Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

My guest this week is Michael Hyatt, the founder and chairman of Full Focus and the author of several bestselling books, including Platform, Living Forward, Your Best Year Ever, Free to Focus, The Vision Driven Leader, and his newest book (with daughter Megan Hyatt Miller) Win at Work & Succeed at Life. (Listen to my interview with Megan on last week's show!)

Michael has scaled multiple companies over the years, including a $250M publishing company with 700+ employees and his own goal-achievement company that has grown over 60% year over year for the past 4 years.

Under his leadership, Full Focus has been featured in the Inc. 5000 list of the fastest-growing companies in America for three years in a row and in 2020 the company was named to Inc.'s Best Work Places list.

• He spent most of his career in book publishing and has written about 20 books
• Michael has five daughters and 10 grandkids and they all live within 20 minutes of each other.
• His granddaughter calls him "Gandhi."

• The role of imagination is so crucial in problem solving and goal setting.
• People who are successful aren't smarter than most of us. They just tell themselves different stories about who they are.
• They preserve the ability to imagine a bigger, better future.

• You need to identify your story, interrogate your story and then tell a better story.
• You have to be conscious of your story. Because the story that you're telling yourself in your head becomes a controlling narrative that limits the scope of what you think is possible.

• Michael considers himself a very healthy person, but he had a heart attack while walking. He had to get quadruple bypass heart surgery.
• Some people have heart attacks and think their life is over, but others think their life has just begun.
• There are facts, and there is the meaning we assign to the experience.

• God created us to live in communities. We're not meant to be lone rangers.
• Left alone with our own thoughts can spiral downward.
• One of the things that I think is so detrimental to our creativity right now in our society is that social media is facilitating more silos.
• Find people who think differently than you do. That enriches our world.

• Last thing that made him laugh? Something a nurse said at his cardiac rehab session.
• Last time he cried? He can't recall, but the older he gets the more he cries.

People that have accomplished more than us, a lot of times the only difference is they're just telling themselves a different story. They preserve the ability to imagine a bigger, better future.

You have to be conscious of your story. Because the story that you're telling yourself in your head becomes a controlling narrative that limits the scope of what you think is possible.

There are facts, and there is the meaning we assign to the experience.

God created us to live in communities. We're not meant to be lone rangers.

One of the things that I think is so detrimental to our creativity right now in our society is that social media is facilitating more silos.

https://fullfocus.co/rebrand/

http://mindyourmindsetbook.com/purpose

My guest this week is Megan Hyatt Miller, President and Chief Executive Officer at Full Focus, previously known as Michael Hyatt & Company. She is Michael's oldest daughter.

Megan is also the co-host of the popular business podcast, Lead to Win. As the architect of her company's standout culture, she is committed to helping her team win at work and succeed at life, while also delivering phenomenal results to their customers.

Under her leadership, Michael Hyatt & Company was named as one of Inc. Magazine's Best Workplaces for 2020, which ranks the top companies in America for their employee engagement.

When she's not taking the company to new heights, Megan is fully present at home with her husband Joel and five kids in Franklin, Tenn.

• Megan and her father wrote a book, Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking

• Megan has been on the show before, so she's giving us an update on her life.
• She co-owns the company with her dad and has been busy writing the book with her dad.

• Our brains really like comfortable things and predictable things.
• One of our brain's primary jobs is to predict for us. The problem is it's not that precise.

• Megan used to be so afraid of public speaking that she didn't want to read the Bible aloud in a small group at church.
• The sound of her own voice felt dangerous to her.
• Everybody has a narrator, but you need to interrogate that internal narrator.

• You need to examine your internal stories.
• We have to dislodge the facts from what we're saying about the facts.
• You want to shake loose the narrative from the facts.

• Megan's wow moment in working on her book was that our brains can change.
• God made our brains plastic. Our brains are not set in stone.

• Last thing that made her laugh? Her 3-year-old daughter Naomi saying, "Oh my heck!"

Our brains really like comfortable things and predictable things.

One of our brain's primary jobs is to predict for us. The problem is it's not that precise.

I used to be near a panic attack, paralyzed with fear about public speaking. The sound of my own voice felt dangerous to me.

We have to dislodge the facts from what we're saying about the facts.

God made our brains plastic. Our brains are not set in stone.

https://mh.fullfocus.co/author/meganmiller/

http://mindyourmindsetbook.com/purpose

My guest this week is Teresa Swanstrom Anderson, an author, speaker, podcast host, Bible teacher and entrepreneur. She is obsessed with the concept of living lighter, while helping overwhelmed women learn how to slow down with Scripture as well as with life.

