Fr. Roger J. Landry
Saint Aloysius Roman Catholic Church, Glasgow, Scotland
Nuptial Mass of Nicholas Joseph Tomaino and Madeleine Janet Kearns
February 4, 2023
Tob 8:4-8, Ps 127:3-4, 1 Cor 12:31-13:8, Mt 7:21-29
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This is the text that guided the homily:
While Maddy was processing in today, as she was looking at Nick at the end of the nave and Nick and everyone else were looking at her as Pat confidently and joyfully walked her down the aisle, they were intentionally hoping that their and our gaze would being going much deeper than what our eyes could see. Lily, Maddy’s sister and Matron of Honor, in an arrangement she and Maddy had composed themselves, was singing Be Thou My Vision, the original Old Irish lyrics of which scholars say may trace back to the sixth century martyr Saint Dallán Forgaill. It’s a famous prayer of protection called a Lorica, beseeching God to be our vision, light, wisdom, truth, Father, king, treasure, inheritance, deepest love, and eternal victory, and to “still be our vision” as we hope to behold him beatifically.
Maddy and Nick chose it to be sung at that moment to orient not only their and our focus at the beginning of their wedding but also to orientate their whole marriage, praying that they might keep their contemplative gaze jointly fixed on God who never ceases to look at them with love, as well as that he might permit them to see all things in his holy light.
Be Thou My Vision rephrases what we ask for in Psalm 27, that we may seek and see the Lord’s face and behold the loveliness of his dwelling all the days of our life (Ps 27:4,8). It’s a petition for what St. Paul prayed Christian spouses in Ephesus would experience, that growing in purity of heart, they might see God in each other and reverence each other out of reverence for Christ (Eph 5:22). It’s a vision that Nick and Maddy have already been seeking to make their own.
During marriage preparation, Nick told me that he was helped a great deal by Dietrich von Hildenbrand’s book Marriage: The Mystery of Faithful Love, in which the great 20th century German philosopher wrote, “Just as in supernatural love of our neighbor, we penetrate at one glance to that innermost, mysterious essence of the other person in which, through all his imperfections, pettiness, arrogance and triviality, he reflects God, so in natural conjugal love, the real individuality of the partner is revealed.” The gaze of spouses toward each other is meant, in other words, to reveal both God and the God-given uniqueness of the other.
Nick commented on how Maddy does this for him. “Maddy reflects God so clearly to me, in word and in deed. I witnessed that in her tremendous faith, and love of God and neighbor; her selflessness, humility, and habitual exercise of virtue; her courage, no matter the circumstance; her beauty and her earnest desire to make use of her God-given talents for His glorification; her patience and cherishing of life’s treasures and joys; her playful spirit and good cheer.” He continued, “There is something so divinely charming about Maddy.” Like God, she is “someone on whom I can invariably rely and find peace. In any pursuit, she encourages me. She’s a model, in every respect, and makes me want to be a saint—to be truly good, to be the man I was made to be. … Maddy has been a leader and companion in faith, which has affected all aspects of our life together. She’s aided my own spiritual growth and encouraged me to live out the Gospel daily and to seek out truth. She’s inspired and helped me to continue to pursue virtue,