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How to Navigate Conflict and Stop the Cycle of Petty Fights

As much as we want our relationships to be full of passion and connection, they can also be bogged down by repetitive, exhausting conflicts. In this dense yet insightful episode, we dive into the dynamics of how fights start, why some partners provoke or blindside you, and what you can do to handle conflict in a healthier way. Fighting over petty issues often leaves couples feeling drained, disconnected, and unsure of what they were even arguing about. Let’s unpack how to break that cycle and focus on building true intimacy.

The Root of Conflict: Repetition and Provocation

Most conflicts in relationships stem from repetitive actions or patterns—someone keeps doing something that bothers their partner, sometimes seemingly intentionally, without resolution. Some partners even unconsciously provoke fights to validate their own emotions, to make things "interesting" or gain control of the dynamic. Understanding this cause-and-effect loop is critical. Whether your partner is direct in their frustration or engages in 30 minutes of subtle bad behavior before finally blowing up, recognizing these patterns helps you respond with presence or confidence instead of defensiveness.

Why Vulnerability Is So Elusive

One of the biggest challenges in resolving conflict is that many people don’t know how to be vulnerable. Instead of opening up, they engage in psychological warfare, from blindsiding their partner with unrelated grievances to diving into text battles that escalate emotions without resolution. Your feelings are important and matter sure, but they don’t always need validation if they’re clouded by negativity or misinterpretation or are based in things that never happened. Healthy communication requires us to distinguish between intuitive insights and overreactions.

How to Navigate and De-escalate Fights

Defending yourself constantly and at every turn often escalates the situation instead of resolving it. Instead, put your attention on what’s working in your relationship rather than fixating on its shortcomings. That sounds so basic but it's extremely powerful and effective. Where is your attention?

But remember, you’re not obligated to tolerate bad behavior endlessly. Setting boundaries and not giving in to your pervasive desire to play the role of an armchair psychologist for your partner’s unchecked emotions is key to maintaining your own emotional well-being.

This episode is a masterclass in recognizing patterns, staying present, and disengaging from toxic cycles. It’s not about being infinitely patient but about creating space for accountability, understanding, and meaningful connection.

Ready to Come Closer?

Tune in now to learn how to approach conflict in a way that builds intimacy instead of tearing it down. For more tools on creating healthier relationships, visit Closeness.com.

Chapters:

0:00 Introduction

1:59 Conflict is usually the result of a repetitive action

3:20 Cause and effect

9:54 Some partners enjoy provoking you

11:10 Indirect vs direct: 20 minutes of bad behavior

24:02 Another 10 minutes of bad behavior

30:30 A logic based universe

32:30 When something parasitic occurs in the brain

37:22 No one actually knows how to be vulnerable today

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Grappling with Intimacy: A Closeness Client’s True Story

In this unprecedented episode, we step into the intimate world of a Closeness client as she candidly shares her struggles with intimacy and her desire for dominance and assertiveness in her relationship. Read by the podcast host, this two-part interview offers a unique listening experience—complete with a “director’s cut” featuring host commentary alongside the raw, unfiltered story.

The Struggles of Balancing Desire and Connection

The client’s experience sheds light on a universal challenge:  her yearning for a partner who can take charge in the bedroom and assert confidence in the relationship resonates with anyone who has ever craved deeper passion or clarity in their connection.

A Rare and Honest Perspective

The interview delves into themes of self-discovery, unmet expectations, and the often-overlooked dynamics of dominance in intimacy. With insightful commentary from the host, listeners gain a deeper understanding of how these desires play out in real-life relationships and what they can teach us about our own.

Does Her Story Resonate With You?

Whether you see yourself in her struggles or are curious about the dynamics of intimacy, this episode invites you to explore the deeper layers of connection and desire. Tune in for an honest, thought-provoking look at the challenges and triumphs of balancing assertiveness, vulnerability, and intimacy.

Ready to Come Closer?

Discover the raw truths of intimacy and learn how to create deeper, more fulfilling relationships by visiting Closeness.com. Let’s get closer—one story at a time. 🌟

CHAPTERS:

0:00 Intro

2:15 The basis of this interview

6:04 The unedited interview begins at about 58 minutes

6:24 The interview begins

7:09 How long have you been together and what is working?

8:16 Fantasizing about dominance

8:42 How is your communication?

