.org 

Use this link to submit a question for our Ask a Therapist series or share your story https://forms.gle/71hhX2jiPKX8mRQD9

Love the podcast and want more? Donate to help us reach more people with compassion, courage, and connection at https://reach10.org/donate/

Join the conversation and change the culture with us by breaking the silence. 

How can you join the cause of turning a weapon of destruction into a tool for transformation? This is our last episode of Breaking the Silence, but just the beginning for you to contribute to a new culture of courage, compassion, and connection. In this send-off from founder Vauna Davis, you’ll hear what she learned from young adults and what she hopes you will do to keep reaching out. Thank you so much for listening, we love you! We can’t wait to see what you will do.

In this episode:

• Young adults who were ambushed by pornography in the past are becoming champions for healthy sexuality today.
• Human connection is the greatest casualty of pornography -  but it is also the greatest remedy.
• Where much is required, much is given.

Links:

• Reach 10 Resource Page 
• Email us: [email protected]

Listen along as the hosts, Creed and Crishelle, and our social media specialist, Bentlee, remember their favorite episodes of Breaking the Silence. They also share some of the lessons they learned while working on the podcast with Reach 10. 

In this episode: 

• We’re grateful for all those who have shared their stories with us over the years.
• Learn to talk about pornography so you can teach the next generation.
• There’s always opportunity for change and growth.

Show Notes:  

• Contact us at [email protected].

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast. 

While most tackle porn recovery with behavioral solutions, both scripture and science show that true recovery must address the underlying issues of the heart. Our guest, Sathiya Sam teaches that these can be reached through emotional fitness, recovery from wounds of the past, and learning to accept yourself. He has coached many people to recovery from pornography addiction using his methods rooted in faith. Listen in as Creed and Crishelle talk with Sathiya about his encouraging message.

In this episode: 

• You only know how emotionally fit you are amidst trial.
• A mistake made once is a mistake. A mistake made twice is a choice.
• Take ownership for what you can control. God honors those acts.

Links:

• The Ultimate Recovery Guide
• The New Man Podcast
• Follow Sathiya Sam on Instagram

Show Notes:  

Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here.

Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!

Contact us at [email protected].

Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10.

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast. 

You're going to love this discussion of healthy sexuality and the harm of pornography with Carlie Palmer-Webb, the Christian Sex Educator. Listen in to learn about the pillars of healthy sexuality and how you can begin to practice them even before being in a sexual relationship. Creed and Crishelle also talk with Carlie about the effects of pornography on how we think about others and how that can affect relationships later on. 

In this episode: 

• Love, consideration, and consent are important pillars of healthy sexuality 
• We can practice the pillars even when we are single 
• Questions about sex we can ask someone we are seriously dating
• Lust is taking advantage of others for our own gratification

Link:

Carlie’s Instagram - The Christian Sex Educator @carliepalmerwebb

Disclaimer: The views expressed by guests do not necessarily represent our views. We offer this information in good faith, but we don’t make any representation that what you hear is accurate, reliable, or complete. Reach 10 and the Breaking the Silence podcast are not responsible or liable for your use of any information heard in this podcast.