Burning Pure Podcast

Crippling, "what if I don't make my family proud" ran on loop.
When you get caught up trying to manage other peoples perception of you. You're out of your head and into theirs. They will judge you until they realize judging has no power. Because Judging doesn't change the narrative. If you make speaking about you, it's not big enough, you're going to stop somewhere. -Lisa Nichols 

Thats why isn't not enough to just help my generation. I had to make it about the entire generational line of my family history. Because they all get to be free. 
What we are going to talk about today:
1. Why how YOU feel about your family has to change?
2. Why is this fear so paralyzing in business + life?
3. Loyalty vs Happiness
4. Who will love me?
5. How to deal with the grief that comes up from letting go of the fear?
6. What i do to help me in daily practice?

1. This is where my codependency came up HARD in business. Because I was a new entrepreneur, I wanted to ask my family how they did things in the past. But it didn't align with how I wanted to live my life. The codependency part of me was saying "you cant do this on your own" you need them. But they didn't really understand what I was or am doing. We think it is others who need to change. But we only have control of ourselves. So we must change how we feel about your families approval. Give ourselves approval before ever asking for someone else's. I was so focused on being perfect because then I could never disappoint or bring the family shame. Living how my family wanted me to live. When you do this and it doesn't have the same result it did for them. You start to think something is wrong with you. But then even being perfect wasn't good enough. 

2. I had a belief that I would rather DIE than disappoint my family. So when I did start to feel like I did disappoint them I felt like I was dying. But then something miraculous happened. I realized I didn't die. I was still alive. I had been alive the whole time. I had never died. But it felt like I did. Doing business your way requires you to do what maybe has never been done before you. I would refuse to move the needle or try anything in my fear of not making them proud of me. This caused no income in my business for MONTHS. I didn't want to be alone, any my family was the only ones there after everything. So I settled rather than disappoint. But I still felt like I didn't belong. So I surrendered to the fear. 

3. Loyalty to your family is understandable and honorable. But it doesn't always serve us, unless we are willing to be loyal to one person first. OURSELVES.
Would you rather be loyal to others before yourself?
Would you rather be right or be happy? 
I don't live to please my family anymore. 

4. I was worried if i disappointed my family they would love me anymore. Like I would say something so bad that it would give them an out. I thought to myself then who would love me? Or worse that I was unlovable since no one had ever said I love you to me and meant it. I love me, I would never abandon myself again. So you always have someone to depend on in yourself. 

5.  Releasing the fear, you must fully feel it. Act as though the fear is true for a small amount of time. You feel it and acknowledge you didn't die. Cry, journal, sit with the feelings, listen to music. And call a coach or friend to help you if you're struggling after the release. But its like saying goodbye to the piece of you that cant come where we are going. 

6. Ho'oponopono = Im sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, Thank you. 
You are the one who dictates the quality of the journey. Be willing to take a half step not a whole step. 
You can follow Elyse on Instagram @burningpure on Facebook @Elyse Alexander and watch her Podcast episodes on F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast by Elyse Nicole Alexander on YouTube. 

Were going in!

On our (FEAR SERIES) we are stepping into being afraid of being fully yourself.
So I wanted to bring on our FIRST of many special guests! With us today is an amazing incredibly authentic human Dijana Llugolli! I was so nervous/excited I even pronounce her name wrong and then don't introduce her. Such a leader, teacher, retreat host, spiritual facilitator, and coach!

Your perception of me is a reflection of you. My reaction to you is an awareness of me. -Dijana

Being truly yourself, well that shit is hard. Being truly ourselves is normally not accepted in todays society. To not worry about judgment, or others demeaning you.
Ever have this moment where its like Oh shit, what if everyone sees who I am?
"That was me"  Now "how you see me is your problem"

"Im completely comfortable. It took me so much fucking work to get to a place where I am so comfortable." "Not just with my skin but what I stand for!"
"Im so opinionated and so loud I sometimes that I am obnoxious. And I am unapologetic about it. " "Because it feels right to me. If it doesn't feel right to someone else, thats their problem. "

"There was a time I was such a good girl". I needed to have the best grades, best apartment, best dancer, the perfect kids, perfect husband

That was not me, until I decided No. This "good girl" doesn't fit
WHAT I WANT TO LIVE. WHAT I WANT TO DO. WHAT I WANT TO CREATE AS MY LEGACY.  And when I said bye it was so freaking painful to say goodbye to that version of me, it's the only version I knew.

