Character Outs

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about that good ol' phrase I ask myself over and over...

Am I the problem?

Sigh....

That phrase used to haunt me.

Yes, it USED to haunt me.

Not that I feel I have achieved perfection (hell nah.)

I have just refused to comply to the balls of toxicity thrown at me anymore.

Things like...

'Oh, your family doesn't talk to you? YOU must be the problem.'

or

'Oh, your entire family has a problem with you? You must be the common denominator.'

We talk about how to NOT allow these things to bother us anymore cus let's be honest, we are critical enough on ourselves for the entire population, am I right?

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I chat with Cody who is not only intelligent and insightful, but also a really cool, down to earth dude.

He brings a fascinating perspective to how trauma impacts our mind and our body and how we can get to a place of becoming a 'human doing' and not just a 'human being.'

Cody is a seasoned entrepreneur at the forefront of AI and Mental Health. Armed with a degree in Cognitive Behavioral Neuroscience and trained in IFS Psychotherapy, he is the Founder & CEO of Mind, Brain, Body Lab. This groundbreaking Mental Health AI company specializes in treating Complex PTSD using AI/ML algorithms to analyze biometric and behavioral data.

Committed to bridging the gap between AI and human experience, Cody also heads MyCompanion, a Public Benefit Corporation providing a free, 24/7 conversational AI companion for healing Complex PTSD.

Cody disseminates daily Neuroscience and Psychology tools to improve mental and emotional health post-trauma. His mission is to help one billion people to find happiness and purpose in their lives.

Follow on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/mindbrainbodylab/

Check out the Mind, Brain, Body Lab website here:

https://www.mindbrainbodylab.com/

In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about SOME of the fucked-up things that we normalized while we were still in the trenches with our toxic family. Cus let's be honest, I could commit HOURS if we discussed all of the every single thing that we normalized, am I right?

But....those days are over, so now what?

We are also going to talk about what we need to start normalizing now that we are no contact. And sometimes, that leaves us holding our ground (but also doubting ourselves) losing toxic people (but also blaming ourselves) feeling guilty for speaking our needs and truth (cus ya know, I would be a not nice girl if I did that)

AHHHHHH!! I am VERY passionate about this topic you guys.

Know your worth and don't take any shit, we talk about it on this episode.

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

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Join me as I chat with Danu Morrigan. She is the daughter of a narcissistic mother and the author of five books on the topic of daughters and narcissistic mothers.

*'You're not crazy-it's Your Mother'

*'Dear Daughter of a Narcissistic Mother'

*'Notes From Your Inner Mother'

*'How to go No Contact'

*'Become a Boundaries Badass'

She is also the founder of the wildly successful website:

https://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/

It is a wonderful hub of information no matter where you are on your journey. Be sure to check it out to learn more about Danu, order her books and even take a quiz to see if your mother is narcissistic.

She strives to give understanding, information, and validation to other daughters of narcissistic mothers.

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

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On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast, I dive into the muddy waters of...boundaries.

Does that body of boundary water feel like the Dead Sea to you? Yea, same.

How about as you are in the process of even THINKING about making a boundary you hear your narcissistic mother whisper: 'You are making this boundary because you are a spiteful bitch.'

UGHHHH!!! NO!

Do you struggle with setting boundaries?

I got you.

This week I had some epiphanies about boundaries that I am so excited to talk about.

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I am honored to host Mei Ling.

Mei Ling helps women who identify as the black sheep of their families move from feeling inadequate to becoming powerful cycle breakers by helping them reconnect with their unique soul’s agenda and divine support system, so that they can shine their light into the world, knowing they are deeply loved and valued for who they are.

As a mixed-race woman who inherited intuitive and psychic abilities through her Chinese lineage, Mei Ling is a bridge between the East and West, and between the earthly and spiritual realms. Growing up, she constantly felt like the outsider, never quite fitting in anywhere. As a child of divorce, the feeling was only exacerbated when she became the inconvenient addition to her parents’ new families. The spiritual journey that eventually led Mei Ling to become a professional intuitive started with one question - “Why me?”

Mei Ling shares her own personal stories of growing up as the black sheep and scapegoat and weaves in vulnerable, potent, and often funny insights from these experiences with the hopes that those listening feel less alone on their journeys. 

How to find Mei Ling;

Website:

https://meiling-intuitive.com/

To book your Soul Story Session:

https://meiling-intuitive.com/offerings/soul-story-session/

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Womp Womp...

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we talk about the fuckery of your toxic family choosing your ex over you.

But wait, did you normalize it like I did?

We also talk about how it's ok to look at the people in our life with fresh eyes and become ok with knowing our worth and making sure the people in our life are matching our energy.

You are worth it.

Their behavior may have been shitty and acceptable yesterday, but it doesn't have to be acceptable today.

You are not the same.

You are growing, evolving and don't get a medal for tolerating toxic treatment from anyone.

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If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast meet my chosen sister....Raya.

Who says you can't find family on social media??

Raya is a survivor, advocate, mama, sister and no contact with her mother. Raya is truly one of the most inspirational people I have met on this journey.

Her strength, beauty, intelligence and desire to help YOU hold your strength and power.

You will be inspired by her authenticity, her sweet countenance and the fire in her soul that is absolutely contagious.

Raya, I am honored to know you and blessed to be walking this journey alongside of you.

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*Raya's Resources:

RAIINE: They advocate and have many resources to help you get into contact with the right places in your area for sexual violence, abuse, and incest.

https://www.rainn.org/

National Domestic Hotline: They also help with resources. How to make a plan for safety, exit plans, and much more. I advise anyone to look into all of the local agencies you can. There are many out there, sometimes it just takes going through some hoops. 

https://www.thehotline.org/

Song: Dollhouse:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HcVv9R1ZR84

Raya's Socials:

Tik Tok:

https://www.tiktok.com/@thefcknicequeen

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thefcknicequeen/

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

Keep walking friend.

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we discuss the concept of acceptance.

Accepting the fact that we won't ever have the family we wanted and certainly don't plan on welcoming back the toxic family we were given.

Where does that leave us? Do we stay in a place of sadness, bitterness...I hope not!

This episode takes a morbid turn as we discuss the worst-case scenario and about how we think we will feel when the family member we have been estranged from dies.

*Resources:

The story: "Acceptance and Happiness"

https://medium.com/@chinmaysy/the-alchemy-of-acceptance-4c279b3b1300

Information on reactive abuse:

https://nationallegalservice.co.uk/what-is-reactive-abuse/

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On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast we talk about all of the emotions that go with celebrating birthdays and holidays while being no contact with toxic family.

The feels:

*disappointment

*rejection

*relief

*shock

I just celebrated my birthday and another holiday with radio silence from my toxic family. I should be happy that they are respecting my boundaries, right? Yay to more peace and freedom!!!

Ok, so why was I a little shocked and sad that I literally just don't exist in their eyes anymore. Meep.

Welcome to the ups and downs of no contact, right? We will get through this friend; we are not alone and refuse to look back and break this peace we got going!

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