Choose YOU! Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

We’re Talking About:

Why it feels like narcissists give everyone else kindness, attention, and warmth — but not you — and what’s really going on beneath that dynamic.

If you feel like you’re reaching the end of your rope, call the 24-hr National Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. In an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

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We’re Talking About:

The real differences between regular toxic behavior, pathological narcissism, and narcissistic abuse

If you feel like you’re reaching the end of your rope, call the 24-hr National Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. In an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

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We're Talking About:

I’ll give you some coping strategies to help survive COVID 19 lock down while living with a narcissist or other toxic people

Tools & Resources from This Episode:

* Boundaries cheat sheet: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12700/

* No Contact guide https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12709/

* Free workout list https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12712/

* Quarantine schedule https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12715/

National Domestic Violence Hotline

* Website https://www.thehotline.org/help/

* Phone: 1-800-799-7233

* Chat: https://www.thehotline.org/what-is-live-chat/

* My Plan App: https://www.myplanapp.org/home

If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

https://carmensakurai.com

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We're Talking About:

* Strategies to help survive the COVID 19 self isolation, while taking care of your mental and emotional health.

Tools & Resources from This Episode:

* Boundaries cheat sheet: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12700/

* No Contact guide: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12709/

* Free workout list https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12712/

* Quarantine schedule https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12715/

If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

https://carmensakurai.com/video-coach

📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

https://carmensakurai.com/

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We're Talking About:

* I'm frequently asked by survivors if instead of going no contact, they should try and understand the hows and whys the narcissist in their life became that way... and if they should stick around to give the narcissist the love, compassion, and patience they seem to lack in their lives.

Tools & Resources from This Episode:

* Subscribe to the Free Survivors Support Email List

If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

https://carmensakurai.com/video-coach

📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

https://carmensakurai.com

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Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

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We're Talking About:

* I will be addressing some important issues regarding victim shaming and victim blaming, and how those who are not familiar with NPD abuse inadvertently re-traumatize survivors.

* 4 Victim Shaming False Beliefs

* And more…

Tools & Resources from This Episode:

* Subscribe to the Free Survivors Support Email List

If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice

📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

https://carmensakurai.com

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Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

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We're Talking About:

* Quick review of what Cognitive Dissonance is

* 8 of the most common damages caused by narcissists

* 12 common characteristics of NPD abuse victims

* ... and more

Tools & Resources from This Episode:

* Grab Your Worksheet

THIS WORKSHEET INCLUDES…

* Damages Caused by Narcissists

* Common Characteristics of Victims of Narcissistic Abuse

* A Printout to Remind You that YOU are the Source of Your Love, Strength, and Identity… not the narc.

* Carmen’s 20-Month Long Distance Relationship with a Narcissist

If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice

📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

https://carmensakurai.com

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Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

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We're Talking About:

* I'll be covering some strategies to help working with a narcissist more productive and tolerable

* What a narcissistic boss or coworker looks like

* 10 tips to help make working with a narcissist more productive and tolerable

* When you should call it "quits"

* ... and more

If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice

📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

https://carmensakurai.com

💌 Was this Show Helpful?

Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

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Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

We're Talking About:

* A mother's role in shaping us as individuals and how we fit into the world.

* 9 ways narcissistic mothers abuse their children - with explanations and stories from survivors.

In this episode, I’ll be talking about narcissistic mothers and emotional abuse, and I’ll also be mentioning sexual assault in some of the client accounts.

While validation is both reassuring and empowering, some of these stories may trigger thoughts and emotions from past events in your own life. Please listen at your own pace and pause or skip parts if you need to.

NOTE: The assistance of a professional and knowledgeable therapist, counselor, or coach to help you effectively progress through your healing and recovery... especially if you are working through childhood trauma, is strongly advised.

If you feel like you’re reaching the end of your rope, call the 24-hr National Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. In an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

📚 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

https://carmensakurai.com

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Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

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https://chooseyou.substack.com/p/choose-you-11-the-narcissistic-mother-e26

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Music: Dreaming by Silicon Estate 🤍

We're Talking About:

* Can things ever go back to the way they used to be?

* Can You Fix a Narcissist? Can they change for the better? With therapy? Or more love?

* Does the narcissist miss me after breakup?

If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching

Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!

https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice

📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources

After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

https://carmensakurai.com

💌 Was this Show Helpful?

Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!

Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today!

Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe