Co-creating Peace

One of the primary reasons I started this podcast was because of challenges we humans have in being able to have peaceful conversations when we have differences of opinion, especially when those differences are around topics about which we care a great deal, and therefore have high emotion around. We lack these skills because they were never taught to us!

In this episode, “Teaching Civil Dialogue as a Tool for Peace”, Episode #140 of Co-creating Peace, I have an intriguing conversation with Charlie Young, author of “Constructive Communication – Civil Dialogue”, and a passionate advocate for teaching civil dialogue, both at home, and from the earliest stages of our formal education. 

Highlights of our conversation include:

• the concepts of civil dialogue/constructive communication and methods of teaching these skills to youth 
• the vital significance of teaching essential skills like validation, empathy, clarifying, summarizing, non-judgmental observation, and mindfulness. 
• pivotal skills in bridging cultural and racial differences, fostering forgiveness, and promoting societal harmony
• agreement isn't necessary to achieve mutual understanding

Charlie Young was born, raised and educated in MA.  He came to Oregon in 1958.  His life experiences are many including directing an office of education with emphasis on adult learning, serving in the Naval Reserve, being a flight instructor, corporate pilot, head trainer for developing efficient and effective work processes for a large electrical contractor and upon retirement being a mediator.  His book “Constructive Communication – Civil Dialogue” brings together his life experiences and continued education for developing better ways to communicate and resolve differences.   

To learn more about teaching civil dialogue in schools, contact Charlie directly at: [email protected]. 

Educators: To get your copy of his book, “Constructive Communication – Civil Dialogue”, click here or go to: books.friesenpress.com and search for “Constructive Communication” by Charlie Young

Or you can find it on Amazon by clicking here or searching for “Constructive Communication” by Charlie Young.

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Trauma is a part of life, as the world we’re living in continually shows us. Yet we don’t have to carry that trauma throughout our life.

Welcome to “EmotionAid® –  5 Steps to Reduce Trauma and Deactivate High Emotion”, Episode #139 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. 

Join me for this enlightening episode as I welcome back Jeffrey Goldstein to discuss the transformative power of EmotionAid®, a set of five practical tools created by the International Trauma Healing Institute in Israel to help manage and de-escalate emotional responses during times of trauma, conflict or high stress. Jeffrey explains how these tools work to dissipate residual adrenaline, re-center and re-orient ourselves, release the trauma from our body, and find wisdom and strength through the experience. By regulating the nervous system and our psychological responses with these techniques, we can release the residues of the trauma response and transform that energy into creative and positive outcomes, promoting well-being and peace within ourselves and in our interactions with others.

Highlights of our conversation include:

• Recognizing & honoring our trauma responses for what they are
• The importance of discovering where our trauma(s) reside in our body and how to release them
• The 5 steps of EmotionAid®
• The extraordinary value of utilizing the 5th step of EmotionAid® (Resourcing) to fill the spaces that remain when we’ve released the residues of our trauma(s)
• Understanding that growth and positive outcomes can result from consciously working through our trauma

Jeffrey Goldstein SEP lives in Yefe Nof, Jerusalem, Israel. His professional focus is Body Oriented Trauma Therapy with a Spiritual Approach. Modalities are Attunement, Somatic Experiencing®, and EmotionAid®. He offers private sessions, classes, & trainings in Israel, Switzerland, USA, and online. He's a Dedicated Spiritual Peace activist with a strong desire to spread inner peace. He conducts Peace Vigils 2x/week since Oct. 7, 2024.

• Website: JeffGoldsteinAttuner.com
• Ph./WhatsApp +972-52-655-7195
• E-mail: [email protected]
• Books: Energy Ball For Peace Ceremony: Personal Health and Global Blessing; Energy Ball: For Health and Spiritual Growth 

Upcoming Zoom offerings:

• Join Peace Vigils: Sun.: 20:15  UTC/GMT; Wed.: 17:00 UTC/GMT
• Safe~Peace Zoom gatherings Sundays: 19:00 UTC/GMT request link: [email protected] 

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In Episodes #20, #76 & #77, I had some great conversations with guests about boundaries. Today’s guests, Jan & Jillian Yuhas, twin sisters who are both psychologists and mediators, have a unique take on working with boundaries that emerged from their 20 years of experience in interpersonal psychology and mediation.