Grieving process of saying bye to that person, it still comes up. Because that girl was ok with settling. But this girl now is saying NO, not happening. It's a constant battle because it took me 40 years to get here. None of you need to experience 40 years. But I'll tell you it was worth it.. looking back the version of me right now is gracefully here now is because of the version that needed to put up with all the shit.

And only through that could I become the version I am BECOMING, still in the process of. It's not a ONE time thing, it's a continuing road healing and self discovery. 
Our natural inclination is to stay safe, to RUN. But we must find other ways to cope with rejection, un-comfortability, loss, loneliness.
 
So being bullied about our bodies, then coming into our skin is HARDER.
Because it doesn't matter what you see in the mirror if it still looks wrong to you.
"So much appreciation for my body. It takes me places, it carried my babies, it told my souls purpose, it contains everything that I am."

Also because we have abuse trauma, that was the trigger to you shouldn't look sexy, shouldn't look beautiful.  Because I thought oh Im just a sexual object from my trauma patterning. So being comfortable with my body. Showing my body, and not being triggered by anyone saying you're so beautiful and accepting it as a compliment as it is.  People who are not confident will always judge you for your confidence. I am too much, Im going to walk away because I don't tolerate this. "Oh I actually can talk, I don't have the voice." "you are meant for more" stand up for yourself.

Her IG: https://www.instagram.com/dijanallugolli/
Dijana podcast is about embracing fears. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-fearless-and-successful-podcast-with-dijana-llugolli/id1391691551

Also Join her 2 day Spiritual/Business retreat with HUGE DISCOUNT LINK.  Because you're worth the work. https://www.dijanallugolli.com/elyse

You can follow Elyse on IG @burningpure on Facebook @Elyse Alexander and watch her Podcast episodes on F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast by Elyse Nicole Alexander on YouTube. 

How Does fear of failure affect you?

Think your impervious? 

THE ONLY THING WORSE THAN NOT HAVING A TRANSFORMATIONAL LIFE IS KNOWING THE THINGS IT TAKES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE BUT NOT DOING THEM. BECAUSE THEN YOU LIVE IN THE AWARENESS ON WHAT TO DO BUT LACK THE ACTION. -LISA NICHOLS 

What we will talk about today:
Where do we get it from? Does everyone have it?
Why fear of failure is paralyzing?
How to re-wire our brain?
What are you motivated by really?
Why I choose the person who's making mistake for an upper level management position over someone who isn't making mistakes?
Why fear of failure STOPS creativity?
As well as some tips and a daily sequence to push past the un-comfortability!

Let's start with the definition of fear of failure: It is an irrational and persistent fear of failing. It can come as a response to a specific situation, but it can also come up before you take a big leap. 

Take small steps like bread crumbs. Not huge steps for the revolving door to go around again and hit us in the face because we can not maintain the consistency. 

How does fear of failure manifest for you?
For me its anxiety, hyperventilation, depression. 

Is this fear of failure or is it anxiety?

How to Re-wire: 
-Willingness
-Choose you 
-Are these thoughts or facts?
-Dive into the wound, surrender
-Discover how to regulate our nervous system (we will go over this topic deeper in a later episode)

What are you motivated by: 
To stay safe is my true motivation. 

I will only promote the person who is making mistakes to an upper level position. Why? Because that person is taking action. They are willing to push through the uncomfortable. They are willing to be SEEN. 

DONE IS BETTER THAN PERFECT! This has become a huge motto for me. Because theres always something that could use another tweak. But it's not failing if it's not perfect. 

Something I am reminded of all the time is something Brene Brown says.
NO FEAR OF FAILURE. NO CREATIVITY. 

How to push past the fear of failure:
1. Acknowledge that your in fear (witness)
2. Acknowledge nothing lasts forever 
3. Be willing to be the person who tries 
4. Ask yourself is this thought or fact?
5. What is one promise can I make to myself and keep it?

EXIT QUESTION: 
What are you allowing the fear of failure to STOP you from starting or getting clarity about today? What are you going to do today to shift that?

Thank you so much for putting yourself first in the uncomfortable conversation. Get it you! Your doing it!

Welcome to the F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast, Im your host Elyse Alexander. You're go to fam when it comes to creating a wealthy life and getting rid of all the mental baggage that comes with codependency and perfectionism. Its not an easy trip but you bet your ass its worth it and you are worthy of it. 

You can follow Elyse on Instagram @burningpure on Facebook @Elyse Alexander and watch her Podcast episodes on F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast by Elyse Nicole Alexander on YouTube. 

