In this episode of Traumatically Speaking, we talk about one of the most invalidating responses you can hear after sharing that you are no contact with your parents. “But they did their best.”

We unpack why that phrase minimizes real harm, shuts down honest conversation, and places the responsibility for healing back onto the child instead of where it belongs.

Through our own stories, we validate listeners who are tired of being told to forgive, understand, or minimize their experiences for the comfort of others.

We also offer very non professional advice from two traumatized twin sisters with microphones on how to remind yourself that someone’s “best” can still be harmful, and that it is okay to be angry about it.

This episode is for anyone learning that acknowledging what happened is not cruelty. It is clarity.

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Lex & Sloan

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