Did you know? 

Men and women both experience depression but their symptoms can be very different. Because men who are depressed may appear to be angry or aggressive instead of sad, their families, friends, and even their doctors may not always recognize anger or aggression as depression symptoms. In addition, men are less likely than women to recognize, talk about, and seek treatment for depression. Yet depression affects a large number of men.

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/men-and-depression

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  • An estimated 21.0 million adults in the United States had at least one major depressive episode. This number represented 8.4% of all U.S. adults.
  • The prevalence of major depressive episodes was higher among adult females (10.5%) compared to males (6.2%).
  • The prevalence of adults with a major depressive episode was highest among individuals aged 18-25 (17.0%).
• The prevalence of major depressive episodes was highest among those who reported having multiple (two or more) races (15.9%).

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/major-depression

More resources on depression 

https://usafacts.org/data/topics/people-society/health/health-risk-factors/depression/?

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Reflection Questions?

How we shift the narrative on violence in our community? What can we do? How do we develop healthier coping strategies? How do we resolve conflicts without using a gun? 

Question?  What percentage of Americans own guns? 

Answer: The United States has the highest percentage of gun ownership worldwide. There are 120 firearms per 100 people in the U.S., with 30% of Americans owning at least one gun and 43%. That means that the majority of gun owners own more than one firearm. According to the Pew Research Center, two-thirds of gun owners own more than one firearm, and 29% own five or more.

Research and considerations:

Stats on Gun Violence

https://worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/gun-deaths-by-state

About seventy-two percent of all murders across the nation involve the use of guns.

https://www.boston.com/news/local-news/2022/10/28/boston-violence-shootings-prevention-intervention/

Boston activists say enough is enough on gun violence. What can be done?

“We are a whole city, which must be responsive to each of the neighborhoods with equal concern.”

By the numbers

Violence has impacted some of the city’s communities much more than others; out of more than 1,700 fatal and non-fatal shootings logged citywide since 2015, more than 1,300 of the victims were Black or African American, according to Boston Police Department data. 

Nearly three-quarters of the shootings happened in Dorchester, Roxbury, or Mattapan. 

https://www.wcvb.com/article/teen-accused-of-shooting-classmate-at-bostons-jeremiah-e-burke-high-school-to-face-judge/41526622#

https://everytownresearch.org/report/invisible-wounds-gun-violence-and-community-trauma-among-black-americans/?source=mdmo_resource&refcode=mdmo_resource&utm_source=mdmo_resource&utm_medium=o&utm_campaign=resource&_gl=1*dlpxm*_ga*MTk2MzUzNjIyMi4xNjY3NzcyNjgz*_ga_LT0FWV3EK3*MTY2Nzc3MjY4My4xLjEuMTY2Nzc3Mjc2MS4wLjAuMA..

https://everytownresearch.org/report/city-data/?source=mdmo_resource&refcode=mdmo_resource&utm_source=mdmo_resource&utm_medium=o&utm_campaign=resource&_gl=1*s4vck0*_ga*MTk2MzUzNjIyMi4xNjY3NzcyNjgz*_ga_LT0FWV3EK3*MTY2Nzc3MjY4My4xLjEuMTY2Nzc3Mjc2MS4wLjAuMA..

https://www.nbcboston.com/news/local/advocates-raise-alarm-after-recent-string-of-violence-in-boston/2693125/

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Dr. Carol Brown is a four-time published author, artist-songwriter, president of Lorac Publishing House,

and Lorac Educational Research & Design. Additionally, for over twenty years, she was an educator and

administrator in a large public school district located in Massachusetts.

She addresses physical, social, and emotional issues as they pertain to teen obesity, bullying, colorism,

and racism, at work and in communities. Her book, “Racism- Young People are Finally Having This

Conversation” was discussed in a YouTube video titled, “An Evening with Dr. Carol Brown as she

discusses her latest book.” The sponsors for this event were, The Boston Public Library, Lorac Publishing

House, and Mr. Jeff Durham. Dr. Brown is available for speaking engagements. Please visit

www.loracpublishing.com.

Moreover, she holds a B.S.- from Northeastern University, an M.Ed. - from Lesley University, a CAGS - from Bridgewater

State University, and an Ed.D - Nova Southeastern University. Finally, Dr. Carol Brown holds a

Certificate of Professional Studies from the New England Conservatory.

