Language is a funny old thing. Used in the right way it can be very uplifting and empowering, and used in the wrong way can be negative, stressful and disempowering.

Eg. I should be further in my career, or I should have a husband by now, or I should have kids by now and it goes on.

How about replacing 'I should....' with 'I get to...' I

2 - Try replacing the word 'but' with 'and'

A classic example of this is 'I love you, but.... ' Using that one word completely negates the bit of the sentence that came before it and puts the other person on the defense. 

3 - And stop saying 'I have to...' and start saying 'I get too...'

Eg. Replace 'I have to go to work so I can pay the bills!' with 'I get to go to work so I can easily pay my bills!'

This immediately makes all the things we get to do, feel more positive and like we have a choice, rather than overwhelmed and having no time.

Have fun with this and try and watch yourself as if you are watching a character in a movie....when you catch yourself you can be aware of it and change it the next time

If you want to know more about Mel Clarke, she is also a Life Purpose Coach & Reiki Healer helping people come out of chaos to find their purpose driven direction in life, as well as living guilt free lives.

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