Trigger warnings: breakup grief, suicidal ideation, attachment wounds, and mental health struggles.

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Episode 25 of Traumatically Speaking, I Knew It, I Knew You, is a little different.

There are no notes. No outline. No carefully planned talking points. Just two traumatized sisters having a very real conversation about heartbreak, healing, and what happens when your biggest wounds get activated by someone you love.

In this raw and unscripted episode, Sloan shares the story of her most recent breakup and the healing journey that followed. What started as heartbreak quickly became a deep dive into attachment theory, self-awareness, and the ways our childhood wounds can quietly sabotage authentic connection.

Together, Sloan and Lex discuss attachment styles, emotional triggers, and the painful dance that can happen when a disorganized attachment style collides with what Sloan believes may have been an avoidant attachment style. They explore how trauma shows up in relationships, why healing isn't linear, and what it means to finally choose yourself when everything in you wants to chase someone else.

For the first time, Sloan also shares just how devastating the breakup became, including the period where the grief nearly cost her life and the lessons she learned while finding her way back to herself.

But because this is still Traumatically Speaking, the episode doesn't stay in the darkness. It ends with an unexpected encounter, a conversation about the universe's timing, and Sloan's answer to the question everyone secretly wants to ask:

What would happen if her ex came back?

It's messy. It's honest. It's heartbreaking. It's hopeful.

And unfortunately, it's probably going to feel a little familiar.

Resources for Chaos Cousins who are healing:

💛 Dating Intentionally Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-intentionally/id1645453880

💛 Attachment Style Quiz — Free Assessment by Dr. Amir Levine
https://amirlevinemd.com/quiz/

💛 Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139

💛 Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration
https://www.amazon.com/Start-Where-You-Are-Self-Exploration/dp/1635614716

💛 For our fellow spiritual girlies: Lightworker Whit
https://www.lightworkerwhit.com/

Whit is an intentional self-proclaimed Tarotpist and Psychic Medium. Her guidance helped Sloan navigate one of the most tumultuous periods of her life and provided clarity when she couldn't see the path ahead for herself.

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Trigger warnings: toxic dating experiences, power dynamics, rude behavior, and secondhand embarrassment.

Episode 24 of Traumatically Speaking, First Dates From Hell Part 3, is proof that being hot is not a personality trait.

Sloan shares the story of a date with a firefighter who had the confidence of a mediocre man and the audacity to match. What started as a first date quickly became a power struggle as Firefighter Barbie tried to tell Sloan what to order, pressured her into eating coffee cake, and implied that being polyamorous made her some kind of dating menace to society. The only problem? She was trying to establish dominance over the most dominant woman in the room, and that was never going to end well.

Lex follows with a first date as a teenager with a boy who couldn't keep his tongue in his own mouth. Then they wrap up with a First Dates From Hell submission from a Chaos Cousin that features hot cheese, public humiliation, and a woman with the confidence level of an average cis straight white man. The combination is exactly as chaotic as it sounds.

With their usual mix of dark humor and honesty, Sloan and Lex unpack the dating experiences that leave you staring at the ceiling at 2 a.m. wondering how someone managed to be both attractive and completely unbearable at the same time.

The red flags were waving. The cheese was flying. We all learned our lesson.

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Trigger warnings: toxic dating experiences, emotional discomfort, and secondhand embarrassment.

Episode 23 of Traumatically Speaking, First Dates From Hell Part 2, proves that somehow… it gets worse.

Sloan shares a date with a woman who happened to be an EMT and confidently counted her red flags on her fingers in real time, including things like going to therapy and taking mental health medication, because nothing says romance like a live performance review of your personality.

Lex follows with the origin story of her relationship with her ex husband, which started on a breakup date with her high school boyfriend. Yes, you read that correctly. One relationship ended and another began in the same sitting, because sometimes life does not even give you time to process before handing you your next bad decision.

With their usual mix of dark humor and honesty, Sloan and Lex break down the moments that should have been red flags but somehow turned into full blown relationships. It is chaotic, slightly concerning, and a reminder that hindsight is always twenty twenty.

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Trigger warnings: toxic dating experiences, emotional discomfort, and secondhand embarrassment.

Episode 22 of Traumatically Speaking, First Dates From Hell Part 1, brings some much needed chaotic energy in honor of Pride Month as Sloan and Lex share some of the worst dates they have ever been on.

Sloan takes listeners through a coffee date that quickly turned into a verbal takedown, where she was berated the entire time by a woman who clearly misunderstood the assignment. Lex follows with her own nightmare scenario featuring a man who can only be described as the Temu version of Justin Bieber, proving that sometimes the red flags are immediate and relentless.

With their usual mix of humor and honesty, Sloan and Lex unpack the awkward, uncomfortable, and downright unhinged moments that make dating feel like a social experiment gone wrong. It is chaotic, painfully relatable, and a reminder that sometimes the only thing you can do is laugh and never go back.

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Trigger warnings: childhood trauma, family dysfunction, and emotional neglect.

This episode of Traumatically Speaking is a full Trauma Dump, where Sloan and Lex read stories submitted by the Chaos Cousins that range from chaotic to heartbreaking to completely unbelievable.

With their usual mix of dark humor and honesty, they react in real time while holding space for the reality behind each story. It is messy, validating, and a reminder that even the wildest experiences are not as isolating as they feel.

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We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions.

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Trigger warnings: sexual assault, abuse, and discussion of violence.

Episode 20 of Traumatically Speaking, 62 Million Men Part 2, continues a conversation that started with a courtroom and expanded into something far more disturbing. What began with the case of Dominique Pelicot and Gisèle Pelicot, a woman who was drugged and assaulted for years without her knowledge while her husband invited other men to participate, becomes a much larger examination of the systems that allowed it to happen. Gisèle’s decision to be seen and to reject shame set the tone for a conversation that refuses to look away.

Building on part one, Sloan and Lex go deeper into the investigation that revealed this was not an isolated case, but part of a much larger network. Through months long work, investigators uncovered online spaces where abuse was not only shared, but encouraged and monetized. On platforms that drew tens of millions of visits, there were entire communities dedicated to content involving unconscious women, alongside discussions that normalized and facilitated that violence.

This episode also brings attention to other survivors, including Amanda Stanhope and a woman known as Valentina, whose experiences further highlight the reality that this is happening across different spaces and to different people, often without accountability.

The conversation centers on the fact that this is not rare, it is not hidden, and it is not disconnected. It is happening within relationships, within homes, and within systems that continue to fail survivors. Before closing, Sloan shares her own personal experience with spousal SA, grounding the discussion in the lived reality behind the headlines.

This episode is heavy, intentional, and a continuation of a conversation that demands to be had.

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Trigger warnings: sexual assault, abuse, and discussion of violence.

Episode 19 of Traumatically Speaking, 62 Million Men Part 1 rerun, is a re recording of an episode that Sloan felt could not stay up in its original form. After recognizing that key facts were misstated, important context was missing, and the conversation did not do justice to survivors, Sloan and Lex made the decision to revisit it and do it right.

In this updated episode, they take a deeper and more accurate look at a CNN investigation into what is often referred to as sleep content, where victims are filmed and assaulted while unconscious, frequently by their own partners. They also talk about Gisèle Pelicot, whose case helped bring attention to the issue and sparked broader awareness of how widespread and normalized this kind of violence can be.

Through the work of Saskya Vandoorne, also known here as Queen Sassy, Sloan and Lex unpack the darker corners of the internet where these behaviors are shared, encouraged, and too often dismissed. The conversation centers on the reality that this violence is happening within relationships, not outside of them, and why that makes it even more difficult to confront.

Before closing out part one, Sloan shares Zoe Watts story, bringing a human perspective to the broader discussion and grounding the episode in the real impact these experiences have on survivors.

This episode is a more thoughtful, informed, and intentional retelling of a conversation that deserved to be handled with care the first time.

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Episode 19: T.T.TK.U.U.A.N. #3

What’s up, Chaos Cousins—welcome home, bitches (Lex said it, not Sloan 💅).

This week is pure silly goose chaos to cleanse your emotional palate, and somehow it still spirals. Sloan brings part two of her full-blown identity crisis where—brace yourselves—she went on dates with MEN???? Yes. Plural. On purpose. For science. For therapy. For chaos.

Lex, meanwhile, delivers the most unhinged Elf on the Shelf story you’ll ever hear—featuring tongs and a child absolutely fighting for her life after making accidental contact. Trauma? Yes. Hilarious? Also yes.

And just when Sloan thinks she’s recovered, she shares the pickup line fumble that humbled her to her core. We’re talking life-altering, ego-bruising, 3AM ceiling-staring embarrassment. (“You too” has never hit harder.)

Moral of the story: trust your instincts, don’t touch the elf, and if you have a hot one-liner—COMMIT.

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Trigger warnings: sexual assault, abuse, and discussion of violence.

Episode 18 of Traumatically Speaking, 62 Million Men Part 1, is a heavy one. In this episode, Sloan and Lex read a submission from a Chaos Cousin sharing their experience with sexual assault, holding space for the reality and impact of that trauma.

From there, they shift into a deeper conversation as Sloan breaks down a recent investigation by CNN that exposed online communities centered around what has been described as an online rape academy. The investigation, led by Saskya Vandoorne, focuses on content and forums tied to a site known as Motherless, where users shared material and conversations involving the drugging and assault of women, often within relationships.

The conversation centers on the reality that this is not about strangers, but about violence happening within marriages and partnerships, and how often that harm is minimized or ignored.

Disclaimer: During the episode, there is a moment of misspeaking regarding the site history connected to Gisèle Pelicot’s case. Her husband initially uploaded content to a site called Without Her Knowledge, which was later taken down. A separate site called Motherless is the platform referenced in the CNN investigation discussed in this episode.

This episode is difficult, confronting, and rooted in bringing awareness to conversations many people would rather avoid.

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Trigger warnings: sexual assault, childhood trauma, and animal death.

Episode 17 of Traumatically Speaking brings back The Things That Keep Us Up At Night, where the late night thoughts get a little darker and a lot more honest. In this episode, Sloan and Lex move through a mix of stories that are uncomfortable, unexpected, and hard to shake.

They talk about a bummer lamb, read a traumatic submission from Chaos Cousin Debbie, and Sloan shares a very unfortunate work story that lives rent free in her mind. Lex closes the episode by opening up about a deeply personal experience of being assaulted by a male best friend in high school, and the lasting impact that kind of betrayal can have.

It is dark, a little chaotic, and a reminder that some things do not just go away when the lights turn off.

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We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions.

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