Welcome to a brand new episode of Change The Subject. Today we have a bonus episode, that was recorded on a quick trip to Philadelphia last weekend. While BJ was out of town trying to start up new business...he was able to connect with one of his favorite guys to kick it with. Who is also a brother and friend. Danny of the Danny and Cleo Show stopped through to catch up and fellowship with his brother. And we decided to kick it on the mic and share our dialogue with the listener. Its been a while since BJ seen Danny. so typically, whenever he catches up to Danny...he will ask him "Where You Been At?'....To my surprise and delight, Danny has been at peace.

Listen to us discuss, audio books, early days of podcasting, and the subtle art of not giving a fuck. Danny has been very vocal with BJ about caring more about self than others. And you get to here it here. This was a great episode, and I'm excited to share it with you. I hope you enjoy this brotherly converse between two of the most loving men you may know...except Danny is a little bit different. And BJ is playing catch up. Tune In and tell me what you think!!!!

Welcome to a New Year...A New Decade...and a New Episode of Change The Subject. Congratulations to you for surviving the tests of 2019, as you walk into your purposes and visions of 2020. BJ is back with a brief episode to say "Waddup Doe" , as well as recap the biggest lesson he received in 2019. With the many blessings that came through this year, came some accountability lessons that arose with last year's glory moments. The lesson was discussed briefly here in this new EP. BJ talks about a few cliches that means a totally different thing in 2020. The year has bought a new perspective to things we don't necessarily realize that we say against our very purpose or vision. There are three that we talked about, before BJ discusses the two biggest pointers he has going into the new year.

We have a very healthy, yet small portioned dialogue that will detail what the listeners will look forward to from Change The Subject. Tune in and let me know your thoughts. As always, BJ strives to hold meaningful conversations that will empower the people listening. Hopefully, you will be energized to "go get your things" this year, despite what conditions you are starting in. Just know you are able and willing...and very much capable. Its just the narratives that need to change. So, here is a new one to start with. Happy New Narrative 2020!! Toast to your New Year and New You that will kick ass in 2020!!!!

Lesson 7 of Teach Me How To Love You Better is here ladies and gentlemen! We have a very special lesson, and guest, to discuss a very important topic that you hear women speak on every day in their social lives and gossip columns. We have Mrs. Monroe Bishop of the T with Monroe Podcast here with us to discuss INTENTION. Intention has been the most used word among our women. And is often mentioned in debates between the sexes about what men lack. Monroe had a very interesting perspective to this conversation. And interesting enough, intention has something for men and women to play a part of.

We discussed how intention doesn't just mean what you intend to do for another person. It has more to do with what your standards, morals, and character embody. How you will conduct yourself, despite your interests. It's more internal than most believe. She laid down quite a few ways she see the intentional behaviors of today's couples or daters. And from her views, she is not impressed with the men, or the women. So she gave a constructive criticism on her views of intentions, marriage, and dealing with broken people.

Monroe and BJ had a great conversation that I'm sure you will enjoy. She talks from a very real place. And even shared personal accounts of how she met, dated, and almost divorced her husband Larry....who is also her co host of the T with Monroe Podcast. Tune in as she tells her story of how intentions actually saved her marriage!!

BJ is very excited to welcome you to Episode 21; that we are going to call "The Legal Age Episode"....and for some reason, that title is somewhat befitting. Considering we are discussing the concept of being grown. Growth is paramount in certain areas of life...and today's guest is a prime example of growth. Today's guest has completely leveled up and also embraced several different sides of self confidence and esteem. And I brought her on to discuss this reinvigorated personality she is taking on.

Our guest is none other than ImJustJackie, webcast co host and content creator. She stopped through for a quick conversation about her new endeavors. Telling us how she made her mind up to spread wings and soar to new levels in her life. With a webcast, YouTube blog, event hosting, and a accounting business to run...Jackie has been focused on becoming a better Jackie. And has also revealed that she can clearly see where she has gone wrong, in certain situations with things and people. We talked about her personality, controversial sense of humor, and childhood upbringing. We also discussed how certain things from earlier on in life is the catalyst for a lot of what you know from the Old Jackie....whatever that means to those who know her.