Please leave a review or comment if this episode resonated with you! If you have any topics you would like me to go over. Send me a message on Instagram and Id love to dive into your questions!

No you don't need to just learn another strategy.... 

Its not strategy thats holding you back. 

It's the other stuff, the stuff we don't want to act like is there. 

"YOUR BUSINESS ONLY GROWS AS MUCH AS YOU ARE WILLING TO GROW"
-Elyse Alexander 

What we talk about today:
What aren't you moving forward?
What happens if you push yourself a little more? 
Does working harder count as a long term plan?
Why am I diving into the thing I spend all my energy getting away from?
What is in store if I avoid it?
What if you cant identify your emotions or how you feel?
Why it shifted my business?

Lets get real:

It wasn't strategy I needed. I needed that. But what really keeps you stuck is your beliefs, its your trauma, your dissociation, your perfectionism, your relationships, your fear of being seen, your bull shit thats in the  way. 

BANDAIDS DON'T WORK......

Tips on how to start working through your bull shit:

1. Acknowledging that you are meant for more!
2. Make a decision you're going to open that door and continue even if you don't want to.
3. Surrender to whatever your first automatic feeling or thought is, thats your trauma memory or patterning. 
4. Choose your second thought and ask yourself is this true to my first thought?
5. Ask yourself why am I really staying stagnant?
6. Then make an action decision to ask for help to get out of your stuck-ness. 

The secret sauce is finding a way to get COMFORTABLE with the UNCOMFORTABLE. 

Because you have taken yourself as far as you can. Now we need different tools to become someone else. You do not have to do this by yourself anymore. 

What I did to create change:

TIP #1 Find a coach and/or Mentor 

TIP #2 Take action right away, you will talk yourself out of it.

TIP #3 Remember to Breathe, especially in the uncomfortable moments.

You want the Quantum leap in life or business, then you need inner child healing. 

EXIT QUESTION:
What action are you going to take today to hold space for future wealthy you?

Welcome to the F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast, Im your host Elyse Alexander. You're go to fam when it comes to creating a wealthy life and getting rid of all the mental baggage that comes with codependency and perfectionism. Its not an easy trip but you bet your ass its worth it and you are worthy of it. 

You can follow Elyse on Instagram @burningpure on Facebook @Elyse Alexander and watch her Podcast episodes on F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast by Elyse Nicole Alexander on YouTube. 

Please leave a review or comment if this episode resonated with you! If you have any topics you would like me to go over. Send me a message on Instagram and Id love to dive into your questions!

Welcome to the F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast, Im your host Elyse Alexander. You're go to fam when it comes to creating a wealthy life and getting rid of all the mental baggage that comes with codependency and perfectionism. Its not an easy trip but you bet your ass its worth it and you are worthy of it. One day I will create a business.....

I will be happy when my family is happy....

I remember how all too familiar these statements feel. I used to say them.... frequently. 

But I noticed that day never came, so what was I going to do?

I needed to figure out how to do it even if I didn't feel like it. 

Today I talk about: 

Why is wealth language so important? 
Do you ever hear the one day stories come to fruition?
Why one day us the death phrase to six figure earners or above?
Is it possible to enjoy the whole journey?
Why is it important to not look for anything outside of ourselves?
My history with these 2 phrases! 

I took years to create an idea for a business. Then when I created the business I took a year to see if I could do it by myself. Business is only a business if there is cash flow. So how long can you go without growth in your business + life?

I never wanted to start until it could be perfect. So guess what I never started. lol
I kept repeating i'll be happy when my family's happy, when my life settles down, when I find that perfect partner, when everyone else is taken care of, when my mother in law leaves me alone. 

I realized I was always WAITING. Not gonna lie it built a large amount of Resentment. 

If we look outside of ourselves we will continue to create that as a pattern for the rest of ourselves. But if we ask ourselves or ask divine to guide us to the inner answer. We will always feel our worth and our inner connection 

Help stopping that negative nancy inside your brain that talks a lot about ONE DAY?

TIP #1 
Write down all of your thoughts for a 1 day period. Take a look at your patterns of thinking. No beating yourself up with the shame stick, just awareness. 

TIP #2
If you have a sentence coming out of your mouth or that you say in your head that starts with lack. PAUSE. Don't finish the sentence. Again, creating more awareness around how you talk to yourself, others, and what we are bringing into our energy. 

TIP #3
Find and surround yourself with people who dream BIGGER than you. You'll start to play all the way to the fences edge and take action faster. 

