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Anirban confesses he didn't realize there is a gender difference with expressing feelings of anger. He changes his view as he discovers how women are often silenced in his own Indian community, including his Bengali mum. Ironically, his parenting stress is reduced as he learns his tween daughter used anger to stand up to sexual harassment at school.

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Anirban is feeling proud of his parenting life skills and also unpacks how Indian pride in appearance relates to immigrant assimilation in the UK. We discuss how positive emotions help us strengthen our brains' neural pathways, reducing our stress and fostering more connections to improve our relationships and creativity in the workplace.

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Anirban confesses how his bad habit of perfectionism can really stress him out.

Anirban spills the beans on his battle with perfectionism within his Indian community. And we discuss how NOT to get lost in the pursuit of achieving the unachievable. (*Kiss My A$$ in irish)

KEY TAKE AWAYS:

Guilt is about what you do, it's outside you, whereby you believe your actions are wrong, and feel guilty.

Shame is about you, it's internal, wherby you believe that you are wrong, as a person and you feel shame.

Shame can lead to more negative outcomes because it is internalised. It's about your character. You blame yourself.

Embrasssment is as shortlived as a blush.

Get curious about it your feelings.

To do this you need to be alone. Lean into the feeling.

Feelings are messages to you. They are data.

Everything is temporary. This too will pass. If you let it come and then go.

Can you understand what shame or guilt is telling you?

Do you need to take action?

Or maybe you can notice the feeling and not act?

Sit with the feeling to figure out which it is.

Feel it to reveal it.

RESOURCES WE MENTION:

Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown

Feelings Magnets from Manuela Bolton

Fix The System: Not The Women by Laura Bates.

Listen To The Land Speak by Manchán Magan

Since the SH1T has hit the fan for many of us in midlife, our communities,

After being on the front lines of this emotional health crisis with our

As Laura Bates has wrote about in her book, 'Fix the system, not the women.'

We are living in a loneliness epidemic. According to the Marmalade

As Manchan Magan said, 'The time for female energy has come... we ignore it at our peril.' 

Mary Ellen is Irish, and so it's part of the title of this podcast, MÓR, the

MÓR is also Irish for BIG and with the information in this podcast, you

It's time for men redress the balance, to bend, and to change. Because we

Please join us. Together, let's learn how to cope better and feel more. It's time for all of us to embrace our inner SHE.

All the feels are here even if you think that emotions ain’t your cuppa coffee or cupán tae (tea). Fellas good news! You can lead the emotional revolution!

We’ve started this podcast to give ALL men and women permission to share their feelings and connect with each other honestly. Because we believe expressing emotions can become as habitual as brushing your teeth. We are what we repeatedly do. With practice, emotional flexibility can become one of your Hapits (happiness habits).

This podcast is like an emotional encyclopaedia. Each week, we'll cover a different emotion, defining it and explaining its purpose for our emotional health. But it's not academic or inaccessible. It's firmly rooted in stories of our own mad, messy, mildly funny, mid-life experiences as immigrants, parents, founders, creatives and flawed humans. Learn and laugh with us as we increase our own emotional flexibility to help us cope better with all the mid-life SH1T that's hit the fan for us!

To help you out, we have a put our Feelings ⁠Cheat Sheet on our website⁠⁠ & Instagram. Research shows most people can only name 3 feelings -glad, sad and mad when they feel them. So it seems we could all do with expanding our emotional IQ. Let's learn togther.

Life’s too short to bottle it up, drink away your feelings or distract yourself with socials. Emotional flexibility is absolutely crucial for happiness for both men and women. Being vulnerable is where the magic happens for both men and women. True connections are forged in those moments of fragility and realness. You know this is true.

She Mór is here to help MEN (and women) feel more, fail more, and flourish. Let’s change the script to change our broken systems. Together we can learn the language of emotions EVERY FRIDAY.

Follow and join us to become the emotional rockstar you were meant to be.

MOTHER TONGUE:

'Tiocfaidh ár grá' as Mary Ellen says. Yes, that's as Gaeilge, Irish for "our love will come,". And with practice it will. Mary Ellen & Anirban also also share Bengali and Irish words for each emotion each week.

There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to expressing feelings.

It's interesting to hear ‘feeling words’ and proverbs from other cultures, as emotions are expressed differently (or repressed) within different communities and countries.

Most often if we repress our feelings our native tongue can trigger us to release it. The power of words!

Mary Ellen moved to London 20 years ago from Ireland and has recently found that the more she connects with her mother tongue, Irish the better she feels, especially since both her parents have died.

Anirban grew up bilingual in Manchester. He's on a mission not to break the bamboo ceiling but to become emotionally evolved AF!

HAPITS:

Together, they co-founded and created Hapits.com. See founders page for info on them both Hapits.com

In today’s podcast we discuss how taking a ‘PAUSE’ or five minutes to rest every day can have positive benefits for your mental well being. We talk about how at times we all subscribe to being busy and how in today’s culture many even aspire to it and think of it as a badge of honour. However research shows that taking a rest or a pause in our 24/7 lives has huge benefits. We also talk about the brain’s default mode network, the benefits of mind meandering or day dreaming, the difference between resting and meditation and how rest can be a bridge to a meditation practice, especially if you find it challenging to meditate.

The book we talk about in the podcast is "The Art of Rest: How to find respite in the modern world" by Claudia Hammond.

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When each day dawns you have the choice whether it’s gonna be a crap day or a great day. Today's podcast we discuss how to create healthy wellbeing habits including a silent five minute PAUSE and how NOT to wake up with your phone everyday. MaryEllen and Anirban share their top tips and personal experiences on detaching themselves from their mobile devices. Tune in and try out these two deceptively simple habits which can gave a big impact on your mental wellbeing. Please share any comments or feedback with us. We'd love to hear from you and how you are getting on with your new habits. 

The book we mentioned in the podcast is "Better Than Before" by Gretchen Rubin.

Email us [email protected] and visit us at https://futrnow.org/ 

Introducing MaryEllen and Anirban Saha from FUTR now as they share their ways how NOT to have a crap day by using their unique PAUSE and PLAY method!

Mental "Well being" and all the other hashtags are all the rage thesedays, we've even spotted banks getting in on the aciton with "money wellbeing"! We feel that mental health is more important than just a hashtag. If you're wondering what our podcast is all about, have a quick listen and let us know what you think by leaving a comment or review :)

Email us [email protected] and visit us at https://futrnow.org/

 Introducing MaryEllen and Anirban Saha from FUTR now as share their ways how NOT to have a crap day by using their unique PAUSE and PLAY method! 

Mental "Well being" and all the other hashtags are all the rage thesedays, we've even spotted banks getting in on the aciton with "money wellbeing"! We feel that mental health is more important than just a hashtag. If you're wondering what our podcast is all about, have a quick listen and let us know what you think by leaving a comment or review :)