Teresa lives with her husband and six children and has written more than four Bible studies. Today we're talking all about parenting, and it went in a direction I wasn't expecting.

• She got married to a guy who she initially thought was a big douche, but it turns out he's awesome.
• Teresa never thought she wanted children, but she changed her heart after consulting God and now has six kids.
• She felt like the Lord was saying to her, "What life are you after? The life of busyness and hustle and bustle or a slower paced, more intentional life?"

• People say the Old Testament is so boring, but Teresa says, "Have you actually read it? It's so full of drama."

• Teresa didn't want kids initially because she viewed families as TV versions full of problems and stress.
• She babysat four times and had some terrible experiences.

• After having two biological children, Teresa and her husband wanted a girl and an older boy. They now have six children.

• You should consider the birth order of your biological and adoptive children.
• Sometimes you have to have hard conversations with people who say things about your adopted children.
• Teresa corrects people when they ask how many children she has and how many she adopted. They are all her children, she says.

• Last thing that made her laugh? One of Teresa's sons can impersonate her husband really well.
• How does she choose joy? She likes the saying "Take joy" instead of "Choose joy."

FEATURED QUOTES

I felt like the Lord was saying to me, "What life are you after? The life of busyness and hustle and bustle or a slower paced, more intentional life?"

I didn't know what the Lord was calling me to, but I knew pretty quickly what he was not calling me to.

People say the Old Testament is so boring, but I'm like, "Have you actually read it? It's so full of drama."

https://heyitsteresa.com/bible-studies

My guest this week is Jesse Eubanks, a certified Enneagram coach and host of The EnneaCast, a podcast exploring personality and relationships through the lens of the Enneagram.

Jesse is also the founder and executive director of Love Thy Neighborhood, an urban missions agency putting young adults on the front lines of nonprofit work. Relevant named him one of the top 50 Christian artists and activists making an impact on culture in America.

Jesse and his wife, Lindsay, have two children and live in Louisville, Kentucky. He is also the author of, "How We Relate: Understanding God, Yourself, and Others through the Enneagram."

• Jesse does discipleship and missions for modern times.
• He has been working in urban ministry since he was 19, and he spent time working with a homeless shelter.

• None of us see the world the same way.
• The Enneagram is a tool to help people understand the ways that other people perceive the world.
• It's a personality typing system that looks at motivation and core desires.

• You need to know about the Enneagram and Jesus. If you only use the Enneagram, you're missing half of the equation.
• The Enneagram doesn't need to be explicitly Christian in its origins to be useful.
• Why not just use the Bible? Sometimes we need new language to look at something in a fresh way.

• Type 1 – The Reformer
• Type 2 – The Helper
• Type 3 – The Achiever
• Type 4 – The Individualist
• Type 5 – The Investigator
• Type 6 – The Loyalist
• Type 7 – The Enthusiast
• Type 8 – The Challenger
• Type 9 – The Peacemaker

• The Enneagram is a wonderful tool, but it cannot love me into wholeness.
• Empathy + Authority = Trust

• No one who encounters Jesus stays the same.
• Jesus wants to break us out of our addictions.
• We bend our ideas of God to suit us. Just let God be who He is.

• Jesse wants you to know that Jesus is reaching for you and loves you.

None of us see the world the same. The Enneagram is a tool to help people understand the ways that other people perceive the world.

The Enneagram allows us to be really complicated people, but it's a very user-friendly approach to understanding all that complexity.

The Enneagram is a wonderful tool, but it cannot love me into wholeness.

We bend our ideas of God to suit us. Just let God be who He is.

https://lovethyneighborhood.org/

https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Relate-Understanding-Enneagram/dp/0310365198

Hey! Welcome to my podcast, Can I Laugh on Your Shoulder? (formerly known as Business with Purpose!) I'll be talking with guests each week and having raw, funny, and often brutally honest conversations about the things that matter most in life.

My first guest is Sandra Stanley, and we are talking all about parenting. But wait! If you don't have kids, that's OK. We're also talking about conflict resolution, and this is the kind of conversation that I guarantee everybody can get something out of.

Sandra is married to Pastor Andy Stanley, and they have three grown children. Sandra is known for her devotional books: "Breathing Room" and "Comparison Trap." She is also the cofounder of North Point Ministries in Atlanta. She and her husband are releasing a new book, "Parenting: Getting It Right."

