BJ is excited to present this lesson of Teach Me How to Love you Better. This lesson deals with women, and their anxiety. The anxiety for something that you absolutely deserve, but may not be your time for. And this is what God or your energy may be communicating. How can you tell a person, whose efforts show that they are much better than who they were prior, that they still have to wait a while for what it is they worked hard for? it begins to feel like the work was for nothing. but there is also a possibility that the work you were doing was never about you personally. It may be that you have to love a person with those same skills you developed on your behalf, for their betterment.

We discuss this lesson with Lex, of The Free Space Podcast. A beautiful soul and person, who is also waiting for her turn at true love. And her process is much difficult than others. She does social work. She is a mother. She is also a care giver. None of which she takes lightly. But where does Lex fit in her own life? And how is she going to be able to fit in love, when she can't seem to fit in time for her own self care? And for a guy who may be looking in the distance, is the priority of your life making you appear unavailable, simply because you are occupied with a bunch of things you don't really care to be doing at this moment. We discuss why anxiety plays a intricate part in false starts and high expectations. I'm sure many of us can relate to this conversation.

Tune in as we discuss anxiety, self help/care, skills to love yourself and others, and so much more. Many of us are where Lex is...But can we love another person in your own shoes, if this is just so happens who God sends you? We learn that loving ourselves is a deeper process needed that ensures better treatment and handling of others. Mainly our significant others. Press Play and enjoy!!!

We have been fighting the virus and the troubles of this world...but we are here with episode 30 of Change The Subject. Titled "Talk To Me Nice", this episode is about the golden rule being applied in a relationship. When you say to someone "treat them like you want to be treated"...its often negated by someone believing that positive treatment comes from the energy and vibes you put out. But for most of us, we found that some folks are shitty because they deal with shitty people. So when your partner isn't chipper in your presence, do you ever hold yourself accountable? This is what BJ, and today"s guest decided to dive into.

Our guest is none other than Smackie Robinson himself, Syer of The Officially Street Podcast. If you are a long time listener, you are familiar with how BJ and The Washed God politic. We discussed how treating a man like an equal can be beneficial to all the things women seem to expect from them, just because he is responsible for the job. Common laws like "sharing is caring" are exhibited in the examples given in the episode...where we talk about taking out the trash and doing the dishes. How chores can incite intimacy. And how, some jobs we handle aren't things we actually like to do...so having someone understand your plight can bring about a certain peace to your relationship. The constructs of gender roles have truly destroyed our relativity to each other. Me and Sy challenge these ideas with easy applications and words of advice.

More importantly, we tackle the conversation of treating men like a lady...and NO, not like bad bitches or demeaning as the world treats our women. But with respect, dignity, and consideration. Do we compliment our men the same way we do our women when they deserve it? What about when he puts on a little weight? Do you make him feel sexy, when he get a little thick? Where are our women's attention spans to the needs of our men...and do you talk and treat him nicely enough to be entitled to his provision and protection? Tune in and hear two kings break down this relationship barrier. We love our ladies...but do they love us back????

We have finally returned with a brand new lesson of Teach Me How To Love You Better. This segment is a conversation created by a man who desires to create intentional conversations with women. Hopefully those of you who are new to this process will enjoy the new discoveries and concepts of love that we discuss on this segment. But for those of you who have been here before, welcome back. Today's lesson discusses a disposition a man has in millennial dating. questioning whether he serves an actual purpose to what this dating scenario is. Most of his experiences have been centered around the necessities he provides to the date, in order for it to happen...and not actually being a part of the greater picture that his investments actually are intended to paint for him. Men have began to question: Am I here for just the perks I provide to a woman's dating expectations? Or am i actually a part of a plan that involves me being loved, just as she desires to be? We were able to find a woman to discuss this concept with. And yes...she had answers.

This lesson was given to us from Maya...who since our conversation has become an ambassador for Savage Fenty; the brand built by mega star Rihanna. She is also responsible for her own movement. One, being her YouTube Channel, Have Fun and Stay Fly with MyOhMy. And two, being her curvy girl circuit that she calls The Curvy Coalition. On TOP of co hosting a podcast called Pretty N Purposed Podcast, that she hosts with Celeste and Jess. These three women empower women to be their best, and give tips, personality, and inspiration to the women who need a push. Maya has so many outlets to share her experiences with. Which is why we have her here today on Teach Me Tuesday.

Maya and BJ discussed the needs and views of both men and women. The communication and love language barriers we have to get through to reach one another. Also, how she feels we need to be open minded to learning the person you want to love, versus using past experiences to deal with a new love interest. We discussed how Maya grew up being a planner, and how that strict regimen helped her achieve her goals in life, but not necessarily love. We had a very healthy conversation about how healthy it is to plan for yourself and your future...but how it tends not to matter when a person shows up with a plan themselves once you begin dating.

We talked about the ideas of men being a plan. The consideration of how women treat men as perks, while trying to insist that them being used and taking advantage of is a part of a greater plan or process. there is so much to cover in this lesson that you can gather takeaways from. We would love to hear your thoughts on this conversation, as we return back to uncover the dysfunctional attributes of male and female interactions. I hope you enjoy this return lesson. Relax and press play on Men Are A Perk...Not A Plan on Teach Me How To Love You Better!

