The good brother BJ returns with an unexpected release of Change The Subject. Episode 36 is called My Sentiments Exactly. This conversation is about women's favorite word of 2020: intentionality. As men, we can go throughout our lives battling to overcome our obstacles in life. And in those times, we communicate our intentions in a very indirect way. You can't blame us for being wishful thinkers. But all in all, BJ and today's guest decided to address why this level of communication is a setback to your manhood. Telling the truth should be permitted in all of the relationships you have. But in this case, we use sentiment to attain love that seems so hard to accomplish with honesty alone.

Today's guest is Denny Blanco, a very entertaining and intellectual gentleman who has had his share of sentiments go wrong. And we found out in this conversation that a lot of men truly have good intentions, in the grand scheme of things. It's just that the setup, articulation, and action just doesn't measure up. These things are NOT completely his fault. Some of these deficiencies come from the women and men in his life.....the abuse he takes at the hands of selfish women who date....and so many other scenarios. Here, Denny and BJ share stories of how these things destroy the bonds built with our words. Men of all ages can learn from this very dope conversation between two men who mean what they say, with the actions to match. Tune in and tell us what you think. And tell a friend who you believe could afford this master class to come along for the audio excursion. This was a extremely dope conversation.

Episode 35 is a great man to man conversation titled When Your Right Hand Man Goes Left. This is actually a follow up to a conversation BJ held earlier in his career with the Drunk Mind Sober Thoughts podcast in Cleveland Ohio. We follow up this conversation in attempts to improve our connections and concerns for our brothers, in terms of growing pains. Usually when a brother decides to go left, its assumed that he is straying away with negative intentions. But in this case, he may be straying to continue his growth process. And when we grow up, our immature friends will somehow weaponize that growth, and turn it into some sort of betrayal. So Johnnie and BJ have a very in depth conversation about how to approach these issues directly.

We start with talking about the responsibilities of a brotherhood. Who is the leader of a very immature group of men? we also ask the question, "who is responsible for the wake up call of the entire crew"? These are questions that we often do not ask ourselves when we enter into our brotherhoods. As well as failing to establish codes and ethics to follow to make sure the bros all stay on an equally playing field for as long as they can.

We also discuss our responsibilities to singleness, and how we have to be aware of the consequences of too much fun. We never set boundaries...so this was brought to our men's attention as well. Lastly we discussed the respect of the woman your brother had a baby with, and how important that is to the niece or nephew that calls you uncle. Why don't we assume full responsibility for the women our brothers procreate with? We challenge men to establish that integrity, and not just reduce her to just "a baby's mother"...she should be a sister as well. So this conversation is a rehash of how important it is for men to have standards. Everybody that goes left is not betraying the pack. Some of us are establishing a new way of thinking. And in order for us to grow as a immature crew of brothers, somebody has to step out...or away. This episode attempts to help you understand how to manage when things go left!!!

Lesson 13 of Teach Me is here. And this is not the usual conversation we have on this show. But its a talk point long overdue for discussion. Today's lesson deals with narcissism. We learn that this thing we are so critical of, when we encounter it in people, is actually considered a mental illness of sorts. And also bares so many merit based traits in all of humanity. But somehow it is weaponized against our women in some detrimental ways that BJ decided to discuss with today's instructor for this lesson.

AJ Bad Ass Jones is the professor today, giving some very key flags that we often do not see in narcissists. Because they are known to be accomplished, charismatic, and extremely charming. These things can be overwhelming to a woman who does desire love and attention, while trying to focus on her improvements during the waiting process. AJ warns women of these tactics in typical Bad Ass Jones fashion: Honest, Raw, and Unapologetically. She held no punches.

This lesson also introduced a new segment called The Love Language Barrier Breaker. This segment is created with the idea of finding creative ways within the other four languages, when the one in focus isn't working. We discussed Physical Touch, and how you accomplish this without using your hands. AJ gave tips on how men can step their intimacy game up without lifting a finger. She also gave a touch tip for women as well. This conversation was filled with great conversation, topic points, and takeaways that you will appreciate. Press Play and listen to us discuss these N Words reeking havoc on our women!!!!

Welcome to episode 34 of Change The Subject...that we will call The First "Nice Guy'. This discusses the guy who comes in contact with a woman at the worst times in her life. Each of those times seem to destroy a good guy by nature...so BJ and his special guest discuss what this process feels like. today's guest is a homie by the name of Ralph of Oversaturated Podcast. its been a long time coming for these two cats to get on a show. And on this episode, it finally happened. We were able to discuss a not so fruitful pastime where the nice guy doesn't end up with the nice things he bargains for...by courting and counseling unavailable women.