• Sandra and Andy have been married 34 years, and all three of their kids are married.
• Her daughter just had a baby girl, and Sandra is enjoying all the newborn snuggles.
• Sandra and her husband have been foster parents since 2010.

• Sandra's book doesn't have all the answers for every parenting dilemma. There are no perfect parents. There are no perfect kids.
• Her "it" was having such a good relationship with her kids that they still wanted to be together when they were adults.

• Sandra and her husband made "honor" an important part of their children's relationship. They had to apologize sincerely.
• "Honor mom" and "Don't tell a lie" were the two big rules in their house.

• There are different stages of parenting. From 0 to 5 years old, it's focused on discipline. Five to 10 are training years. From 11 to 18 are the coaching years.

• Sandra wanted to raise kids who were accountable to God and who sought God's will for their lives.
• Don't make your kids have quiet time with the Lord each morning. But model it, encourage it and make it easy.

• Last thing that made her laugh? Hearing her kids laugh with their cousins
• Last thing that made her cry? Seeing the first picture of her grandchild

What other endorsement do you need if your kids endorse your parenting book? – Sandra

We don't have all the answers for all of your parenting dilemmas. There are no perfect parents. There are no perfect kids. – Sandra

One of the greatest rewards in this season of life is watching our kids choose each other, like each other and want to be friends. – Sandra

We wanted to raise kids who were accountable to God and who sought God's will for their lives. – Sandra

CONNECT:

• https://www.sandrastanley.com/
• https://andystanley.com/parenting/

Out with the old and in with the new... I'm so excited to share the new name of the podcast is...

Listen to this episode to find out why I'm changing the name and what you can expect moving forward. :)

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

This week is a very special one because it's one of the last official episodes of "Business with Purpose" before we transition to a new name and new brand. Next week's episode will have all the details about what this show will look like in 2023.

This week, I'm happy to be joined by my husband, John Stillman. He is a business owner and an incredible person who uses his business for good.

• John is a financial advisor and his office is in a barn at our house.
• He went to journalism school and wanted to be on the radio. He eventually realized people in radio don't make much money.
• John eventually started his own media company and became a financial advisor.

• John always had a knack for managing his finances. He's not inclined to spend money. He put 20% down when he bought his first house.
• His grandfathers dealt with money very differently, but their lessons taught John how to handle money.

• While interviewing financial advisors on the radio, John realized he had learned a lot about the topic and could do the job himself.

• John has very unique relationships with his clients. He not only cares about their financial futures, he cares about their lives.
• Several clients have told John, "Man, you're almost like my therapist."

• A lot of people in the financial advisory world really approach it as a sales job.
• John prefers to give people real, helpful advice and not be a salesman.

• John is motivated to take care of his employees and wants to put more money in the pockets of those who work for him.
• He has always liked to be the person taking care of people.
• Your people are an investment.

• John isn't great with long-term vision because things change so quickly that it's hard to look out 10 years.
• His medium-term goal is to have another advisor working with him.
• When figuring out whether he'll take on a client, John asks himself if he likes them and can help them.

When John comes on my show, ratings skyrocket. – Molly

I've had several people say, "Man, you're almost like my therapist."

I had one lady who told me after her divorce, "You've been more helpful in helping me process this and move on then my therapist has."

A lot of people in the financial advisory world really approach it as a sales job.

I've always liked to be the person taking care of people. Your people are an investment.

https://rosewoodwealthmanagement.com/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

My guest this week is Rob Lee Andrews, president and CEO of CommunityWorks, a company that empowers the unemployed and those with barriers to employment to become self-supporting through job preparation and placement.

Rob is a published author and a serial social entrepreneur whose life mission is to align businesses with peoples' needs, to keep money in communities, and to empower others to create social change in minute and then massive ways.

Since 1995, CommunityWorks has provided customized hands-on training, immersive experiences and comprehensive connections to every job-seeker who walks through their doors.

• Rob was born and grew up in Colorado Springs with four siblings.
• He played in the Canadian football league, but realized he wanted to work with the community and give back.

• Rob became CEO of CommunityWorks and has been trying to expand it beyond Colorado.

• On Sept. 30, 2006, Rob broke several bones and was depressed because he realized his football career could be over.
• As he recovered, God helped him realize football wasn't his life's passion.

• People who work for the company have to be working in the community and helping neighbors.
• Ask yourself: What is the one thing I can do in this moment to impact somebody else?

