Can I Laugh On Your Shoulder?

My guest this week is Cary Heise, executive director and founder of Designed for Joy, which provides women in crisis with stability through employment and support.

Cary grew up in Myrtle Beach, S.C., and has lived most of her adult life in Raleigh. Her faith and international mission experience working with women's artisan co-ops in Central America and Africa inspired the birth of Designed For Joy.

Cary is a serial entrepreneur and has founded small several businesses around creating community for women in the Raleigh area. She is a big believer in encouraging women to pursue their passion.

• Cary is married and has two teenagers.
• She works with about 20 other nonprofits in her area to help women in difficult situations.
• She sells jewelry, bags and home décor.
• Her company is five years old, and she has hired 97 women.

• When her kids were toddlers, she was a stay-at-home mom but kept creating businesses.
• Cary is thankful for her mistakes and wins, because they have made her more confident.

• Her first two months in business, she felt overwhelmed and realized she had some growing to do.

• Her business starts with devotion and prayer, but you don't have to be religious to work with them.
• Cary helps women trust each other again.
• Some women need to earn more money. Others need help with mental health, childcare, etc.

• Many of the women they work with have the same fears, worries and anxieties.

• Something memorable that happened in the past year? Seeing her teens dating, driving and applying for college.
• Something she did that people wouldn't know? She skied the Alps.

FEATURED QUOTES

You're important here. We need you. You bring value to the workplace.

I'm so thankful for all those little mistakes or wins, because they make me so much more confident now.

You do not have to be a believer of Christ to work with us.

https://www.designedforjoy.com/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My guest this week is Robert Craig, an innovator, entrepreneur and creator of Robert Craig Films. He has a long history of taking start-ups and guiding their growth to become successful companies. Before he produced movies, Robert founded Gutterglove in 1996, the leading gutter guard supplier in the U.S.

In 2019, he founded Robert Craig Films to produce inspirational and hopeful movies that make people smile and bring a high level of entertainment with spiritually uplifting storylines to the viewer. Robert believes God has a plan for him to make quality films with spiritually uplifting messages.

• He wanted to produce money for more than 30 years. He wanted to be rich and famous when he was young but realized that was the wrong approach.
• In the last 30 years he has been on a journey where the Lord was molding him in a bunch of different ways.
• Robert had a passion for filmmaking and decided to follow his dream.

• Robert would often talk to God and ask, "When are you going to release me?" so he could focus on films.
• He could tell the timing was right to become a filmmaker because his heart was different than it was back then.
• Robert was tithing at church when it was convenient for him, but he realized he wasn't being obedient.

• To Robert, making a movie is like making a widget in business.
• God was directing Robert's steps.

• There's a need for good, family-friendly content.
• Visit RobertCraigFilms.com and learn more about his films through his newsletter.

• Favorite movie as a kid? Star Wars

The last 30 years I've been on a journey where the Lord was molding me in a bunch of different ways.

Now my attitude is completely different. It's not about me. It's about God.

I can tell the timing is right, because my heart is so different now than it was back then.

https://www.robertcraigfilms.com/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My guest this week is Traci Barrett. She was one of the founding members of the national cable network, HGTV. Traci enjoyed the exciting and amazing ride of taking an idea and turning it into a billion dollar media empire. But almost two decades later, with a family and plenty of life ahead, success was no longer the beacon it once was.

Traci took a risk and walked away from the comfort of corporate life to embark on a soul-searching journey – one that would answer her questions, validate her instincts, and change her life forever.

• Traci grew up in West Palm Beach, Fla. She moved to Chicago and knew she always wanted to work in television.
• She stayed in Chicago for 25 years and helped start HGTV.
• After 20 years with HGTV, she woke up one morning and wondered what else was out there.
• Traci decided to merge her decades of experience leading, strategizing, managing and mentoring by starting the business consulting firm, Navigate the Journey.

