Clearly Off Topic

Declining Birthrate theory and discussion:

This conversation style show is a new thing that we are trying. 

Today we sat down with Joel Hebert and Dan Beam, our husbands, to discuss a topic that we all have differing opinions on. We want to open this discussion to you and see what you think!

The discussion starts with this article from the NY Times:

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/17/us/us-birthrate-decrease.html

“The United States’ birthrate fell for a fourth consecutive year in 2018, bringing the number of people born in the country to its lowest level in 32 years, according to provisional figures published on Wednesday by the federal government. It said the fertility rate in the United States also fell to a record low.”

- Written by Liam Stack NY Times

Juliet has a theory that Social Media is partly to blame. What do you think? Share your thought on our Facebook page or anywhere on social media.

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Humanist or Feminist? Which term is right?

Feminism: the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.

Humanist: an advocate or follower of the principles of humanism.

Mansplaining: the explanation of something by a man, typically to a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing.

We go through how we deal with these specific terms in our work and social life. Women have strengths and men have strengths. But just because one person has strengths in a different space than you, doesn’t mean you can’t work together. What does feminism mean to you? How do you deal with these issues on a day-to-day basis.

How can we both adjust as sexes to work better together? That’s what we discuss today!Feminist or Humanist?

Episode 31:

Conquer your Inner Power

Today we are joined by the founder and creator of Ujjayi, Esther Levy

But first, what are you grateful for?

Today we sat down to talk with Ester about her yoga and lifestyle brand Ujjayi. We thought we were going to be talking about deodorant, but boy were we wrong. Ester is a master of many trades. She has lived all over the world. She has 5 kids and to top it all off, she wrote a book called Interior Designer, which is less about homes and more about the fact that your body is your first home, and how to nurture it properly. And can I just say wow, what a conversation.

From living in London with a family of a husband and 5 children, to finding and conquering her inner power be realizing what actually made her happy she has been through it all! From interior designer, to party planner to business owner Esther shared her unique life experience with us and you! Her story is not only a battle with stress and everyday life, but also with figuring out her why.  

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Welcome back family!

Lindsay is back form the dust of Burning Man and we are very grateful today! What are you grateful for?

Today we discuss something that Juliet and Lindsay both knew nothing about until a recent tragedy in Lindsay's world. Ella, Lindsay's dog, suffered heart failure due to feeding her dog a grain free diet. Listen in to hear more, its heartbreaking but Ella is on the mend. We just want everyone to know what happened because it CAN be avoided! 

Now.... on to the actual content of the episode...

The GLAD Method. 

Do you get looping unstoppable thoughts? Do you have one bad thought and it turns into a whirlwind of things that could or may go wrong? Well, we suffer from this a lot. 

We are so happy to have found the GLAD method to help combat these looping and negative thoughts.

G: What are you grateful for today ( ooooh our favorite)

L: What did you learn today?

A:What is one thing you accomplished today

D: What has delighted you today.

The G.L.A.D. technique helps you focus on what's going right, not what's wrong or disappointing. This techniques is an acronym for ways of finding joy and balance by paying attention to the life around you in a more positive and self-aware way.

By asking yourself these questions you are able to remove those looping negative thoughts and replace them with something good. 

Let us know if you have other methods for looping or negative thoughts! We are always looking for more ways to combat negativity!

As always, we love you and thank you for supporting us and this podcast!

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Friends! What are you grateful for today?

Today Lindsay is grateful for the ridiculous things that Juliet thinks about on a regular day. This woman is so strangely introspective we decided to share some of her random thoughts that she takes notes on during her normal day-to-day. 

This is more of a get to know us episode so we hope you enjoy!

Love you all! 

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No More Hate!

Excited to be back this week!!

Lindsay talks about her recent issue with laser hair removal. It’s annoying and made us a little sad.  We also talked about a frustrating issue with Juliet’s Phone. Sometimes we complain too family!

Gratefulness!! What are we grateful for today?

NO MORE HATE:

Why do we have hate in this world? Where is it created and why does it seem to be everywhere we look? Does hate some from fear or being uneducated?

For us we see hate as a way to push someone else down in order to feel like you are higher or better than them. By squashing down your peers you can feel as though you are better than everyone else. But is that real? The answer is no!

We have both experienced hate in our lives and it never feels good to have someone hate you.

What’s the purpose? Is it a reaction to something we have seen or heard about?

Theory: Hate is just misdirected frustration.

So we understand reactionary hatefulness- but how do we just decide that we just “don’t like x,y, or z”

Hate makes us sad. Have compassion for your neighbor. Show love to the person in front of you in traffic. Just spread love, not hate! That’s all we ask

Lets try something: Let's try to replace the word HATE in our vocabulary.

Thanks for listening <3

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Lindsay's road to Burning Man!

We forgot gratefulness until the end… Sorry folks! Make sure to listen ALL the way to the end to hear what we are grateful for today!