Welcome to “Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method for Elevating Your Value and Relationships” Episode #138 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

Highlights of our conversation include:

• Using “I”- statements to talk about our boundaries and our values
• The importance of exploring shared values to help us find common ground
• Using open-ended questions as “discovery” questions to help us respond to a triggering statement from a heart-centered, non-reactive place.
• Moving from “me” to “we” to inspire collaboration and help elevate relationships

Jan Yuhas, M.A., MFT, and Jillian Yuhas, M.A., MFT, are Relationship Experts, Boundary, and Conflict Resolution Consultants, and the authors behind 'Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method For Elevating Your Value and Relationships.' Jan and Jillian are dedicated to helping value-driven entrepreneurs and companies cultivate mutually beneficial relationships, facilitate respectful conflict resolution, and empower others to master the art of setting personal and professional boundaries. With over two decades of experience in interpersonal psychology and mediation, the sisterly duo specializes in unlocking others’ inherent value, amplifying their personal development and professional performance, and guiding them toward relationship growth. To learn more about Jan & Jillian Yuhas, and the wonderful resources they have to offer, visit: janandjillian.com. To learn more about their book, “Boundary Badass”, visit: boundarybadass.com.

To learn more about values, tune in to Episode #27.  To hear more about negotiation, you can listen to Episode #4, boundaries in Episodes #20, #76 & #77, I messages Episode #10 & open-ended/“discovery” questions, Episode #6.

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Beginning June 8th, you’ll hear new episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world. Meanwhile, I hope you'll listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co Creating Peace with others.
 
Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:

• Episode #29 – “The Power of the Positive”This episode builds upon what I discussed in Episode #14 on re-framing our perspective. The Power of the Positive is about focusing on the things that are positive in life, in people, in situations – even in the presence of the aspects we see as detrimental or undesirable in those same things. We can use The Power of the Positive to help us co-create peace.
• Episode #30 – “We See What We Believe” In this episode, I share my thoughts on an interesting psychological phenomenon known as “confirmation bias”. I also share a letter with you from someone who wrote to me about how she used Appreciative Inquiry, which I talk about in Episode #29.
• “Episode #97 – How to Move Beyond Blame, Live Your Highest Purpose and Become an Unstoppable Force for Good” Dr. Fleet Maull joins me to talk about Radical Responsibility, and how practicing it can empower us to better co-create peace with others. Highlights of our conversation were:

           – The value of mindfulness & emotional intelligence to help us to co-create peace
           – Radical Responsibility
           – The Drama Triangle and its relationship to conflict
           – The power of dialogue

• Episode #100 – “From Drama Triangle to Circle of Empowerment”  Susan Partnow  shares insights on the drama triangle and how to transform it into a circle of empowerment. Highlights of our conversation include:

           – The 3 roles in the drama triangle and how they interact 
           – How to move from the drama triangle into the circle of empowerment
           – How to invite others to join us in moving from the drama triangle into the circle of empowerment.

Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co-creating Peace! All episodes of Co-creating Peace can be found wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts and at: https://bridgesofpeace.com/podcast-co-creating-peace.

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This is a great time to catch up on past episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world. 
 
While I am taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace during April and May, I hope you will listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co-creating Peace with others.
 
Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:

• Episode #10 – “The ‘I’s Have It” This episode is about using “I-messages” to help you deliver information in a way that feels safe for others to hear by self-referencing when voicing our opinions or experiences, and avoiding “You-messages” which feel accusatory, such as “You make me so...!” or “You always....”. I’ll also read letters that I received from a couple of listeners and share with you the advice that I gave them, which directly relates to this topic.
• Episode #13 – “Conflict Is an Opportunity” How often have you thought of conflict as an opportunity? Most people don’t see conflict that way at all! In this episode, I’ll tell why you will find it helpful to seek and find the positive opportunity in every conflict in your life.
• Episode #14 – “If You Change the Way You Look at Things, the Things You Look at Change” This episode is part 1 of a 2-part series on re-framing. I will tell you about what I consider to be one of the most powerful tools I know for both peacemaking and psychological well-being: re-framing your perspective.
• Episode #15 – “How You Say It Affects How They See It” This episode is part 2 of a 2-part series on re-framing. In Episode #14, I told you about what I consider to be one of the most powerful tools I know for both peacemaking and psychological well-being: re-framing your perspective. In this episode, you’ll learn how to use re-framing in your communication to help you more skillfully navigate challenging communication and difficult conversations.

Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co Creating Peace!

Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!

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• Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider
• Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching
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Visit BridgesofPeace.com to learn more about Kathleen and her work.

This is a great time to catch up on past episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world. 
 
While I am taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace during April and May, I hope you will listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co Creating Peace with others.
 
Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:

• Episode #6 – “I See You” on how to meaningfully acknowledge other people, their experiences and their perspectives 
• Episode #7 – “What’s Your Style” which explores the different styles with which we approach conflict, and which is most likely to get your needs met 
• Episode # 8 – “Don’t Believe Everything You Think” discusses our filters and assumptions, and the role they play in creating and fostering conflict. You will also learn about The Iroquois Rule of Six. In Episode #58, "Here Comes the Judge", I discuss more about this topic with Michael Lightweaver.
• Episode #11 – “Speak Their Language” brings to light the modalities with which each of us processes and communicates information, how that affects misunderstanding & conflict, and how mindfully communicating using another persons modality can build rapport

Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co Creating Peace!

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Please support Co-creating Peace:

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Visit BridgesofPeace.com to learn more about Kathleen and her work.

Welcome to Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world. 

I will be taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace during April and May as I relocate my home and my sound studio. During that time, I hope you will listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co Creating Peace with others.

Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:

• Episode #2 is all about the structure of Conscious Communication 
• Episode #3 provides insights into the Actions Iceberg, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs/Universal needs, in detail & with examples, 
• Episode #4 teaches you about Needs-based negotiation
• Episode #5 tells you all about The Chain of Conflict and how to break it.

Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co Creating Peace!

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• Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider
• Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching
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Welcome to “Energy Ball for Peace Ceremony".

In this episode, Jeffrey Goldstein and I embark on an intriguing exploration of how each of us can harness the natural energy within us to foster peace and healing for ourselves and others. Jeffrey guides us through forming an energy ball, a technique using the healing energy within each of us.

Join us as Jeffrey describes the transformative peace ceremonies he has been using and teaching in Israel and Palestine for many years. Energy ball ceremonies harness the power of collective intention and the positive ripple effect that can create. Using this powerful tool, we can all contribute to a more united and peaceful world. 

Jeffrey's vision of global harmony through individual and group energy work provides a beacon of hope in a world often divided. I invite you to listen deeply, and you may discover new ways to channel your inner energy towards co-creating a more peaceful existence for all. 

Highlights include:

• The healing energy within us all
• How to form and utilize an Energy Ball
• Exploring Energy Healing Techniques
• Transforming Energy for Positive Change

Jeffrey Goldstein SEP lives in Yefe Nof, Jerusalem, Israel. His professional focus is Body Oriented Trauma Therapy with a Spiritual Approach. Modalities are Attunement, Somatic Experiencing®, and EmotionAid®. He offers private sessions, classes, & trainings in Israel, Switzerland, USA, and online. He's a Dedicated Spiritual Peace activist with a strong desire to spread inner peace. He conducts Peace Vigils 2x/week since Oct. 7, 2024.

• Website: JeffGoldsteinAttuner.com
• Ph./WhatsApp +972-52-655-7195
• E-mail: [email protected]
• Books: Energy Ball For Peace Ceremony: Personal Health and Global Blessing; Energy Ball: For Health and Spiritual Growth 

Upcoming Zoom offerings:

• Attunement Class Level 1:Nervous & Endocrine Systems 
  • 4/1/24: 17:00 UTC/GMT 
  • 4/2/24:  09:00 UTC/GMT
• Spiritual Resilience April 11: UTC/GMT
• Join Peace Vigils: Sun.: 20:15  UTC/GMT; Wed.: 17:00 UTC/GMT
• Safe~Peace Zoom gatherings Sundays: 19:00 UTC/GMT request link: [email protected] 

IMPORTANT NOTE: I'll be taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace in April and May, as I renovate my sound studio. During that time, I hope you'll listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co-creating Peace with others. New episodes of Co-creating Peace resume the weekend of June 8th! 

Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!

