Confront to Restore, Not to Crucify – Unleashed Podcast

When is it right to confront someone—and when does confrontation become judgment? In this episode of Unleashed, Brent and Kevin explore one of the hardest questions men face: How do we speak truth without destroying relationships?

The conversation begins with a powerful real-life moment when Kevin had to step in to confront a man who didn’t realize he was having a heart attack during a pickleball tournament—a confrontation that saved the man’s life. From there, the discussion turns spiritual: When should we confront someone we love? What does the Bible actually teach about confrontation? And how do we approach hard conversations with restoration—not punishment—as the goal?

Using Jesus’ instructions from Matthew 18 to “go to them,” “take a witness,” and “bring it before the church,” Brent breaks down the biblical process for healthy, redemptive confrontation—including the misunderstood command to treat someone “like a pagan or tax collector,” which is not a call to shunning, but a call to begin again in love when repentance hasn’t taken root.

This episode also addresses:

• The difference between godly confrontation and toxic judgment
• Why gossip makes us part of the problem instead of the solution
• How trust and relationship matter before tough conversations can heal
• What actually helps someone walk through addiction, sin, or struggle—and what never does
• Why “If restoration isn’t your goal, confrontation isn’t your calling.”

Brent shares a compelling story from a plane ride conversation about shunning, along with the question he often asks church audiences: What wouldn’t help you grow when you’re struggling—and what would? The answers reveal the heart of real brotherhood: presence, grace, truth, and commitment to walk with someone toward healing.

Grounded in John 3:17, the episode reminds us that Jesus came not to condemn the world—but to save it—and that men who confront for restoration become lifelines rather than executioners.