• HGTV wanted to be loyal to the brand and have a common thread.
• It was always clear from the top down that HGTV was going to stick with the brand.
• It's always good to know what the competition is doing, but Traci and her coworkers didn't fear what the competition was doing.
• Believe in the mission, and stay true to the mission.

• Traci and her husband started a business, Navigate the Journey.
• She coaches people and helps them connect the dots in their lives.
• Her business took off, and she began hiring people to work with her.

• Women who stay home with their kids and want to re-enter the workforce often come to Traci for help.
• Traci helps people figure out what's holding them back and how they can lean into their purpose.

• Something we'd never guess about Traci? She loves to sing.

FEATURED QUOTES

I just woke up and asked myself: What more is out there?

It's always good to know what the competition is doing, but we don't fear what the competition is doing.

Believe in the mission, and stay true to the mission.

CONNECT:

https://www.tracischubertbarrett.com/

https://www.navigatethejourney.com/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My guests this week are Jessica Honegger and Liz Bohannon. Jessica is the author of Imperfect Courage and founder of the socially conscious fashion brand Noonday Collection.

Liz is the founder of Sseko Designs, an ethical fashion brand that works to educate and empower women. She is also the newly named chief growth officer of Noonday Collection.

Today we're talking about the merge heard around the fair trade world that happened this summer when Noonday Collection and Sseko Designs came together. Jessica and Liz have been on the show before, but today's conversation will be extra special.

• Jessica's company is a one-stop fully ethical shop that creates opportunities for artisans living in some of the world's most vulnerable places.
• She is a mom of three and has a book, a podcast and a love of queso and margaritas.

• She joined Noonday and is working to grow the company's global artisan impact and community of entrepreneurs in the U.S.
• Liz believes every girl should have the opportunity to learn and to lead.
• She has three young boys and also loves queso and margaritas.

• Liz and Jessica are living counter culturally by working together instead of competing against each other.
• They spent many hours having difficult conversations about how to merge their businesses.
• Their business cares for women around the world.

• Long ago, I felt like Liz and Jessica should go into business together but never told them.
• Their work is a beautiful testament to who they are.

• 11 years ago, Liz hired Agnes "Aggie" Netunze, of Uganda, as an intern. She later became the company's general manager.
• Aggie has been the most faithful, consistent work partner Liz has ever had.
• Aggie is now the majority owner of Sseko Uganda.

• Liz and Jessica are leaning into their shared purpose.
• They are using business to create opportunities for women by staying curious and gritty and open.

Every girl should have the opportunity to learn and to lead. – Liz

This is why women should run the world. You can do hard things. – Liz

Our business is what cares for so many women around the world. – Jessica

You don't know what God is doing. Someday we'll get to see the full picture. – Jessica

CONNECT:

https://mollystillman.noondaycollection.com/

https://www.jessicahonegger.com/

http://lizbohannon.co/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My guest this week is David Pruitt, a first-generation college graduate from UNC-Greensboro. As a senior leader in the U.S Bicycle industry, he served on the board of "People for Bikes," a national organization with 1.3 million members that works to make riding a bicycle in America safer, easier to access, and more fun.

A licensed CPA, David started his business career in an entry-level accounting position before advancing to first CFO, then CEO, of Performance Bike, for a time the largest cycling retailer in the United States.

He is an avid reader, a happily married husband for more than 30 years, and a proud father of two successful children. He currently resides in Chapel Hill.

• He was raised in Greensboro with two older brothers.
• David had a dysfunctional, chaotic upbringing. His mother had mental health issues and his father was mentally and physically abusive.

• 30% of children who are abused end up abusing their children
• David knew he was never going to put his hands on his kids. There was never a doubt, given his experience with abuse.

• The CDC identified 10 traumatic events that can happen to a child before the age of 17.
• If enough of those events happen, it can dramatically change the quality of the rest of their life.
• Some include: physical/verbal/sexual abuse, neglect, domestic violence on mother, alcoholic parent, etc.

