🎙️ Episode 7 – Withdrawal Isn’t Love: Why You Miss the Person Who Hurt You

You finally left the toxic relationship, but now you feel worse. The silence is loud. Your chest is tight. And you’re wondering if you made a mistake.

This episode breaks down the brutal truth about emotional withdrawal after toxic love—and why missing them doesn’t mean you should go back. We’ll unpack the real psychology behind emotional addiction, trauma bonds, and the chaos you got hooked on.

If you’ve ever spiraled after going no-contact, felt ashamed for still caring, or caught yourself craving someone who wrecked your peace, this is your episode.

Inside:

• Why do you feel worse after leaving

• Signs you’re in emotional withdrawal (not love)

• How trauma bonding hijacks your brain

• Real tools to survive the urge to text them

• The 7-Day #CUBDetox Challenge to help you stay gone

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Follow @chaoticandunbothered and tag #CUBDetox to share your journey.

You're not broken.
Own your chaos.
Untamed and Unashamed.

Still missing the person who hurt you? You’re not alone—and it’s not just “missing them.” It’s emotional addiction, and it’s one of the most powerful traps in toxic relationships.

In this episode of Chaotic & Unbothered, we’re unpacking why you feel addicted to someone who caused you pain—and why walking away doesn’t mean you stop craving them. We dive into:

• Why toxic love feels like a drug

• The truth about trauma bonding and emotional highs/lows

• How your brain rewires during abusive relationships

• The psychological reasons you can’t “just move on”

• What healing actually looks like after emotional burnout

If you’ve ever felt stuck, confused, or ashamed for missing someone toxic—this episode will validate you, empower you, and help you break the cycle.

💔 If you’ve ever asked “Why do I still want them?”—this is your episode.

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Are you really in love—or are you trapped in a trauma bond disguised as connection?

In this raw, story-driven episode of Chaotic & Unbothered, we’re digging deep into the psychology of trauma bonds—how they form, why they feel like love, and how to finally break free from the addictive pull of toxic relationships.

We’ll unpack the emotional and neurological roots of these patterns, blend in real-life stories, pop-culture parallels (hello, Euphoria + Kourtney & Scott), and give you tangible steps to begin your healing journey.

If you’ve ever felt addicted to someone who hurts you, blamed yourself for the chaos, or stayed because “it used to be good,”—this one’s for you.

💔 Signs you’re trauma bonded
🧠 The brain chemistry behind it (dopamine, cortisol, and survival mode)
🚪 How to start detaching from the cycle (even if it hurts like hell)
📢 Mic-drop truths and affirmations that will wake you up
🛑 No shame. Just clarity, compassion, and power.

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Are you struggling with emotionally abusive, narcissistic, or manipulative parents?

Have you felt guilt, grief, or shame over going low or no-contact with family? In this deeply validating and unfiltered episode of Chaotic & Unbothered, we talk about something rarely said out loud: cutting off the people who raised you, and choosing peace over generational pain.

MJ shares her personal story of cutting off her mother, father, and sister after a lifetime of emotional abuse and explains why so many millennials and Gen Z are choosing healing, therapy, and boundaries over family dysfunction. This is for the black sheep, the cycle-breakers, and the ones tired of being gaslit and guilt-tripped into silence.

You'll hear the red flags of toxic parents, learn how to protect your peace, and walk away with powerful affirmations for reparenting yourself.

🔹 Topics covered:

• Emotional manipulation & generational trauma

• Gaslighting, guilt-tripping, and narcissistic family patterns

• Red flags of toxic parenting

• What healing looks like after cutting ties

• Empowering affirmations for inner peace

• The rise of no-contact decisions in younger generations

🎙️ Follow Chaotic & Unbothered for raw healing stories, truth bombs, and bold convos every week.

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Are you stuck in a situationship that’s emotionally draining, confusing, and going absolutely nowhere? In this episode of Chaotic & Unbothered, we’re diving deep into situationship burnout—what it is, why it happens, and how to stop giving your energy to someone who won’t fully choose you.

Hosted by MJ, this bold and unfiltered conversation explores:

• 🔥 The emotional signs of being burnt out in a situationship

• 💔 Why we stay stuck in toxic relationship cycles

• 🧠 How childhood wounds + attachment styles play a role

• ✂️ Steps to finally detach, set boundaries, and protect your peace

• 🔮 Spiritual + intuitive tips to call your power back

Whether you’re healing from an on-again-off-again situationship, dating someone emotionally unavailable, or just tired of being the “almost” partner, this one’s for you.

✨ This is your permission to walk away and start choosing YOU.

🎙️ Chaotic & Unbothered drops new episodes Monday through Friday.
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🎙 EPISODE 2: "Whispers in Land Between the Lakes" | Chaotic & Unbothered Podcast (True Story)

This isn’t just another ghost story. It’s a chilling true tale from deep in the woods of Land Between the Lakes, where something ancient—and angry—still lingers.

In Episode 2 of Chaotic & Unbothered, I’m sharing a personal paranormal encounter that will leave you questioning what’s really out there. No flashlight, no signal, and no way to explain what we heard.

👻 If you’re into:

• True paranormal encounters

• Urban legends with real-life roots

• Creepy campfire vibes

• A deep-dive into the emotional imprint of fear...
  You’re gonna want to keep the lights on for this one.

  
  

🫣 What we experienced wasn’t just scary—it was primal. And the fear didn’t end when we left.

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🌕 You’re not broken.
🌕 Own your chaos.
🌕 Untamed and Unashamed.

Welcome to the podcast where we own our chaos — untamed and unashamed. I’m your host, MJ, and this is your space for real talk, shadow work, healing, true crime chills, and stories that blur the line between mystery and meaning. If you’re over fake positivity and ready to dive into the bold, intuitive, and sometimes eerie side of life, hit follow. This is your new favorite audio obsession.

Tired of being told to “just stay positive” when everything feels like it’s falling apart? In this raw debut episode of Chaotic & Unbothered, host MJ unpacks what toxic positivity really is, how it shows up in our healing journeys, and why forcing a smile can actually hold us back. If you’ve ever felt guilty for being sad, angry, or “too much,” this episode is your permission to feel it all, unapologetically. No fake vibes. Just truth, chaos, and the freedom to be fully human.