On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I am honored to host Mei Ling.

Mei Ling helps women who identify as the black sheep of their families move from feeling inadequate to becoming powerful cycle breakers by helping them reconnect with their unique soul’s agenda and divine support system, so that they can shine their light into the world, knowing they are deeply loved and valued for who they are.

As a mixed-race woman who inherited intuitive and psychic abilities through her Chinese lineage, Mei Ling is a bridge between the East and West, and between the earthly and spiritual realms. Growing up, she constantly felt like the outsider, never quite fitting in anywhere. As a child of divorce, the feeling was only exacerbated when she became the inconvenient addition to her parents’ new families. The spiritual journey that eventually led Mei Ling to become a professional intuitive started with one question - “Why me?”

Mei Ling shares her own personal stories of growing up as the black sheep and scapegoat and weaves in vulnerable, potent, and often funny insights from these experiences with the hopes that those listening feel less alone on their journeys. 

How to find Mei Ling;

Website:

https://meiling-intuitive.com/

To book your Soul Story Session:

https://meiling-intuitive.com/offerings/soul-story-session/

To connect on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/meiling.intuitive?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Email me: [email protected]

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Womp Womp...

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we talk about the fuckery of your toxic family choosing your ex over you.

But wait, did you normalize it like I did?

We also talk about how it's ok to look at the people in our life with fresh eyes and become ok with knowing our worth and making sure the people in our life are matching our energy.

You are worth it.

Their behavior may have been shitty and acceptable yesterday, but it doesn't have to be acceptable today.

You are not the same.

You are growing, evolving and don't get a medal for tolerating toxic treatment from anyone.

Email me at: [email protected]

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If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast meet my chosen sister....Raya.

Who says you can't find family on social media??

Raya is a survivor, advocate, mama, sister and no contact with her mother. Raya is truly one of the most inspirational people I have met on this journey.

Her strength, beauty, intelligence and desire to help YOU hold your strength and power.

You will be inspired by her authenticity, her sweet countenance and the fire in her soul that is absolutely contagious.

Raya, I am honored to know you and blessed to be walking this journey alongside of you.

Be sure to check out the Character Outs website:

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*Raya's Resources:

RAIINE: They advocate and have many resources to help you get into contact with the right places in your area for sexual violence, abuse, and incest.

https://www.rainn.org/

National Domestic Hotline: They also help with resources. How to make a plan for safety, exit plans, and much more. I advise anyone to look into all of the local agencies you can. There are many out there, sometimes it just takes going through some hoops. 

https://www.thehotline.org/

Song: Dollhouse:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HcVv9R1ZR84

Raya's Socials:

Tik Tok:

https://www.tiktok.com/@thefcknicequeen

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thefcknicequeen/

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

Keep walking friend.

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we discuss the concept of acceptance.

Accepting the fact that we won't ever have the family we wanted and certainly don't plan on welcoming back the toxic family we were given.

Where does that leave us? Do we stay in a place of sadness, bitterness...I hope not!

This episode takes a morbid turn as we discuss the worst-case scenario and about how we think we will feel when the family member we have been estranged from dies.

*Resources:

The story: "Acceptance and Happiness"

https://medium.com/@chinmaysy/the-alchemy-of-acceptance-4c279b3b1300

Information on reactive abuse:

https://nationallegalservice.co.uk/what-is-reactive-abuse/

Connect with me via email here:

mailto:[email protected]

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/characteroutspodcast/

On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast we talk about all of the emotions that go with celebrating birthdays and holidays while being no contact with toxic family.

The feels:

*disappointment

*rejection

*relief

*shock

I just celebrated my birthday and another holiday with radio silence from my toxic family. I should be happy that they are respecting my boundaries, right? Yay to more peace and freedom!!!

Ok, so why was I a little shocked and sad that I literally just don't exist in their eyes anymore. Meep.

Welcome to the ups and downs of no contact, right? We will get through this friend; we are not alone and refuse to look back and break this peace we got going!

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On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast I read Tya's story.

Tya is happily married and a stay-at-home mom of three.

She was also a daughter who gave and gave to a mother whom she thought was her best friend.

Join me as I read her story of awakening to the emotional abuse and manipulation of her narcissistic mother. The initial fear of going no contact and the lessons she has learned along the way.

Thank you, Tya, for sharing your story, it healed my heart. Wishing you love on your no contact journey friend. Never forget your worth and never forget that you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we ring in season 2 in the new studio!

I talk about what is new around here at the Character Outs Podcast. I also discuss, my vision for season 2 and this community.

We also talk about the concept of pivoting, evolving, changing and growing and how if you were raised by a toxic family, especially a narcissistic mother, how this concept can feel odd.

It is SO great to be back!!!!

Be sure to hit follow on Spotify to stay connected!

Come on over to the snark and fun over on Instagram as we navigate these no contact waters together!

https://www.instagram.com/characteroutspodcast/

Would you like to be a guest on the podcast? Email me, looking forward to connecting!

[email protected]

Incase no one has told you: it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I take a trip home.

Do you live close to the toxic family you are no contact with?

Well, I am not, and I must say....It is difficult to go back home! Well, I didn't go home...this is NOT that kind of podcast, haha.

But I did go to my hometown and man did it bring up some emotions that I did not expect.

Join me as I share some issues and emotions that came to the surface and how I walked through them.

In case no one has told you lately: it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.

Join the party over on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/characteroutspodcast/

Have a question. or would you like to be a guest on the podcast, let's connect:

[email protected]

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Join me as I read Kim's story.

Kim is a survivor of a toxic family, including the emotional abuse of her narcissistic mother.

Abandonment, triangulation with her younger brother at the hands of her narcissistic mother, the loss of her father, the lifetime effort to try and make it work, along with periods of no contact. All leading to the moment she realized her worth and said no more.

The moment of no contact is where her healing journey and search to make up for lost time began.

Kim is single, child free and works a corporate job. In her spare time, she writes fiction books that are either historical or contemporary lead by a strong female character, most of which have a family of choice (don't you love that-normalizing this no contact journey through fiction literature-amazing.) The overriding theme of her books features people being raised in less-than-ideal situations and triumphing later in life (sounds a lot like you dear friend.)

Kim's writing is like therapy, and she wouldn't be who she is without it. She also has a love for old cars and vintage aircraft. When she is not writing she enjoys photography and attending air and car shows.

Kim, thank you for trusting me with your story. Keep on walking friend.

You can find Kim's books here:

https://www.amazon.com/stores/K-A-Salter/author/B08W9GNPR9?ref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

Want to share your story on the podcast? Let's connect:

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about trauma responses...ya know, we are all familiar with the four types of trauma responses right? Flight, fight, freeze or fawn.

Ok, ok..so I have said it before, and I will say it again...I am a proud survivor of narcissistic abuse from my mother and the rest of my family is out of control toxic. I am not a therapist, nor do I have a degree in mental health. Unless elementary education counts, haha.

But, recently I had a stressful and well, traumatic situation happen and my trauma response of fight was activated. Well, when the situation was over, I realized something that I don't hear many people talk about. The crash after the trauma response has been activated.

These are the four stages I just recently walked through:

*trauma response activated

*crash

*recovery

*badassery initiated

Join me as we talk about embracing each stage, giving yourself grace and helping to normalize these emotions that continue to follow us on this no contact journey. You are not alone friend.

*Resources:

https://www.health.com/fight-flight-freeze-fawn-8348342

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Have a question? Want to share your story? Email me:

[email protected]

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.

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