• Writing is not a cathartic experience.
• There are tough things in his book, but it has a good ending.

• David used his faith to help him forgive his father before his death.

• David never had a connection with his mother. Mother-son relationships are supposed to the closest, but it wasn't.

• Strange pet peeve? Mess. He's a neat freak.
• Hobby we wouldn't guess?

I wanted to stop the cycle with my kids. So I was focused on being a good dad.

I knew I was never going to put my hands on my kids. I knew it. There was never a doubt.

There's nothing worse than seeing a child's potential stolen.

CONNECT:

https://gosparkpress.com/portfolio/david-pruitt/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My podcast celebrated its 6th birthday at the end of September, and I'm blown away by how far I've come and how far this show and you, the listener, have come. If you've been here awhile, you'll know that every 10 episodes I do a special show or topic. This week's show is episode 320, so let's jump into my thoughts on influencers and what it means to influence people.

• I loathe the term influencer. If someone calls me that, I will immediately reject that.
• That suggests I have more influence than people you know, but that's not true.
• Everybody listening today has influence.

• When I was 8 years old, I wanted sidewalks in my neighborhood.
• I went to the town council and demanded sidewalks. It took 2.5 years of letter writing and speaking, but I got the sidewalks.

• My goal is to get you to rethink what it means to influence people on social media.
• Whether you have five followers of 5 million, think about how you can practically use social media for good.
• I promised myself I would not add to the hate on social media.

• When you post on social media, ask yourself: Would I be OK with my children, grandchildren or great grandchildren seeing or reading this?

• My mom died when I was a senior in high school. My dad gave me her journals, and it has made a huge impact on me.

• Ask yourself about your social media posts: Is this something I'd be OK with my children posting when they're older?

• The third question I ask is: Does this content encourage or uplift, make people laugh or smile, bring joy to others, educate or connect people?

• I don't post about politics, because people's opinions aren't changed on Facebook.
• Your social media following doesn't define you.

FEATURED QUOTES

Your online presence is going to be a digital legacy.

Think about how you can practically use social media for good.

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My guest this week is Bethany Tran, Founder + CEO of The Root Collective. She is an accidental entrepreneur who believes passionately in the power of business and consumers to change the world and make it a better place.

Her mission is to build a better future through retail, and she believes that jobs can change the world. This is Bethany's second time on the show.

• Her business is almost 9 years old.
• The pandemic has caused some struggles, but they made changes to keep their business strong.

• They work with small batch makers in Guatemala.
• Most people there have a job, but they don't make enough money to put food on the table.
• Bethany has no background in shoes or product development, but she had experience in marketing.
• The company launched in 2013.

• I was a model for one of Bethany's earliest shoots. It's been a joy to watch the business grow.

• 2020 was supposed to be the year they focused on pop ups. But no one was leaving the house because of the pandemic.
• One of the killers with being in retail is holding inventory.

• There's a big movement toward ethical fashion.
• Consumers are becoming more aware.
• Women are the most powerful people in the world, because they control 85% of the household budgets.

• Memorable moment from past year? People pouring into her popup shop.
• Strangest pet peeve? When people misused phrases, like "I could care less" instead of "I couldn't care less."

People don't want to wait. We're used to Amazon. It's the fast-food mentality. But the slow fashion movement is becoming more popular.

We need to slow down. We're going at an insanely fast pace, and it's not good.

One of the best pieces of business advice I got was – you have to pick one thing.

One of the killers with being in retail is holding inventory.

https://therootcollective.com/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My guest this week is Jane Hanson, an Emmy award winning television journalist and coach who has spent over 30 years helping people learn to communicate better. She focuses on three core elements: what you say, how you say it, and how your body language keeps it all in sync.

Jane has hosted programs on cable channels and private satellite broadcasts, covering nearly every subject, from healthcare to food to finance to religion. And she is a frequent speaker, emcee, host, and panel moderator.

