Fr. Roger J. Landry
Church of the Holy Trinity, Poughkeepsie, New York
Nuptial Mass for Paul Von Uffel and Aimee Giguere
September 9, 2023
Ruth 1:16-17, Ps 23, 1 Cor 12:31-13:8, Mt 5:1-12
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The following text guided the homily:
It was just over ten years ago, at freshman orientation for Pace University, that Paul and Aimee met for the first time. The motto of the University, founded in 1906, is “Opportunitas,” and it prides itself on being at the forefront of creating academic, professional and socioeconomic opportunities for its students. The Latin word opportunitas comes from roots ob portus, a nautical expression which means “toward the port,” describing favorable winds to bring a boat to harbor. Well, the wind of the Holy Spirit was at work that last week of August 2013 and guided Aimee and Paul to meet for the first time at an orientation activity. Paul was a few minutes late to the meeting and headed to his table. He saw a seat free close to Aimee and, because he was immediately attracted to her, knew where he had to sit down. He says he tried to hit on her “a little,” but Aimee didn’t pick up on the clues. At the beginning of their sophomore year, however, with the help of a friend, they started dating, and the wind that blows where it wills, as Jesus describes it, has happily kept them together since as today they put up their sails and set out together for the seas of married life.
St. Paul, doubtless because he spent so much time on the seas sailing from port to port to preach the Gospel, used the word opportunitas often in his letters. He told the Colossians to “conduct [them]selves wisely,” “making the most of the opportunity” (Col 4:5). He made a similar point to the Ephesians, saying “Watch carefully how you live, not as foolish persons but as wise,” once again, “making the most of the opportunity” (Eph 5:14-16). He told the Galatians, “Therefore, as we have the opportunity, let us do good to all people” (Gal 6:10). And he crowned his advice by saying, “Pray at every opportunity in the Spirit” (Eph 6:18). His point was that we are to take advantage of the favorable winds God gives us to pray, to live morally, to do good to others. He urges us not just to do something, but to “make the most” of the time and graces God provides. Paul, you did so, seizing the moment on June 12, 2021, when, mischievously conspiring with your parents, you proposed to Aimee at the Long Island Arboretum. Today, we’re so happy that you have come here before God so that you might make the most out of the opportunity he has given you both, thanking him for the gift of each other and asking him to join you as husband and wife for the rest of your days in a sacred covenant of life and love.
The readings you’ve chosen for your Nuptial Mass are full of advice as to how to maximize the gift of love you have received. In the Gospel, Jesus describes for you the path to happiness, and it’s very countercultural advice. In a world that seeks after money, that places its faith, hope and love in material positions and in things that can be bought, Jesus tells us that the truly blessed are those who are poor in spirit, who treasure his kingdom above all. In a world that relies on force, that bullies its way to power, Jesus tells us that real happiness comes from being meek, from making peace, from being merciful. In a world addicted to the lust of the flesh, in which consequently so many hearts, lives and families are broken, Jesus proclaims the importance of purity of heart that sees God and reverences and loves him in others.