• Rob's company serves people who were previously incarcerated, those on food assistance, needy families, veterans and people who are 50 or older.
• People who were incarcerated don't want to reoffend. They want opportunity.
• People in these groups face stigma.

• Transportation is a major problem, and they are trying to find solutions.
• Single moms also struggle, especially with daycare.

33:21 – Get to know you

• Something memorable from the past year? Getting engaged.
• Something we wouldn't guess about him? He's a writer.

FEATURED QUOTES

Because of Covid, folks were forced to be an entrepreneur.

We're in the community every step of the way. We are constantly working with our neighbors. That's how change really happens.

What is the one thing I can do in this moment to impact somebody else?

https://www.commwrks.org/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My guest this week is Steven Izen, founder and CEO of Lokai, the iconic bracelet brand infused with elements from the highest and lowest points on Earth. The white beads are infused with water from Mt. Everest, the highest point on Earth. The black beads carry mud from the Dead Sea, the lowest point on earth.

The idea of Lokai came to Steven when his grandfather was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. The diagnosis made Steven think about the highs and lows that everyone experiences. He wanted to make a product for himself and others as a reminder to stay humble through the highs and hopeful through the lows.

• Most importantly, he is a father of two and a husband. Secondly, he is an athlete and entrepreneur.
• He came up with the idea for Lokai as a freshman in college.

• His father and grandfather were entrepreneurs.
• Steven is into woodworking and had a custom wood pen business in high school.

• Steven thought about his own personal highs and lows and how he could make jewelry with the highest and lowest points of the world.
• His dad told him it was the good idea but said he needed to make it happen.
• The mud is a lot easier to get. A lot of beauty products are made with mud from the Dead Sea.
• The water from Mt. Everest took longer to get, and he had to get connected to a climbing group.
• He employs a team of Sherpa's to climb Mt. Everest, bottle the water and bring it back down.

• The value in Lokai is to the story that people attach of their own highs and lows.
• Steven's company tried to learn about people's stories, including celebrities and influencers.

• The inspiration for the name Lokai comes from a Hawaiian word that's spelled a little differently. It means unity and blending of opposites.

• Steven launched a membership program that gives them different messages about balance.
• He wants to build more of a community and support system.

• We have a Lokai promo code! Go to Lokai.com and use promo code "podcast15" to save 15% off your order.

• What has made biggest impact on him in the past year? His children.
• Something we'd never guess about him? He loves woodworking.
• Favorite shows? The Wire and Lost

Stay humble when you're on top of the world and hopeful when you've hit a low.

I try to find balance by really putting an emphasis on what's important to me outside of work.

The highs and lows of being an entrepreneur are crazy, and if I emotionally lived by those, I'd be a train wreck.

My family and my fitness really ground me. Those help to soundproof the craziness of work.

https://lokai.com/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My guest this week is George McGraw, founder and CEO of DigDeep, a human rights nonprofit serving 2.2 million+ Americans without sinks, bathtubs or toilets that the rest of us take for granted.

While most people think of the "water crisis" as a problem in Africa or India, more than 2 million Americans still don't have clean, running water or basic plumbing at home. George started DigDeep to help those communities build and manage their own water systems, advocate for their rights, and teach all Americans to use our precious resources more intelligently.

George is an avid speaker and writer and has been published by The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Nation and many others. He has been profiled by NPR, Vice, and Forbes, and spoken at events hosted by the Clinton Foundation, The Atlantic and Ford.

• DigDeep is based in Los Angeles and is a non-profit, not a charity.
• George has always been a little bit of a water nerd.
• He started working in Africa and realized people in the U.S. need help with water, too.

• DigDeep was the only organization working on the water issue in the U.S.
• Tens of millions of more Americans have a water tap, but they can't use the water.

• Water systems usually work very well and are so reliable that when you walk to your sink and turn it on, you're not surprised that it works.
• Most people take water for granted.
• Most people lack a connection to water problems, because they have not experienced it.
• We have more of a connection to our wifi signal than we do to our water.

• He published a new report this past summer about the water crisis and the economic impact.
• People without access to water are more likely to get sick.
• People experience anxiety and depression because they can't get access to water.

• Memorable experience in past year? George's best friend moved to New York and has impacted him emotionally.
• Something we'd never guess about him? He is an artist and makes neon signs.

How am I going to get enough clean water for me and my family to survive?

I've always been a little bit of a water nerd.

We have more of a connection to our wifi signal than we do to our water.

https://www.digdeep.org/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!