Lesson 4 features Christian Brianna of Dem Chakras Podcast. We talk about shadow work!!!

Welcome back ladies and gents! We are here with Episode 17 of Change The Subject. And it's a good episode. Today we have returned with Dog Training. This is an episode that deals with the ideals of how men actually become dogs, in terms of how they treat women. You will be shocked to find out that most dogs are how they are due to their owners....well in this case, who takes ownership.

I shared this conversation with a well respected podcaster named Jones (aka. Cookie Monster Jones) of Stakes Is High Podcast. We discussed accountability and sensistivity in our men. And also discussed the impact of the owner, in terms of the dog. You will find that there is a complete difference in the dog depending on if the dog is in the care of a man or woman. We broke down how and why....

We used the word Dog metaphorically in many ways. We discussed your DAWG, which means your homie...and how in some cases you have to treat him like he's significant...because remember: A DAWG is a man's best friend. So he needs your care, wisdom, companionship, and sensitivity...just like your childhood pet you were responsible for growing up. We also talk about the DOG, the animal women equate a man to be. And how we see more women in love with dogs more and more every day...until its time to clean up the shit! We talk about how effective women can be in training and even creating the very dogs they dislike. This conversation was very in depth, personal, and even therapeutic to share with another brother who has been through this struggle. Jones was very transparent about being the dog that shitted just about everywhere. Even admits to being a stray dog. You will hear why in this episode. Tune into a great conversation with two men who admit their faults and make the attempt to save men from themselves and their traumatic experiences. Dogs are trained in most cases by cruel masters or circumstances. Its time we find out who is responsible for the dogs we often experience. Tune In NOW!!!!

Abuse By Neiko

Welcome Back listeners. I am so excited to share this new episode. This has so many highlights. One of which is the returning guest. My brother CEO Haize joins me to discuss a very traumatic stage of events that a man experiences...just as he decides he's ready for love.

This conversation piece is called The Mid Love Crisis. Yes...that's exactly what it is. A Crisis. It's when a man finally decides to level up and prepare for commitment. And just as he does this, everything that can possibly go wrong goes wrong....

BJ and Haize combs through this process, and draw some insightful cues and strong points for men who are going through this process. It starts with dealing with our preferences. How are preferences as young men do set the proper standards in our adulthood. It's just what we like at that age. Then we discuss our animalistic side, and how it allows us to confuse our intent, taste and attractions to being in love. From there, we discuss the laws of attraction, and how it doesn't always work well with what we've been comfortable with....sometimes a Godsend is just that...who God sent, and not who you usually would go after. Men should know how to identify this when it arrives in life.

We also talk damage control, and how men don't prepare for karma when it decides its time to show up. We discuss the importance of cutting, and sealing the ties between you and the mother of your child. The importance of co parenting construction before entering a new relationship.

We overall had a grown man conversation. If you heard our first conversation on Change The Subject titled "Put Her Second Sometimes", then you know what's to be expected from The B.R.E.A.K.S. Boys!!! You will thoroughly enjoy this conversation. Push the Play Button!!!!

Welcome to Lesson 3 of Teach Me How To Love You Better. This lesson is about Expansion. This gives men perspective on what is needed from them in the event that they encounter an independent woman. There are ways men can be very effective in love without being providers, protectors, and provision makers. There is room for men becoming something other than they have grown accustomed to be used for.

This lesson was administered by Autumn Woodland, and old podcast friend who has just come into a sense of independence of her own in recent times. Just becoming a brand new homeowner, she has grown accustomed to providing and taking care of herself...but lately has found her sense of independence has appeared threatening to the men she comes across. So we discussed this, and so many other things.

We talk about the idea behind needing someone. How we communicate our responsibilities for one another differently. We talked about how better communication is needed much more than being taken care of...because oftentimes both men and women are very capable to take care of someone else...but rarely know how to properly take care of themselves correctly. And lastly, realizing that gender roles can box you in...and actually destroy your concepts of how you care for someone. We as men and women learn that women don't always need men for their typical expectations women place on them. There is a dire need for things much more intimate and personal. so Autumn insists that you find unique ways to add value to a person who is equipped with potentially everything you may have to offer. A new way of saying "Step Your Game Up"!!!!

Thank you for tuning in...welcome back to a brand new episode of Change The Subject. Here we have episode 15, which is titled Sophisticated Hatred, which deals with masked emotions and resentments for people who have begun to elevate in life. Most times in life you will experience growth among you...whether it be friends or family. We are almost never taught how to respond to applauding and supporting our circle, without paying attention too much, in terms of our own shortcomings.

So, I invited someone on the show that i respect by the name of Flaw700 (of the Podcast Brothers) to chop it up on the sophistication of how much resentment lies inside of opinions, feelings and resentment towards our loved ones growth. I really enjoyed Flaw"s perspective as someone who has experienced quite a bit of sophisticated hatred in his day. Whereas BJ is just now beginning to see things arising within his space and circle. Flaw placed value on having certain morals and insights to prevent you from succumbing to unwarranted advice and discrimination.

We spoke on several talk points. We spoke on entitlement. Flaw gave us examples of how his solo podcast was named after his neighborhood. And because his circle comes from that same place, they felt that he should share his creation with the clique. Not realizing they don't even contribute to the mission and purpose of the podcast. Which also happens in life as well. Sharing with people who never position themselves to earn anything. We talk accountability, family ties, dead lifting...and the infamous law among brothers "Am I My Brothers Keeper?" So many great talk points are here within episode 15. I hope you enjoy this episode. It is pretty damn good!!!

Ladies and Gentleman...Thank you for tuning into this amazing experience called Teach Me How To Love You Better! Today we are here with Lesson 2. And to give a fair warning...men definitely need pencils/pens and paper for this one. This conversation picked up where the last lesson left off. And it's HEAVY. I hope men and women are ready.