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• Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider
• Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching
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• Become a patron at www.patreon.com/CocreatingPeace

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Welcome to "From Conflict to Collaboration: The Art of Mediation”, Episode #136

Have you ever felt trapped in a web of conflict, unsure of how to untangle the emotional threads of anger, fear, and confusion? This week, we're joined by mediator Michael Fraidenburg, co-author with fellow mediator Terry Teale, of the recently published book, “The Art of Mediation” to explore the transformative journey mediation offers in guiding individuals from impasse to insight. We discuss some of the emotional complexities of conflict, and the critical role of the mediator in fostering a safe space for genuine dialogue.

Mike and I explore the subtleties of facilitative mediation, a process that hands the reins back to the conflicting parties, allowing them to steer towards their own resolutions while maintaining autonomy. Our discussion explores the mediator's dual role – resolving the present dispute while equipping individuals with the psychological tools and practical know-how to approach resolving future conflicts together without the need for professional support.

You’ll leave this episode equipped with Mike's three golden questions, your new go-to toolkit for reshaping perspectives and promoting flexibility in the face of disagreement. These questions aren't just for the mediation table; they're practical approaches that can be woven into the fabric of your daily personal interactions. 

Join us for an episode that not only provides powerful, yet easy to use tools for mediation, but also for fostering collaborative relationships in our daily lives.

Must-hear highlights include:

• Conflict is a natural, normal part of life, and can actually be an opportunity. It’s how we approach conflict that determines if the impact is constructive or destructive.
• The ways in which mediation empowers people to find their own solutions
• The 3 golden questions that will help you move forward
• The transformative power of the "yes, and" rule and the "good enough" standard

Michael Fraidenburg, the principal of The Cooperation Company, is a Certified Mediator recognized by the Washington Mediation Association. He teaches conflict resolution for the Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County, WA and the Northwest Environmental Training Center, contributing to the skill development of professionals. His expertise includes working with prominent organizations, like the US Bureau of Land Management, the State of Washington, the City of Seattle, and the Puget Sound Partnership

Michael’s co-author, Terry Teale, the principal of Heart of the Matter Mediation Services, is a certified mediator, collaborative negotiations specialist, and the past Board President of the Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County, WA.

Here’s where to go to learn more:

• Website: www.TheArtOfMediation.org
• Buy the book: https://mybook.to/theartofmediation
• Download Free Chapter of Your Choice: https://pxl.to/FreeChapter

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Welcome to “Don’t Believe Everything You Think”, Episode #135 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

If you listen to “Co-creating Peace” on a regular basis, you’ve probably recognized that many of the recent episodes have been related to ways that each of us can bridge the divides that exist between individuals, groups, and countries. Clearly, it is essential to our survival as a specie that we learn to co-habitate this planet in peace, which can only happen if we learn to collaborate with one another for the mutual benefit of all. Competition for territory, resources, and power has brought us nothing but death and destruction, time and again.

As I look at the world around us, I can’t help but notice that the ever-expanding divides we are experiencing are being fueled by rhetoric, assumptions, judgements, and bias, all of which are triggering escalations of hatred and violence.

How do we transcend this? There are many answers to this question. One is: don’t believe everything you think.

Join me as we explore the intricate workings of our minds and the ways in which our unconscious filters shape conflicts and communication. Listen in as I discuss the primal brain's lightning-fast judgments and associations that often go unnoticed, influencing our reactions and potentially escalating conflicts. I discuss how important it is to critically evaluate our automatic thoughts to ensure they align with reality and the current situation. We also delve into the transformative Iroquois Rule of Six, a tool that offers a multifaceted understanding of different perspectives, which is invaluable in transforming conflict into collaboration.

We’ll address the common trap of 'if-then' thinking and the critical role of questioning our personal filters and assumptions, and the importance of curiosity over conclusions. 

Highlights you won’t want to miss:

• the influence of unconscious filters and biases on communication and conflict
• the primal brain's role in instant judgments and how these can subconsciously affect how we relate to others
• the importance of mindfulness to bring unconscious thoughts to the forefront for critical evaluation
• the Iroquois Rule of Six as a method to consider multiple perspectives in conflict situations
• the dangers of 'if-then' thinking

I hope it helps you on your path to co-creating peace in your life. If each of us strives to co-create peace in our own world, we can build a strong foundation for co-creating peace across the globe. 

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