BONUS TIP
Ask yourself is this TRUE? 
(Not all thoughts are facts)

EXIT QUESTION:
Are you pushing off or procrastinating your dream to one day because you don't think you can do it, or because the dream is too big? 

YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN CREATE WHAT YOU ARE MEANT TO CREATE. NO ONE ELSE. SO IF YOU DON'T SHIFT THE PEOPLE YOUR MEANT TO HELP GO UN-HELPED. 

You can follow Elyse on Instagram @burningpure on Facebook @Elyse Alexander and watch her Podcast episodes on F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast by Elyse Nicole Alexander on YouTube. 

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Know that you need 1 on 1 accountability?

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Have you ever defined mental wealth in your childhood?
Or re-defined it in adulthood?

Todays questions:
What is Mental Wealth?
+How do you define it?
+Can you loose it?
+Is it hard to be Mentally Wealthy as a recovering codependent and a recovering perfectionist?
+Why is it important as an entrepreneur?
+How do I keep my mental health as a priority? 

Mental Wealth- 
Your ability for the brain to keep itself healthy. 
Your ability to keep your mind right. Your ability to sit in the uncomfortable.

If you have an affirmation or intention isn't sitting with you. Its because your mind doesn't want to believe it. Because it doesn't feel feasible or close it seems too far away. So we must transform the language to where our body and mind connects to it. So we add willingness or ability to. Because then your brain can believe it more and step into it easier. 
Surrender to what feels good to you. Not forcing things to happen in a certain way. 

Can you loose it?
1. You are in control of your own mental health. Your brain is a dangerous neighborhood, do not go there alone. Doesn't matter what age or where you came from. You are capable of massive abundant mental wealth. 
2. Bio-hack yourself from the inside out.

Hard to be mentally wealthy as a recovering codependent and perfectionist?
1. Not if your happy i'm happy. 
2. Have to make it work for you. 
3. Implementation, then tweak. 
4. As a codependent if someone was unhappy, i was unhappy. 
5. Your mental health is our own responsibility.
6. No one else can make the decision for you, you are the only one that can heal you. 

There is no perfect version of mental wealth!!!!!!
So we think we are never ready. So we think we still need so much more work. But no one shows you how to handle your mental health on a daily basis.
Create a scalable skill that will help you cope with harder to deal with mentalities. 

When you have good mental wealth?
1. You make more MONEY.
2. You have better relationships. 
3. You feel more at peace within yourself. 
4. You're more ok with the unknown.
5. Your employees are happier.
6. You sleep BETTER.

60% of the conversations we have, happen in our own heads. Not with others. 
Have you ever asked yourself, why am I thinking this way?
Is this a pattern?

Mental health is wealth. You have to start somewhere. 

Being in control of your mind, your feelings, your ability to create. 
You are in control of the gate and the flow. But you don't want to open the gate. 
Nothing lasts forever, so eventually it will stop. You just have to feel through it. 

Why am I having all these mental breakdowns?
You can be rich and not mentally wealthy. Those are money chasers. 

If someone or something happens to take the money and physical possessions, what do you have?
They can take everything you physically got. 
But you learned how to do it once. 
So you can fucking do it again! 
They can not take your tools too mentally start over. 

How do I keep my mental wealth a priority?
Timers on my phone to remind me. Thoughts all day experiment. Say to yourself today is going to be a great Fucking day.

When your mind is calm you receive.....
+ Creativity, Clarity, Conceptry 

EXIT QUESTION:What are the mental thoughts coming into your head every single day. Are they keeping you wealthy or are they bringing you into lack?

I had a lot of evidence that it wasn't right for me. When you think something, it becomes powerful. So change the evidence. 

You can follow Elyse on Instagram @burningpure on Facebook @Elyse Alexander and watch her Podcast episodes on F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast by Elyse Nicole Alexander on YouTube.

Wealth is about more than just money. 

It can define many aspects of our life. Like abundance. 

Without Emotional Wealth, you wouldn't feel truly wealthy.

You would feel like something is missing.

But you just cant figure it out? 

Because you're not feeling it anymore....

What is emotional Wealth?
Why is emotional Wealth important?
How do you get more of it?
Can you learn it at any point of your life?
Why does this matter in being an entrepreneur or as an investor?

Thoughts trigger feelings that created emotions. 

Dictionary definition of Emotional Wealth: Refers to the abundance and successful management of mental, relational, and purpose relevant resources. It is foundational to achieving all other forms of wealth in a SUSTAINABLE WAY. 