• She's a communications coach and speaker and worked for NBC Networks in New York for almost 30 years.
• Jane grew up in a rural town in Minnesota and moved to New York City, where she felt embraced by the city and its people.
• Her father was an incredible inspiration and read newspaper articles to Jane when she was little.

• Being on TV made her a minor celebrity, and she had to develop a thick skin when people said unkind things.
• She got to interview some of the most interesting people in the world, but the hours were long and she saw some horrific things.

• Jane saw many technology changes in TV over the years. When she began, they didn't have cellphones and laptops.
• She reveled in watching technology's development and always wanted to be at the very front of it.

• Jane was the first reporter on air at NBC on Sept. 11, 2001. She showed live footage and talked with a janitor who witnessed what happened.
• She was on the air for almost 8 hours straight on 9/11.
• Jane was interviewing Desmond Tutu when he found out he won the Nobel Peace Prize.

• Some of the most prominent women in the world tell Jane that when they walk into a boardroom full of men, they feel like they're in kindergarten.
• Jane often feels like a shrink and has to coach women to be more confident.
• We need to be better advocates for our own abilities. You have to own your expertise.

• Strangest pet peeve? People who are late.
• Memorable moment from past year? Traveling to South Africa

I reveled in watching technology's development, and I always wanted to be at the very front of it.

Some of the most prominent women in the world tell me that when they walk into a boardroom full of men, they feel like they're in kindergarten.

Many times I almost feel like I am a shrink that I am trying to instill self-confidence in women.

We need to be better advocates for our own abilities. You have to own your expertise.

CONNECT:

https://www.janehanson.com/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My guest this week is Stephanie Flies, who is passionate about building local communities. She is the Founder & Director of City Mom Collective, growing the network after founding its original site, Scottsdale Moms Blog, in 2009.

Now living in the greater Minneapolis area, she oversees the national network by spearheading growth strategies, sales initiatives, and shepherding and encouraging an ever-increasing number of moms managing individual local parenting websites.

She is married to Alan and is the mom to three girls, Nora, Elsie, and Audrey.

• Stephanie has a passion for gathering people.
• Even in middle school, she wanted to help people get together.
• Her girls are 13, 11 and 9.

• A few years ago, Stephanie was feeling down and not herself. She realized she wasn't seeing her close circle of friends very often and wasn't serving others with her gifts.
• Service of community, while we're serving other people, it refills us back.
• Stephanie calls herself a social introvert.

• When the pandemic began, they were still connecting people online.
• Local events changed a lot, and they followed local rules for gathering.

• People often think they will be happier when they get (fill in the blank). But you need deep roots and family.
• Social media fuels wanderlust.
• Stephanie's business uses social media for good.
• The only people you don't have a lot of choice about is your neighbors and your birth family. Those are usually the most intentional people God put into your life to love.

• Take the first step and put yourself out there.
• People will feel loved if you take the one step to make them feel welcome.
• Find out what energizes you and use that to serve and connect with your neighbors.

• Something memorable that happened in past year? Her daughter turned 13, and they let her pick and plan a trip.
• Something we'd never guess about her? That she's introverted.

FEATURED QUOTES

I read somewhere that the only people you don't have a lot of choice about is your neighbors and your birth family. Those are usually the most intentional people God put into your life to love.

I've always had a passion for gathering people.

Service of community, while we're serving other people, it refills us back.

Everyone needs community to some extent.

CONNECT:

https://www.momcollective.com/

Thank you to our partners of the show!

Are you looking to clean up your household cleaning products this year? MamaSuds would like to help! The best way is to simply start with one product. Every time you run out of a specific cleaning product, replace it with a non-toxic one. Another tip, purchase a product that has multiple uses. The MamaSuds Collection has many multiple use products (castile soap or the toilet bombs are just a few!). Their blog has lots of great tips and a castile soap recipe that you can print and make a lot of your own effective cleaners! Give them a try at www.mamasuds.com and don't forget to use the coupon code MOLLY for 15% off your order!

