Character Outs

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we discuss the conundrum of recognizing that life with our narcissistic mom or dad wasn't ALL bad! sigh...

We talk about how to handle the emotions of the occasional warm memory that pops into our minds.

On this no contact journey, we know that these warm memories of our family can pop into our heads when we least expect it. And guess what, it is totally normal.

We also know that when this happens, the next step for us is NOT to pick up the phone and reconcile just because we have a warm memory and may be missing them.

But what do we do?!

Join me as we talk through it.

Resources: 'It Didn't Start With You.' Mark Wolynn

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=it+didn%27t+start+with+you&crid=2ZESSP3YOLK5C&sprefix=it+didnt+start+%2Caps%2C7419&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_15

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I chat with Laura Bytheway (yes, that is her real last name!)

This girl...she is a coach, mom of three and host of the podcast: The Post-Narc Life with Laura Bytheway. She offers some fresh and beautiful insight and validation. She gives a beautiful approach to healing and redeeming the trauma that the toxic family member in your life has inflicted.

We hash relationships and the crap in our purses due to being raised in a toxic family.

Laura lost her narcissistic mother to suicide almost three years ago and shares her story of redemption, healing and growth during that dark time in her life.

She also shares some unique ways to cope and heal that will blow your mind!

Laura is refreshing, raw and honest and wait til you hear what she wants to shout from the rooftops about breaking free from the narcissist in your life.

Thank you, Laura! Until we raise our ginger ale glasses in 2025! :)

*If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts or ideations, please do not be afraid or ashamed to get help. You are not alone and your presence here in this world is needed and wanted friend. Help is available 24/7: 988.

Want to connect with Laura? Follow her on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/laurabytheway/

Check out her podcast: The Post-Narc Life with Laura Bytheway:

https://open.spotify.com/show/2xkIlU8cJq7Iuab4qYxL2C?si=1a658d66311e4bba

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Struggling? Need to vent? Want to be a guest on the podcast? I would love to hear from you.

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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, it never has been, and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about SIX things that we are going to embrace in the new year!

1. we are no longer going to feel guilty that we walked away from our toxic family.

2. we are going to lean into every emotion associated with going, being and staying no contact with our toxic family.

3. we are going to talk to ourselves like we are our best friend! (we can be so mean to ourselves!)

4. we are not going to entertain conversations with anyone where we feel like we are in a defensive posture because of our choice to stay away from our toxic family.

5. we are going to lean into self-care because I don't care what our narcissistic mothers told us: it is NOT selfish!

6. we are going to embrace our true selves. what we like and what we don't like, apart from the influence of our toxic family.

*Credit to Lindsey Gurk for the leaf analogy:

https://www.instagram.com/lindseygurk/

In case no one has told you lately, it is not you, never has been and you are not alone.

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Happy New Year friends!

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I am pleased to bring to you all of YOUR responses from our Instagram poll:

What new holiday traditions have you embraced since going no contact with your toxic family?

You guys delivered!

The inspirational, encouraging and amazing responses blew me away and I am so excited to share them with you.

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

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Merry Christmas friends..love all of you.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I chat with Raven Scott. Spiritual mentor, author and host of the Empath and the Narcissist podcast. Raven shares her story of awakening and departure from her narcissistic ex-husband, her healing journey and some brilliant ways we can embrace this holiday season while being no contact with toxic family.

You will love getting to know Raven as she openly shares her past and current struggles with the narcissists in her life. She has a beautiful perspective on people and how we can set boundaries, all while knowing our worth and not allowing their toxicity to infiltrate our peace.

Find Raven's books, podcast and plethora of resources about healing and narcissism here:

https://ravenscott.show/home/podcast/season-6

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Have a question? Need to vent? Want to share your story with me on the podcast? Email me at:

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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I have the privilege of sitting down with the sweetest of souls, Christie Hays.

Christie is a therapist, turned women's empowerment life coach who is on a mission to empower every woman who has come from a toxic family system remind her that she is not alone.

Christy was the victim of sexual abuse at a very young age. When Christy finally gained the courage to share her story, her narcissistic mother and enabling father, shamed her and implored her that she must stay silent for the sake of the family name.

Christie did not stay silent. In fact, she is now sharing her story of survival and hope.

She also offers insight and tips as to how we can navigate the holiday season being no contact with toxic family, and her raw and honest response if you are thinking about reaching out for the sake of Christmas.

Follow her on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/toxic_mother_recovery/

If you would like to join her Facebook community for encouragement and laughs, click below:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toxicmotherrecovery

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In case no one has told you lately: it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I talk about:

when

they

call

Yea..when the narcissist who has discarded you decides to pop back into your life.

Oh the emotions.

Join me as I walk through how I handled a recent phone call from my covert narcissistic mother who discarded me almost 4 years ago and now.....I get a phone call.

Bitch please.

But also..ugh...

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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I have a raw and honest conversation with my husband.

I feel like when we are raised in a toxic home, and especially, by a narcissistic mother, we have learned so many toxic ways that we look at life and deal with situations.

Good news is, we have control over these responses. And unlike our narcissistic mothers, the ability to reflect and grow. Who wants to stay stuck in the toxic that we came from, certainly not me.

Our marriage has had its ups and downs and while it does take two to tango, I certainly brought some deep programmed responses that were hindering my personal growth, as well as my relationship with my husband.

My husband will share some ways in which he has learned to navigate and deal with my trauma responses because let's face it....I was simply transposing my pain onto him.

All that to say, we are desperate to be nothing like our toxic families or our narcissistic mothers, and sometimes, it takes those that we love to help us rewire our brains and our hearts. And for me, teach me that not everyone who says they love you...leaves.

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I talk about...

Thanksgiving

I revisit my first Thanksgiving after being kicked out of the house by my narcissistic mother.

I discuss how we can navigate the emotions of sadness during this holiday.

But most of all, this episode is brought to you by members of the Instagram community.

I wrote a post asking what YOU are most thankful for since having gone no contact with toxic family and I will read what everyone has shared.

It is so important to focus on the good that surrounds us, instead of grieving the holiday that we thought we should have.

Let's create a new tradition, let's stay focused on the path ahead.

Thank you for all of you who took the time to contribute to this episode, I am so thankful for this community and each and every one of you!

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

Join the fun over on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/characteroutspodcast/

I would love to hear from you, email me at

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I am honored to sit down with Dr. Sajad Vahedi.

Dr. Sajad is a coach who specializes in CBT & Schema Therapy. He helps his clients stop the toxic relationship cycle and build healthy intimate relationships. And the way in which he goes about the process is fascinating.

For us who come from a toxic family and were raised by a narcissistic mother, he offers insight to ways we can heal from the trauma we sustained as children and carry with us as adults How? By going right back to where it all began, our childhood.

On this episode you will find validation and comfort in the conversation that we share. And no...he is not going to tell you that you need to go fix things with your toxic family. In fact, he offers a fresh approach to the term reconciliation.

Enjoy this video episode (Spotify) and this conversation with this brilliant and passionate man whose whole purpose is to help others break free of their traumatic past and begin building a healthy life.

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To learn more about Dr. Sajad, you can visit his website:

https://vahedisajad.wixsite.com/inlook/home

To schedule a call to speak with Dr. Sajad and discuss how he can help you, visit the link below. Be sure to mention PROMO CODE: 'TERRI2023' when booking to receive a free training document, as well as 15% off any coaching package.

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Incase no one has told you: it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.