Confidently She

Oh - dealing with narcissists is one of my specialities.

Alright, this episode was inspired by a listener question - get on the email list at www.confidentlyshepodcast.com and reply to the weekly podcast email with your question! How do you wrestle with feeling good enough to earn six figures when you didn't graduate from college? How do you reconcile breaking a cultural "rule" and not feel like you will be "found out"? I loved recording this episode and LOVE answering your questions, queen. So go ahead and send them my way!

Anyone getting attention also gets hate. Haters are jealous of the attention you're getting. They feel threatened by you doing something and instead of choosing to be inspired, they choose hate. That says a lot about them - and very little about you, my queen. However, there's a difference between haters and actual feedback. Listen in on my approach to thinking about haters, who to listen to, and how to stay grounded in who you are in this super important episode!

Single? Disappointed with your dates? Not ready to settle for another guy expecting praise for doing the bare minimum? Yahhh - I'm right there with you, love. Here's the thing, as you grow in confidence, your compatibility pool gets smaller. You're only attracted to people who are also confident and secure. Your criteria changes. Which is great, because you avoid the toxic relationships and stress of being mistreated. But it means you're single longer. Here's the truth: you can have a complete, fulfilling life without a romantic partner. When you focus on what you bring to the table and expanding who you are, you're not going to let people sit at your table who only show up with an appetite. You also won't be starving for any kind of "food" someone's willing to offer. Listen for how to think about dating, relationships, and life as a confident, equipped Queen.

Feeling Out of Shape? That's okay. For the days when you're just not into working out, and you know you've lost some gains...this episode is for you. This episode gives practical advice about how to "Confidently She" your way through the ebbs and flows of working out. You can't be consistent all the time, you're a human being - not a robot. It's okay to allow space for the "setback" from not working out for a while. You're not bad if you let some time go by without it. What's important is how you speak to yourself - more of that in the episode. Love this? Let me know! Reply to the Sunday email with your response! (not on the list? sign up at confidentlyshepodcast.com)

When someone calls you fat, remember that used to be a compliment. The way culture defines beauty changes every decade, so don't feel bad about not fitting into the current standard. Why does this standard keep changing? Listen to the episode to find out (hint: it's about money) sign up for the Body Image Basics here --> www.confidentlyshepodcast.com/basics

The best way to develop a mindset of confidence is to emulate a figure who already has it. I couldn't think of a better way than to embody the energy of a Queen. Like, a legit Queen. It's not arrogant to see yourself as a Queen when you understand what that actually means. In this Foundations episode, I'm explaining why I chose this term and what it means when put into practice. Do you expect people to bow down to you in the street? Of course not...but I want you to be at a place where if it happened you wouldn't be uncomfortable or all that shocked. Seeing yourself as a Queen reminds you there's really no competition because you already got the crown, you just need to uphold it and enjoy it. Remember who you are, and listen to this episode. Welcome to the Foundations series of Confidently She. These episodes are designed to give you an inside look at my approach to body anxiety and femininity. Confidently She is the perspective you're missing to own your self worth, build solid self trust, and develop body confidence. So you can enjoy your incredible life (let's just be honest). This is only the beginning - check out all the tools and trainings at www.confidentlyshepodcast.com. Here's the thing, with all the voices telling you you're not enough (or too much) I'm here to point out the fact you have all the raw materials you need - and show you how to trust your intuition to turn them into a masterpiece life, unique to you.

What's the difference between feminine confidence and masculine confidence? Isn't confidence just...confidence? No, it's not. Based on the context, you can respond from a place of masculine confidence or feminine confidence. In order to know how you want to respond, you have to understand the difference between these two things. Most of what we see in culture is masculine confidence traits, and of those traits - the ones we associate with confidence are unhealthy, boarder line toxic. Things like being forceful, controlling, doing "whatever it takes" to produce a certain outcome. That is predatory behavior, it's actually not confidence. Confidence is a grounded trust in yourself to handle situations as they change. It's actually not being in control (as much as we might think it is) listen for the full context of what confidence is and how masculine and feminine energies show up in a confident way. Welcome to the Foundations series of Confidently She. These episodes are designed to give you an inside look at my approach to body anxiety and femininity. Confidently She is the perspective you're missing to own your self worth, build solid self trust, and develop body confidence. So you can enjoy your incredible life (let's just be honest). This is only the beginning - check out all the tools and trainings at www.confidentlyshepodcast.com. Here's the thing, with all the voices telling you you're not enough (or too much) I'm here to point out the fact you have all the raw materials you need - and show you how to trust your intuition to turn them into a masterpiece life, unique to you.

Okay - here it is. I'm laying out my definition of femininity and what it looks like to be a confident, feminine woman. The easy way to act confident is to mimic what you see others doing. That's how we learn. But when you're in a male dominated industry or business function (or just living in a patriarchal culture) that tends to look like conforming to masculine confidence traits. That happened to me for years when I first started in corporate sales. I copied everything the most successful reps did (those happened to be men on my team) and it put me in my masculine energy. I had to actively seek out the women who were doing well and see what habits they employed and how I could create that in my approach. This works outside the business world, too. We often see "confident women" acting the exact same as men, which doesn't attract the masculine. So what do we do? Listen to the episode. I have the answer. Welcome to the Foundations series of Confidently She. These episodes are designed to give you an inside look at my approach to body anxiety and femininity. Confidently She is the perspective you're missing to own your self worth, build solid self trust, and develop body confidence. So you can enjoy your incredible life (let's just be honest). This is only the beginning - check out all the tools and trainings at www.confidentlyshepodcast.com. Here's the thing, with all the voices telling you you're not enough (or too much) I'm here to point out the fact you have all the raw materials you need - and show you how to trust your intuition to turn them into a masterpiece life, unique to you.