Lastly, how accountability and therapy has played a role in this completely new woman. Even as a friend, I was extremely impressed and excited to see how much of a difference a few weeks can make. I literally just seen her a few weeks before we recorded this episode...and in that short span of time, I see a positive difference in her happening daily. Tune in as she discusses her life in detail, with honesty and transparency. She left a few gems in here for those who are also trying to level up. Tune in to Ms. Understood featuring ImJustJackie of Let's Keep It 100 webcast...hope you enjoy!!!!

Welcome Ladies and Gentleman to Lesson 6 of Teach Me How To Love You Better. This is a very great lesson that discusses a sensitive subject that most women struggle with in silence. The uncertainty of attraction and desire can be very disheartening and depressing. And knowing this, BJ decided to find someone who understands the struggle, and can explain the details of this issue with dignity and respect.

I was honored to have this conversation, titled Fetishes, with none other than Bad Ass Jones...former co host of Love, Lust and Bad Ass Soul Podcast. She has curated a new venture, called The Pum Pum Chronicles, that deals with the edgy subjects of sex, kinks, culture, education, and feminism. She brought all of those things with her. And with those things, came a phenomenal conversation about the women of size who are mistreated and misused in disgusting ways.

Tune in as we discuss the imbalances and inequality of most relationships, the lack of male communication and transparency...as well as the detriment of fetishizing and shaming of women of size. How labeling can create insecurities. The types of men who are secretly attracted to these women, and how they reveal their true intentions and character by how they treat these women. It was very enlightening and detailed. AJ held no punches, and told us how important it is to treat our women like ladies, despite their differences. This was a much needed conversation. We can all learn a thing or two from this lesson!

Welcome back to Teach Me How To Love You Better. We are here with a very exciting lesson, and guest. Today's Lesson, which is Lesson 5, is titled Lead. We held this conversation with none other than Cherry Poppins, of The Officially Street Podcast, that she Co Hosts with alongside Syer and JayOmega. Cherry brought perspective to what it's been like for most women who date men today: and their lack of fluid communication.

Despite the conversation being mostly centered around Communicating, LEAD was the most powerful word in the conversation (for it not to be the initial focal point). The conversation started with Cherry Poppins describing the process that is required when taking her on a date. She detailed how forthcoming you would have to be, in order to get from behind the phone to the dinner table. But simply having conversation is not good enough. She wants to see your effort, consistency, and intention. You have to make her want to go on a date with you. Despite the fact that may be exactly what you are talking about doing. She follows your LEAD, which is how the show titled became what it was. Based on how you LEAD off, is how she responds. In any way, shape, or form.

Following a man"s lead has been a lost art to some, and Cherry truly believes it matters. And from this conversation, it clearly shows that leadership is what it takes to win her. And she doesn't care if you aren't up for the challenge. She is confident that somebody will be. But her tolerance and esteem will not change. We had an amazing conversation that i believe will help men and women of all ages. Tune in to Lesson 5 of Teach Me How To Love You Better!!!

We are here to present a new episode of Change The Subject, for all of your listening pleasures. And its a goodie. Today's episode, which is episode 20, is titled "Cute Girl With The Big Butt". Our special guest is none other than Avery, also known as PeopleTalkDaily of SoleOfAHustla Podcast. My big sister finally showed up to catch up with everybody, since her low profile move into grand-motherhood. She stopped through for a catch up, some laughs, and some great conversation. And oddly enough, the conversation talks about her BOOTY!!

Even though her butt is the subject, the conversation is not derogatory or disrespectful. It talks about the appeal of a woman's body shape, and the attention it draws. We talk about her relationship with BJ, and how even HE has benefit from Avery's butt a time or two (it's weird hearing this right?...But you have to listen to understand!)...and how men willingly receive her for her butt, with no expectation of her brains and big heart to match. I swear when you dig into the conversation...you will further understand the importance of why Avery's butt is the topic of conversation. We discussed how she feels about being a shapely women, and if she even likes having a big butt...along with the attention that comes with it. We even discussed dirty butts a bit as well. Once you press play, I'm sure men and women will see how they make an ass of themselves by judging a book, or BUTT, by its cover. PRESS PLAY!!!!!

You have just tuned into episode 19 of one of your favorite podcasts...Change The Subject. We return with a treat for those who are a part of Indy podcast culture. This episode's guest is a well known, yet very controversial guest known as "Liberian Bae".... We have Subrena, formerly of Good Morning Beautiful Podcast on Change The Subject. And BOY is BJ excited!!

