can’t shut the fem up

The ladies have a very special guest this week for an important episode on domestic violence. 

Daejanee, a best friend of Faiths, rewinds time 10 years ago to share the story of her survival after almost losing her life by the hands of her (at the time) boyfriend, the oppressor. 

The women go over when and where the red flags started, how to spot out the warning signs of domestic violent relationships, and observe how abusers lure in their victims during vulnerable times of their lives. As well as the manipulation tactics that keep the victim trapped in the "toxic cycle of abuse."

Faith shares what it was like being a witness to the abuse, what she could do to help her best friend in that horrible situation. She shares what to do if someone you love is being abused, what actions to take and how to be the best support for your loved one.

Daejanee courageously shares the story of the night she was almost killed. She relives, for the listeners, what it was like to get so physically assaulted to the point where she almost lost her life and her eyesight. She describes how she finally got out of the cycle (that feels never ending) of abuse, when it was finally time to contact the police and why she waited so long to get the help she deserved to leave.

She reflects on what life and love is like after surviving her attacks, what trauma she has carried and how to prevent post traumatic stress in her current relationship. Daejanee shares her powerful message to others out there that are experiencing this widespread worldwide occurrence of domestic abuse.

For Daejanee’s info for support please reach out to us via instagram @cantshutthefemmeup or email us at [email protected].

We here at Can’t Shut the Femme up stand tall and speak loud against domestic violence.

For more resources click the links below.

The ladies are back for a tell all episode of how the family worked together to pull off the DIY wedding of Zac and Faith's dreams. They express the amount of love in the atmosphere that filled the air that night. They talk about how well the wedding turned out after months of home planning, thrifting 80% of everything, all areas completely DIY thanks to the hard work from each person pitching in together do create the perfect wedding.

The ladies are wondering why the f*ck Netflix makes serial killers so hot? From Zac Efron to Evan Peters, why cast hollywoods hottest actors to portray such dark characters? What is the dark side of trusting based off good looks? They talk the marketing tactics, psychology of the audience  and broader societal context. 

This is the last bit for spooky season here on CSTFU! Happy Halloween Femmes! 

Following this episode will be a two week break for Faith + Zac’s wedding & honeymoon!! The ladies will be back November 10th  best wishes to the happy couple ⠀ ₊✩‧₊˚౨ৎ˚₊✩‧₊

Faith turns 30 this week! In honor of the 1995 ladies, they are going over the lessons they learned over the last decade.

They talk magic mushrooms, dating & having sex in your twenties, drinking alcohol legally, STD's, family trauma, therapy, multiple loves and heartbreak.

Faith explains why it's worth getting the concert tickets, quitting any job at any time, following your gut and living life to it's fullest potential.

The ladies end the episode with a Harvest Moon- past, present and future Tarot Card reading. They also pick 3 Femmes to pull a card for as well! 

Faith and Rachel are getting spooky by telling their personal stories with paranormal activity. They talk about what the difference is between ghosts, spirits and demons, what it’s like to see each one and how to protect yourself from the evil. 

The ladies explain the different ways of the afterlife’s miraculous communication with them.

Discover that there’s a whole lot of unseen all around you by learning how to tap into that spiritually. 

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Join in on the ladies stoney montage of thoughts as they end the summer season of CSTFU. They regroup on how it’s felt to speak the whole month of September on suicide and are blown away by the immense amount of feedback, stories and support sent in! Thank you Femmes!

Thoughts on gummies unravel about why social media sucks now, wedding planning, politics, Etsy witches, furry kinks, as well as their personal growth with the podcast. ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚

Rachel and Faith are filled with excitement for fall, relating the seasons of earth to seasons of life and all they’ve observed about nature cycles out in Tennessee. Get ready for fall, filled with excitement right around the corner! 

Enjoy the special sneak peek at the end 

Femmes, we are continuing our last episode with Christa Kelso, with part 2 of the powerful conversation of overcoming suicide. We hear the 51/50 stories of Christa and Faith. What is it like in a mental hospital? What are the highs and lows of admitting yourself into a mental health facility? We talk about medication, lifelines, doctors, social groups and brain chemistry.

This is the final story of redemption for the CSTFU suicide awareness segment!

If you or a loved one are struggling, this is your message to seek help. Please listen, share, reach out to us here at CSTFU and click the links we have provided. 

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The ladies are introducing a very special guest, Christa Kelso, to share her powerful redemption story with suicide. They are bringing God to the pod, for a powerful testimony of overcoming the darkness. 

Christa starts back at the beginning where mental health was passed down through generations, overcoming death, devoting her life to Jesus and the moment her first depression hit. She teaches us about empathy, spiritual warfare, wise doctors advice, manic depression, healing, freedom, faith and demons.

Christa then reads the Femmes the start of her book, which walks us through her footsteps of her survival story. This deeply raw journey of fighting mental illness, the darkness and walking through the power of God.

Whether you believe or not, there is a higher power that you need to learn about and let love you. 

Please listen with an open mind and heart. 

If you or a loved one are struggling, this is your message to seek help. Please listen, share, reach out to us here at CSTFU and click the links we have provided. 

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This is Faith’s story of losing her dad, Walter, to suicide in March 2023. It’s finally time to shed light on the darkest time of her entire life and she is ready to share it with the femmes. Rachel walks Faith through the relationship she had with her dad, how much he meant to her as a daughter, the incredible bond that was built between father and daughter and their similarities. They unfold when she started to become aware she was growing up with a parent battling mental illness and addiction.

Faith recalls when she first started seeing signs of her dad’s illness and how she always lived in fear of losing her dad to suicide. She discusses what her fathers signs were, how she could’ve prevented his death and what the connection alcohol has to suicidal ideation. She explains how suicide loss took over her whole life, causing extreme breakage in the entire family. The anger that unraveled after losing her dad and how her own sister betrayed the entire family by doing something truly diabolical during the weakest time of their lives. 

There are so many life lessons to be learned in this episode about getting through the grieving process, navigating families with mental illness, how to overcome the darkness, finding suicidal warning signs and much more.

Please listen with care, share our stories and do what you can to learn more to advocate for mental health and suicide awareness. You are never alone. ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚ Thank you.♡

https://988lifeline.org/help-yourself/loss-survivors/

988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline

https://afsp.org/get-help/

https://www.iasp.info/suicidalthoughts/

Al-Anon offers support and understanding to the family and friends of problem drinkers.

Alcohol Change UK campaign for better alcohol policies and improved support for people whose lives are affected by alcohol problems. They offer help and support if you want to change your drinking habits.

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) runs free self-help groups for anyone who thinks they have a drink problem.

Drinkaware provides advice, information and tools to help people make better choices about their drinking.

Drinkline is a free, confidential helpline for anyone worried about their drinking or someone else’s. Call 0300 123 1100. If you are in Scotland you can also contact Drinkline Scotland on 0800 7314 314.

Turning Point offers tailored support to people with drug or alcohol problems. This could be advice, medical treatment, peer support, social activities or help getting back into work, for example.

We Are With You offers free, confidential support with alcohol, drugs or mental health.

LGBTQIA+ support services:

Alcohol Change UK has more resources for LGBTQIA+ people who drink in moderation or don’t drink.