Fr. Roger J. Landry
Espirito Santo Parish, Fall River, MA
Nuptial Mass for Nicholas Edward Pacheco and Jade Claudette Arruda
June 25, 2023
Gen 2:18-24, Ps 103, 1 Cor 12:31-13:8, Mt 5:13-16
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The following text guided the homily:
* Today’s beautiful day has a long prehistory. It goes back well before Nick proposed to Jade, May 15, 2022, surprising her right after she finished exams while they walking together along the Cape Cod shoreline. It goes back beyond when they started dating nearly ten years ago during sophomore year at Bishop Stang as well as before they met during biology class a year and a half earlier. It goes back far beyond their baptisms and births. It goes back to the beginning, as we heard in today’s first reading. In the Book of Genesis, when God created Adam, Adam had God all to himself in the garden. All of creation had been made for him to govern. He was perfectly in right relationship with God. Even though he seemed to have everything one could ask for, something — more specifically, someone — was missing. And after God had said in the first six phases of creation, “It was good,” “It was good,” “It was good,” “It was good,” “It was good,” “It was good,” and with the creation of the human person, “It was very good,” God finally thundered, “It is not good…for man to be alone.” So he created Eve, whom today’s first reading called a “suitable partner,” symbolically out of his side, to show that they stand side-by-side, equal, before God. When Adam saw her, he rejoiced and exclaimed, “Finally this is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh!,” a Hebrew idiom saying that they shared the same strengths and weaknesses. As Jesus would later say, this is the reason why a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife and they become one flesh in love. The upshot of the Creation account is that God, who is love, has created the human person in his image and likeness … in love and for love. Since no one can love in a vacuum, God could not be solitary, there needed to be a Lover and a Beloved, and in God the eternal love between them was so strong as to take on personality. In creating the human person, therefore, God created not just a “him, male and female” but a “them,” a communion between man and woman, whose love for each other could be so strong as literally to “make love,” to generate new life, as a fruit of their loving communion of persons. From the first marriage of Adam and Eve, to your marriage today, Nick and Jade, marriage was created by God to be a sacrament of love, to help you to grow to be more and more like God and at the same time more fully human. Today you will not only receive a Sacrament but become a Sacrament, a visible sign, as St. John Paul II used to say, pointing to the invisible reality of the Trinitarian loving communion of persons, a living reminder of the fruitful, faithful, indissoluble love of God and an icon of Christ’s love for his bride the Church, for as long as you both shall live.
* Jesus spoke about that matrimonial vocation to be a sacrament of God’s love in the Gospel you chose for today. Christian marriage is never just about the husband and the wife alone. It’s never even just merely the family that, with God’s help and encouragement, they will together raise up, putting into practice God’s sweet command to “increase and multiply.” Every marriage has a mission, as does yours. That’s why I’m so pleased that the Gospel passage you wanted to hear and ponder on your wedding day — and have all of us reflect upon as well — was about Jesus’ words from the Sermon on the Mount in which he told us,