https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vh-um1pdZOI
Power of not overreacting to other people and how it can help open the door to advancing towards your goals and dreams.
Transcription
Getting what you want without manipulation?
Hi I'm Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.
Tonight we are back in the secret headquarters of BrianJPombo.com, and I want to talk with you a little bit about a little secret that I learned years ago. This has made all the difference in my life, and that is how to get what you want, especially out of other people without manipulation.
Now, there's a caveat to this.
The caveat is, it all depends on your definition of manipulation.
Really, if you consider manipulation to be anything that causes a person to do something that they wouldn't have done without your interference, then this doesn't qualify this is manipulation, because it does require interference, but it requires the minimal amount of interference. And I'll show you exactly how that happens.
It goes back to a story I was talking with my eldest nephew and niece, who are both adult age now.
We were discussing, you know, the things that they're looking to do in life, specifically my niece, and we were talking about the things that are holding her back. How it specifically comes to certain people in her life, and how those people are the ones that are kind of holding the keys to what she needs to take the next step in her life, or at least that's how she sees it.
I said, well, really in the end, we got down to the guts of it. And it was a constant frustration that was creating even depression in her because she feels so out of control and out unable to be able to take the next step.
I walked her through it and I walked her through this very simple idea. If you can keep from getting frustrated with people who are angry, frustrated themselves, annoying, manipulative themselves. If you can keep from being annoyed by them, if you can keep if you could just have a little enough distance, mentally, in your own mind, from them and their reactions to you, if you can keep from reacting to them, you win.
And you end up getting everything you want in the long run. Now, in the meantime, what it will cause even decent people, it will cause them to get angrier, to get more upset, to fight you more and fight everything about what you're attempting to do.
But that's only in the short run in the long run, they end up doing what you want, or they become irrelevant in the process, you find a way around them.
This doesn't matter if it's someone that's super close to you. It doesn't matter if it's somebody that's just a one time you know, the person at the DMV, it does not matter.
The important thing is that you do not react to them. If you do not react to them and they react to you, you win. Guaranteed is that manipulation, it's only manipulation, the fact that you don't comply to them.
If you consider that manipulation, then yeah, it's manipulation.
But in my mind, that's not manipulation in my mind, that is me continuing to be me and not allowing you to manipulate me, you say and the same thing with you.
Same thing would be true, whoever it is, it doesn't matter. Your sex, it doesn't matter. Your religion, nothing.
If you can keep from being flipped by other people emotionally, then you got it made.
You can get whatever you want out of anyone or you can find a way around them.