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Coping with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life’s biggest challenges. You may associate grieving with the death of a loved one—which is often the cause of the most intense type of grief—but any loss can cause grief, including:

1. Divorce or relationship breakup
2. Loss of health
3. Losing a job
4. Loss of financial stability
5. A miscarriage
6. Retirement
7. Death of a pet
8. Loss of a cherished dream
9. A loved one's serious illness
10. Loss of a friendship
11. Loss of safety after a trauma
12. Selling the family home

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Body shaming  involves humiliating someone by making inappropriate or negative comments about their body size or shape. As well as “fat shaming,” you may also hear negative comments if you’re underweight or in reference to a specific body part.

While nobody is immune to societal pressures to look a certain way, comments about your body are unnecessary in any context. Whether the body shaming is being done by yourself or others, there are ways to overcome the problem, build body positivity, and learn to look at yourself in a more compassionate and realistic way.

Resources 

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/body-shaming.htm

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TakeAways from Brene Brown's TED TALK -Power of Vulnerability, https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

Are you willing to let go of who you should be, to be who you are ? 

The Values of Vulnerability:

1.Courage 

2.Compassion 

Note to SELF: Vulnerability is necessary!

What does being Vulnerable look like? 

Do something when there are no guarantees !

Willingness to invest in something and get nothing in return !

Things to Consider when practicing being Vulnerable

Stop controlling and predicting , learn to be presence.

Here are some of the Cons of being vulnerable: Shame and Fear of not Belonging!

Here are the Pros of being vulnerable: Joy, love, happiness!

We Numb Vulnerability!

We don’t want to feel these negative feelings!

We can not selectively numb!

We are miserable because we are looking for purpose & meaning !

We want to make the uncertain certain !

The more afraid we are the more vulnerable we are !

Blame has an inverse relationship with accountability !

Blame is discharging anger !

Do you look for someone to blame? hmm, so Who’s fault is it ??

Blame: A way to discharge pain and discomfort.

We want to perfect everything. We often leave no room for error. 

We must become the change we want to see.-Mahatma Gandhi 

Empathy is feeling with and sympathy is feeling for 

Sharing something vulnerable is expressing what do you need. For example, do you need:

1. Eye contact
2. A Hug
3. Physical stay away
4. Say something back right away
5. Stay quiet

Emphatic Responses most often do not start with “at least “ be aware of this ..

Gender considerations and Vulnerability

Perception of weakness =Men

Perception of perfection (roles /tasks)  =Woman

Understanding we have to support each other & that’s the path to intimacy.

A woman who does not derive her power from the man can sit with him while he's in deep vulnerability.

#Intimacy is a human need. Communication is not connection. Connection is rooted in being able to be vulnerable. 

Men need to consider not being the "All knowing all Power (Oz) and relinquishing the need to fix it !

In the absence of love and belonging, there’s suffering.

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Strong Black Woman Narrative

 The superwoman schema includes five elements: feeling an obligation to present an image of strength, feeling an obligation to suppress emotions, resistance to being vulnerable, a drive to succeed despite limited resources, and feeling an obligation to help others. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_the_strong_black_woman_identity_both_helps_and_hurts

 As a result of her intersecting identities— as a woman, a Black person, and an individual who identifies as a SBW— a SBW independently assumes a multiplicity of responsibilities and roles, chief among them are provider and caretaker. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6510490/ https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/we-must-educate-doctors-about-black-womensexperience-says-expert#1 https://www.bu.edu/womensguild/2022/02/07/the-strong-black-woman-dr-yvette-cozier/ https://scholarworks.gsu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1125&context=communication_theses 

Suicide and Black Women’s Mental Health https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40615-021-01198-y https://time.com/6046773/black-teenage-girls-suicide/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34984654/ 

Across the board, suicide rates among young Americans have risen; from 2007 to 2018, suicide rates for Americans ages 10 to 24 rose by 57%, and the increase was particularly significant among young girls, contributing to a narrowing of the persistent suicide gender gap. Rates plateaued from 2018 to 2019—the most recent year with available federal data—but they stood far higher than those of decades past.  In 2019, suicide was the second leading cause of death for blacks or African Americans, ages 15 to 24.1  The death rate from suicide for black or African American men was four times greater than for African American women, in 2018. 

https://www.everydayhealth.com/emotional-health/reasons-suicide-is-on-the-rise-in-theblack-community-according-to-a-psychiatrist/ 

Support Services/Resources

 https://thewomenscenter.org/black-mental-health-resources/ 

Mindful and Melanated www.mindfulandmelanated.com

Pure Spark http://www.yourpurespark.com/

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Monetize Your Strengths- let’s have a conversation about identifying your side hustle & delegating for efficiency!

Side Hustle: noun Slang. a job or occupation that brings in extra money beyond one's regular job and main source of income; Working a side job can also, informally, be called moonlighting, usually when it is performed after normal working time. A side job can be a full-time job, part-time contract, or freelance work, and a person can hold more than one side job.

