But You Look So Good

Worried you’ll be dismissed? Talked over? Told it’s just anxiety again? You’re not overreacting — you’re navigating a healthcare system that often fails to believe people with chronic conditions. In this episode, Sally and Seona unpack the quiet damage of medical gaslighting and the very real impact of ableism in healthcare. If you've ever second-guessed your symptoms or left an appointment feeling worse than when you walked in, this one’s for you. We talk about why it happens, how it messes with your head, and how to start backing yourself — even when the system doesn’t.

⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠

⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠

If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.

⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

Why is asking for help so hard—even when we desperately need it? In this honest and light-hearted episode, two psychologists with lived experience unpack the emotional knots and social expectations that make help-seeking feel so awkward for people living with chronic health conditions.

Through humour, relatable stories, a sprinkle of psychological theory, and a couple of role plays, they explore how asking for help can be a powerful act of strength—not weakness. Whether you’re a seasoned chronic illness CEO or just sick of hauling your own grocery bags, this episode is your gentle nudge to lean in, let go, and lighten the load.

⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠

⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠

If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.

⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

 “Am I oversharing? Are people sick of hearing about it? Should I just pretend I’m fine?” This week, Sally and Seona unpack the surprisingly loaded question: Do I talk about my chronic health condition too much? If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself mid-sentence or worried you’re becoming “that friend,” this one’s for you. We explore the internal and external pressures to minimise your experience — from polite silence to social masking — and dig into the fear of being seen as negative, dramatic, or attention-seeking. We’ll talk about internalised ableism, boundaries, why validation isn’t oversharing, and how being honest about your reality can create deeper connection (yes, even when it’s messy).

As always, expect warmth, lived experience, and a few tangents. Because maybe the real question isn’t “Am I talking too much?” — it’s “Why do I feel like I have to shrink myself to be heard?”

⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠

⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠

If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.

⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

Join Sally and Seona, as they dive into the all-too-familiar phrase: “I don’t want to know if I’m getting worse.” In this episode, they explore why so many of us avoid medical tests or dread results — even when we know it might help. Blending warmth, humour, and psychological insight, they unpack the brain’s resistance to bad news, the function of hope, and how the fear of decline can quietly shape our decisions. If you’ve ever delayed a test, ignored a symptom, or just needed to hold onto hope a little longer, this one’s for you. With lived experience and the occasional tangent, Sally and Seona remind us: avoiding the news doesn’t make you weak — it makes you wonderfully human.

⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠

⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠

If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.

⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the what ifs — those spiralling thoughts that show up when anxiety grabs the mic. From “What if I never get better?” to “What if I lose everything?”, we explore why these stories feel so real, how chronic illness can amplify them, and what it takes to gently challenge the lies anxiety tells us. If you’ve ever found yourself spiralling into the worst-case scenario, this one’s for you.

⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠

⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠

If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.

⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

In this episode, we dive into the complex, messy, and often exhausting experience of navigating work while living with a chronic health condition. From the invisible weight of fatigue to the emotional toll of deciding whether (or how) to disclose your diagnosis, we explore the unspoken pressures so many of us face. We talk about internalised ableism, the myth of the ideal worker, and what it means to reimagine work in a body that no longer plays by the old rules. If you’ve ever left a meeting to nap in your car or second-guessed asking for accommodations, this one’s for you.

⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠

⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠

If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.

⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

This week, we’re diving into self-compassion — what it really means, why it’s so hard sometimes, and how it can make a real difference when you’re living with a chronic health condition. Sally and Seona share personal stories, research insights, and simple, practical ways to be a little kinder to yourself (without the eye rolls). If you’ve ever struggled with self-criticism or felt like self-compassion just isn't for you, this episode will help you rethink it.

⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠

⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠

If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.

⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

Psychologists Sally and Seona know how deeply stress impacts chronic illness. In this episode, they explore how it worsens symptoms like inflammation, pain, and fatigue—and why managing it is essential. They walk through four key areas to help lighten the load: daily hassles, ongoing stressors, everyday joys, and having something to look forward to. Blending lived experience with psychological insight, this is a compassionate chat for anyone feeling overwhelmed or worn out. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or years in, you'll find validation, practical tools, and hope from two people who truly get it.

⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠

⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠

If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.

⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

In this episode of But You Look So Good, Sally and Seona explore how Narrative Therapy can help people with chronic health conditions separate themselves from limiting, all-consuming stories. From labels placed on us to the scripts we internalise, it’s easy to feel stuck. We’ll share how reclaiming your narrative can offer clarity, compassion, and a renewed sense of identity—plus practical tools and personal insights to help you remember: you are so much more than your diagnosis.

⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠

⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠

If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.

⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠

In this episode, we dive into the tricky world of supporting clients who are managing chronic health conditions and wrestling with medication decisions. How do we respect the prescribing doctor’s expertise while also empowering clients to make informed choices? How can we talk about what we’ve seen work (or not work) without overstepping? And what about the emotional rollercoaster that comes with long-term medication—fear, frustration, even identity shifts? Join Seona and Sally as they unpack all of this and more.  If you’ve ever felt stuck between medical advice and what feels right for you, this episode is here to help you feel more confident in your choices!

⁠⁠Livology (Psychology - Private Practice)⁠⁠

⁠⁠MS: Get Your Head Around It! (Online Course)⁠⁠

If you need any support after listening to our podcast, you can contact Lifeline in Australia at 13 11 14, available 24/7. For support in other locations, please visit ⁠Befrienders Worldwide⁠.

⁠Instagram @butyoulooksogoodpodcast⁠