Today's lesson is given to us by none other than Christal Clear, one of the elite women of color and podcasting. She has such amazing insight, profound wisdom, and the ability to see things very clear (hence the name of her podcast lol)...She provided the listeners a small compass for men to follow, in terms of giving women something that they so rightfully deserve....SUPPORT.

Christal tackled support from such unorthodox angles, She encouraged men to take the backseat to and show your passenger capabilities while she steers towards her goals. She encourages words of encouragement and affirmation. She even convinces BJ that men could even afford to use their 5 senses completely different in terms of women. This was an amazing experience that BJ is sharing with the listener. Sit back and take in all of what Christal has to offer. Men and Women can benefit from this. Welcome to Lesson 2 of Teach Me How To Love You Better!!!!

We have arrived at Episode 14 of Change The Subject people! Today's conversation is called The Top Floor. Metaphorically based upon the uprising that takes place in your goals and accomplishments. The conversation deals a lot with accountability, responsibility, and awareness for yourself, and those around you. BJ put together a conversation about his current creative interest in podcasting, to influence other creatives to strategically find ways to evelate and excel in their respective creative regards.

The guest on today's episode is none other than the good brother Jae of JustSayWords Podcast. He has been a great comrad, from the very start of BJ's podcasting tenure. But in that time, we rarely spoke directly to each other, despite how many movements we were both respectfully making...that emulated each other. So after our first formal face to face in New York last year, we both decided to align ourselves with each other. And since, we've been speaking ever since.

This was the first of many conversations we have had. We talked about our current endeavors. We both have decided to create networks that will serve as vehicles to support others, and their creative dreams. But with this, comes very hard work, emotional struggle, and notions to even quit. But, because BJ and Jae have been through so many ups and downs...we share honest wisdoms and mistakes to help any kind of creative along the way.

Jae talks about the Pod Dealers Network...how it started. Who is all involved. How he manages the many hats he wears within his network. How he even had to address the insecurity of properly addressing himself for something he was responsible for creating. BJ discusses how he seldom belief of anti social dysfunctions makes him unqualified to be a leader...but Jae reveals why him being self aware makes him the perfect candidate. We talk being "The Higher Ups" in our realm of creativity. How those that "Enjoy the View" of leadership sometimes have no clue what it takes. We talk about when "Something Goes Wrong", and how that effects the creative. We speak on Amenities, and what a leader would need in order to continue doing the work of the people. We had such a valuable conversation for those who see something in themselves, but just need the kind of encouragement to see those things through. Tune in as BJ and Jae share their knowledge, missteps, and lessons that help them get to The Top Floor in their creativity!!!

Welcome to the very first installment of Teach Me How To Love You Better. This is a segment presented by Dergobj and Change The Subject. The purpose of this is to create a safe space for women to keep it real with men. But the beauty of this is that men are NOT being argumentative in this space. We are actually here to listen, encourage, and support our queens in a conducive way. And in turn, we learn something about the women we intend to love. Our first host is a queen by the name of Erica Butler. She has branded herself and a movement called The Brown Girl Experience. This woman is an incredible mind who shared so many things about herself, her sisters, and the honorable men she has encountered in life. We spoke on so many subjects...like her experiences with having a chronic illness called Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). She talked dating men with a chronic illness, and how it effects her relationships with men. And then...we got into her constructive criticisms of men. Luckily for men...it wasn't as harsh as we thought. The focal point of Erica's views were centered around Identity. How men tend to place margins on women with various excuses and tactics that actually have nothing to do with them. She even addresses things that women do to women, in terms of identity. The conversation was very healthy and informative...and Erica does an exceptional job at getting her points across without making men or women feel uncomfortable or persecuted (which she also talked about as well)... There are so many great points in this hour long installment. I truly hope that the people enjoy this....and that this is a step in the right direction for reconnecting and communication between men and women. Without further ado...here is Lesson 1: Identity by Erica Butler "The Brown Girl"

Welcome Back to Change The Subject. Today we have a bonus episode, that was recorded back in March of 2019. It was a conversation that I would like to title Body Accounts. It's a dialogue about the various phases a person goes through when its time to make health decisions for themselves. There are so many factors that play a part in what you do with your body.

My guest on this episode is none other than my baby sister TaKenyah, who is a very loud and bold voice for people who struggle with being black, marginalized, overweight....and a host of other things. She was very transparent about the trials of transitioning from recently graduating college....no longer room mating....to now living on your own. The idea of being alone with your responsibilities and struggles will definitely throw you off. She talks about the mental health of this time, and how it effected her health and dieting choices. And then we both realized something...black health matters just as much to these black lives we live. But look how we've been conditioned...

We started with dating. How we use food to romanticize our significant others. From what we've been told, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach right? Or when she gets cranky, just give her something to eat should fix her attitude right? These are ideals people of color live by. Which can be detrimental.

We talked family tradions, stigmas, social settings, and a bunch of other things. We spoke on MCM and WCW as well. How you think sexy equates healthy. Also, how we can also use this very same people we admire to marginalize others. There was so many different ways we took this conversation. I cant even fit it all in this description. This conversation was loaded.

We also talked about how men are also body shamed and seasonal for people who like to romanticize men for certain occasions. Talks began to form of how that effects a man, within himself and his homies. You will surprised at how many accounts you have with people trying to control or dictate to you how you should look and feel. We wanted to bring it to your attention with this conversation.

This was a great dialogue to listen to, even though it is a few months old. Listen and tell me what you think. Another episode will be following this one....tune in before the new show drops. Remember to leave a rating and comment on Apple Podcast. All of your support has been greatly appreciated. Tune into TaKenyah and I talk about what its like to be black, fat, and from Detroit!