Side Hustle stats

"Nearly all working Americans (93%) have some kind of side hustle in 2022." That equates to 1:3 people. Among side hustlers earning over $1000 a month, the top 3 business models are Online Business, Freelancing / Consulting, and Investing.

• The U.S. side hustle market is valued at over $2.58 trillion
• U.S. business formation grew by almost 42% in 2020
• 4.3 million Americans quit their jobs in August of 2021
• 32% of Americans are quitting their jobs to start their own business
• 64% of small businesses start with less than $10k Capital, a micro business only $3k
• 12.3 million businesses owned by women in the US, and generate 1.8 trillion in revenue
• 46% of African American small business owners are solo entrepreneurs

Why Delegate?

Delegation is the assignment of authority to another person to carry out specific activities. It is the process of distributing and entrusting work to another person. Because we can’t do it all, it is not in our zone of genius, we just don't want to. 

Why is it hard

Your business is essentially one of the most important assets you have, you want to protect it at all costs, giving up that power to entrust someone to assist is hard because no one will do what you do or feel how you feel.

The Virtual Assistance industry 

The rise or should I say pivot to virtual is not a fade, in fact, it was becoming more prevalent before the pandemic pivot. The industry was estimated to bring in 98 Billion US Dollars by 2024 in a 2019 statistic. So imagine how much that number may change. But I do think it's Disruptive Innovation too. As women of color, we are always looking for ways to level up and take care of our families, strong black women syndrome, and this offered a new avenue. 

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What is Feminine Energy? Feminine energy is all of the nurturing traits it takes to connect to human beings in a meaningful and fulfilling way. It's compassionate, kind, empathetic, patient, and emotional. It's about embracing your intuition and creativity.

What is masculine energy? The masculine energy is stable and more predictable. Its strengths are willpower, clarity, and focus. The masculine energy likes to create structures and rules, so it knows how to apply the logic correctly.

Check out these resources to learn more: 

The difference between masculine and feminine energy 

https://medium.com/thrive-global/learn-the-difference-between-masculine-and-feminine-energy-ff1c14366aed

Feminine Energy: What It Is and 9 Practical Ways to Increase It

https://thetrulycharming.com/feminine-energy/

https://justjamila.com/how-to-be-in-your-feminine-energy-with-a-man/

Traditional Femininity Versus Strong Black Women Ideologies and Stress Among Black Women

https://www.jstor.org/stable/26574597

https://thoughtcatalog.com/kendra-quinn/2021/05/lets-talk-about-black-femininity/

https://goop.com/wellness/spirituality/balancing-your-feminine-and-masculine-energies/

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In this episode, we addressed and discussed "Mommy Guilt". We will explore how real it is,  what tips/strategies are recommended to overcome it? Signs/symptoms of mommy guilt.  Factors and causes of mommy guilt. Are women of color impacted more than others?

Here's what we found:

According to Pew, 38 percent full-time working mothers say they spend too little time with their kids. By comparison, Pew found that just 18 percent of part-time working mothers and 11 percent of non-working mothers say the same. A poll on Workingmother.com found that 57 percent of respondents feel guilty every single day. 

Check out these articles and resources to learn more about "Mommy Guilt":

https://www.thelily.com/why-mothers-should-abandon-working-mom-guilt/

https://www.todaysparent.com/family/parenting/why-mom-guilt-is-the-biggest-lie-of-all/

https://www.betterup.com/blog/mom-guilt

https://msmagazine.com/2022/03/22/supreme-court-mom-guilt-judge-ketanji-brown-jackson-kids-family-motherhood/

https://www.parents.com/kindred/serena-williams-comments-on-mommy-guilt-resonate-deeply-with-black-mothers/

How many people report needing multiple streams of income just to live comfortably? 

https://www.goodfinancialcents.com/multiple-streams-of-income/

https://houseofdebt.org/income-streams-to-have/

How many black woman report being in the real estate?  

According to the latest data from the U.S. Census Bureau, fewer than 6 percent of all real estate professionals are Black. Check out https://www.bwre.org/

More about the AirBnB business:

https://news.airbnb.com/women-hosts-are-leading-the-way-on-airbnb/

https://www.travelandleisure.com/hotels-resorts/vacation-rentals/female-airbnb-hosts-share-rental-tips-catherine-powell

How big (revenue) is the AirBNB industry? https://www.businessofapps.com/data/airbnb-statistics/

Cost of living per state, recommend salaries to live a comfortable lifestyle

https://worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/cost-of-living-index-by-state

List to post after show https://journeyblackhome.co/black-owned-airbnb-stays/

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