All of the tools I give are meant to be long term. Because Ive tried others and certain tools are not meant to be used to scale. I don't like to learn a tool and have to immediately learn another just to keep above water. Since my life and business is scaling fast. I needed to be prepared. I wanted massive growth. I am holding space for it. Like tiffany carter says i'm not available for anything unnecessarily hard. 

After I redefined Emotional wealth as:

1. Being in control of your emotions, thoughts, and feelings. 

2. Being able to feel the FULL range of your emotions. 

3. Being able to communicate about your emotions effectively. 

Why is it important to achieve this foundation of wealth to achieve all other forms?

Because it created more:

1. Emotional Intelligence 
2. Emotional Resilience

We need to be our best selves to step into our biggest potential,

HOW DO YOU GET MORE?

1. Be willing to RECEIVE 

2. Find more ways to RELEASE TRAUMA + LIMITING BELIEF

3. The more you are able to handle, the more will show up for you
(like remembering memories as you get older that you blocked out as a kid)

CAN YOU LEARN IT ANY POINT?

1. YES

2. Neuro-plasticity is powerful. 

3. If you make the decision to put a system in place to support you. 

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT IN INVESTING?

1. Control of your emotions makes you a better long term investor 

2. You will feel emotional wealthy no matter what your current feeling is 

Your life doesn't feel truly wealthy unless your emotions are regulated. 

EXIT QUESTION: Are you emotionally wealthy? Are you allowing yourself to see that you are? 

CHANCE TO APPLY for my signature private 12-week Hustle To Flow Method. (will not be offered again until January) 

Welcome to the F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast, Im your host Elyse Alexander. You're go to fam when it comes to creating a wealthy life and getting rid of all the baggage that comes with codependency and perfectionism. Its not an easy trip but you bet your ass its worth it and you are worthy of it. 

You can follow Elyse on Instagram @burningpure on Facebook @Elyse Alexander and watch her Podcast episodes on F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast by Elyse Nicole Alexander on YouTube. 

Subscribe to Elyses FREE vault, get video and bonus tips for how to create a balance of wealth and alignment of a life that feels good to you. 
   
   Please leave a review or comment if this episode resonated with you!

Ok so real watch.... 

I always ask people what is wealth to them?

Most of the time I get an answer about what investing means to them. Or what it means to do do with the stock market. 

Everyone has a different definition of wealth for themselves. 

This definition is one that was created from their childhood definition. And their parents definition of wealth. 

Most of the time we don't remember that our current definition of life isn't actually current or true. 

So we need to look at our current definition. Accept that that has been our definition for all this time. Then understand where we got it from. Then create a new belief that we will believe. Like I am willing to be wealthy. Rather than I am wealthy if you're having a problem believing it. 

Often times we  are stuck just from our definition of wealth.

Now Im going to share what my definition of wealth to be. 

Because I believe it to be more broad that the answers I receive. 

Here is a couple of my equations for Wealth i've come up with since wealth is more than one thing. 

Wealth= Fulfillment 

Wealth= Worth + Purpose + Connection + Service 

Wealth is life + Business Balance 

Wealth is health + freedom + relationship + emotion

IMPORTANT QUESTIONS TO ASK:

1. Why is wealth different from money?

2. Everyone wealthy looks different even in different generations?

3. Do people chase money, fame, purpose?

4. Is wealth worth it?


I was a black and white person. Till I discovered. 

I realized I could redefine words!

You don't have to feel worthy of being RICH 

You have to feel worthy of being wealthy.

Because we can sustain Wealth. Wealth is sustainable. 

EXIT QUESTION: 
Have you defined Wealth for you?

Are you willing to have all of your needs met all of the time? 

This is a tribute to Patrice Washington as well! Thank you so much Patrice for changing my life! I love your book and am so grateful to meet you at you last year. You absolutely changed my life. By letting me see that we could redefine our own definition of wealth. 

CHANCE TO APPLY for my signature private 12-week Hustle To Flow Method. (will not be offered again until January) 

Flash Sale for Burning Pure Group Coaching Membership! Closing the Wealth Gap together. 

Welcome to the F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast, Im your host Elyse Alexander. You're go to fam when it comes to creating a wealthy life and getting rid of all the baggage that comes with codependency and perfectionism. Its not an easy trip but you bet your ass its worth it and you are worthy of it. 

You can follow Elyse on Instagram @burningpure on Facebook @Elyse Alexander and watch her Podcast episodes on F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast by Elyse Nicole Alexander on YouTube. 

Subscribe to Elyses FREE vault, get video and bonus tips for how to create a balance of wealth and alignment of a life that feels good to you. 
  
