30-year-old settling is subtle. Often only you know. Or your friends know, but love you too much to tell you this is not the best you can do. 30-year-old settling is not fully committing to mediocre, but sort of embracing it. Now, I understand that sometimes you just don’t have the fight in you, and good enough is well… good! But for those of you who want excellent, I have some tips to keep you going for when you just want to give up and settle.

This week we discuss boundaries. I thought this was a great topic to dive into because it’s one of those topics that you have to constantly reflect on and readjust. In this episode, I will provide a couple of gentle guidelines that will help you get started with enacting strong boundaries.

How do you own your life, accept it, and even go so far as to find pleasure and joy in it? In this episode, I provide tools for you to own your life. 

A while ago I wrote a tweet that stated, “Girls, please be self-absorbed. I beg of you. It saves you from a lot of pain & heartbreak.” I had many women retweet, share on Instagram, and message me agreeing but asking how? In this episode, I will break down the contours of a self-centered life and by the end, you should have a full picture of what that looks like for you

Fear is a powerful force. It is a response that warns or protects you from danger. Basically, its sole purpose is to help you survive. Fear is something we are supposed to have and it is extremely helpful. However, when exhausted and perverted, fear can be the very thing that stops you from enjoying life. In this episode, we will discuss methods to attack and confront fear. 

This episode is for people who struggle with trusting themselves after a difficult breakup. Those folks who experience a traumatic heartbreak and decide to forego vulnerability because they suspect it is the cause of their immense pain. It is for the children of terrible caretakers, who weren't afforded the space to be vulnerable and loved unconditionally. It is hard to be vulnerable when this is your foundation. So, you have to do like you do everything else, plan for it. This episode is for the people who hate being vulnerable, don't know how to be vulnerable, and folks who are struggling with vulnerability. I teach you how to break down vulnerability so that you can trust that you will be able to do it and safely.  

So many of us fail, but we don’t openly talk about it due to shame and embarrassment. A failure can have your stomach in knots. It can zap your energy and have you in a sunken place where you ask yourself “Why bother?” So, the question begs to be asked how do you get up when you have no life force? In this episode, I hope to give you some strategies so that you can gain the energy back to be yourself or to be a better version of yourself.

In this episode, we discuss the topic of Carefrontation. We discuss its definition. When to use it and why to use it...

Carefrontation is another way to understand confrontation. It is from a place of love. You love yourself so much that with every interaction and space you enter in, you notify those around you of how you want to be treated.

When we learn about the power of no, we often do so by having it removed from us. We are either told it is unladylike to say no (aka boys won’t like you), or we are abused by the people closest to us and feel as if we have no choice (aka do this to keep the family functioning). As a result, we go along with things we hate. Date people we don’t like. Develop no boundaries and allow people to impede on the things we need. In this episode, we will address some of these fears, teach you what no is and the cost of not saying no, and finally, we will go over strategies on how to say no or phrases that will help get you there.

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Are you hiding who you are because you think people will not like you? Do you think the mask you put on is more likable? Why do you think that? Why do you think you are not worthy of being seen? Why must you wear a mask to be liked, cared for, or interested? This episode discusses the benefits of living an authentic life and the tools to take you there. 

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