9:16 Some personal commentary

11:56 What are you struggling with in your relationship?

12:40 Discussion about women waiting for the action

14:52 She needs a dominant man

22:58 How can I help and what do you want to accomplish here?

29:40 Infidelity and frequency of sex

32:48 Expectations about sex

35:12 Who rejects who more and why?

38:59 Where would you like to see your partner be more of something

40:48 Her primal sexual experiences

44:40 My commentary

50:30 How a man can assert dominance in an attractive way to her

53:00 The importance of women speaking their minds in relationship

53:32 Her sexual kinks and interests

54:02 Do you climax regularly, even if not together?

54:16 She wants to learn how to be more feminine and eliminate masculine energy

58:34 FULL UNADULTERATED INTERVIEW

1:21:59 Outro

Feeling like roommates instead of lovers? You’re not alone. One of the biggest struggles in long-term relationships is when passion fades, intimacy stalls, and everything starts to feel stale. In this episode, we dive deep into why this happens and, more importantly, how to fix it. Whether you’re a man or a woman, you’ll learn immediate actionable strategies to reignite the spark and take the lead in moving intimacy forward—no waiting around.

Why Relationships Go Stale—and What to Do About It

Over time, couples can fall into patterns that kill sexual tension. Some couples have never had sexual tension to begin with. You sit separately on the sofa, treat each other like best friends, and stop being sexy with one another. Men often feel they need to constantly chase, while women hold back, waiting for something to happen.

But here’s the truth: keeping intimacy alive requires effort and playfulness from both partners. Women, you’re allowed to take the lead and show interest—there’s nothing wrong with initiating or being more receptive to your partner’s advances. Waiting and hoping can be a fools errand as you may already know if you've been doing this for years. 

Build Sexual Tension and Stop Being Predictable

If you don't know what sexual tension is you'll learn about it in this episode. Passion thrives on tension, mystery, and spontaneity. Stop playing it too “safe” or being overly sweet—there’s nothing sexy about predictability to most women. Instead, learn how to engage in sexually suggestive behavior. Show your partner you desire them with intentional body language, dirty talk, and flirtatiousness. Men, this doesn’t mean you have to “chase” endlessly; but confidently show her that you DESIRE her, without hesitation. And ladies, don’t be afraid to give clear signals—subtle cues often fly under the radar for most men

Keeping the Train Moving Forward

Reigniting intimacy is not about making one grand move and stopping there—it’s about momentum. You have to keep the train moving forward by building anticipation, staying engaged, and consistently showing up for your partner sexually and emotionally. Remember, sex and sexuality don’t just “happen” on their own; they require you to bring energy, creativity, and presence to the relationship. This likely means you will have to do 5-25 things in succession to get her going and turn her on. 

If you’re ready to stop waiting for things to change and start building the relationship you crave, this episode will show you how. From dirty talk and suggestive behavior to creating a dynamic where both partners feel desired, you’ll learn exactly how to move intimacy forward—starting tonight.

Ready to Come Closer?

Tune in now to rediscover passion and create the kind of relationship you can’t wait to come home to. For more insights and tools, visit Closeness.com. 

Are you ready to come closer? 

CHAPTERS: 

0:00 Intro

0:57 The Waiting game 

3:47 Why this happens 

4:57 Women can take the lead without being outrageous 

8:13 If you’re already a woman who’s comfortable initiating 

10:46 Women don’t want to initiate 

12:56 women are hornier but can go longer without it

14:08 On sexual tension and the importance it 

Sometimes, the things you aren’t doing in bed can be just as damaging as the things you are. In this episode, we explore 10 key reasons why your wife or girlfriend might not feel inspired to be intimate with you—and more importantly, what you can do to turn things around. Spoiler alert: It’s not about asking for sex or sticking to the same moves you’ve been using for years. 

Mindset Matters: How Do You View Sex?

One of the biggest turn-offs for women is when men treat sex like something they’re owed or something they can “get” from their partner. Similarly it's a turnoff of men beg or ask for it. If you catch yourself using expressions like, “I haven’t gotten any in weeks,” or thinking sex is something she needs to give you, or you catch yourself asking for it, it’s time to reset your mindset. Women can sense neediness from a mile away. Talking about sex too much, asking repeatedly, or being randomly horny without putting in any effort to open her emotionally or mentally isn’t inspiring—it’s exhausting.