  Please leave a review or comment if this episode resonated with you!

What most people do wrong with wealth? 

You DON'T START! 
You Don't know how to start!

Im not available for these answers anymore. 

How to turn from I will never be wealthy to wealth is me. 

Words are very powerful. It's all in how we choose to use them. 

wealth is alignment in business + life. 

THE SIX TIPS TO HELP YOU START YOUR WEALTHY

1. Stop saying thing to yourself like... i'm never going to be

2. Stop saying things to others like... Im never going to 
-you will continue to bring those people that you don't want back to you

3. Make 1 simple action step to make today to start
-huge leaps vs tiny steps 
-its not enough just to put it in your calendar. You have to do it
-scheduling 15 minutes in my calendar to take action in this direction 

4. Make a decision. YOU ARE WEALTHY.  (We attract what we are not what we want)
-light bulb switch 

5. Find a community with similar values, and surround yourself. 

6.  Have 1 person who helps hold you accountable. 
-1 accountability partner per each big goal 
-huge goal requires more than 1 accountability partner

WHAT IF WE START SAYING?

Who do i need to become to be wealthy?

What do I need to let go of in order to grow?

What piece of me can not come with me to where I am going next?

Is there anything that i say that is happening to me?

Are there relationships in my life that feel familiar?

What if all my needs were met? 

EXIT QUESTION:
What automatic thought keeps coming up for you that wealth is un-accessible and unavailable to me? 

There is never going to be a perfect time!
There is never going to be a right time!
But its NEVER too late!

CHANCE TO APPLY for my signature private 12-week Hustle To Flow Method. (will not be offered again until January) 

Flash Sale for Burning Pure Group Coaching Membership! Closing the Wealth Gap together. 

Welcome to the F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast, Im your host Elyse Alexander. You're go to fam when it comes to creating a wealthy life and getting rid of all the baggage that comes with codependency and perfectionism. Its not an easy trip but you bet your ass its worth it and you are worthy of it. 

You can follow Elyse on Instagram @burningpure on Facebook @Elyse Alexander and watch her Podcast episodes on F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast by Elyse Nicole Alexander on YouTube. 

Subscribe to Elyses FREE vault, get video and bonus tips for how to create a balance of wealth and alignment of a life that feels good to you. 
 
 Please leave a review or comment if this episode resonated with you!

Why don't you ask for help with wealth? 

I was someone who was in fear about: 

What if I asked in the wrong way?
What if I asked the wrong person?
What if someone told me no?

But really I've now discovered and teach two key reasons of why we don't ask for help with wealth. 

1. Not knowing you can ask?

2. Not knowing how to ask?

I ask myself questions like: 

Why is asking for help with wealth important?
Did you know you could ask for help?
Were you unable to know how to ask for help?
How do you execute asking for help?
Why codependency and perfectionism make it hard to ask for help?

You are NOT responsible for what we are taught. You are responsible for who you are NOW. 

If you were not taught how to ask for help, then thats ok. 

We teach ourselves how to do a lot of things as adults. So you can teach yourself how to ask for help with wealth. 

You just must be willing to ask. 

TIP 1: Learning from peoples experiences VS Institutions 

TIP 2: Be kind, giving, no expectations, and straightforward.

TIP 3: Ask in any way you know you can get ahold of someone. (IG message, email, or asking them in person) 

TIP 4:  Asking someone who has similar values and has done what I wish to do and learn

TIP 5: Ask one uncomfortable ask everyday. 

Bonus: We think it's too late for us. ASK FOR HELP NOW, there is no perfect time. 

EXIT QUESTION: 
Where would you ask for help with wealth if you were willing to listen to the whisper inside of you talking?

CHANCE TO APPLY for my signature private 12-week Hustle To Flow Method. (will not be offered again until January) 

Flash Sale for Burning Pure Group Coaching Membership! Closing the Wealth Gap together.

Welcome to the F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast, Im your host Elyse Alexander. You're go to fam when it comes to creating a wealthy life and getting rid of all the baggage that comes with codependency and perfectionism. Its not an easy trip but you bet your ass its worth it and you are worthy of it. 

You can follow Elyse on Instagram @burningpure on Facebook @Elyse Alexander and watch her Podcast episodes on F*ck The Generational Wealth Gap Podcast by Elyse Nicole Alexander on YouTube. 

Subscribe to Elyses FREE vault, get video and bonus tips for how to make money that feels good to you. 

Please leave a review or comment if this episode resonated with you!