Listen as we discuss the full concepts of a nice fella in two different spectrums; The guy who loves to fix and mold women...and the guy who can weaponize his niceness overtime by being taken for granted. As well as describing the women these guys run into that changes the nice guy into a fuck boy (for a lack of better terminology). This was a really laid back conversation between two kings discussing the importance of our fellow brothers knowing their worth...as well as the worth and character of the women you are trying to impress. you don't always have to finish last as a nice guy....Just have to take your time finding nice women who deserve what you have to offer. But just know...it ain't always safe to fall for The First "Nice Guy" you meet either. Press Play and find out why!!!!

Lesson 12 of Teach Me How To Love You Better is titled Feels Like I'm Cheating. This conversation is about people who have yet to accept the darkness or disturbances they feel about their past. The attempts to mask it always seems to find a way to come forward when you least expect it to. And what tends to make these moments difficult to stomach are when the person you love is critical of a time they weren't even a part of. And they treat your story as if it makes a difference to their happiness. but whether you know it or not...they are telling you how they respond to their own issues with the past. And their intrusion may be the way to justify their own distaste with their past transgressions.

Today's lesson was gifted to us from Latrice Sampson Richards, who is a mental and emotional wellness creative. She took the example issue BJ presented from a past account that came up in the beginning stages of dating...and made so much sense to the guilt we place upon innocent people we date after hurts of the past. And every defense we create to prevent our hurts seem to make people feel as though they aren't trusted. It's almost as if they are accused of cheating just like an individual from the past. And if they are perceived as cheaters, even in their honesty...it leads them to potentially do the wrong things. And its no one's fault but yours. You inspired the very thing that you are ultimately afraid of.

Latrice gave us so many great pointers of why we feel so convicted by our pasts. How we don't respect a person's privacy in a relationship. How we romanticize our relationships so much that we falsely believe that your significant other should be the last to hurt you, when in fact they are most of the time the first. The idea that a person's humanity and past experiences are deemed unacceptable are the very reasons many feel like they are cheating. And it may be because you as a person don't know how to accept someone for who they are because you don't know how to accept yourself either. I hope you are ready for todays lesson. It bares so many truths about how we truthfully misunderstand what it truly means to love someone FLAWS AND ALL!!!

My dawg came through on Episode 33 of Change The Subject. And BJ is excited to chop it up with the homie. D Murph of Why Not Sports (as well as Flagrant 2) is a long time friend and brother who was present at the very beginning of Change The Subject. He was the person who poured into BJ the encouragement he needed to believe that his message would carry throughout this culture on Indy Podcasts. He was even present for the very first episode, Completion Of A Compliment. So 32 episodes later, he returns to catch up. This is a very busy and dedicated guy...who has continuously managed to keep grinding and create avenues for himself. So, we brought him through to talk inspiration, confidence and hard work.

Todays topic is Bottled Up Black Boy Joy, which touches on the passions and feelings we keep inside to serve other purposes the world would deem to be more relevant for the time being. But Murph and BJ discuss how you only get one life to live. And with that life, you have to live it out to its fullest potential. So we discuss what it takes Murph, in order to live up to his personal mantra: "Keep Grinding and Keep The Faith"....as well as a few other things that can motivate you to press forward with your dreams and goals.

We discussed the struggles of our world, environment, and families...and how even that can be a distraction to what God put you on this Earth for. How senseless it is to waste time worrying about things that you can't change. As well as your faith in God, and where it needs to be in times of doubt and uncertainty. Murph tells us about how something as common as a basketball was able to transcend all of his ideas for his life to much higher heights he couldn't imagine. also telling how basketball has influenced his love for speaking, mentorship, and interactions with the world. We had a great time catching up...and hope that you enjoy this conversation about being happy despite of. Tune in to episode 33 and tell me what you think.

Today we have what is going to be called a Group Chat lesson. We have two women to hold a conversation with today on Teach Me How To Love You Better. The lesson, titled "H For My Husband" is another spiritual follow up to Sexy In The Eyes of God with Simply Sonja. We have special guests, Erika Monae and Ashley of That Girl Podcast to discuss a few things in a spiritual space and relationship. And trust me, it's not what you think. This isn't brow beating. Its a very relatable conversation about discipline, self control and respect, communication and celibacy for people who struggle with chemistry with other people. Practicing self control is a very useful tool for self preservation as well. So that the best of our years are not spent, or wasted, with meaningless people.

H For My Husband is encouragement to believe in true love, and all it's potential. And we have a very unique way of getting you to this point in your adult life...

