Character Outs

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we talk about the good ol' apology.

Wait, you mean the kind I have to give?

No.

Ew.

Knock it off.

I am NOT here for that.

Omg, you feel that way about apologies too??

YES! WE CAN DO THIS!!!!

We grew up in a toxic family where an apology was:

~forced

~coerced

~weaponized

When in reality in a healthy and safe relationship an apology is:

~sincere

~genuine

~leads to both parties to being vulnerable

We talk about why we feel that ick associated with giving an apology and how we can get past it.

We got this...

On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast..

The bitch is BACK!

Oh, is it great to be behind the mic again!

On this episode, we talk about the multiverse.

NO, no...not in the Sci-Fi kinda way, but in the way it pertains to us on this no contact with toxic family.

The wonderings of:

*What would my life look like had I not had the childhood that I did.

*What would my life look like if my toxic family member could just be nice and loving (GASP!)

*What if our toxic family member could be present at milestone moments instead of being the absent ass holes that they actually are.

But all that matters is TODAY friend.

Join me in the multiverse, won't you?

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Song:

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Show:

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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about the haunting of our toxic family members that we have gone no contact with.

Ok, ok..I'm not talking about Ghostbusters shit. I'm talking about when we see, smell or hear something that reminds us of our toxic family.

Let's face it, we went no contact, but they are still a part of our past and our memories.

So...what should we do when they haunt. We will talk all about it.

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I have the honor of chatting with this beautiful light in the world, Founder & CEO of Beautiful Disaster Clothing, Christina DuVarney.

ENJOY!!!

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*Think & Grow Rich Book:

*Think & Grow Rich Workbook: 

*Three Feet From Gold:

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On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we talk about the shrinking circle.

Ya know, when you have the bittersweet superpower of seeing:

~manipulation

~passive aggressive behavior

~gas lighting

~crazy making

And....you want to run but you can't because:

~you would be a bitch

~you've been friends with that person forever

~you would be like your toxic family

NO!

On this episode I am on a mission to change the societal perception that having ALLL the friends in the world defines you as a 'good person' and not allowing toxic friends to have access to you makes you a bitch.

I like to consider myself an exclusive club and no, I do not allow a lot of people in. But I am tired of making apologies for my boundaries and standards and keeping toxic people in my life because it's the right and nice thing to do.

We have let go of our toxic families and we are growing and evolving. Not everyone will be able to keep up and...that's OK!

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about that good ol' phrase I ask myself over and over...

Am I the problem?

Sigh....

That phrase used to haunt me.

Yes, it USED to haunt me.

Not that I feel I have achieved perfection (hell nah.)

I have just refused to comply to the balls of toxicity thrown at me anymore.

Things like...

'Oh, your family doesn't talk to you? YOU must be the problem.'

or

'Oh, your entire family has a problem with you? You must be the common denominator.'

We talk about how to NOT allow these things to bother us anymore cus let's be honest, we are critical enough on ourselves for the entire population, am I right?

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I chat with Cody who is not only intelligent and insightful, but also a really cool, down to earth dude.

He brings a fascinating perspective to how trauma impacts our mind and our body and how we can get to a place of becoming a 'human doing' and not just a 'human being.'

Cody is a seasoned entrepreneur at the forefront of AI and Mental Health. Armed with a degree in Cognitive Behavioral Neuroscience and trained in IFS Psychotherapy, he is the Founder & CEO of Mind, Brain, Body Lab. This groundbreaking Mental Health AI company specializes in treating Complex PTSD using AI/ML algorithms to analyze biometric and behavioral data.

Committed to bridging the gap between AI and human experience, Cody also heads MyCompanion, a Public Benefit Corporation providing a free, 24/7 conversational AI companion for healing Complex PTSD.

Cody disseminates daily Neuroscience and Psychology tools to improve mental and emotional health post-trauma. His mission is to help one billion people to find happiness and purpose in their lives.

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https://www.mindbrainbodylab.com/

In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about SOME of the fucked-up things that we normalized while we were still in the trenches with our toxic family. Cus let's be honest, I could commit HOURS if we discussed all of the every single thing that we normalized, am I right?

But....those days are over, so now what?

We are also going to talk about what we need to start normalizing now that we are no contact. And sometimes, that leaves us holding our ground (but also doubting ourselves) losing toxic people (but also blaming ourselves) feeling guilty for speaking our needs and truth (cus ya know, I would be a not nice girl if I did that)

AHHHHHH!! I am VERY passionate about this topic you guys.

Know your worth and don't take any shit, we talk about it on this episode.

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

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Join me as I chat with Danu Morrigan. She is the daughter of a narcissistic mother and the author of five books on the topic of daughters and narcissistic mothers.

*'You're not crazy-it's Your Mother'

*'Dear Daughter of a Narcissistic Mother'

*'Notes From Your Inner Mother'

*'How to go No Contact'

*'Become a Boundaries Badass'

She is also the founder of the wildly successful website:

https://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/

It is a wonderful hub of information no matter where you are on your journey. Be sure to check it out to learn more about Danu, order her books and even take a quiz to see if your mother is narcissistic.

She strives to give understanding, information, and validation to other daughters of narcissistic mothers.

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

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On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast, I dive into the muddy waters of...boundaries.

Does that body of boundary water feel like the Dead Sea to you? Yea, same.

How about as you are in the process of even THINKING about making a boundary you hear your narcissistic mother whisper: 'You are making this boundary because you are a spiteful bitch.'

UGHHHH!!! NO!

Do you struggle with setting boundaries?

I got you.

This week I had some epiphanies about boundaries that I am so excited to talk about.

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.