Episode 29 is here Ladies and Gentleman!!! This episode is titled Love And Poverty Don't Mix (Damn Shame right???). Love always seems to suffer nowadays because of a person's well being...or lack thereof. Today's conversation is geared towards the idea that what needs to be enriched is our perspectives, more than our pockets. And I brought someone perfect along for the conversation.

Today's episode's guest is none other than Ms. Nicole Banks of the Let's Keep It 100 Webcast. Ms. Nicole Banks has a very unique perspective....hell, controversial even. And she bought the smoke we needed to have this healthy debate about what's required of men financially, to secure him romantically. And of course, BJ is defending our kings, and emphasizing that money still hasn't bought men any more compassion, care, or consideration from our women. And from our healthy dialogue we came to a concerning question....Is Black Love less likely to thrive because of poverty stricken circumstances???

Tune In as we discuss the three men Nic's name is branded on...a new financial approach to dating....and plenty more. We also discuss getting out of the ghetto, and what that means to your relationship. How men are criticized for dating above their means (something that women have trademarked). Why is it unfair for men to strive for greater in relationships? We tackle that in this episode. This episode is interesting and very entertaining. Hope you ladies and gentlemen enjoy this!!!

We have finally overcome the depressions and anxieties of Covid 19, and have returned with a brand new episode of Change The Subject. Episode 28 is a conversation about trust and disconnection during the intimacy stages of relation/situationships. We are isolated from our livelihoods, families, and friends during the quarantine. And I'm sure we all are anticipating when life as we know it will return back to its normalcy. But believe it or not, everything will be different when we are allowed to be social again. Even love and dating will shift completely once we are in them streets again. How you gon' act when your freedom to live and love is returned back to you?

Today's episode, titled Kissing With Both Eyes Closed, is speaking to something we forget how to do...living in the moment. It talks about that special moment when chemistry is completely out of your control. You are enjoying the vibes and energy of another person. And the time comes to submit to the connection that undeniably has you captured. Because we are so engulfed in our phones and our own heads, we don't enjoy the opportunities that we are gifted to let go an just be. To kiss someone and not worry about if he is a frog or a prince....or to kiss a woman without wondering if she sees me for who I am. The moments of just being have gone missing from us, and we need to rediscover our love for love and connection all over again....

The guest for this episode is Kira of The Moms And Martinis Podcast, a great mind and conversationalist who believes that these moments are very significant to your esteem, confidence, and love life. She shared so many tips about how to handle when you get lost in the moment, while your partner missed the memo. The conversation, and invitation, that is necessary for breaking intimate ice between you. As well as a therapeutic process she calls L.O.M. Sessions; that help aid in the disconnect and response to intimacy that many of us suffer from. This conversation was loaded, and such a great time to have. Soon enough, we gon' be outside with our hearts in our hands again? How are you about to act once its time to take a chance on love again? You gon" be scared or nah???

Love: On Loud Speaker is available here on Change The Subject. Love: On Loud Speaker is a conversation about the concept of loving out loud. One of many battles of the sexes is the idea that men aren't professing their love for their women today. And as sexist as this sounds...the real statement should be that men aren't professing their love the way women want them to. I KNOW, I KNOW....typical man shit. But it's true. Men have shifted their focuses to other things besides women. And to our delight, its finally getting under their skin. Enough for BJ and today's guest to have a conversation about it.

Today's guest is Jazzie Bee from The Melanin Uncorked Podcast. Our conversation derived from Twitter, where we discussed social media's favorite relationship goal couple (for yet another year smh), Russell and Ciara Wilson. The dialogue was about how much visible and outward expression Russell shows for Ciara. But women are not realizing is that Ciara doesn't slander men while waiting on her knight and shining armor. And that turned into a serious discussion about what men and women think about loving out loud.

Jazzie felt that men can do better. BJ felt as though men have been. The only catch is that men, and their benefits, have only been beneficial to men. Has very little to do with the women. And this is what they can't stand. But who do you think taught men how to play "the fallback and get your shit together principles"....THESE SAME WOMEN. Jazzie and BJ had a great conversation filled with perspectives on this. You will definitely find something on either side to agree with. The purpose of this show was not to agree at all....but to definitely create more conversation and appreciation of each other.

Topics range from how black people view Russell Wilson....how Russell and Ciara's relationship can't be manifested through the manuscript of Ciara's prayers....to how the hood produced more Future's than Russell's; and how the Russell's go unnoticed. And lastly, how loving out loud can't be just in profession and commitment. Loving out loud has to also be incorporated in those times when the opposite sex is on fuck shit too! Loving a person in both good and bad times still has importance. This is the part that both men and women tend to forget.

Who would have thought that after being ridiculed for so long that Men need to love out loud...they would begin to love themselves more??? Tune In and here the perspectives of two dope creatives on Episode 27 titled Love: On Loud Speaker!