Stop Doing What Isn’t Working

Relationships aren’t static, and neither is intimacy. What worked in the past—whether it’s moves from 10 years ago or repeating the same patterns—might not work today. Women thrive on variety, connection, and emotional safety. If you’re doing the bare minimum or refusing to evolve, don’t be surprised if her desire fizzles out. Start paying attention to what excites her. Healthy dominance, creativity, and the confidence to lead can reignite that spark.

Inspire, Don’t Demand

Desire isn’t automatic. Women need to feel seen, appreciated, and inspired to want intimacy. If you’ve done little to build her up emotionally, mentally, or physically, why would she feel turned on? In this episode, you'll learn to be present, take initiative, and understand her unique rhythms to make all the difference. Remember: women can be insatiable sexually when they feel safe and inspired, so have fun and explore! 

This episode is packed with actionable advice to help you shift your mindset, ditch bad habits, and create an environment where intimacy flows naturally. If you’re ready to learn how to inspire your partner and become the lover she craves, this one’s for you.

Ready to Come Closer?

Tune in now for practical tips on deepening intimacy and sparking passion in your relationship. For more insights, visit Closeness.com. Let’s get closer. 🌟

CHAPTERS 

0:00 Intro and your mindset about intimacy with your partner 

5:04 The fatal mistake of thinking you only had to put in a little work in the beginning

7:34 You're talking about it too much or asking her for sex

9:20 She can smell it on you and knows it's what you want so it feels needy

10:58 You're randomly horny and think she should therefore have sex with you  

13:40 You haven't done a whole lot to inspire her or open her

16:23 You see women as objects

19:37 You're doing the same moves from 1-20 years ago

21:12 Asking too many questions and talking too much

22:40 Consent is imperative. But when a women feels safe it isn't always required 

24:58 What's working today may not work tonight 

26:04 Some women really do need and want healthy dominance 

26:24 Women are insatiable sexually - so have fun! 

29:00 Outro 

A striking and unusually intelligent, intellectual college student explores her boundaries of sexuality, and intimate desires for nearly two hours with Tari. How men and women at her university level interact with each other in the dating world is different than what we've seen before. Together, we explore who should initiate and seduce in the bedroom, male and female nature, her experiences with teaching inexperienced men how to have sex, what confidence looks like in a man, handling rejection, solving issues with eye contact, what eye contact actually conveys, the necessity for men to be dominant, coming into her sexuality and more! It's an intimidate look into her life that ordinarily may never have left the fraternity... yes fraternity. Get a glimpse into a world you've never seen by tuning in now. 

Feeling sexually desirable isn’t only about what happens in the bedroom—it’s about how you carry yourself, communicate, and engage with the world around you. This may seem obvious but how much are you really paying attention to this day to day.

 This episode offers 10 powerful strategies to help women not only feel more confident and open to intimacy but also build deeper connections with their partner. Intimacy thrives when both partners bring their best selves to the relationship, and sometimes, it’s about becoming a better, more self-aware person.

Speak Up, Be Present, and Take Action

Your partner isn’t a mind reader, and neither are the people around you. Speaking up for yourself—whether it’s about your needs, desires, or boundaries—is a game-changer. But self-awareness also matters: avoid monopolizing conversations and overprocessing out loud for hours on end. Confidence comes from being heard, not from dominating. Similarly, being present when you’re out in the world by looking up from your phone and not ignoring other genders, can invite connection with your energy and openness.

When it comes to intimacy, effort matters. While manifesting is a wonderful thing, sitting back and waiting for things to happen is an unlikely way to take control of your life.  Take action, explore what your partner enjoys, and make moves of your own. Letting go of insecurities and anxieties that hold you back from enjoying the moment can be tough. For women, relaxing into intimacy (and yes, allowing your man help you orgasm powerfully) can really set the tone for your day. At the same time, don’t hold mistakes from the past over your partner’s head—growth and forgiveness are essential for intimacy to flourish.

Embrace Your Duality: Confidence and Vulnerability

Understanding the duality of your beauty is critical—yes, the world cares about how you look, but your personality and inner self and how you carry yourself matters too. Confidence is attractive, but so is humility—toning down entitlement and arrogance can create space for deeper connection. 