August is Lindsay’s favorite month of the year! Why is that? Because she is planning and preparing for Burning Man.

What is Burning Man??

Burning Man is a city built entirely by its inhabitants in Black Rock City, Nevada.

Located about an hour and a half outside of Reno!

Burning Man is a "no rules zone" even though there are in fact many rules but we like to focus on other things.  We focus and maintain the community by following these 10 simple guidelines.

10 Principles:

Radical Inclusion

Gifting

Radical Self-reliance

Decommodification

Radical Self-expression

Communal Effort

Civic Responsibility

Leaving NO Trace

Participation

Immediacy

Segment: What are you grateful for? 

Our Spirit Animal Journey with Dani Berling

Place: Two Bunch Palms - June 2018

Juliet, Lindsay, Alyssa

Lindsay: I wanted to be a bird but i was a grazing animal instead 

Was convinced she was a hawk….Ok….

Why we were there?

Steps of the ceremony

We each of our experiences going into the trance

Juliet was a Trout!

Trout - Rainbow trout swims into your life if you are feeling over run by emotions.  Right now, with all of the Earth energy moving around and realigning, we are feeling emotional and often slightly depressed.

Trout tells us that life is good, and it is about swimming against the current to stay alive and keep the species going.  

This is the element of mystery and creativity. The fish spirit animal plays an important role in your subconscious. It helps you to make powerful decisions that affect your waking life in a very positive way. According to ancient Indian beliefs, the god Vishnu changed the world in order to save humanity when there was a mighty flood.

This means that the fish presence in your life stands for salvation. You have the power to save yourself from the excesses that surround you. Also, you don’t think twice about saving your community when it faces danger. People know that they can rely on you to help them in their hours of need. They have not simply a strong affinity for water, but need to connect with living water regularly for their well-being. If you have a Fish Totem it’s likely that you strive to develop your spirit and your mind. You may have prophetic dreams or intricately correct gut instincts.

Lindsay was a Deer: 

Deer Spirit Animal Meaning:If the deer spirit animal crosses your path, this only means that you are a gentle, compassionate, and loving person. The deer symbolism can help you address any challenging situation or problem you may have in your life. Your deer spirit animal teaches you to be gentle, and to always choose peace and kindness toward yourself and others!

Spirit animals change throughout your life - you create a totem as you move through life.

Isnt that so cool!?

Our friend Alyssa’s animal was also a deer- WEIRD!! 

The girl across the table was a fox and she and Juliet saw each other in their trances.

This experience was followed by the most wonderful night sleep before the bachelorette continued in Palm Springs! 

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What are YOU grateful for?

Today we share a new way we are going to being each and every podcast. Talking about what we are grateful for. 

Gratefulness has been a part of our journey to become better humans and we want to share this journey with you! Let us know what you are grateful for today!

Our Topic today is all about building respect to create strong relationships:

Trust: Accepting each others word and giving the benefit of doubt

Cooperation: Asking but not expecting, Accepting change and making decisions together

Support: Supporting each others choices, being understanding and offering encouragement

Honesty: This one is pretty clear, right?

Safety: Refusing to intimidate or manipulate, respecting physical space and expressing self non-violently

Accountability: Admitting mistakes, accepting responsibility for behaviors and attitudes.

All of these create our favorite tip which is RESPECT!

Today we talk about Healthy Habits, but first.... some info on an AWESOME event we were invited to!

We were invited to the Summer Kick-off Party at the Hollywood bowl and the LA Phil. 

Check out more here: https://youtu.be/abPsjqFg2YM

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ITS NATIONAL TEQUILA DAY and SELF CARE DAY!!! Do these two go hand in hand? We think so ;) 

Healthy Habits:

1. Washing your face with ONLY water first thing in the AM

2. WATER WATER WATER- Drink all the water. 

3. Washing your hair less! We adopt the 2-3 times per week method! Buy some Dry Shampoo and do it!

4. Collagen and Vitamins! What do we use? Vital Proteins Collagen Peptides and Ritual Vitamins

5. Eat what your body needs and loves! Good food creates energy and good digestion. Figure out what works for you!

6. Adding Vitamin c to our skin care!! Sunday Riley CEO and The Ordinary Rose Hip Oil

7. Repeating names when you meet someone new

8. Creating a routine: Morning, night, whenever... just get a routine! Make your bed every day- easy peasy

9. Shopping with only cash! Budgeting with cash Its called the Envelope method and it works!

10. Gratitude EVERYDAY! The Positive Shift

11. Turn jealousy into inspiration! 

12.  Writing Thank you Notes!!! 

13. Going to bed at the same time each night! 

14. MOVE YOUR BODY -- like everyday and anyway possible. TAKE THE STAIRS, Stretch! Move your leggings around. Juliet has an aggressive way of getting her movement in haha

But what can WE do better? 

Learning to say no- Lindsay is baddd at this one (sorry fam i LOVE SAYING YES)

READ MORE- stop making excuses!

One thing at a time