What happened to deep male friendships?

Michael speaks with author Sam Graham-Felsen about his deeply personal and widely resonant New York Times essay on the quiet epidemic of male loneliness. From childhood sleepovers to adult solitude, Graham-Felsen explores how once-intense male friendships fade with age—and what that says about masculinity, society, and emotional intimacy today. Together, they unpack historical shifts, social norms, and powerful data showing that American men are increasingly disconnected from one another. With reflections on politics, social media, and what we can learn from Abraham Lincoln and Herman Melville’s letters to their male friends, this is a conversation about what it means to be a man—and a friend—in today’s world. A must-listen for anyone navigating modern relationships—male or female. Original air date 27 May 2025.