I'd like to thank our other partner of the show and that's Tradlands. Tradlands is an INCREDIBLE sustainable fashion brand that believes in clothing that you can live in NOW and love forever. Clothing that not only makes you feel like your best self, but also fits in a way that flatters. Their gorgeous dresses, pants, tops, and more are designed to move with you throughout your busy days. Their Nico dress is my dress in a love language —not only does it have sleeves, but also POCKETS and you know how I feel about dresses with pockets. I love how comfortable and stylish each piece - and they come in colors like classic neutrals or vibrant hues. One of the things I love most about Tradlands is their focus on sustainability and creating small batch clothing that lasts… they never over produce what they make and focus on only the highest quality materials. And you know how much I love supporting small businesses, too. Check them out at https://tradlands.com/businesswithpurpose and use the code MOLLY20 for 20% off!

My guest this week is Chanel Dokun, an author, life planner, and relationship expert trained in marriage and family therapy. Through her speaking and coaching, women get clarity on their life purpose so they can unlock their potential and build a life they love.

In addition to working with clients one-on-one, Chanel is the co-founder of Healthy Minds NYC, a thriving group therapy practice in Manhattan. Prior to her work in mental healthcare and coaching, she worked in publishing at Hearst Magazines.

Her first book, Life Starts Now: How to Create the Life You've Been Waiting For, releases Fall 2022.

2:48 – Chanel 101

• She loves drinking honey lavender lattes, volunteering with local entrepreneur organizations, and spending time with her family.
• When she's not working, she splits her time between New York City and Atlanta with her psychiatrist husband and son.

9:51 – Finding life purpose

• People take themselves too seriously, and we put too much pressure on ourselves to figure everything out.
• There's more joy, uncertainty and discovery when you take the pressure off yourself.
• Three questions to ask yourself: Who am I? Where am I headed? How am I going to get there?

12:47 – Living from the outside in

• People are intent on living from the outside in. We have so many voices. We are so connected, and it feels like we are pressured to conform to a particular way of living.
• We take on other people's voices as their own.
• Women, in particular, are looking at external reference points. We need to shift from that place that often leads to us getting things we don't want or aren't satisfying.

22:02 – Standing in your own identity

• Chanel nearly drowned in shallow water as a child and finally figured out she could stand up and save herself.
• In women's lives, they often feel like they're drowning and failing in life even though from the outside everything seems good.
• You need to stand in your own identity

37:32 – Reclaim your morning

• Do a morning dump and figure out what's plaguing you. Then have a clean slate to start your day.
• We tend to pile everybody else's needs and expectations on ourselves.

41:35 – Get to know you

• Strangest pet peeve? When people text her.
• Memorable or impactful experience? Taking her son to see her book in a bookstore.

FEATURED QUOTES

Who am I? What do I do well? What are my gifts? Where am I going with my life, and how am I going to get there?

People take themselves too seriously.

People are intent on living from the outside in. We have so many voices. We are so connected, and it feels like we are pressured to conform to a particular way of living.

CONNECT:

https://chaneldokun.com/

https://chaneldokun.com/lifestartsnow

About Chanel:

Chanel Dokun is the author of Life Starts Now: How to Create the Life You've Been Waiting For. She is a certified Life Planner and Relationship Expert trained in Marriage and Family Therapy. Chanel specializes in helping women step into their life's true calling through her Women of Consequence life planning organization. Prior to running her own business and co-founding a therapy practice, called Healthy Minds NYC, she worked in publishing at Hearst Magazines. She now splits her time between New York City and Atlanta with her psychiatrist husband and son. Chanel's writing and contributions have appeared in publications such as the New York Times, Real Simple, Woman's Day, Essence, Moneyish, Christianity Today, and Relevant Magazine.

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