This episode reminds us that intimacy isn’t about techniques or quick fixes—it’s about presence, effort, and self-awareness. When you communicate openly, bring confidence to the table, and take actionable steps to create connection, you’ll not only feel more sexually desirable, but your partner will feel more open and drawn to you, too.

Ready to Come Closer?

Tune in to discover how to bring these strategies to life and create deeper, more fulfilling intimacy. For more relationship insights, visit Closeness.com. 

Chapters:

0:00 Intro

4:45 Speak up for yourself

12:00 Speaking unconsciously for obnoxious lengths of time

20:26 Making her come well and relax often triggers women to talk

22:24 Learning to be open and in a receptive mode to welcome intimacy

25:58 Don't have sex with people you don't like sleeping with

27:02 Beating up your man for mistakes from his past that he has remedied

33:05 Not letting insecurities get in the way of a good time

36:38 Toning down the arrogance, entitlement and aggressiveness

40:00 Talking about and bringing your fantasies to life

Lasting Longer and Keeping it up:  for Men and Women

One of the most difficult—and often unspoken—topics for men is performance in the bedroom. Can he maintain his erection? Does he finish too quickly? Does he struggle with ED, or get so turned on that he finishes in minutes or worse seconds? These questions are more common than you think, yet so few men or couples openly address them. This episode dives deep into the solutions, offering practical tools and insights for both men and women to navigate this sensitive but crucial topic.

The Reality of Finishing Too Quickly

Finishing too quickly can feel frustrating, embarrassing, and detrimental to a relationship. Women often need significantly more time to warm up physically and mentally, and a man reaching orgasm too soon can leave her unsatisfied and disconnected. While it’s tempting to “accommodate” her in other ways after the fact by using toys, fingers or your mouth, it’s often not enough or ideal.

True intimacy requires presence, pacing, and awareness. Grounding techniques—like stillness, breathing, taking short breaks, and slowing down transitions—can help men regain control and create a more fulfilling experience for both partners.

Communication, Practice, and Realistic Expectations

When men focus so hard on not finishing, they often sabotage themselves by creating mental stress. Instead, staying grounded in the moment, practicing edging (stopping before the point of no return), and understanding your body’s most sensitive areas can help you last longer. It’s also essential to remove stigma and bad expectations around male performance—constant, unbroken hardness isn’t realistic, and your value as a partner isn’t measured by a single act.

For women, patience and communication are vital. Men often fear touching themselves or getting too self-conscious about “fixing the issue,” but avoiding the conversation doesn’t help. Women can support their partners by understanding their struggles, avoiding criticism, and encouraging a team-based approach to intimacy. Simple body language, verbal reassurance, and open discussions about preferences can transform the sexual experience.

Selflessness, Self-Awareness, and Lasting Connections

Lastly, being selfless doesn’t mean neglecting your own pleasure. There’s a balance between caring for your partner and allowing yourself to enjoy the moment without guilt or pressure. Intimacy is a skill—lasting longer, maintaining connection, and improving as a lover requires practice, communication, and mutual effort. The answers are out there, and the path to incredible intimacy starts with openness, patience, and a willingness to grow.

Ready to Come Closer?

Tune into this powerful episode to learn how to address sexual performance with confidence and care, while strengthening intimacy with your partner. For more tools on creating deeper, more connected relationships, visit Closeness.com.

Ready to come closer? 

CHAPTERS

0:00 Introductions 

1:33 Finishing too quickly is not an option for a successful relationship 

2:35 It’s not enough to only accommodate her in other ways 

4:04 Women need time to get warmed up! 

5:50 It's selfish of you when you finish first 

7:40 Analyze your equipment - where are you the most sensitive

8:49 Rocking back and forth 

9:37 Grounding yourself 

12:14 Caveat for particular women who hold back sex

16:57 Being slothful and lazy 

How to Be Sexually Dominant in a Hot and Healthy Way

Sexual dominance is one of the most misunderstood and controversial topics in intimacy. Many men want to know how to take the lead in the bedroom, but they’re held back by misconceptions, insecurities, or poor role models. In this episode, we break down healthy sexual dominance is—how to guide, lead, and take control in the bedroom in a way that’s confident, respectful, and deeply satisfying for both partners.

What Is Healthy Sexual Dominance?