BJ was able to catch up with Bre on air, after the last time they seen each other in Las Vegas. After a very brief conversation from that time that BJ carried with him ever since..crafted an episode that discusses forgiveness and redemption of the male gender. Bre was known, at a time, to speak her truths about her distaste for men. AND WAS RELENTLESS. BJ being the optimistic type, always felt like there was a story behind it...and Indeed there was. As we fast forward to 2019, BJ was shocked to find that her views have drastically changed. And luckily, we discussed it all on this episode.

In this episode, we were able to see into Bre's development....as a child from Liberia, at a tragic time of civil war. She talks about her visual experiences dealing with men growing up as a child....then the transition in dealing with men in America once her mom moved her to the US. This isn't a typical story of heartbreak. She's seen things, and they have molded her into a very firm protector of herself. She talks about how she dates, feels, and forgives in terms of men. How she was able to identify her own judgements as a woman. And lastly, what steps women should consider to see a bright side in the potentials of men. This isn't the Bre you remembered, if you were ever familiar. She is stronger, wiser, confident, and daring. She was very transparent about her experiences. And even if you don't completely agree, you can identify with the honesty of what she speaks. This was a very great conversation that was overdue for Bre and BJ. Tune in to Episode 19: Never Forget...(But At Some Point) Let It Go!!!

We are here with a bonus episode of Teach Me How To Love You Better! Today's teacher is none other than Queen Poiison, a self published author and poet. She and I go a ways back. But we have also seen each other grow. So it has been a while since we have connected on audio. So, BJ took advantage of the opportunity that they were both in New York...to sit her down to discuss gender inequalities, in terms of communication. She brought an interesting point to the conversation that no one ever tends to consider in this communication debate.

"Can we COMPREHEND whats being communicated to us" ???

We then begin to break down the various ways misinterpretation contributes to failed communication. We discuss techniques to help both men and women in comprehension. We even discuss how a wellness check benefits communication between men and women. This is a conversation that is loaded with so much jewelry, that I'm just gonna suggest you PRESS PRAY. Otherwise, this description would be an essay. This hour long conversation is packed with good conversation, and forward thinking communicative ideals. You will enjoy this!!!

Today is a very special episode of Change The Subject! Five days before her highly anticipated 1 Year Anniversary Live Show of her amazing podcast, The I SAID NO! Podcast....we are blessed to hold a conversation with an exceptional content creator and well respected life coach we know as Stefanie, The Life Architect. She has set a new milestone for BJ in his podcast career, as well as his personal life. And it takes place in this episode that we are now sharing with you!

This episode is titled Where Two or Three Are Gathered...which derives from the scripture Matthew 18:20 in the Bible. Those of us who grew up in the church are very familiar with this scripture, and its intentions. But in this conversation, it was used on BJ in a very manipulative manner. It raised an eyebrow, rage and questions within BJ, and ultimately led to isolation, disconnect, and feelings of grief in terms of his family life. But fortunately for BJ, he has been able to build some very strong, resourceful relationships along the way...one of which is Stefanie. She completely unraveled and tore apart this dysfunction with so many hay maker power points, perspectives, and spiritual knowledge. This conversation is relative to many of us who deal with family and church hurt, manipulation, and trauma bondage. And prayerfully after hearing this, your perspectives will completely change...and will encourage you to deal with the bondage of your own life.

In this conversation, Stefanie and I discussed:

•Trauma Bondage, Causes, and Effects

•Changing The Terminology of Feelings That Traumatically Bind You With Toxic People

•Emotional Homelessness

•Common Enemy Intimacy

•Labeling and Acceptance

There were so many great talk points that we were able to discuss in this conversation. To those of you who are struggling with relationships of any kind, this is an excellent conversation to begin your emotional renovation process. Stefanie equipped the listeners with amazing emotional strategy and spiritual base to build your foundation on. I can't say enough about this show. Give it a listen, and tell us what you think! And if you listen to the very end...you will hear Stefanie ask " Is that It???"....expecting more from the conversation, based on what we originally discussed before we started recording. Reason being is because BJ forgot a huge portion of the conversation, from simply being floored by her wisdom. So be on the lookout for a Part 2!!! But for now, enjoy Where Two or Three Are Gathered! This is great content that everyone will enjoy!!!