BJ is super excited to bring you Episode 26 of Change The Subject. This episode is very touchy (for many reasons), but In very positive and constructive ways. This episode deals with fathers, and the the wages of the sins committed against the women they've encountered. This conversation, titled Blindly Benevolent, discusses the many ways these wages increase by the second...as you aspire to do right by through people who are undeserving of someone else's just due. Today's guest is none other than Christal Clear of Christal Clear: The Podcast. Christal is a diamond mind whose name suits her perfectly, because that's exactly how she presents her perspectives: CHRISTAL CLEAR. Christal as in CRYSTAL, yet and still in her very own way. She has a gift in making things plain. And in this discussion, she did just that!!

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I. The idea of loving your children can be accomplished without the love and respect for the mother

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II. The Possibilities of Toxic Co Parenting

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III. The Right Ideas With The Wrong Application

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IV. Individuality Development and Freedom In Children

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V. Spoiled Daughters Growing To Become Rotten Women To The Core

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There are so many diverse perspectives thrown into this extremely heavy conversation. It is so ironic that this would be the conversation I would be having with Christal. Giving her the opportunity to discuss perspectives of her upbringing reminded me of how I was introduced to her in the very beginning...which was an episode of her she titled Daddy Issues. And here she is speaking with the education, experience, and growth that will definity help men and women negate the possible destruction of a child's well being; by the misguided affections of a parent.

I can not tell you how much is packed into this episode. You will just have to press play. You will definitely learn more about BJ and Christal's similar upbringings. You will also see a different side of Christal, that a lot of her listeners question, but just cant see or ask. You also hear us discuss or differences in perspectives, constructively, to give you a well balanced conversation that will add in understanding the dynamics of misguided love with good intent. Open your minds and ears to "BB feat CC" (as Christal puts it) on Change The Subject. You may not be completely entertained...But you will definitely retain so many life directions to better love and communication between parents and their children.

BJ is back with Episode 25 of Change The Subject. Fresh off of an incredible episode called "I Know These So Called Playas Wouldn't Tell You This" with AJ from What We Gone Do Podcast...comes another great conversation about how men view and receive love from their women. This episode, titled Love Hard...Or The Hard Way?, is discussing the way we communicate the love we think is dedicated to our mates. We don't think that the love we give has any toxic traits....but in this conversation today, we see that that is the furthest from the truth.

Today's episode features KeKe from the Kinks With KeKe Podcast. She has been a long time guest on my wish list of creatives to work with. Her show is a great podcast that deals with extreme dimensions of sex. So BJ assumed that in that realm, she had to be familiar with connection, vibes, and certain energies. We discussed how the physical connection interferes with the emotional aspects of our relationships. How rejection plays a part in healthy relationships...but can still cause a person to act irrationally to their partner. Lastly we discuss what loving hard means. Does it really mean to say "deeply"?? Or is it just that you chose the hard ways to express yourself and your feelings?....AND you are actually waiting for someone to break down those barriers to your better communication. This is a great conversation between two people who knows about love from many perspectives. You will completely enjoy this episode. Tune in and tell us what you think!!!

Change The Subject is here a bit early with episode 24, which is titled "I Know These So Called Playas Wouldn't Tell You This..." ....which is a line from one of the most heralded recordings of the famous R&B group Jagged Edge. And in this case, what most won't tell you is THE TRUTH about why men are so reluctant and late to get married. But here at CTS, we decided to open up a conversation about the man who is on the fence about it.

The episode's special guest is a guy who personally has a completely different perspective on this conversation. Simply because he is a married man who married very early in his life. We brought AJ from the What We Gone Do podcast to explain the story behind his decision to become a man early...and make one of the biggest decisions in his life (before he even had a chance to actually live it)...

So much is said and shared in this conversation that BJ and AJ had together. And from this conversation, BJ was able to learn from AJ's wisdom and conscience....and was able to retain takeaways to deposit into his own relationship. This is the conversation men need to have. Also, this is the conversation women need to hear us have...and possibly join the conversation. You will love what these two kings created in this episode. And just know, part 2 is in the works. Hurry up and PRESS PLAY!!!!

We are here with the official FIRST episode of year 2020. And from the title alone, you can tell that we aren't going in the same direction as last year. We are here to improve and empower. And today's episode is going to assist us in the direction we would need to go in, to get there. This episode is called The Spiritual Partner Episode. It talks about the person you cling to in spiritual and mental warfare. To be able to extract a prayer warrior out of your friendship circle is a blessing. so, BJ discussed the ideas of his own spiritual partnership experiences. Along for the conversation is his spiritual partner and sister, Christian Briana of Dem Chakras podcast. Together they discuss a multitude of things.

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Starting Your Spiritual Journey Outside of The Sanctuary

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The Concept Of Relationships Being Spiritual Spaces

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Manifesting When Nothing Seems Available or Interesting

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Seeing The God In Your Partner

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Spiritual Partnership Does Not Come With Your Relationship

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There is so much to digest in this episode. I want the listener to understand that now is the time to take your spiritual walk seriously. Not only with God, but yourself as well. Tune in to The Prayer Partner Episode. Let me know what you think!!!