We aren't solely speaking from how the church would communicate this lesson. this relatable and very transparent. We talk about how men fit in a spiritual space with a woman. the importance of knowing himself. We discuss the role of a captain, in a way you probable haven't discussed before. We talk about praying, and how you can actually go to god with your checklist of what you want from a companion. We also talked about sex. And how it pertains to two Christian women who practices celibacy, and the challenges of their humanity. I'm positive that you have never heard an episode like this. Press Play!!!!

Ladies and Gentlemen!...welcome to episode 32 of Change the Subject. Today we bring to you an episode called Lead and background Vocals...which is a sophisticated way to address a few things. And because of such a sophisticated conversation, I needed someone who has wit, experience, and perspective to drive these points home for the listeners. So I called in today's co-host Stefanie The Life Architect to assist me in addressing today's topics at hand.

First we set out to address accord, and the belief that that resembles or exemplifies unity. Stef and I discuss how accord can sometimes be mislead with ego and intentions. And how we as people need to really understand what it means to be an individual within a group. And to take the topic further, we were able to take our love for R&B music to bring out intricate pointers to help you understand the nuances of accord within our social groups.

We then discussed the rise and fall of so many of our favorite groups in music. The politics of relationships. The lack of respect for each person's job in the group. We also discuss the position and responsibility of both the lead and background vocalist. And with each example, we are positive that you will find yourself within your group of friends and family. Are you a lead singer who carries a group of people to success or sustainability? Or are you a background singer who stays behind the scenes and only come forward when its time for praise or profits?

The way this topic was created will discuss where we are in our lives, circles and our world. You will completely see yourself in this conversation. This is ear candy that will surely entertain, as well as get your thoughts running wildly within your mind. For some, it may go over heads. But the end result should be a conversation about how we should learn to appreciate those who carry the brunt of the work. Or who are responsible for the most minimal things that we take for granted. because accord does not mean we agree...it means how well we perform together despite the fact we are different!!!

Today's lesson of Teach Me How To Love You Better is an invitation to what we call "Modernized Ministry"...where we talk about God and Sex in the same conversation in the most realistic way. This lesson, that we call "Sexy In The Eyes of God", tackles the fears of God and our sexuality abiding within the same space. most of us want to be desired, attractive, and accepted by someone else. But truthfully, we complicate this entire process by first not excepting ourselves for who we truly are.

This Modern Body and Bible Study was conducted by Simply Sonja, a very sophisticated creative who has meshed the worlds of faith and fashion together to bring people closer to Christ and their confidence. She was an open book about how she got saved....Once was the complete opposite of who she is now...and what that transformation process was like. also, how her transformation created Transformation Tuesdays, which is a series she creates on YouTube for christian motivation and encouragement on the journey to finding greater self. She dropped gems on how a woman of god can embrace her sexuality without being overcome by it...and potentially disobedient to your savior.

This conversation is packed with so many talk points. We discussed Body Positive adjustments being made in the church. As well as the open dialogue needed to save those who struggle with their humanity and sexuality. Sonja addressed the taboo topics that we all have dealt with one way or another. She also backed up every statement she made with personal experiences. We talked about what feeling sexy is to Christians...and how most times, feeling sexy has nothing to do with sex. Lastly, how women should begin practicing how to embrace the body God gave you.

There was a ton of information in this lesson to create conversations within your personal friend circles and church membership. We need to encourage these conversation more often. There are a multitude of people who want to come to God. But his people are the barrier between the connection. Because when God commands that you come as you are, he means it. But His children have to adjust to the needs of the people showing up. But luckily for you, if this is you, Sonja and BJ created an alternative way to have a realistic conversation that will help you make gradual steps towards growth. You will love and relate to this lesson. Press Play and enjoy!!!!!

It is truly unbelievable how a world can possess so much hate for Black, Brown, and Native American people. And as white supremacy and inequality continues to rise, we are seeing an uprising. People of Color have had it up to HERE with the system and its oppressors. We are outraged, angry, frustrated, hurt, wounded, persecuted, and abused at the hands of White America. And as a people, we are screaming that enough is enough.

Listen as BJ and Christian of Dem Chakras Podcast catch up with each other on their mental health, their feelings about the race war, and the suddenly strong distrust of white america. We discuss how difficult it is to trust allies who have the same skin of our oppressor. And how it hurts to be black, with nowhere to go...mentally, spiritually, and culturally...to feel free. The frustrations that we are experiencing would make any sane person go crazy. And this could possibly be the breaking point. So we give fair warning, which to us should already be understood. But AGAIN...if you continue to disturb the peace and prosperity of people of color, you will see a side of us you will regret. We come in peace, but if you disturb that peace...WE WILL BURN THIS SHIT DOWN!!!