Do you constantly try to understand why people act the way they act? While having empathy for fellow humans is amazing, this curiosity can turn into a relentless need to read other people’s minds and intentions, which becomes exhausting. In this episode I introduce a concept called “conditional mind reading” and why it’s important to notice where in your personal life and work life you’re engaging in these types of activities, so you can better understand what gives you anxiety and how to stop it. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/30

Alyssa Santos is a restorative coach and the owner of Little Cosmea, an online shop specialized in small batch, hand-crafted floral arrangements. She is also the daughter of 2 first-generation Mexican Americans, and a first-generation college graduate. In this episode we talk about the origins of her coaching practice, why she chose the topic of decolonized leadership as her main focus, and how her floral arrangement business was an integral part of her healing journey. For show notes, links and more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/29.

Bad bosses can influence the type of experience you have at work. In this episode, I share 3 ideas on how to deal with a bad boss or a client. You will also learn why you need to get more specific with the kind of "bad" we're talking about, what to do with a boss that is overly critical and never validates you, and how to overcome the fear of being assertive towards people we perceive to be in positions of power. For show notes and information: https://soniaortiz.com/28.

Many people say things like “I feel this person was rude” but “rude” isn’t a feeling per se. Understanding your emotional life and even these small semantic differences between thoughts and feelings will help you understand yourself deeper, better and achieve any goal whether that is running your 5K, going after a promotion or starting a business. For show notes and worksheet, visit https://soniaortiz.com/27.

Do you ever feel like you don’t fit in anywhere you go? As a 1.5 generation immigrant, this sense of always living in between borders, and cultures, and languages is one that has defined my life and has created a lot of feelings of "not belonging" throughout my life. This can feel emotionally uncomfortable and cause lots of anxiety and distress not only in our personal lives but also at work. In this episode I share one personal story from a period of my life where I felt the most out of place and like I didn't belong, some of the lessons learned, and how to manage the fear caused by not belonging. For show notes visit: https://soniaortiz.com/26.

Do you think your life will be better after you retire? Do you keep putting off dreams and goals for some imagined later date? In episode 25, I have a radically honest conversation with Heiddi Zalamar: a coach, therapist and mom entrepreneur living in NYC with whom I’ve been online friends for years. In this juicy episode she shares her experience being the daughter of immigrants in the U.S, and why seeing her mom die with so many unfulfilled dreams inspired her to help others start living the life they want NOW instead of waiting. 

Make sure you listen until the end (you’re always welcome to use 1.5x speed if that’s your thing!) because in the last minutes I end up being coached HARD on something that’s been weighing on me for a while. For show notes and more information, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/25

Do you get frustrated because everyone seems to have found their calling except for you? In this episode, I break down the question “how do I find my calling” in the style of a mindset coach. We examine what hides behind that question and how to re-frame the question so you get a better answer for yourself. For more information and show note, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/24

Are you still looking for the perfect planner to make your days more productive? Do you think if you had a better calendaring system, your stress levels would decrease? In this episode, we do a coaching session with Natasha on the anxiety she feels about her mailbox at work. We uncover what hides behind her desire to get a brand new system for managing her emails, and how to clear her thinking so she can feel more calm and in control of her mailbox and work life. For more information and show notes visit https://soniaortiz.com/23.

Do you tend to stay stuck in a negative emotion for days or even weeks? If your emotional waves tend to last for a bit too long, chances are you are resisting your emotions. Learning to process your emotions and sit with them is the best skill you can learn for yourself, because once you start becoming friends with your fear, your anxiety, your doubt, there’s no life or career goal you will not be able to achieve and this episode teaches you to do just that. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/22.

Does the idea of that “the past is doomed to repeat itself” scare you? Many of us have unconscious thoughts about the past that aren’t too far from that idea. In episode 21 You And Your Past I give you examples on how to manage your mind when it comes to past experiences – good and bad - so you can feel less trapped by your past and more free in the present. For more information and show notes, visit: https://soniaortiz.com/21.