Are you feeling unappreciated at work?

Longing for the freedom to set your own schedule?

Or are you a coach who feels pressure to go full time so you can be a "serious" entrepreneur?

If you answered any of the above, this episode is for you!

Today, I'm going to walk through exactly how and when to quit your job.

Spoiler alert: if you're desperate to get out, finding a new job may not solve the problem. You may benefit from doing some thought work and self coaching first.

In this episode, I'll share:

• My own story as an entrepreneur who is also still working in my corporate job part time.
• Why changing jobs may not actually solve the problem.
• Common thoughts about work that sabotage our happiness.
• Why our brain focuses so hard on the negative — with work and all areas of life.
• How to start thinking new thoughts about work, plus some thoughts that really changed my outlook on my current job.
• How to leave your job (or relationship, town, volunteer gig, etc.) from a place of power.

Resources mentioned:

• Sign up for Sarah's emails (and get Soul Surfing Challenge alerts!)
• Sarah's donation-based breathwork Meetup
• Human design info
• Brooke Castillo on deciding to leave

Contact Sarah:

• Email [email protected]
• Message me on Instagram

If everything in your life is going wrong or sideways at once, you might be experiencing ... THE CRUMBLING.

It can hurt like hell. It might feel like a personal attack from the universe — or even a spiritual death.

But I want you to know that THE CRUMBLING really is here for your growth and expansion.

When you're preparing to move to a new level, everything unaligned must go. And that includes job, relationships, thoughts, beliefs, and outdated programming.

All that stuff needs burn down in order to make room for what wants to come to you next.

In this week's podcast episode, I'll share:

• My own recent crumbling story (welcome to the Great Crumbling of 2023!)
• My best guess about why this is all happening and what it means for me in 2024.
• Some of the ways I'm handling it well — and not so well. (Vulnerability alert.)
• Tips for how to navigate your own crumbling and emerge stronger on the other side.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

• Work Your Light Oracle Deck
• Sarah's Instagram
• Sarah's Donation-Based Breathwork Group
• Sarah's 1:1 Coaching Page

My mom will tell you I was an easy, sunny, sweet baby.

What she really means: I never expressed any needs that were inconvenient, embarrassing, or made demands on others.

And if I'm honest, it took me into my 40s to really start taking my own needs seriously. (Better late than never!)

Being direct, setting boundaries, and telling people what I need are still wicked uncomfortable sometimes.

But you know what else is uncomfortable? Constant people pleasing. Making it easy for everyone else. Participating in my own disempowerment.

It's all still a work in progress. 

And every once in a while, the universe likes to throw me an opportunity to deepen my mastery in this area.

Like my recent vacation!

In this week's episode, I'll share:

• A vacation update (because I know you guys sometimes like hearing what's happening behind the scenes!)
• People pleasing tips from two of my favorite podcasts
• Some common myths about people pleasing that trip people up on their personal development journeys
• A simple, two-part test to help you decide if your urge to please comes from love — or crappy programming
• Some of the ways coaching has helped me grow from a people pleaser to a more empowered woman — and some of the areas I'm still working on

Resources Mentioned:

• Mastering Coaching Skills
• Breakthrough With Brig
• This One's for the Medicine
• Sarah's IG
• Sarah's Coaching Page
• Sarah's Free Breathwork Meetup

I totally wish that instead of trigonometry and other worthless stuff, my high school had offered classes like self leadership, emotional regulation, and especially ... stress management.

As a coach, I see a lot of stress. And here's the truth: most people feel helpless against it.

We experience too much too fast.

We have a lot of traumas (big and little T) that keep us disconnected from our bodies.

Because of that disconnect, we often don't even recognize stress until it's screwing up our health, relationships, jobs, and enjoyment of life.

Enough, I say!

This podcast episode is the stress class I wish I'd had in high school. We'll learn:

• What is stress?
• What's a stress collapse, and what are some signs you're on the verge of one?
• How to start reconnecting to your body in ways that feel safe
• Positive coping mechanisms
• My 5-step process for managing stress in a healthy way.

Resources Mentioned:

• Sarah's Spotify playlist of guided meditations

Common perfectionist beliefs (raise your hand if you can relate):

• I can't feel good unless I'm doing good
• People only value me when I am near perfect
• A mistake means I didn’t try hard enough

If you were like "hells yeah!" to any of the above, this week's episode is for you.

