Clarity Cafe Podcast

Fam, we are gonna have ourselves a little sip of sunshine on the topic of modeling boundaries this week. In this convo, we are going to focus on how to become aware of and reset our internal dialogs about boundaries, and re-parent our inner child to help create, improve and repair boundaries to be more kind and loving to ourselves. So sound sh*t off with us right here, and let's do it in a gentle loving way that doesn't leave you with a feeling of deprivation or that you haven't been as good to yourself as you could have been when creating some new boundaries in your life!

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Get ready because this is a real feel good episode, Clarity Fam. We’ll all leave this one patting ourselves on the back because we are gonna hit home on how to do a better job of acknowledging all the amazing things we do in our lives! Yup, we talk about breaking down that “ugh…nothing I did went right today” attitude and flipping it on its head.  

The goal of this little nugget of clarity is to encourage us all to show ourselves the appreciation and love that we so deserve on the daily!

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This week at Clarity Cafe we are helping take the effort out of decision making! Barb and Cali unpack different types of decisions that crop up in our lives and offer some useful guidance on how to get ahead of little decisions so we can save room to focus on the big ones. This cathartic episode provides some relief for anyone getting overwhelmed with all the decisions that might be piling up on their plate! It’s jam packed with useful advice on how not to sweat the small decisions and help us move through them more efficiently. Soon enough we free up more time to really focus on the big decisions in life! So make the decision to listen to this episode today and stop sweating the small stuff.

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Wow Fam! It's Season 4 already and we have a doozy of an episode to kick things off for y’all. This week starts the year off right as we chat about how we can all cultivate a brand new mindset for the new year! In a nutshell, it's all about knowing what voices we let dominate in our heads then inviting different perspectives, new ideas and fresh conversations into your life to open up your mindset!  As always we encourage you to take what works for you and leave what doesn't so that you can curate the most diverse, rich and bubbling beauty of a life for 2022 and beyond. Let’s get to it fam! This is our year :)

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Have you ever thought about which voice in your mind you give the microphone to? We all have a cacophony of voices in our brain fighting to be heard and acknowledged, but have you ever wondered which ones are the most dominant? Is it that 5-year-old who’s loud and opinionated, but maybe lacks the perspective of someone older and more experienced? Is your inner skeptic’s volume turned up to 11? In the season three finale episode of Clarity Cafe, Barb and Cali discuss how we can all learn and practice curating the voices in our head in order to raise the volume on the more positive ones, and quiet the ones that amplify our self-doubt, anxiety, and so on. This is a super juicy and helpful episode for anyone who wants to cultivate an inner voice that serves them better.

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In this episode, Cali and Barb chat about what it means to be a good listener, and then they dive into ways to improve our listening skills. Spoiler alert! The first step involves learning how to truly listen to ourselves. Underneath all of the static and noise of our busy minds are our true thoughts and feelings. Once we learn how to listen to that quiet part of our brain, we can then listen more profoundly to others. And by listening, they mean listening without feeling the need to react or respond. The result is a conversation where both you and your loved one feels safe and heard.

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Many of us tell each other how terrible we are at saying goodbye. We avoid it. We rush through it. We choke down any emotions that begin to gurgle up. But why? Why are we so bad as a society at saying goodbye? And how can we more directly honor that ending moment—whether it’s a great neighbor who’s moving away, our last day at a job, or a relationship that we know is ready to end. In this episode, Cali and Barb navigate through the different scenarios, illuminating ways for us to more directly (and with greater clarity) say our goodbyes.  

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Your friend has a problem. A real problem. And you’ve gone through the exact same thing! Every single cell in your body wants to tell them what they should do, how they should handle it, and how they can avoid the mistakes you made. After all, they’re your friend and you want to help. The intention is sooo good. But… and there is a but… sometimes you need to let people go through things their own way. Everyone needs to learn their own life lessons in whatever way is unique to them and their experiences. That instinct to dive in and immerse your loved one in what you believe is the answer to their problems is lovely. However, sometimes the best way you can support someone is by listening with neutrality, asking permission before sharing your similar situation, and then allowing them to take responsibility for their own choices. Sound impossible? It’s not! Listen in and find out how you can do it! 

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Are making decisions challenging for you? Even for those of us who consider ourselves to be swift decision makers, sometimes we stall out on a particular choice due to anxiety, confusion, and stress. In this episode, Barb and Cali guide us through ways to get some perspective on why making some decisions leave us so rattled. If we can take a step back and take the time to break down each aspect of an upcoming choice, we can get some much needed clarity on what’s truly driving the stress we’re feeling over making the decision. It can be stress about other people, stress over not having all of the answers yet, of the unknown, or even the fear of failure. So listen in and learn how to separate out all of these compounding forces so you can take the weight off your mind and begin making stress-free decisions. 

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Everyone has their own style of communication. For some who have been diagnosed with ADHD, like Cali herself, communication—externally and internally—does not follow social norms. Many of us have a one-lane mental highway when we communicate, allowing us to open a topic, discuss it, and then close it out before we jump into an entirely new subject. Cali’s brain however, usually has something more akin to a six-lane highway. Each road has its own topic, goes in its own direction, and may be just as important as the other five topics. With such a divergent way of communicating, how can we be sure to still have productive, effective, and supportive conversations? Listen in and find out!

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