Healthy dominance isn’t about aggression, control, or acting like a caricature of masculinity. It’s about being assertive and leading while creating a safe and exciting space where your partner can let go and surrender to the moment. Simply put, true sexual dominance comes from presence—being attuned to her body, energy, and non-verbal cues while leading with confidence. Women often want their partner to take charge, to initiate, and to show desire—but they don’t want to feel objectified, pressured, or disrespected.

The key is to lead in a way that feels natural and authentic. Healthy dominance means knowing when to guide her, when to slow things down, and when to ramp up the intensity. It’s about tone, touch, and timing—being intentional with your actions so that she feels both turned on and cared for.

Common Misconceptions About Sexual Dominance

One of the biggest mistakes men make is equating dominance with aggression. And while some partners may want or enjoy that, acting overly forceful or treating your partner like an object doesn’t make you dominant—it usually creates distance and disconnection. Healthy dominance is a dance between strength and sensitivity. It’s reading her signals, not forcing your own agenda.

Another common pitfall is indecision. Saying things like “I don’t know” or constantly asking “What do you want me to do?” kills the mood. Confidence is key—take the lead, make decisions, and trust yourself. Women are often drawn to a partner who can initiate with purpose, not hesitation.

How to Practice Healthy Sexual Dominance

So, how do you get it right? Here are some practical steps:

1.Set the Tone: Healthy dominance starts before sex even begins. Use eye contact, a confident touch, and a strong presence to let her know you’re in control. Lead without speaking or guide by telling your partner what to do in a respectful tone. 

2.Be Attuned to Her: Deep listening matters in the bedroom. Pay attention to her breathing, body movements, and verbal cues to guide the experience.

3.Initiate With Confidence: Don't ask for permission with awkward questions like “Can we have sex?” or paltry touching such as rubbing her side or knee. Instead, lead with action: kiss her, guide her hands, and let your energy build naturally.

4.Balance Softness and Strength: Healthy dominance doesn’t mean being harsh or aggressive. It’s about knowing when to be firm and when to slow down, keeping her anticipation and arousal high.

5.Use Your Words Thoughtfully: Confidence doesn’t require shouting or harsh commands. Speak with a calm, masculine tone and make her feel desired with intentional, seductive language.

Redefining Dominance in the Bedroom

Healthy sexual dominance is about trust, connection, and presence—not power for power’s sake. When done right, it can unlock new levels of intimacy, excitement, and pleasure for both partners. It’s about making her feel safe while simultaneously pushing boundaries in a way that turns you both on.

If you’ve been struggling to understand what sexual dominance really looks like—or how to do it in a way that feels respectful and natural—this episode will give you the tools you need to confidently take the lead.

Ready to Come Closer?

Tune in to discover how to master healthy dominance in the bedroom and create more fulfilling, connected, and exciting e

Can You Have It All in Relationships?

In this thought-provoking episode, we explore a timeless question: Can you really have it all in your relationship? From emotional intimacy to sexual fulfillment, we take an honest look at the myths, realities, and expectations that shape modern relationships. Are you expecting your partner to be your everything—your best friend, lover, therapist, and cheerleader? Or is it time to challenge that Disney-inspired fairytale and redefine what “having it all” actually means?

Unrealistic Expectations and Self-Reflection

Many of us carry the belief that “one person should fulfill all our needs,” but is that possible? We discuss why expecting perfection from a partner sets both people up for disappointment. At the same time, the idea that you’re “perfect just the way you are” can prevent self-improvement. Healthy relationships require work—on yourself and on each other—so is it time to challenge the idea of being flawless and commit to growing instead?

The Role of Intimacy and Sexual Skill

Sexual fulfillment plays a massive role in relationships, but it doesn’t always come naturally. For men, becoming a skilled lover takes intention, effort, and a willingness to learn. Can a man truly transform himself into a “sexual dynamo”? Sure, but both he and his partner will often balk if he appears to be behaving different than how she knows him to be. Likewise, an unskilled woman can evolve into an incredible lover when she’s open to growth, exploration, and communication. Great intimacy isn’t a given; it’s an ongoing practice.

Do You Really Need It All?

This episode also dives into the pressures we place on relationships, especially when we compare ourselves to others. The fallacy of “If they can do it, I can too” can create unnecessary frustration. Expecting our partners to be our everything: the one who talks to us, loves us, is always there for us, listens to us and more can put a lot of pressure on the relationship. We reflect on the idea that it’s okay not to have it all in your relationship. Maybe the key to happiness is accepting the balance of strengths and imperfections that make your connection uniquely yours.