I'm going to share a rule a little about my own journey with perfectionism. (Oddly, it starts with spiders. Actually, it probably starts before that. But the spider part really sticks in my mind.)

I'll also share a rule I've implemented with myself that has brought a lot of grace and ease to my stressed out perfectionist life.

And then we'll explore some bonus tips about giving yourself grace when the shit REALLY hits the fan! Like you're moving your mom, fighting with your oven repair guy, and someone is shitting in your stairwell — all at the same time. (Actual true story! I'll tell it on the episode.)

Enjoy!

Resources Mentioned:

• The Adult Child's Guide to What's Normal

A few years ago, I took a 90-day break from alcohol that changed my life. 

You know what was the hardest part? The social events!

I was dating, so that felt super terrifying and vulnerable.

I traveled and stayed with family for a few days, which is always kind of stressful. (Not because they aren't lovely, but because my nervous system gets really jangled when I don't have my own space.)

I usually meet my friend at the same brewery to catch up, and we kept that tradition all through my break. 

I didn't have a work trip or a wedding during that time. But if I did, it would have felt like the final exam. The PhD defense.

So if you're taking a break from drinking (or cutting back or quitting), this episode is for you!

(In fact, you can use it for any behavioral change you're making that really challenges your brain.)

In this episode, I'm going to walk you through some tips to prepare you ahead of time for drinky social events where you plan to be dry.

And then I'll actually lead you through a self-hypnosis template you can use to practice being different in that situation (and also anticipate how awesome it's going to feel after).

Enjoy!

I've barely got words for what a fucking year it's been.

Long covid has been a wild ride. 

A shamanic initiation. 

A cracking open. 

A curriculum for my expansion. 

A burning down of everything that was out of alignment or in wrong relationship.

In this week's episode, I pull back the curtain and get juicy and vulnerable about:

• The ups and downs of this year.
• Let's talk treatments. What's helping and what's horse shit.
• My experiences with the medical community.
• How my thinking about relationships has changed.
• All the things I wish I had done differently.
• The 7 most awesome things I've learned so far on this path.

Resources Mentioned:

• Lauren Eliz Love
• Unconditionally cherished energy
• Sarah's Strava
• Sarah's Instagram
• #longcovidzombieclub on Instagram
• The Lady's Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness

Do you ever say cringeworthy things out loud?

Make the wrong decision?

Hurt people and regret it later?

If so, this episode is for you!

We live in a society where it isn't easy to make mistakes. There's a lot of judgement and blame flying around — not all of it justified.

It can make it hard to be a human who's evolving in real time — whether as a parent, professional, or partner.

But there's an antidote to the shame culture.

In today's episode, I share the self-restitution process. It's my favorite tool for taking away shame, strengthening wounded relationships, and growing through hurtful situations.

Enjoy!

Resources mentioned:

• Restitution website

Everything ends. Jobs. Relationships. Chapters of your life.

Even versions of YOU end. And new ones come online.

Sometimes change can feel amazing. (Let's burn away the old and make space for the new!)

And sometimes change is upsetting and destabilizing.

You might wonder if it means you're doing life wrong.

Society like to mess with our heads by holding up permanence as the ideal.

It's why 10-year job anniversaries and golden marriage anniversaries get celebrated. (Even if those jobs/marriages have been a total horror show for the people involved.)

It's easy to forget a fundamental truth: Nothing in life is supposed to be permanent.

Just knowing this can be a huge game changer.

It can free you to release relationships, jobs, places, chapters, and versions of yourself that are now complete so you can make room for what's next.

On this week's podcast episode, we dig into the "Myth of Permanence," how it messes with our heads, and how to counteract it and find freedom.

Resources Mentioned:

• Byron Katie's Website
• The Adult Child's Guide to What's Normal
• Amanda Basham's IG
• Sarah's IG
• Contact Sarah at [email protected]

Setting healthy boundaries is one of the best ways to practice energetic sovereignty and manage your nervous system.

So in this week’s podcast episode, I'm going to talk you through ...

🌟 What actually are boundaries?

🌟 When is it appropriate to set a boundary?

🌟 An exact script you can use to set that boundary.

🌟 Tips on holding a boundary.

🌟 How to make a request when a boundary isn't appropriate, but something is still bothering you.

Hope you'll find plenty of super actionable tools in here you can use today to reclaim your space, time, and energy.

Resources mentioned:

• Sarah's Instagram
• Email: [email protected]