Fr. Roger J. Landry
Christ the King Catholic Church, Dallas, Texas
Nuptial Mass of Thayer Daniel Wade and Emily Elizabeth Horton
January 7, 2023
Eccl 3:1-8.11-13, Ps 103:1-2.8.13.17-18, 1 Cor 12:31-13:8, Mt 7:21.24-29
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The following text guided the homily:
* When engaged couples are asked for recommendations for the readings for their Nuptial Mass, most for obvious reasons choose those that explicitly relate to marriage or marital love, like God’s plan for man to leave father and mother and cling to his wife and become one flesh, Tobias’ and Sara’s prayer on their wedding night, the beautiful canticle in the Song of Songs to human love as an image of God’s love, or the several other fitting options that are presented to them in the ritual lectionary. But it says a lot about a couple when they ask to go beyond the suggested selections. It generally reveals a broader knowledge of Sacred Scripture. It shows the priority they give to their faith, that just as they would spend some time discussing the lyrics of the song to which they’ll dance for the first time as a married couple at their reception, so they want to give just as much or more care about what they proclaim about their relationship at their wedding Mass. And it also displays something for which they want publicly to praise and thank God, or pray, at the beginning of their married life.
* So I was very pleased, but frankly not surprised, that Thayer and Emily went beyond the ritual and asked that today we would hear from the Book of Ecclesiastes. This is not because they’re fans of the 1965 Byrds’ song Turn, Turn, Turn based on this famous passage. They wanted, rather, to convey a trust in God’s providence, that there is an appointed time, a kairos, for everything — being born, dying, planting, harvesting, building up, tearing down, speaking, staying silent, fighting, reconciling, loving — and that none of these occurrences takes place outside of God. What might seem to some as a perpetual cycle of history’s repeating itself, they see as a providential path with a point: that “God has made everything appropriate to its time” and has, through all of these experiences, “put the timeless into their hearts,” a longing for something permanent, indeed eternal.
* That’s the way they look at what happened December 11, 2021, at a black tie Christmas party in the backyard at Hawthorn House close to Harvard. What to many in the world might just seem a random lucky coincidence between a guy in a tux and a woman in what Thayer called “an absolutely exquisite crimson gown,” they saw as part of a much bigger picture. It’s what makes sense of why previous relationships had ended, why Emily was at Harvard Business School, why Thayer had decided two days before to leave his job and would therefore have the time to court her more easily and to fall in love much more quickly. It’s what allowed them to glimpse God’s hand behind why Thayer had previously met Zach, Courtney and Janet Horton, why he had read a powerful article by Emily on Harbus the central theme of which resonated with what he had long been thinking, and why God had had them wait.
* On that 2021 vigil of Gaudete Sunday, in which the Church cries out its joy to God not only for putting the timeless in human hearts, but for putting himself, the eternal God, into the human race, they began a 392-day journey together with each other and with God to this Church where Christ the King will join them for the rest of their life in one flesh. Today they proclaim hand-in-hand that there is indeed an appointed time for everything,