Ultimately, this episode challenges the unrealistic narratives we carry about love, sex, and partnership. Can one person meet all of your needs? Should they? And are you holding yourself back from personal growth by expecting the fairytale to happen effortlessly?

Tune in to discover how redefining your expectations can lead to greater intimacy, self-awareness, and relationship satisfaction. For more on creating closer, more fulfilling connections, visit Closeness.com. Let’s get closer!

CHAPTERS

0:00 Introduction and can you have it all? Recitals and disclaimers

2:44 In a nutshell

4:20 What does it mean to have it all?

9:40 Misunderstandings

12:40 Should one person be your everything?

15:21 COVID and Politics

16:26 Are you really perfect, just the way you are?

17:40 The Disney Fairytale

21:30 How Women Select mates

24:39 How men often think of intimacy

25:45 Great sex does not come naturally to most many men

33:04 How does one become a skilled lover?

37:25 Can a man really become a sexual dynamo?

40:26 An unskilled woman CAN be flipped into a fantastic lover

47:24 What do I make of all of this?

49:15 T

Words That Don’t Serve: Phrases We Can Stop Saying in Relationships

Language is powerful—it can build connection, but it can also create distance. Unfortunately, our daily conversations are often cluttered with filler words, passive-aggressive jabs, and expressions that serve no one. In this episode, we’re taking a closer look at phrases you simply don’t need to say anymore, especially to your partner. From thoughtless throwaway lines to phrases that diminish connection, you’ll learn how trimming the verbal fat can improve the way you communicate and connect.

Stop Saying Things That Mean Nothing

Phrases like “I don’t care,” “It depends,” or “It is what it is” may feel harmless, but they add nothing to a conversation. Saying “it depends” is the verbal equivalent of shrugging your shoulders—it’s a knee-jerk response that offers no new information. Similarly, “I just can’t explain it” or “I can’t imagine it” is rarely true—if you try, you usually can explain or imagine. These empty phrases stall intimacy instead of building it. The lesson? Be intentional. If you’re asked a question, take a moment to articulate a thoughtful answer.

Avoid Expressions That Undermine Connection

Some phrases we use to sound honest or relatable actually undermine the moment. For example, if you’re intimate with someone for the first time, saying “I can’t believe I’m doing this” or “I’m normally not like this” likely doesn't have the effect you think it will and may make you sound insincere or immature. These statements can leave your partner wondering, “Do they say this to everyone?” Instead, lean into the moment without disclaimers—let your actions speak for themselves.

Similarly, phrases like “Don’t judge me” or “Who hurt you?” can be dismissive. Everyone judges—it’s part of being human—and asking someone “Who hurt you?” when they’re sharing something vulnerable minimizes their experience. A better approach is to listen, validate their feelings, and keep judgment-free curiosity at the center of your communication.

Words That Don’t Make You Special

Some expressions are more about ego than connection. Saying “I’m so picky” when it comes to dating, or referring to yourself as a “goddess” or “deity,” doesn’t make you look confident—but rather may appear performative. The truth is, most people have high standards, and most relationships are complicated. Instead of leaning on cliché phrases like “It’s complicated,” take the time to express what you actually feel. Clear, direct communication will always win over vague or over-the-top language.

Speak With Intention

The takeaway? Communication is about connection. Every word you say carries weight, so stop using phrases that stall intimacy, minimize others’ experiences, or serve no real purpose. Instead, aim for clarity, thoughtfulness, and authenticity in your conversations. By removing filler and owning what you say, you’ll not only sound more confident—you’ll create deeper, more meaningful connections with the people around you.

Ready to clean up your communication? Tune in to this episode for practical examples and actionable advice. For more tips on relationships, intimacy, and connection, visit Closeness.com. Let’s get closer—without the filler. 🌟

CHAPTERS

0:00 Intro

6:08 So you you don't care? 

7:00 Words Carry Power 

8:05 I don't sugar coat 

10:51 Emoji

12:21 Who hurt you 

13:36 That's cute 

17:26 It is what it is

19:55 Like I said 

22:44 All filler words to speak air 

26:10 I feel like rather than I know 

30:32 Next time 

31:10 It depends 

33:20 I just couldn't imagine if it hasn't happened yet

34:42 I can't explain it...

37:16 I am so picky 

38:52 Narcissism